Who’s the Daddy w/ Alexandra K.

About Who’s the Daddy w/ Alexandra K.

Who’s the Daddy w/ Alexandra K is a podcast for women who are rewriting the rules of motherhood—on purpose. Hosted by Alexandra K, a single mom by choice and former fertility patient, this show dives deep into the real stories, messy emotions, and hard-earned wisdom behind donor conception, solo parenting, and navigating modern fertility systems as a Black woman. Alexandra started this podcast with one goal: to make sure no one has to wonder if this path is possible—or if they’re the only one thinking about it. When she first began her own journey, she searched for “single mom on purpose” just hoping to find someone else out there like her. Now, she’s building the space she once needed: a community where your questions, fears, and dreams are all welcome. Each week, you’ll hear honest conversations, listener-submitted dilemmas, and guest interviews exploring everything from choosing a sperm donor to answering your child’s toughest questions, to reclaiming joy and agency in solo motherhood. Whether you’re considering this path, deep in the trenches, or parenting solo already—you’re not alone. New episodes every Tuesday. Available on YouTube, Spotify, Apple Podcasts & more.

Publisher

Alexandra K. Hopkins

Category

kids & family · society & culture

Language

en

Explicit

Yes

First episode

29 Apr 2025

Latest episode

3 Nov 2026

Latest episodes

14 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   3 Nov 2026

   Maree

   What does it take to pursue motherhood when the path isn’t always easy—and the people you hoped would support you don’t necessarily understand your decision? In this episode of Who’s the Daddy? w/ Alexandra K., I sit down with Maree, a 33-year-old Single Mom By Choice from Boston, who shares her journey to becoming a mother to her daughter. Maree’s journey began with a search for community. Specifically, she wanted to find other Black women who had chosen to become mothers on their own. After discovering my content on social media, she found a community that helped her see what was possible and gave her the encouragement to begin her own journey. We discuss how she accessed fertility benefits through a part-time job at Tractor Supply, navigated PCOS and IVF, selected a sperm donor, and worked with CCRM. She also shares her embryo results: 25 eggs retrieved and seven PGT-normal embryos. But getting pregnant was only one part of her journey. Maree opens up about difficult family reactions, including her father’s decision to cut off contact after referring to her daughter as a “science experiment.” She also shares her experience with severe preeclampsia, an emergency C-section at just 29 weeks, and the challenges of recovering from surgery while her newborn daughter spent an extended period in the NICU. We also get into the realities of donor conception, sperm bank costs and buybacks, searching for donor siblings, dating as a solo mom, and how she plans to talk with her daughter about her donor-conceived origins. This is an honest conversation about representation, resilience, family, and choosing motherhood on your own terms. In This Episode, We Discuss: • Finding the Single Mom By Choice community and the importance of representation for Black women. • How social media helped Maree discover solo motherhood. • Accessing Progyny fertility benefits through a part-time job at Tractor Supply. • Navigating PCOS, IVF, and choosing CCRM as her fertility clinic. • Sperm donor selection and the realities of sperm bank costs and buybacks. • Her IVF results: 25 eggs retrieved and seven PGT-normal embryos. • Navigating family rejection and her father’s reaction to her decision. • Severe preeclampsia and an emergency C-section at 29 weeks. • Recovering from a C-section while her newborn daughter spent weeks in the NICU. • Searching for donor siblings and navigating donor conception. • Dating as a Single Mom By Choice. • Talking to her daughter about being donor conceived. • What she wishes she had known before beginning her journey. • Answering the question: “Who’s the daddy?” About Who’s the Daddy? w/ Alexandra K. Who’s the Daddy? w/ Alexandra K. is the podcast where we discuss all things Single Mom By Choice. Through honest conversations and personal stories, we explore solo motherhood, IVF, sperm donors, donor conception, and the many ways women are choosing to build their families. Our goal is to share stories that create representation, foster community, and remind women that they aren’t alone in their journey. Stay Connected Follow the Podcast: Instagram: @WhosTheDaddyPod Listen and subscribe on your favorite podcast streaming platform. Follow Alexandra K.: Instagram: @LifeWithAlexandraK Connect with Maree: Instagram: @_itsjustmaree Thank you for listening! If Maree’s story resonated with you, share this episode with someone who might need to hear it. And remember, keep discovering and choosing the life that’s best for you!

2. 

   27 Oct 2026

   Annmaree

   In this episode of Who’s the Daddy? w/ Alexandra K., I sit down with Annmaree, a solo mother by choice living in London, to discuss her journey to motherhood through IVF and donor conception. Although Annmaree always knew she wanted to be a mother, life took unexpected turns. After years of nurturing other people’s children as a nanny, she realized it was time to focus on building a family of her own. As she approached 40, the reality of her fertility timeline became more pressing, and she began exploring her options for becoming a mother on her own. Then COVID hit. Rather than putting her plans on hold indefinitely, Annmaree decided to take action. She shares how she navigated fertility treatment, selected a sperm donor, and made important decisions about embryo testing—all while managing the emotional, financial, and practical realities of building a family on her own. But the journey didn’t end with a positive pregnancy test. Annmaree opens up about pregnancy uncertainty, miscarriage, and the fear of navigating difficult moments without another parent by her side. We also discuss donor siblings, talking to children about donor conception, and raising her son with honesty and confidence. In this episode, we discuss: • What inspired Annmaree to become a Single Mom By Choice after years of wanting to be a parent • How turning 40 influenced her decision to pursue motherhood • Navigating IVF and fertility treatment during the COVID-19 pandemic • The difference between freezing eggs and creating embryos, and why fertility testing matters • Choosing a sperm donor, including donor profiles, adult photos, and the additional costs of accessing donor information • Embryo testing and the decision to identify genetic abnormalities before transfer • Pregnancy anxiety and the reality of not always feeling the emotions you expect • Navigating miscarriage and the unique fears that can come with experiencing difficult moments as a solo parent • Finding donor sibling families and the possibility of future connections • Talking to children about sperm donation and explaining donor conception in age-appropriate ways • The realities of solo parenting, including finances, support systems, travel, and maintaining your own identity Annmaree’s story explores both the decisions involved in building a family and the realities of living that decision. Her experience is a reminder that choosing solo motherhood doesn’t mean having every answer in advance. It means navigating uncertainty, making informed decisions, and continuing to build the life you envision. About Who’s the Daddy? w/ Alexandra K. Who’s the Daddy? w/ Alexandra K. is the podcast where we discuss all things Single Mom By Choice. Through honest conversations and personal stories, we explore solo motherhood, IVF, sperm donors, donor conception, and the many ways women are choosing to build their families. Our goal is to share stories that create representation, foster community, and remind women that they aren’t alone in their journey. Stay Connected 🤍 🎙️ Follow the podcast: Instagram: WhosTheDaddyPod Follow Who’s the Daddy? w/ Alexandra K. on your favorite podcast streaming platform so you never miss an episode! 👋🏾 Connect with Alexandra K.: Instagram: @LifeWithAlexandraK ✨ Follow Annmaree: Instagram: @DonutsAndDetours Thank you for listening! If Annmaree’s story resonated with you, share this episode with someone who might need to hear it. And remember, keep discovering and choosing the life that’s best for you!

3. 

   20 Oct 2026

   Phyllis

   In this episode of Who’s the Daddy? w/ Alexandra K., I sit down with Phyllis, a nurse, veteran, and Single Mom By Choice (SMBC), to discuss her journey to solo motherhood and the decision to build a family on her own terms. While stationed in Japan, Phyllis began rethinking the traditional path to motherhood. Inspired by the book Single Mothers by Choice, she discovered that she didn’t have to wait for a partner to pursue the future she wanted. But choosing to become a single mother by choice came with challenges. Phyllis shares her experiences navigating medical professionals who struggled to understand her decision, managing mixed reactions from family members, and selecting a sperm donor. She also discusses how she talks to her daughter about donor conception and teaches her that families come in all forms. In this episode, we discuss: • What inspired Phyllis to become a Single Mom By Choice • How Single Mothers by Choice helped her discover an alternative path to motherhood • Navigating fertility care when medical professionals don’t understand your decision • Choosing a sperm donor and involving family and friends in the process • Handling family resistance while standing firm in your decision • Talking to children about donor conception and different family structures • Building a family without waiting for a romantic partner Whether you’re considering becoming a Single Mom By Choice, exploring sperm donor options, or simply curious about the different ways families are built, Phyllis’s story is a reminder that motherhood doesn’t have to follow a traditional timeline. About Who’s the Daddy? w/ Alexandra K. Who’s the Daddy? w/ Alexandra K. is the podcast where we discuss all things Single Mom By Choice. Through honest conversations and personal stories, we explore solo motherhood, IVF, sperm donors, donor conception, and the many ways women are choosing to build their families. Our goal is to share stories that create representation, foster community, and remind women that they aren’t alone in their journey. Stay Connected 🤍 🎙️ Follow the podcast: Instagram: @WhosTheDaddyPod Subscribe or follow Who’s the Daddy? w/ Alexandra K. on your favorite podcast platform so you never miss an episode! 👋🏾 Connect with Alexandra K.: Instagram: @LifeWithAlexandraK ✨ Follow Phyllis: Instagram: @Mommy.Marron Thank you for listening! Share this episode with a woman who might need to hear Phyllis’s story. And remember, keep discovering and choosing the life that’s best for you!

4. 

   13 Oct 2026

   Onyi O.

   What happens when you realize you don’t need a man or a marriage to become a mother? For actor and producer Onyi Okoli, that realization was an epiphany. One that made her soul rejoice. In this episode of Who’s the Daddy w/ Alexandra K., Onyi joins me for a candid conversation about her journey to becoming a Single Mom By Choice (SMBC) and what it means to build a family on your own terms. Onyi shares what first opened her eyes to the possibility of solo motherhood, how she navigated egg freezing and IVF, and the surprisingly funny and deeply personal process of choosing a donor. We also explore identity, representation, dating, and family planning, including how Onyi approached donor selection and why physical attraction was one of her priorities. This conversation is about giving yourself permission to imagine a different future — and realizing you don’t have to put your dreams on hold while waiting for someone else. And if you’re considering becoming a Single Mom By Choice yourself, Onyi leaves us with practical encouragement: trust your timing, do your research, and plan for the life you want. Whether you’re already a Single Mom By Choice, considering solo motherhood, somewhere in the middle of your journey, or simply curious about the possibilities, this episode is a reminder that there is more than one way to build a family. 🎙️ Listen to Episode 2: Onyi Okoli’s Journey to Solo Motherhood 🗳️ Help Baby Kairolu Become Baby of the Year! Onyi’s daughter, Baby Kairolu, is competing for Baby of the Year, and your vote could help her get closer to the title! The winner could receive $25,000 and a feature in Variety. Show Kairolu some love and cast your vote here: 👉 https://babyoftheyear.org/vote/verify/2026/ka-r-lu-3d2b Every vote counts! 🤍 Connect with Onyi Instagram: @OnyiOkoli Connect with Alexandra Instagram: @LifeWithAlexandraK Podcast Instagram: @WhosTheDaddyPod Who’s the Daddy w/ Alexandra K. The podcast where we discuss all things Single Mom By Choice. And as always, keep discovering and choosing the life that’s best for you. 🤍

5. 

   6 Oct 2026

   Alexandra K.

   Usually, I’m the one asking the questions. But this time, I’m the guest. In the first episode of Season 2, I’m finally sitting down to tell my own story — how I came to the decision to become a Single Mom By Choice, what led me to IVF and donor conception, and what it actually took to build the family I always knew I wanted. I’m taking you back to the beginning: the moment I realized I didn’t want to wait for a partner to become a mother, the options I considered along the way, and the conversations that helped me understand what I did — and didn’t — want. This episode is about more than my fertility journey. It’s about making a decision for yourself, trusting that decision, and realizing that your family doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s. Whether you’re already a Single Mom By Choice, considering solo motherhood, somewhere in the middle of your journey, or simply curious about what this path can look like — I hope hearing my story reminds you that there is more than one way to build a family. 🎙️ Listen to Episode 1 of Season 2: My Story And as always, keep discovering and choosing the life that’s best for you. 🤍 Connect with Alexandra: Instagram: @LifeWithAlexandraK Podcast Instagram: @WhosTheDaddyPod Who’s the Daddy w/ Alexandra K. The podcast where we discuss all things Single Mom By Choice.

6. 

   29 Sept 2026

   Season 2 Trailer | Who's The Daddy w/Alexandra K.

   Season 2 of Who’s the Daddy w/ Alexandra K. is here. 🎙️ This season, we’re going deeper into the stories behind the women who chose solo motherhood — the decisions, the doubts, the unexpected paths, and the lives they’re building on the other side of that choice. You’ll hear from Single Moms By Choice (SMBCs) with different experiences, backgrounds, perspectives, and reasons for choosing to build their families on their own terms. And this season, I’m stepping out from behind the microphone, too. For the first time, I’m the guest. I’ll be sharing more of my own story — from deciding to become a mom on my own, to IVF and donor conception, to becoming a mother of two. New episodes drop every Tuesday. If you’re thinking about becoming a Single Mom By Choice, already on the journey, or simply curious about the many ways a family can be built, I hope you’ll join me. 🎧 Subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode. And as always, keep discovering and choosing the life that’s best for you. 🤍 Who’s the Daddy w/ Alexandra K. The podcast where we discuss all things Single Mom By Choice. Follow the show on IG: @whosthedaddypod (https://www.instagram.com/whosthedaddypod) Let’s Connect! Follow Alexandra: @lifewithalexandrak (https://www.instagram.com/lifewithalexandrak) Rate, review, and subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen! New episodes every Tuesday. Thanks for being part of this community. #SingleMomByChoice #SMBC #SoloMotherhood #IVF #DonorConception #SingleMotherhood #FamilyBuilding #FertilityJourney #Motherhood #WhosTheDaddy

7. 

   17 Jun 2025

   Dee & Lisa | Sister Moms & Telling the Truth

   Demetria and Lisa discuss raising children connected through donor conception, exploring sibling bonds and truth-telling, in this interview with host Alexandra K.

8. 

   10 Jun 2025

   Sarah Z. | Choosing what Matters & Second Guessing my Decision

   Sarah Z. discusses her intentional journey to becoming a single mother by choice, highlighting the influence of her Jewish identity and major life decisions, in an interview with Alexandra K.

9. 

   3 Jun 2025

   Nancy M. | Life with a Known Donor & Blocking Out Negativity

   Nancy M. discusses her journey to solo motherhood using a known donor, highlighting the unique benefits and challenges of building a family with intention and clarity in this interview with Alexandra K.

10. 

    27 May 2025

    Maryssa M. | Navigating with POI & Financing Conception

    Maryssa M. discusses navigating solo motherhood with premature ovarian insufficiency, using both egg and sperm donors, and financing fertility treatments in an interview with Alexandra K.

11. 

    20 May 2025

    Danielle L. | Dating While Trying & Deciding When to Share

    Danielle L. | Dating while Trying & Deciding When to Share This week, I’m joined by Danielle, who began her solo motherhood journey in 2021 but didn’t bring her baby home until 2024. Her story is a powerful reminder that even with medical support, this path is rarely linear. Danielle describes her journey as a trek—a long and winding road filled with obstacles, hard decisions, and deep personal growth. She also shares what it was like to date while actively pursuing solo motherhood, and how she navigated both hope and heartbreak in real time. Her story is honest, layered, and full of strength. Solicited Advice: This week’s listener submission comes from a woman who just started IVF and has also started seeing someone new. She’s wondering when—or if—she should tell him about her fertility plans, and whether she should put treatment on pause if he turns out to be the right person. We talk about how to stay honest with yourself while remaining open to love and possibility. Guest Info: Danielle L. Follow them on IG: @Doinglyfe_with_llcoolbaby Share your journey • Are you a single mom by choice and would like to be featured? Submit your email in the highlight story of @whosthedaddypod • Are you a SMBC, TTC (trying to conceive) as a SMBC or still in the thinking phase and have a question you want discussed in “Solicited Advice” submit it to: whosthedaddypodcast@gmail or send a DM to @whosthedaddypod Let’s Connect! Follow the show on Instagram: @whosthedaddypod Follow Alexandra: @lifewithalexandrak Rate, review, and subscribe on Spotify, Apple, or wherever you listen! New episodes every Tuesday. Thanks for listening!

12. 

    13 May 2025

    Brittany L. | More than Embryos & Too Many Choices

    Brittany L. | More than Embryos & Too Many Choices This week, I’m joined by Brittany, a solo mom by choice who opens up about what it’s like to navigate life after having your first child through IVF—and being left with more embryos than you ever expected. We talk about how surreal it feels when people ask if you’ll donate your embryos, and how personal and emotionally layered that question can be. Brittany and I both reflect on the grief that comes with knowing you may never meet the children you created—and the complicated reality of being in a space that celebrates donation when your heart says no. This is a raw and honest conversation about ownership, boundaries, and how hard it is to make decisions you never thought you’d be faced with. Solicited Advice: This week’s listener question comes from a solo mom by choice who’s feeling overwhelmed by all the options available to her—clinics, donors, treatments, timelines—and wants to know how to move forward when everything feels like too much. We talk about getting grounded, simplifying your process, and tuning out the noise so you can follow your path, not everyone else’s. Guest Info: Brittany L. Single mom by choice and IVF mama Follow her on Instagram: @bey_love_ (https://www.instagram.com/bey_love_) Resources Mentioned: • Submit your question for “Solicited Advice”: whosthedaddypodcast@gmail.com • Follow the show on IG: @whosthedaddypod (https://www.instagram.com/whosthedaddypod) • Watch full episodes on YouTube Let’s Connect! Follow Alexandra: @lifewithalexandrak (https://www.instagram.com/lifewithalexandrak) Rate, review, and subscribe on Spotify or wherever you listen! New episodes every Tuesday. Thanks for being here!

13. 

    6 May 2025

    Stephanie G. | Taking the Leap & Navigating Mom Circles

    Stephanie G. | Taking the Leap & Navigating Mom Circles In this episode of Who’s the Daddy w/ Alexandra K, Stephanie shares how she chose solo motherhood at 34, after realizing her then-boyfriend wasn’t ready—or sure—about becoming a father. She was clear: she didn’t want to miss her chance to become a mom. With help from close friends and after choosing not one but two donors throughout her journey, Stephanie is now the proud single mom by choice of two amazing boys. Her story is all about clarity, courage, and trusting yourself even when the timing isn’t perfect. Solicited Advice: This week’s listener submission comes from a solo mom by choice who feels isolated in traditional mom spaces. She’s often the only one without a partner and is finding it hard to build friendships with moms who don’t rely on their partners for everything. We talk about how to navigate that dynamic, protect your peace, and find your people. My Why: One of the biggest reasons I started this podcast is because if you don’t know something exists, you might also struggle with knowing it’s possible. I remember when I first started looking into this path, I was literally searching single mom on purpose—just hoping to find someone else out there like me. I had no idea intentional single motherhood was a real thing people did, and for a long time, it felt like I was figuring it out on my own. But the more I learned, the more I realized there’s a whole community of us. And that’s why I’m committed to sharing these stories—to make sure no one has to wonder if this is possible or if they’re the only one thinking about it. Guest Info: Stephanie G. Follow her on IG: @Stephgob Share your journey • Are you a single mom by choice and would like to be featured? Submit your email in the highlight story of @whosthedaddypod • Are you a SMBC, TTC (trying to conceive) as a SMBC or still in the thinking phase and have a question you want discussed in “Solicited Advice” submit it to: whosthedaddypodcast@gmail or send a DM to @whosthedaddypod Let’s Connect! Follow the show on Instagram: @whosthedaddypod Follow Alexandra: @lifewithalexandrak Rate, review, and subscribe on Spotify or wherever you listen! New episodes every Tuesday. Thanks for listening!

14. 

    29 Apr 2025

    Lori H. | Finding Solo Motherhood & Protecting your Journey

    Lori H. | Finding Solo Motherhood & Protecting your Journey This week, I’m joined by Lori, a single mom by choice. In this episode, we talk about how her family took the news that she wanted to be a single mother, how the road to motherhood even with assistance isn’t always a straight shot and she gives a few words of encouragement for aspiring SMBCs. From setting boundaries in online donor communities to protecting your energy during your fertility journey, we cover it all. Solicited Advice: This week’s listener submission involves a pregnant SMBC navigating an online acquaintance who wants to use the same donor as her. We discuss what to do when boundaries are crossed, and how to handle those tricky moments with grace or not! Guest Info: Lori H. Follow them on IG: @Lorih__ Get on the Show: • Are you a single mom by choice and would like to be featured? Submit your email in the highlight story of @whosthedaddypod • Are you a SMBC, TTC (trying to conceive) as a SMBC or still in the thinking phase and have a question you want discussed in “Solicited Advice” submit it to: whosthedaddypodcast@gmail or send a DM to @whosthedaddypod Let’s Connect! Follow the show on Instagram: @whosthedaddypod (about:blank) Follow Alexandra: @lifewithalexandrak (about:blank) Rate, review, and subscribe on Spotify, Apple, or wherever you listen! New episodes every Tuesday. Thanks for listening!

Who has been a guest on Who’s the Daddy w/ Alexandra K.

Names identified in recent episode analyses. Showing up to five guests.

• Dee
• Lisa
• Demetria
• Sarah Z
• Nancy M

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YouTube views

6,093

Score snapshot 15 Sept 2025

Apple Podcasts (US)

5.0 / 5

6 ratings

Spotify

5.0 / 5

4 ratings

Podcast Authority Score: 36 / 100

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Quality

28

Social presence

0

YouTube

74

Engagement

32

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