Why Didn't You

About Why Didn't You

Every week, one survivor of sexual violence, tells their story to journalist and author (and survivor) Terri White. We discuss their personal experience and the reality of the bigger picture around assault and what comes after. We attempt to combat the myths around assault that cause so much harm. That reveal themselves in questions beginning with three words..."Why Didn't You". Why didn't you...scream? Fight him off? Dress differently? Leave him? Report to the police? Have proof? These testimonies reveal the impact of these myths. How they harm women, how they seek to silence and shame. How they play out throughout society, including in the criminal justice system. Of the reality of reporting, taking action, seeking justice in 2023. This is a podcast where women's stories will be heard. What's yours? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy (https://acast.com/privacy) for more information.

Publisher

Terri White

Category

news · society & culture · society & culture

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

25 Sept 2023

Latest episode

24 Oct 2023

Latest episodes

4 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   24 Oct 2023

   Mia

   This week on Why Didn't You, Mia tells her story of surviving rape and exploitation. Mia Döring is a writer and psychotherapist from Dublin, specialising in sexual trauma. She is the author of the brilliant memoir, 'Any Girl', and in this episode, discusses her experiences of rape, grooming and exploitation - Key facts and stats: episode 4 -One in four Irish women have experienced physical and/or sexual violence Irish Observatory on Violence Against Women nwci.ie/images/uploads/IOVAW_GREVIOS.pdf (nwci.ie/images/uploads/IOVAW_GREVIOS.pdf) -One In five have been raped and more than half experienced sexual violence. 78% know the perpetrator Central Statistics Office cso.ie/en/releasesandpublications/ep/p-svsmr/sexualviolencesurvey2022mainresults/ (cso.ie/en/releasesandpublications/ep/p-svsmr/sexualviolencesurvey2022mainresults/) -All the below from Rape Crisis Network Ireland rcni.ie/wp-content/uploads/RCNI-Rape-Crisis-Statistics-2020-FINAL.pdf 33% of those whose abuse began between 13 and 17 said it lasted several years. The vast majority abused by a partner/ex-partner. 65% of survivors didn’t report -All the below NSPCC nspcc.org.uk/about-us/news-opinion/2023/2023-08-14-82-rise-in-online-grooming-crimes-against-children-in-the-last-5-years/ (nspcc.org.uk/about-us/news-opinion/2023/2023-08-14-82-rise-in-online-grooming-crimes-against-children-in-the-last-5-years/) Almost 34,000 online grooming crimes against children were recorded in the last 6 years. 6,350 Sexual Communication with a Child offences were recorded last year (2022/23). An 82% increase since 2017/18. Where gender was known, 83% were against girls. -There are approx. 72,800 prostitutes in the UK — 88% are women Home Affairs Committee publications.parliament.uk/pa/cm201617/cmselect/cmhaff/26/26.pdf (publications.parliament.uk/pa/cm201617/cmselect/cmhaff/26/26.pdf) -More than one in ten British men say they have paid for sex Home Office report assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/842920/Prostitution_and_Sex_Work_Report.pdf (assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/842920/Prostitution_and_Sex_Work_Report.pdf) -Below from EVE (previously 'exploited voices now educating') prostitutionresearch.com/men-who-buy-sex-london-2009/ (prostitutionresearch.com/men-who-buy-sex-london-2009/) 24% of 'punters' said 'rape' doesn't apply to women in prostitution. 27% said that the customer is entitled to any act he chooses with the woman he buys. If you are in need of support or advice: (Grooming) Call Stop it now! – People in the UK and Ireland can call for free on 0808 1000 900 (tel:08081000900) NSPCC - 0808 800 5000 (tel:08088005000), email help@nspcc.org.uk (mailto:help@nspcc.org.uk) or fill in our ( online form.)online form. (online form.) ruhama.ie/ (ruhama.ie/) - if impacted by sexual exploitation, prostitution and human trafficking Victim Support 0808 1689111 victimsupport.org.uk (victimsupport.org.uk) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy (https://acast.com/privacy) for more information.

2. 

   10 Oct 2023

   Terri

   This week on Why Didn't You, something a little different. After our first two episodes, listeners (you!) have been curious about the personal experiences of creator & host Terri White. So, in this one-off episode, Terri tells her story - including an incident she's speaking about for the first time and the rape myths she's faced and/or that drive her potty. This ep. covers class, mental heath, assault and child abuse. This is Terri's testimony. Next week, she'll be back to hearing yours. - Key facts and stats in ep 3 (with sources) -1 in 6 children have been sexually abused rapecrisis.org.uk/get-informed/statistics-sexual-violence (https://rapecrisis.org.uk/get-informed/statistics-sexual-violence) -Sexual offences against children breached 100,000 for the first time in 2021-2022 csacentre.org.uk/documents/child-sexual-abuse-in-2021-22-trends-in-official-data/ (https://open.acast.com/shows/651184f5d1933f00129e72d6/episodes/csacentre.org.uk/documents/child-sexual-abuse-in-2021-22-trends-in-official-data/) -5 out of 6 children attending sexual assault referral centres in 2021-2022 were female csacentre.org.uk/documents/child-sexual-abuse-in-2021-22-trends-in-official-data/ (csacentre.org.uk/documents/child-sexual-abuse-in-2021-22-trends-in-official-data/) -Over a third of all police-recorded sexual offences are against children learning.nspcc.org.uk/media/1710/statistics-briefing-child-sexual-abuse.pdf (learning.nspcc.org.uk/media/1710/statistics-briefing-child-sexual-abuse.pdf) -90% of child abuse victims knew their abuser learning.nspcc.org.uk/media/1710/statistics-briefing-child-sexual-abuse.pdf (learning.nspcc.org.uk/media/1710/statistics-briefing-child-sexual-abuse.pdf) -Poverty and inequality is accepted as a driver of harm to children research.hud.ac.uk/media/assets/document/hhs/RelationshipBetweenPovertyChildAbuseandNeglect_Report.pdf (research.hud.ac.uk/media/assets/document/hhs/RelationshipBetweenPovertyChildAbuseandNeglect_Report.pdf) -There are over 4 million kids living in poverty in the UK. 44% of children in lone-parent families are in poverty cpag.org.uk/child-poverty/child-poverty-facts-and-figures (cpag.org.uk/child-poverty/child-poverty-facts-and-figures) -1 in 10 women believe they've been spiked. 40% of people don't think police would believe them yougov.co.uk/society/articles/44863-one-ten-women-say-they-have-had-their-drink-spiked (yougov.co.uk/society/articles/44863-one-ten-women-say-they-have-had-their-drink-spiked) - If you need support or advice: NSPCC helpline 0808 800 5000 help@NSPCC.org.uk ChildLine (under 19) 0800 1111 childline.org.uk (https://open.acast.com/shows/651184f5d1933f00129e72d6/episodes/childline.org.uk) Victim Support 0808 1689111 victimsupport.org.uk (https://open.acast.com/shows/651184f5d1933f00129e72d6/episodes/victimsupport.org.uk) Rape Crisis England & Wales 0808 500 2222 rapecrisis.org.uk (https://open.acast.com/shows/651184f5d1933f00129e72d6/episodes/rapecrisis.org.uk) Rape Crisis Scotland 08088 010302 rapecrisisscotland.org.uk (https://open.acast.com/shows/651184f5d1933f00129e72d6/episodes/rapecrisisscotland.org.uk) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy (https://acast.com/privacy) for more information.

3. 

   2 Oct 2023

   Amber

   This week on Why Didn't You, Amber tells her story of surviving sexual assault. Amber speaks for the very first time about the multiple incidents of sexual violence she's faced in her life. She talks about the difficulties specific to historical offences, what prevents women from reporting and the importance and power of being believed. - The key facts and stats in episode 2 (with sources) -1 in 6 children have been sexually abused rapecrisis.org.uk/get-informed/statistics-sexual-violence (https://rapecrisis.org.uk/get-informed/statistics-sexual-violence) learning.nspcc.org.uk/media/1710/statistics-briefing-child-sexual-abuse.pdf (learning.nspcc.org.uk/media/1710/statistics-briefing-child-sexual-abuse.pdf) -Sexual offences against children breached the 100,000 mark for the first time in 2021-2022 csacentre.org.uk/documents/child-sexual-abuse-in-2021-22-trends-in-official-data/ (csacentre.org.uk/documents/child-sexual-abuse-in-2021-22-trends-in-official-data/) -The majority of adults who experienced sexual abuse as a child did not tell anyone at the time csacentre.org.uk/resources/blog/improving-our-response-to-child-sexual-abuse/ (csacentre.org.uk/resources/blog/improving-our-response-to-child-sexual-abuse/) -5 in 6 women who are raped don’t report https://rapecrisis.org.uk/get-informed/statistics-sexual-violence (https://rapecrisis.org.uk/get-informed/statistics-sexual-violence) ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/crimeandjustice/bulletins/sexualoffencesinenglandandwalesoverview/march2020 (ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/crimeandjustice/bulletins/sexualoffencesinenglandandwalesoverview/march2020) -1 in 2 adult survivors of rape have experienced it more than once https://rapecrisis.org.uk/get-informed/statistics-sexual-violence (https://rapecrisis.org.uk/get-informed/statistics-sexual-violence) ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/crimeandjustice/articles/natureofsexualassaultbyrapeorpenetrationenglandandwales/yearendingmarch2020 (ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/crimeandjustice/articles/natureofsexualassaultbyrapeorpenetrationenglandandwales/yearendingmarch2020) -Less than two in 100 rapes recorded by the police in 2022 ended that year in a charge, or a conviction https://rapecrisis.org.uk/get-informed/statistics-sexual-violence (https://rapecrisis.org.uk/get-informed/statistics-sexual-violence) gov.uk/government/statistics/crime-outcomes-in-england-and-wales-year-to-december-2022-data-tables (gov.uk/government/statistics/crime-outcomes-in-england-and-wales-year-to-december-2022-data-tables) - If you are in need of support or advice: Victim Support 0808 1689111 victimsupport.org.uk ( victimsupport.org.uk) Rape Crisis England & Wales 0808 500 2222 rapecrisis.org.uk (https://open.acast.com/shows/651184f5d1933f00129e72d6/episodes/rapecrisis.org.uk) Rape Crisis Scotland 08088 010302 rapecrisisscotland.org.uk (https://open.acast.com/shows/651184f5d1933f00129e72d6/episodes/rapecrisisscotland.org.uk) The NSPCC helpline 0808 800 5000 email help@NSPCC.org.uk Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy (https://acast.com/privacy) for more information.

4. 

   25 Sept 2023

   Ellie Wilson

   Ellie Wilson tells us her story of surviving sexual assault. From the personal devastation wrought by the attacks, to her experience in the Scottish criminal justice system, defiance in the face of 'rape myths', and determination to improve the future for those survivors who will come after her. - The key facts and stats in episode 1 (with sources) -Rape complaints in Scotland are at highest level on record and have increased. Rape/attempted rape by 5% in 2023 from the previous year Source: gov.scot/publications/recorded-crime-scotland-year-ending-june-2023/pages/3/) (gov.scot/publications/recorded-crime-scotland-year-ending-june-2023/pages/3/)) -Of the 2,176 rapes or attempted rapes reported to police in 2020-21, only 152 led to a prosecution. Source: gov.scot/publications/criminal-proceedings-scotland-2019-20/documents/ ( gov.scot/publications/criminal-proceedings-scotland-2019-20/documents/) -In 2021-22, 51 per cent of rape and attempted rape trials resulted in a conviction, compared with a 91 per cent rate for crimes overall. Source: gov.scot/publications/criminal-proceedings-scotland-2019-20/documents/ (gov.scot/publications/criminal-proceedings-scotland-2019-20/documents/) -1 in 4 women (in England & Wales) have been raped or sexually assaulted as an adult -1 in 2 rapes against women (in England & Wales) are carried out by a partner or ex-partner -On average, adult rape cases in England & Wales take more than 2 years to complete in court Sources for above: https://rapecrisis.org.uk/get-informed/statistics-sexual-violence/ (https://rapecrisis.org.uk/get-informed/statistics-sexual-violence/) If you are in need of support: Rape Crisis Scotland can be contacted on 08088 010302 or rapecrisisscotland.org.uk (rapecrisisscotland.org.uk) Rape Crisis England & Wales on 0808 500 2222 or rapecrisis.org.uk (rapecrisis.org.uk) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy (https://acast.com/privacy) for more information.

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