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When the Rose Coloured Glasses Come Off

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by Sonya

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Dealing with a narcissist can be shattering to one's sense of identity, self-worth and self-confidence. Heck, not even knowing who you are. As a therapist, I've been working with narcissistic abuse survivors for over 7 years. As a trained registered social worker, I have seen firsthand the harm, confusion and devastation that my clients experience. I graduated with two degrees and was out to save the world. Little did I realize that I had lived through my own traumas, but thinking that everything I experienced was "normal," only to one day wake up and see that it was not. The rose-coloured glasses came off like a shattering glass. What I knew to be true was gone. Grief and loss set in, then the healing journey. Now I help my clients awaken, grieve, understand, and make choices one step at a time, to develop their identities, get in touch with their red-flag indicator, which always knew something was wrong, and guide them through whatever small steps they can take to reclaim themselves. Join me on a journey, both personal and professional, in understanding all the dynamics of this insidious and manipulative disorder. We can heal, but first we need to see them for who they are and who they are not! Nine years later, I have found my voice, and I want to share it with you.

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July 28, 2026

Part 4 - The Empath-Narcissist Dynamic Explained

This episode is for you if you've ever found yourself caught in a relationship that felt magnetic, confusing, painful, and almost impossible to leave. Through the lens of trauma, nervous system conditioning, and self-trust, you'll begin to understand why the empath–narcissist dynamic can pull you in so deeply. Rather than blaming yourself or reducing the relationship to labels, this episode helps you see how your empathy, hope, emotional attunement, and deep desire to repair may have become entangled with someone else's unregulated emotional needs—leaving you absorbing, stabilizing, and over-functioning while slowly losing connection to yourself. You'll be guided through the key patterns that can keep you stuck, including mirroring, intermittent reinforcement, gaslighting, trauma bonds, guilt, people-pleasing, and the tendency to focus more on someone's intentions than on how their behaviour affects you. Most importantly, this episode offers you a compassionate reframe: being drawn into this dynamic does not mean you are weak, foolish, or broken. It often means you learned survival strategies early in life—fawning, giving, pleasing, absorbing, and staying emotionally alert—as ways to feel safe, loved, and connected. By shifting the question from "Why are they like this?" to "What is this relationship asking me to give up?", you are invited back into your own clarity, your own body, and your own choice. Healing begins when you stop externalizing your worth and start rebuilding trust in your perception, your boundaries, and your inner safety. If you've ever felt responsible for someone else's emotions, confused by your own attachment, or torn between compassion for another person and the quiet cost of abandoning yourself, this episode will help you see the pattern with more clarity—and begin choosing yourself again. Was It Love Or Was It Coercive Control? Free Masterclass Link: <a href= "https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/1995574441875?aff=oddtdtcreator">https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/1995574441875?aff=oddtdtcreator</a> In this free LIVE masterclass, you'll learn how to recognize the signs of fawning, people-pleasing, and self-abandonment so you can begin rebuilding safety, self-trust, and emotional independence from the inside out. And you'll get to ask questions!

May 25, 2026

Part 3: Compassion is Not Responsibility - Healing as an Educated Empath Series

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May 9, 2026

Part 2: Healing as an Educated Empath Series - Not Everything You Feel Is Yours

In this episode, we unpack a surprising truth: not every emotion you feel is actually yours. Drawing on research about emotional contagion, nervous system activation, and interoception, this conversation explores why highly empathic people can absorb the moods, stress, and tension around them so deeply that it feels physical. You'll hear why this is not weakness or "overreacting," but often a trauma-shaped survival pattern rooted in hyper-vigilance. We also explore the difference between sensitivity and dysregulation, why your body can mistake someone else's distress for your responsibility, and how simple practices like affect labelling and grounding can begin to change the pattern. Why do some conversations leave you exhausted for hours? Why can guilt show up the moment you protect your peace? And could the exhaustion you've called anxiety actually be your nervous system scanning for danger? If you've ever walked into a room feeling fine and left carrying something heavy, this episode will help you understand why.

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What is When the Rose Coloured Glasses Come Off?: Dealing with a narcissist can be shattering to one's sense of identity, self-worth and self-confidence. Heck, not even knowing who you are. As a therapist, I've been working with narcissistic abuse survivors for over 7 years. As a trained registered social worker, I have seen firsthand the harm, confusion and devastation that my clients experience.

I graduated with two degrees and was out to save the world. Little did I realize that I had lived through my own traumas, but thinking that everything I experienced was "normal," only to one day wake up and see that it was not. The rose-coloured glasses came off like a shattering glass. What I knew to be true was gone. Grief and loss set in, then the healing journey.

Now I help my clients awaken, grieve, understand, and make choices one step at a time, to develop their identities, get in touch with their red-flag indicator, which always knew something was wrong, and guide them through whatever small steps they can take to reclaim themselves.

Join me on a journey, both personal and professional, in understanding all the dynamics of this insidious and manipulative disorder. We can heal, but first we need to see them for who they are and who they are not! Nine years later, I have found my voice, and I want to share it with you.
How often does this podcast release new episodes?: This podcast updates weekly.
Where can I listen to this podcast?: This podcast is available on 6 platforms including Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and more. You can also use the RSS feed directly.
Does this podcast accept guests?: No, this podcast does not typically feature guests.

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