When the Rose Coloured Glasses Come Off

About When the Rose Coloured Glasses Come Off

Dealing with a narcissist can be shattering to one's sense of identity, self-worth and self-confidence. Heck, not even knowing who you are. As a therapist, I've been working with narcissistic abuse survivors for over 7 years. As a trained registered social worker, I have seen firsthand the harm, confusion and devastation that my clients experience. I graduated with two degrees and was out to save the world. Little did I realize that I had lived through my own traumas, but thinking that everything I experienced was "normal," only to one day wake up and see that it was not. The rose-coloured glasses came off like a shattering glass. What I knew to be true was gone. Grief and loss set in, then the healing journey. Now I help my clients awaken, grieve, understand, and make choices one step at a time, to develop their identities, get in touch with their red-flag indicator, which always knew something was wrong, and guide them through whatever small steps they can take to reclaim themselves. Join me on a journey, both personal and professional, in understanding all the dynamics of this insidious and manipulative disorder. We can heal, but first we need to see them for who they are and who they are not! Nine years later, I have found my voice, and I want to share it with you.

Publisher

Sonya

Category

education · health & fitness

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

29 Apr 2024

Latest episode

9 Aug 2026

Latest episodes

44 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   9 Aug 2026

   Gaslighting After the Relationship Ends

   You've left the relationship. The contact has stopped. And yet the self-doubt is still there. You replay conversations. You wonder if it was really that bad. You feel guilty for leaving, even when you know it was the right thing to do. If that sounds familiar, this episode is for you. Gaslighting doesn't always end when the relationship does. For many empaths, it becomes internalized — and that quieter version of self-doubt is often the hardest part to name. This week we're talking about what's actually happening in your nervous system when your brain stops trusting its own signals, why clarity doesn't always feel like relief, and how to begin rebuilding trust in your own perception after years of having it questioned. If you're noticing that you keep replaying what happened, trying to understand it well enough to finally feel settled, this conversation will help you understand why insight alone isn't enough — and what is. You'll learn: Why self-doubt often intensifies after the relationship ends (not before) The difference between processing and rehearsing — and why one keeps you stuck How to separate facts, feelings, and interpretations when your reality has been blurred A research-supported way to journal that builds self-trust instead of rumination Why clarity can feel threatening to a nervous system trained to associate safety with self-doubt The role of grief, anger, and small consistency practices in rebuilding trust in yourself This is the episode to send to anyone who has left and still hears the other person's voice in their head. Want to understand what you experienced before you learn how to move through it? Join the free masterclass "Was It Love… Or Was It Coercive Control?" — you'll walk away with a clearer framework for what actually happened to you, and whether the patterns you keep noticing are what you think they are. https://courses.fourseasonscounselling.com/toxic-vs-coercive-control-masterclass Healing does not require perfect certainty. It requires self-loyalty.

2. 

   2 Aug 2026

   People Pleasing Is A Trauma Response

   In this episode of Healing as an Educated Empath, we explore people-pleasing through a trauma-informed lens. Rather than seeing it as weakness, a personality flaw, or simply a need for approval, this episode reframes people-pleasing as a nervous-system response rooted in safety, survival, and early conditioning. For many empaths, saying yes, smoothing things over, and suppressing their own needs once helped them stay connected and reduce relational danger. But over time, that survival strategy can lead to self-abandonment, resentment, exhaustion, and disconnection from personal identity. This conversation helps listeners understand the fawn response, why guilt often appears when they set boundaries, and how to begin reclaiming choice without shame. Through compassionate explanation, real-life examples, and practical strategies, the episode invites empaths to pause before responding, practice neutral refusal language, tolerate discomfort without self-betrayal, and recognize that saying no does not make them unkind. In This Episode ·       Why people-pleasing is often a trauma response, not a character flaw ·       How the fawn response develops in environments where safety depends on appeasing others ·       The connection between people-pleasing, guilt, self-suppression, and nervous-system conditioning ·       Why honesty may feel dangerous when your body associates conflict with threat ·       How to slow the automatic yes and create space for choice ·       Why neutral refusal language can help you set boundaries without over-explaining ·       How grief and anger can surface when people-pleasing begins to soften Key Takeaways ·       People-pleasing was never about being liked; it was often about being safe. ·       Your body may react with guilt or anxiety when you set a boundary because the boundary is unfamiliar, not because it is wrong. ·       Discomfort is not the same as harm. Healthy relationships can tolerate honesty, disappointment, and difference. ·       You do not need to justify every no. Short, neutral responses can be enough. ·       Healing people-pleasing is not about forcing yourself to stop caring. It is about creating enough internal safety that self-abandonment is no longer required. Reflection Prompts ·       Where do I say yes automatically before checking in with myself? ·       What sensations show up in my body when I imagine saying no? ·       Whose disappointment do I feel responsible for managing? ·       What would it look like to pause before responding this week? ·       What is one neutral boundary phrase I can practice using? Free LIVE Masterclass Join the free masterclass: Was It Love Or Coercive Control https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/1995574441875?aff=oddtdtcreator In this free LIVE masterclass, you'll learn how to better understand your empathic nervous system, recognize patterns of self-abandonment, and begin building boundaries that protect your energy without shutting down your compassion. And you'll get to ask questions! Perfect for you if: ·       You feel guilty when you set boundaries ·       You say yes when your body is saying no ·       You absorb other people's emotions and feel responsible for fixing them ·       You are healing from narcissistic or emotionally manipulative relationships You want to stay compassionate without disappearing inside relationships

3. 

   28 Jul 2026

   Part 4 - The Empath-Narcissist Dynamic Explained

   This episode is for you if you've ever found yourself caught in a relationship that felt magnetic, confusing, painful, and almost impossible to leave. Through the lens of trauma, nervous system conditioning, and self-trust, you'll begin to understand why the empath–narcissist dynamic can pull you in so deeply. Rather than blaming yourself or reducing the relationship to labels, this episode helps you see how your empathy, hope, emotional attunement, and deep desire to repair may have become entangled with someone else's unregulated emotional needs—leaving you absorbing, stabilizing, and over-functioning while slowly losing connection to yourself. You'll be guided through the key patterns that can keep you stuck, including mirroring, intermittent reinforcement, gaslighting, trauma bonds, guilt, people-pleasing, and the tendency to focus more on someone's intentions than on how their behaviour affects you. Most importantly, this episode offers you a compassionate reframe: being drawn into this dynamic does not mean you are weak, foolish, or broken. It often means you learned survival strategies early in life—fawning, giving, pleasing, absorbing, and staying emotionally alert—as ways to feel safe, loved, and connected. By shifting the question from "Why are they like this?" to "What is this relationship asking me to give up?", you are invited back into your own clarity, your own body, and your own choice. Healing begins when you stop externalizing your worth and start rebuilding trust in your perception, your boundaries, and your inner safety. If you've ever felt responsible for someone else's emotions, confused by your own attachment, or torn between compassion for another person and the quiet cost of abandoning yourself, this episode will help you see the pattern with more clarity—and begin choosing yourself again. Was It Love Or Was It Coercive Control? Free Masterclass Link: https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/1995574441875?aff=oddtdtcreator In this free LIVE masterclass, you'll learn how to recognize the signs of fawning, people-pleasing, and self-abandonment so you can begin rebuilding safety, self-trust, and emotional independence from the inside out.  And you'll get to ask questions!

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