What I Wish I Knew After Pregnancy Loss

About What I Wish I Knew After Pregnancy Loss

What I wish I knew beyond Pregnancy Loss: The Intersection of Fertility, Trauma & Purpose This podcast is a space for deep, honest conversations about fertility struggles, pregnancy loss, and the unseen layers of healing. Here, we explore the intersection of trauma, the nervous system, and emotional recovery—because healing is not just about moving forward; it’s about understanding how loss changes us and how we can reclaim our power. Whether you’re navigating life after loss, facing reproductive challenges, or seeking purpose in your own healing journey, this is where we go beyond the surface. Through expert insights, personal stories, and trauma-informed support, you’ll gain the tools to heal, grow, and step into a future that honours your past while embracing what’s next. Your story matters. Your healing matters. And there is more waiting for you beyond loss

Publisher

Sharna Southan

Category

education · education · health & fitness

Language

en

Explicit

Yes

First episode

15 May 2023

Latest episode

25 Oct 2026

Latest episodes

153 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   25 Oct 2026

   EP151: Angry at god after Pregnancy Loss? Spiritual distress, faith & finding meaning with Rev. Christine Vaughn Davies

   📖 Free guide: The Loss Care Gap maps the six places women fall through care after pregnancy loss, from the loss itself through to fertility and pregnancy after loss. Download it here: https://www.sharnasouthan.com/the-loss-care-gap (https://www.sharnasouthan.com/the-loss-care-gap) If you support women through loss, it shows you where the women in your care are slipping through. If you've lived it yourself, please pass it on to your midwife, GP or doula. What happens to your faith, your sense of self and your place in the world after pregnancy loss? In this episode, I sit down with Reverend Christine Vaughn Davies, an ordained Presbyterian minister, hospital chaplain, seminary professor and trained spiritual director. Christine leads the spiritual care department at Robert Wood Johnson University Hospital and has experienced six pregnancy losses of her own, beginning with an ectopic pregnancy. Christine shares her own "dark night of the soul", when even as a minister she couldn't find the words to pray. She explains how pregnancy loss can disconnect us from ourselves, from the people around us, and from God, the divine or the universe. She also explains why a question like "why is this happening to me?" is often a lament, and not a request for an answer. Whether you have a faith, have walked away from one, or are somewhere in between, this conversation is welcoming, non-judgemental and deeply validating. In this episode, we explore: The difference between religion and spirituality, and Christine's broader definition of spirituality What spiritual distress is, and the three areas of connection that loss can break Why "everything happens for a reason" and "God needed another angel" can cause harm, even when people mean well Intrapsychic loss: grieving the dream, the identity, and your belief about how the world works Why anger at God is common, normal, and can be held "Show up and shut up": how to support someone through loss, and what to say instead Practical ways to help, from specific offers to calendar reminders at three months, six months and the anniversary How to prepare for hard days like Mother's Day, due dates and anniversaries, using rituals you hold loosely Why grief can resurface years later, sometimes in unexpected ways like baby chicks and empty brood boxes Why you can only witness someone else's pain to the extent you've witnessed your own Moments that stayed with me: "We don't get over this. We move through it and it changes us." "There are no words. I wish I could make this better for you." Resources mentioned: God Doesn't Need Another Angel: A Plea to Stop Using Toxic Religious Platitudes, by Christine on Substack https://journeyingalongside.substack.com/ (https://journeyingalongside.substack.com/) Beyond the Celebration: Navigating the Complexities of Mother's Day, by Christine on Substack Christine's writing on anger at God Connect with Christine: https://journeyingalongside.substack.com/ (https://journeyingalongside.substack.com/) https://www.linkedin.com/in/rev-christine-davies/ (https://www.linkedin.com/in/rev-christine-davies/) https://www.instagram.com/cvdavies/ (https://www.instagram.com/cvdavies/) https://www.facebook.com/christine.davies (https://www.facebook.com/christine.davies) www.christinevdavies.com (http://www.christinevdavies.com/) Connect with Sharna Find me here: @reproductivelossleadership (https://www.instagram.com/reproductivelossleadership/) Free guide, The Loss Care Gap: https://www.sharnasouthan.com/the-loss-care-gap (https://www.sharnasouthan.com/the-loss-care-gap) If today's conversation resonated with you, I'd love to stay connected. Follow the podcast page: @pregnancyloss_podcast (https://www.instagram.com/pregnancyloss_podcast/) My mission is to help change the landscape of pregnancy loss care through education, advocacy, research, and evidence-informed, trauma-informed support. Whether you're navigating your own loss, supporting someone you love, or you're a healthcare professional wanting to improve the care you provide, there's a place for you here. You can follow my work, explore educational resources, listen to more podcast episodes, or learn about the Pregnancy Loss Recovery Method™ and Integrated Pregnancy Loss Care framework, or the Pregnancy Loss & Trauma-Informed Specialist Certification. Together, we're creating a future where every pregnancy loss is acknowledged, every family is supported, and every practitioner feels confident to provide compassionate, person-centred care. I'd love to hear what resonated with you from today's episode. Share your thoughts, leave a review, or connect with me on social media. Your voice helps shape this conversation and reach more families who need it. Thank you for being part of this community. Together, we're changing the future of pregnancy loss care. If this episode helped you feel seen, please share it with someone who needs to hear it, and leave a review on Apple Podcasts. Reviews help this conversation reach more women who are grieving in silence.

2. 

   19 Oct 2026

   EP150: I asked 40 women what happened after their miscarriage. 85% Got No Referral. - with Host Sharna Southan

   85% of the women I surveyed left their miscarriage with no professional referral. I asked 40 women across six countries in late 2019, and I've been sitting on what they told me for far too long. If you're in the early weeks of your own loss, this episode will help you understand why support has been so hard to find. If you're a doula, birth worker, coach or counsellor, it shows you exactly where the women you support are being missed, and where you fit. In this episode: What 40 women from Australia, the UK, the US, Canada, South Africa and the Netherlands told me about the weeks after their loss Why the women saying "yes, absolutely" to support jumped from 47.5% to 70% once it was clearly explained The Loss Care Gap, the space between appointments where nobody asks her how the pieces fit together Why I started this work in 2017 with no clinical background, and the moment I stopped waiting to feel ready Resources from this episode: Free guide, The Loss Care Gap: https://www.sharnasouthan.com/the-loss-care-gap (https://www.sharnasouthan.com/the-loss-care-gap) The Reproductive Loss Leaders Room: sharnasouthan.com/leaders-room-membership (https://www.sharnasouthan.com/leaders-room-membership) Apply to be a guest on the podcast: https://www.sharnasouthan.com/podcast-application (https://www.sharnasouthan.com/podcast-application) Connect with me on Instagram @reproductivelossleadership (https://www.instagram.com/reproductivelossleadership/) and LinkedIn: @sharnasouthan (https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharna-southan-4a4684147/) This month only (until 31 October): The Room is open at $49 USD for your first month until Saturday 31 October, 11:59pm AEST. After that it's $89 a month. Members also get the live Birth Trauma Gap training on Thursday 29 October at 9:30am AEST, and the recording goes into the library afterwards.

3. 

   11 Oct 2026

   EP149: PART TWO: "We're there too" — What pregnancy loss really looks like for fathers - Guest Nathan Wieser

   This conversation doesn't have to end when the episode does. The Reproductive Loss Leaders Room is where it keeps going — replays, live mentorship, and a room of practitioners across every discipline, all working out what this means for their own piece of care. Not another place where pregnancy loss is one topic among many. Here, it's the whole conversation. Join the Room HERE (https://www.sharnasouthan.com/leaders-room-membership) In Part 1, Nathan Wiser shared the unimaginable — five pregnancies, four losses, a daughter who didn't come home, and a son born fighting for his life at 26 weeks. Today, In Part 2, we pick up in the NICU — and what unfolds is one of the most honest conversations I've had on this podcast about what it actually takes to survive grief as a man. Nathan opens up about hitting rock bottom, the self-destruction that followed, and the moments he thought about swimming out into the ocean and not coming back. He talks about what kept him here — his dogs forcing him off the couch, a handful of lifelong friends, a wife who held space even when she didn't understand, and a crash course in facing hospitals head-on with Otto fighting beside him. After 121 days in the NICU, they brought their son home. And then a wildfire took everything they'd built. Still, they stayed. This episode is for every father who has sat in a dark hallway, alone, carrying something no one asked him about. And for every partner who has wondered what their person is holding that they haven't said out loud. In this episode we cover: What the NICU journey really looked like — the code blues, the surgeries, the miracle How Nathan coped (honestly — including the ways he wouldn't recommend) Why fathers are often invisible in pregnancy loss support The communication that kept Nathan and Lucy's marriage intact What Nathan would say to any man deep in the pit right now Otto's first year, the wildfire, and life on the other side Nathan's book We Did It — and why he wrote it Connect with Nathan: IG: @nathanwieser (https://www.instagram.com/nathanwieser/) If you know a man who has been through pregnancy or infant loss, please share this episode. These conversations save lives. Nathan's book We Did It is available on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. Connect with Sharna Find me here: @reproductivelossleadership (https://www.instagram.com/reproductivelossleadership/) If today's conversation resonated with you, I'd love to stay connected. My mission is to help change the landscape of pregnancy loss care through education, advocacy, research, and evidence-informed, trauma-informed support. Whether you're navigating your own loss, supporting someone you love, or you're a healthcare professional wanting to improve the care you provide, there's a place for you here. You can follow my work, explore educational resources, listen to more podcast episodes, or learn about the Pregnancy loss recovery method & Integrated Pregnancy Loss Care framework Or the Pregnancy Loss & Trauma-Informed Specialist Certification. Together, we're creating a future where every pregnancy loss is acknowledged, every family is supported, and every practitioner feels confident to provide compassionate, person-centred care. I'd love to hear what resonated with you from today's episode. Share your thoughts, leave a review, or connect with me on social media—your voice helps shape this conversation and reach more families who need it. Thank you for being part of this community. Together, we're changing the future of pregnancy loss care. Follow the podcast page: @pregnancyloss_podcast (https://www.instagram.com/pregnancyloss_podcast/)

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• Kelly Rogers
• Amanda Trieger
• Catherine Isaac
• Sharna
• Shannon Roane

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5.0 / 5

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