June 1, 2026
98. 36 Things I've Learned in 36 Years
<p class="font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]">It's my birthday!!! And today, I'm getting real. Like, really real. Because 35 to 36 wasn't a highlight reel. It was depression, $60K in debt, hyperventilating on the bathroom floor, and wondering if there was a way out. And now? Book deal. Speaking career taking off. Debt paid off. A completely different version of herself standing on the other side of the hardest year she's had.</p>
<p class="font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]">This birthday episode isn't a celebration of perfection. It's a celebration of staying in it.</p>
<p class="font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]">In this episode of What If It All Goes Right?, I'm sharing 36 things I've learned in 36 years — some practical, some messy, some funny, and some I'm still working on. From the mindset shifts that pulled me out of my darkest season, to the business lessons that changed how I lead, to the random life hacks I genuinely cannot believe I only just learned (potatoes don't go in the fridge, people). If you've been having a year — or you're just ready for a little raw, unfiltered truth — this one's for you.</p>
<p class="font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]"><strong>What's Discussed:</strong></p>
<p class="font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]">(1:02) A birthday episode with no filter — what the last year actually looked like, and why I almost didn't make it through.</p>
<p class="font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]">(2:13) The depression, the therapy, the antidepressant conversation, and the unexpected advice that changed everything.</p>
<p class="font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]">(5:01) Lesson 1: No one is coming to save you — and why that's not depressing, it's freeing.</p>
<p class="font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]">(5:48) Lesson 2: Everyone is mostly thinking about themselves — and how realizing that takes the pressure off.</p>
<p class="font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]">(6:59) Lesson 3: Don't let people who aren't where you want to be shape your decisions.</p>
<p class="font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]">(8:04) Lesson 4: Leadership means making a decision — even the wrong one — and why indecision is the real failure.</p>
<p class="font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]">(9:00) Lesson 5: You have a voice. Use it. And why you can't hold people to expectations they never knew you had.</p>
<p class="font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]">(10:39) Lessons 7 & 8: Dogs are legitimately medicine. So is emo music. No notes.</p>
<p class="font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]">(12:52) Lesson 9: Talking to yourself out loud is one of the most underrated tools nobody talks about.</p>
<p class="font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]">(13:20) Lesson 10: Things don't take as long as you think — especially the things you keep stalling on.</p>
<p class="font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]">(14:40) Lesson 11: You can break your generational patterns and choose your own path.</p>
<p class="font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]">(16:05) Lessons 12–14: Experiences over everything, hiring by values, and the shift that happens when you stop making business about yourself.</p>
<p class="font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]">(18:41) Lesson 15: Don't get too high or too low — how staying steady is what actually keeps you in the game.</p>
<p class="font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]">(20:04) Lesson 16: Most of life is ordinary, boring, and unsexy — and that's exactly where success lives.</p>
<p class="font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]">(21:03) Lessons 17–19: Travel credit card hacks, being in the game, and why I think everyone should take improv.</p>
<p class="font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]">(22:46) Lesson 20: Not everyone is for you — and when something falls away, it might actually be a clearing.</p>
<p class="font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]">(23:21) Lessons 21–22: Potatoes don't go in the fridge, and a travel blender might change your life on the road.</p>
<p class="font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]">(23:58) Lesson 23: Invest in a trainer and your physical health — no matter what's in your bank account.</p>
<p class="font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]">(25:49) Lessons 24 & 25: Hire A players even when it stretches you, and set clear expectations from day one.</p>
<p class="font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]">(26:14) Lessons 26 & 27: Get off Zoom. And yes, everything takes way longer than you want it to — and then it's worth it.</p>
<p class="font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]">(28:29) Lesson 28: Start messy. Stop waiting for perfect.</p>
<p class="font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]">(28:56) Lesson 29: The Delulu Day — one day a week of completely unhinged action, and how it led me to a five-figure book deal.</p>
<p class="font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]">(29:47) Lesson 30: Flirt with life. Joy isn't a reward for hitting your goals — it's part of how you get there.</p>
<p class="font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]">(30:47) Lesson 31: Not all bad debt is bad debt — on betting on yourself even when the math is scary.</p>
<p class="font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]">(31:54) Lesson 32: When you start making more money, people will want some of it. Be ready.</p>
<p class="font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]">(32:29) Lesson 33: So much can change in one year if you let it.</p>
<p class="font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]">(33:02) Lesson 34: "What if it all goes right" — and why "things just work out for me" is a decision, not a personality trait.</p>
<p class="font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]">(34:04) Lesson 35: Everyone has a different timeline, including you. Stop running someone else's schedule.</p>
<p class="font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]">(34:46) Lesson 36: You attract who you are. Energy is currency — and it's the thing people remember most.</p>
<p class="font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]">Listen to this episode of What If It All Goes Right? and find out what 36 years of real, messy, hard-won experience actually looks like when someone stops editing it. Take one thing. Just one. And let it change something.</p>
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