Finding My Big Girl Pants is a brutally honest, unfiltered journey of starting over. Your Host Janina (aka @MssFinn) takes you inside her real-time reinvention of figuring out who she is without the title, the man, or the plan.rebuilding her life with humor, chaos, and a dash of delusion. A mix of mental health, sex, dating, self-worth, and everything we women navigate while pretending we have it all together. There’s no script, no ten-step plan just raw stories, reflection, and the reminder that none of us really know what we’re doing... we’re all just learning how to find our Big Girl Pants
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In this episode, Janina reflects on loneliness through her 20s, 30s, and now on the edge of 40. From relationships that felt lonelier than solitude, to building a life that feels peaceful, full, and intentional—this is an honest conversation about solo life, aging, friendships, community, and the fear so many women quietly carry: ending up alone.
A grounding, perspective-shifting episode for anyone navigating life solo and learning to be okay with it.
12 Jan 2026
De-centralizing men in Dating and life
Dating doesn’t suck your mindset does (said with love).
In this episode, I break down how to decentralize men while still dating, desiring, and enjoying them. We talk about attitude, energy, dating apps, first dates, sex, boundaries, ghosting, and why your only real dating goal should be enjoying yourself.
This is not about impressing men. It’s about telling your story in a way you love, having standards without limiting your world, and remembering that this is your world, everybody else is just living in it. A reminder that you don’t lose the right people by being yourself.
5 Jan 2026
My story; childhood, moving from home at 16 and building a career with no college degree
I'm sharing a little bit of my story. From growing up in a small town in Finland, moving out at 16, surviving family chaos, money trauma, and unhealthy relationships, to building a global corporate career from the ground up with no formal education.
22 Dec 2025
Not Behind. Just Intentional
This episode is a year-end brain dump about everything that’s been sitting heavy—and everything that suddenly feels clear. We talk Christmas, being alone without being lonely, health, hormones, work, love, friendship, aging parents, and why none of the things we stress about will matter as much as we think. A reminder to zoom out, refocus, and choose what truly matters.
11 Dec 2025
Someday is not a day in the calendar
This one is for every woman who has hit December (again) thinking, “What the fuck am I doing with my life?”
In this episode of Finding My Big Girl Pants, we talk about that gut-punch feeling of looking back at the past year and realizing you’re still in the job that’s killing you, still in the body you don’t feel at home in, still in the relationship you’ve outgrown… and still telling yourself, “Next year will be different.”
This is your tough-love New Year’s hug and slap in one.
4 Dec 2025
Why Men Need More Sex and You Need to Stop Overthinking
In this episode we dive deep into the messy truth about relationships: why marriage is statistically a disaster, why so many couples quietly fall apart, why intimacy matters more than most of us admit, and why being present with your partner is the sexiest thing you can bring into the bedroom. Inspired by James Sexton’s brutally honest book, we’re talking effort, spark, desire, confidence, the famous “man flowers” (aka blowjobs), and how to keep connection alive.
28 Nov 2025
Becoming the Woman You Were Always Meant to Be (One Haircut at a Time)
This week’s episode is brought to you by Mercury-in-retrograde-level chaos, bad sleep, and one very life-changing bob. I talk about how cutting my hair didn’t just change my face, it changed my identity, my confidence, and the way I move through the world when I’m no longer performing for the male gaze. We go into why so many of our choices – careers, bodies, hair, even sex – quietly orbit around being “chosen,” and what happens when you flip the script and start asking one simple question instead: Do I actually like this? If you’re in your 20s, 30s or 40s drowning in shitty jobs, shitty relationships, body pressure and auditioning for love, this is your reminder that the real prize at the end of the tunnel is you.
12 Nov 2025
Reporting Live from Mr. Michigan’s Bed
You send me questions and I answered. We cover how I ended up back in Michigan, how to keep your sanity after leaving corporate, what to do with your money when math gives you hives, and why being single in your 30s is not a death sentence. It’s like a 30-minute voice memo to every woman in my inbox.
5 Nov 2025
The silent epidemic of faking it ( Sex. Orgasm. Your life )
This week, we’re talking about women, sex, and the silent epidemic of faking it — bad sex, no sex, faked sex, and the kind that makes you scream his name. This episode is for every woman who’s ever felt unseen in bed, unheard in love, or unsure if she’s allowed to want more. Spoiler: you are and you can do it. Janina is sharing her story how she escaped a life that wasn't serving her - Twice
29 Oct 2025
Stop Lying to Yourself (and Other Ways I Broke My Own Heart)
A messy, honest debrief: post-Vegas sickness, introvert recovery, why “Nobody Wants This” felt a little too familiar, the tiny acts that feel like love, and the bigger truth I kept avoiding — lying to myself about what I want in love and how I want to live. We talk sex, dating, men’s friendships, closure, and the courage to want the non-traditional. If you’ve ever faked an orgasm, swallowed your needs, or tried to be the “chill girl,” this one’s for you.
Subscribe, share, and send to a friend who needs the nudge.
20 Oct 2025
Choosing Myself (Even When It Breaks My Heart)
Week two of burning my life to the ground. What jumping off from the cliff of uncomfortable safety has taught me while free falling in the unknown and how it feels to chose yourself, your mental health the leaning towards the one thing that feels right even when it breaks your heart.
Even been between loving someone but loving yourself more. This one is for you
13 Oct 2025
Starting Over at 40: No Job, No Man, No plan — Just Me
After 17 years of building her corporate finance career, a comfortable six-figure salary, and a so-called “dream life” in LA, Janina hit her breaking point — one night, in a moment she didn’t see coming, staring at a work email.
This episode unpacks the panic attacks, the heartbreak, and the strange relief of finally quitting without a plan.
A raw, funny, and real take on what week one of her brand-new, unknown life actually feels like.
25 Apr 2024
EP6 Don't miss out on your singleness, these are the good old days
We are back ! 2024 through a little curveball called a new job and a new pe*&nis in my life. As usual universe loves to fuck up with my plans so lets do a little recap what has happened and why there was a man in my bed, yes in my bed, next to me and my 2 cats last weekend and why you should never wish away your single days
All these conversations start in my Instagram DMs @mssfinn so don't hesitate to slide in my DMs with questions or comments. No topic, and I mean NO TOPIC, is off topic.
You can also follow my content in TikTok @mssfinn
5 Feb 2024
How Standards & Boundaries keep you safe and allow you to enjoy life the fullest
Have you ever sat anxiously shouting at your phone because he is not texting you? Because he is not making plans even he said he would and you had such an amazing connection? Yeah, we have all been there and it’s time to us to start valuing our own life and time and stop laying a red carpet for men’s low effort. You deserve better. You are the whole package but make sure you don’t go to a wrong address
20 Dec 2023
EP4 Women need to stop telling ourselves we have an imposter syndrome
This weeks recap includes my year end review with my boss and my boss’ boss , what turn is my career taking next year and why the fuck we women need to stop telling ourselves we have an imposter syndrome
Follow my instagram stories for my daily life and the office toilet show @mssfinn
And TikTok @mssfinn for my vlogs. My DMs are always open for your questions and stories and stride of prides!
13 Dec 2023
EP3 Your 20s is a miss marketed decade, hell, your whole life is sold wrong to you !
Do you feel lost and behind on life , especially when you enter your 20s and your friends are having babies left and right and you are just doing your best to find same pare socks every morning to the job you have no clue if you even like
Well you are doing just fine! A little rant from me why the narrative we girls are sold from the kindergarten is so bad for your mental health and why we girls should allow ourselves to be more like boys
Remember to follow my life on my socials TikTok @mssfinn , IG @mssfinn and if you want to affect on the topics in this podcast with your questions in life, slide in my DMs. No topic is off topic here!
6 Dec 2023
EP2 Hot Brazilian , Good man but is he the right man?
Finally the long requested recap of what happened with the Hot Brazilian!
Do you know the plastic film that is covered in all new tech equipments that gives you a mental orgasm when you get to pull it off. Well it seems they forgot to pull that film from my brain when I was born because this is how it feels after one week on ADHD medication.
Also we are having a little chat about non negotiables in dating and I’m sharing my own experience why did I leave a great man for the right man and how do I feel about the decision now
29 Nov 2023
The first pancake
In my first episode I will share with you how did me and Miss Anxiety ended up working in USA with no education and black belt on Melty Bs
I will share how I moved from home at age of 16, landed my first big girl job and found my big girl pants to do hard things
I have wanted to redo this episode 100 Times because it feels it’s never perfect, good enough and I feel I forgot so many things, but if I ever want to do this for real, I need to learn to be OK with good enough and just do it
So here is the famous first step. The first pancake is never perfect right?
To send me questions, join me in my IG stories @mssfinn and follow my dailyvlogs in TikTok @mssfinn
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