What’s Your Damage? is a comedy and opinion podcast hosted by two anonymous comedians—AJ (former Mormon) and AJ (former Catholic). We share true traumatic life stories and break down the movies, TV, music, and pop culture that helped us cope. Radical honesty, humor, and zero secrets—except our identities. New Episodes every Friday.
What's Your Damage?
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Podcast Overview
What’s Your Damage? is a comedy and opinion podcast hosted by two anonymous comedians—AJ (former Mormon) and AJ (former Catholic). We share true traumatic life stories and break down the movies, TV, music, and pop culture that helped us cope. Radical honesty, humor, and zero secrets—except our identities. New Episodes every Friday.
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July 22, 2026
Episode 33: Zoolander/Born to Die
<p>In Episode 33, AJ & AJ explore one of the most universal yet isolating human experiences: <strong>loneliness</strong>. They reflect on the different forms it can take—from feeling alone inside a marriage to feeling disconnected from other people, even when you're surrounded by them—and how art became a lifeline when human connection felt out of reach.</p><p>"J" begins by sharing the profound loneliness of her first marriage. Having grown up Mormon, she married quickly after knowing her husband for less than a year because that was what was expected within their faith community. They barely knew one another before building a life together. Isolated in a tiny farming town where the only entertainment was a Sonic and a movie theater, she found herself increasingly disconnected. As time went on, the silence between them grew louder than any argument. Conversation disappeared, intimacy faded, and she felt herself disappearing alongside it.</p><p>In the midst of that isolation, the one movie that became a huge source of relief was Zoolander. The absurd comedy became more than just a funny movie—it became an escape. Every rewatch offered laughter during a season when joy felt almost impossible to find. In a life defined by silence, the ridiculous world of Derek Zoolander reminded her that she was still capable of experiencing joy and laughter.</p><p>"A" then reflects on a very different kind of loneliness during her twenties in New York City. Although she was constantly surrounded by people, she felt deeply disconnected. She dated often, but nothing ever seemed to last. Looking back, she describes feeling like she was treated as a "manic pixie dream girl"—someone exciting enough to pursue but never someone people stayed to truly know. As she was only beginning to unpack the effects of her trauma, she felt profoundly alone. More than anything, she simply wanted to be loved, understood, and held.</p><p>Eventually, she moved to New Orleans, throwing herself into work on film sets and into the theater community. Without romantic love in her life, she poured every ounce of herself into making art. Creativity became the place where she could channel all the love, grief, hope, and loneliness she was carrying.</p><p>She recalls one unforgettable night driving to Bay St. Louis when she listened to Lana Del Rey's Born to Die for the first time. The album felt like someone had reached inside her own heart and translated feelings she had never been able to articulate. In that moment, she felt understood. Though she was physically alone in the car, the music reminded her that someone else had experienced those same emotions—and survived them.</p><p>Together, AJ & AJ reflect on how art often becomes a companion when people cannot. Whether it's a ridiculous comedy, an album that seems to narrate your inner life, or the act of creating something yourself, art has a unique ability to make us feel seen. It doesn't erase loneliness, but it reminds us that someone, somewhere, has felt the same way.</p>
July 11, 2026
Episode 32: To The Moon and Back/Obvious Child
<p>Episode 32: Nobody Told Us About Our Bodies</p><p>This week, AJ & AJ dive into one of the quietest sources of childhood shame: not being taught about their own bodies. They explore how silence around anatomy, puberty, and what's "normal" left them carrying fear, confusion, and trauma long into adulthood.</p><p>"A" takes listeners back to the summer after eighth grade, when she attended camp with the popular girls from school. An offhand comment during a conversation about girls' bodies—and how many "holes" they have—sent her spiraling. Having experienced childhood sexual abuse, she became convinced that maybe her body had been permanently damaged or disfigured, and she carried that fear in silence because she didn't know who to ask or how to ask it.</p><p>She also reflects on another kind of wound from that summer: friendship trauma. Because her earliest attachment figures had been so unkind, she found herself repeatedly chasing acceptance from girls who treated her as an afterthought—the perpetual "friendship sidepiece." Looking back, she realizes she missed the opportunity to connect with someone who genuinely shared her interests: the drama kid on the bus, whose heartfelt rendition of Savage Garden's "To the Moon and Back" should have been the sign that she'd found her people. It's a bittersweet reflection on how trauma can teach us to pursue familiar pain instead of authentic connection.</p><p>"J" shares her own experience growing up without a basic understanding of her anatomy. She talks about how even saying the word vagina felt taboo in her world, leaving her with years of confusion about what was happening to her body during different points in her menstrual cycle. Changes in discharge, hormones, and other perfectly normal bodily functions felt mysterious and alarming because no one had ever explained them.</p><p>Everything shifted when she watched the film Obvious Child. In the opening stand-up set, the comedian jokes about her underwear looking like it had been dropped into a bucket of sour cream. The audience laughs, and for J, something clicks. In one joke, she realizes that other people with vaginas experience the same things she does—that what she had spent years worrying about was actually ordinary, relatable, and nothing to be ashamed of.</p>
July 3, 2026
Episode 31: You Don't Bring Me Flowers/Love Actually
<p>Episode 31: AJ & AJ are talking about the examples their parents set—and the unhealthy relationship habits they had to unlearn as adults.</p><p>"J" kicks things off by reflecting on the song "You Don't Bring Me Flowers," the tune her parents considered their love song despite it actually being about a relationship falling apart. Looking back, she realizes that their marriage modeled two very different but equally unhealthy conflict styles: her father erupted with explosive anger while her mother shut down completely, stonewalling and fleeing from difficult conversations. Early in her own marriage, "J" recognized that she'd inherited her mother's instinct to withdraw. She shares how learning to stay present, communicate honestly, and work through conflict with her husband became one of the hardest—and healthiest—changes she's ever made.</p><p>Then "A" shares a painful memory from college when she came home hoping for a simple night out with her mom—a dinner and a movie. Instead, her father became furious that they had made plans without him, triggering an explosive argument that escalated until her mother nearly crashed the car before numbing the pain with wine. Sitting silently through dinner, "A" coped the only way she knew how: replaying Love Actually scene by scene in her mind to mentally escape the chaos unfolding around her. Together, AJ & AJ explore how the relationship patterns we witness as children shape us, and the work it takes to recognize those inherited behaviors before choosing a healthier path.</p>
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