Welcome to What We’re Not Taking to Our Graves, the podcast where we dive into the controversial and taboo topics that everyone else is too scared to touch. In a world that often shies away from difficult conversations, we’re here to create a safe space for open dialogue, connection, and understanding.
Each episode features candid discussions, personal anecdotes, and heartfelt revelations, all served with honesty and a touch of humor. Whether you’re seeking validation, insight, or simply a relatable perspective, this podcast is here to illuminate the paths we’ve traveled and the lessons we’ve learned. We want to create a safe space for listeners to connect with their own experiences, Tune in, and hear the stories that have shaped us in ways we’re finally ready to speak about.
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Alissa and Rowan
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health & fitness · health & fitness · kids & family
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2 Oct 2025
The Orgasm Gap + Masturbation
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7 Mar 2025
Dating After Divorce Part Two
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4 Feb 2025
The "It Ends With Us" Controversy
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17 Jan 2025
Exploring Kinks – Making Fantasies a Reality
Send us a textIn this episode of What We're Not Taking to Our Graves, we’re getting real about communicating fantasies and kinks with your partner. How do you bring up those conversations without feeling awkward or judged? What does it take to turn private desires into shared experiences? And how can you get the most out of your sex life by figuring out what you truly want in the bedroom? We dive into the power of open, honest communication and how it creates a space for exploring desires saf...
9 Jan 2025
Get In Bitches, We're Unpacking Religious Trauma
Send us a textIf you listened to last week's episode, you know that one of our biggest goals for 2025 is to figure out the whole religion thing again. As two people who grew up heavily involved in church, to now questioning so much- we're very much unsure of what this journey is going to look like, but we're excited to yap about it with you guys. This week we discuss our upbringing in church, our experiences around organized religion, and a few questions we just can't wrap our minds around.&n...
31 Dec 2024
24 Things We Are Leaving In 2024
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26 Dec 2024
Blending families, Mindset Shifts, and Reflecting on 2024- it's not that deep
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19 Dec 2024
The Mental Load of Motherhood (and Other Things, Probably)
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12 Dec 2024
Email From a Listener, Desire, Scorekeeping + Cameo From Our Men
Hank and Bryson join Rowan to discuss desires, scorekeeping, and navigating relationships, offering insights on finding balance and harmony in partnerships.
4 Dec 2024
Porn, Sexual Intimacy, and Sex Drives, Oh My!
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21 Nov 2024
What We're Not Taking To Our Graves- Hot Takes
Join hosts [NAME] and [NAME] as they share their unfiltered hot takes and unpopular opinions, sparking conversation and debate around the most provocative topics of our time.
14 Nov 2024
Let's Talk About Sex, Baby
In this episode, we dive deep into one of society's most persistent taboos: sex. Why is it still such a controversial topic? From cultural taboos to personal stigmas, we explore the roots of our collective discomfort with discussing sex openly. Our conversation covers a wide range of subjects, including the impact of religion, porn, and societal expectations on our views of sexuality, and why it’s crucial to create space for honest, open dialogue about sex in order to promote healthier attitu...
8 Nov 2024
Origin Story (Rowan's Version)
Hi pals. This episode feels a little harder to put out into the world— mostly because I do that thing where you have the trauma you’re comfortable talking about and the trauma you don’t actually want to address. I found myself having to restart this episode multiple times in some spots due to the nature of the conversation, I struggle with downplaying the things I went through. I feel like there’s more to the story but I don’t know that I’ll ever fully be able to articulate it. Hopefully...
7 Nov 2024
Origin Story (Alissa's Version)
Hi Pals, Alissa here. I have typed this out 5 times now and I cannot for the life of me make this sound as polished as the other descriptions. In this episode, I discuss my childhood trauma, mental health diagnoses, and more. Trigger Warning- murderaddict parentssexual assault to childrenunderage substance useeating disordersbipolar disorderOCD A lot of these stories have never been told to anyone other than my closest friends, and I really hope that by sharing them I'm able to...
31 Oct 2024
Dating After Divorce
So, you're divorced- now what? In this episode we talk about our experiences dating as single moms for the first time. The ups, the downs, and every "do it for the plot" moment in between. We both took radically different approaches to dating during this time, and still manage to find similarities and comradery in the process. Our hope is to open up the conversation about single moms having dating and sex lives, and to reassure women that no matter what path you've decided to take, your ...
27 Oct 2024
Introducing- Our Graves
Welcome to What We’re Not Taking to Our Graves, the podcast where we dive into the controversial and taboo topics that everyone else is too scared to touch. In a world that often shies away from difficult conversations, we’re here to create a safe space for open dialogue, connection, and understanding.Each episode features candid discussions, personal anecdotes, and heartfelt revelations, all served with honesty and a touch of humor. Whether you’re seeking validation, insight, or simply a rel...
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