You know that saying, “it’s not you, it’s me”? I started to wonder, is it me? Am I the problem? After a string of relationships and flings, I wondered how I could do better with human connection during my time in this meat body. Why I suck at dating is a deep dive into why dating and relationships can be so hard. I want these conversations to invite some awareness and hopefully, it resonates with you. My goal is to amplify the voices of experts, thought leaders and my dear friends so we can all gain a deeper understanding of human connection. Join me while I reflect, grow, and nerd out with some badass humans.
"How would you date differently if you truly believed you were enough?" with Kirstie Taylor
In this episode, I had the honour of chatting with Kirstie Taylor. Kirstie is a Dating & Relationship Writer & Coach and Author of the book “What I Wish I Knew About Love”. Her work is incredibly thoughtful and filled with so much insight. The "aha" moments I've experienced with her are endless, I swear.
One of the reasons why I reached out to Kirstie is because her work has helped me find healthy ways to navigate through my predominantly anxious attachment style. I really resonated with her decision to take a year to be intentionally single after being a serial monogamous for a decade. She shares her story about how she went from anxious to secure and how she helps daters let go of any beliefs that are holding them back in their love lives. After this episode, I suggest binge-watching her Tiktok/Instagram because you will truly come out of it with so much wisdom.
Some of the things we chat about:
Stonewalling/ghosting
Navigating through the “ick”
Dating emotionally unavailable people
How to know when there is a real connection
First dates - red flags vs green flags and how to tell the difference
Relationship conflict - when a relationship is worth staying in
How to build better communication and grow together
Couples therapy - the beauty of going when things are good
All the things to devour by Kirstie:
https://kirstietaylor.medium.com/ (https://kirstietaylor.medium.com/)
https://www.instagram.com/kirstietaylorr/ (https://www.instagram.com/kirstietaylorr/)
https://www.kirstietaylor.com/ (https://www.kirstietaylor.com/)
https://www.tiktok.com/@kirstietaylorr (https://www.tiktok.com/@kirstietaylorr)
Want to connect with me? You can find me at:
https://www.instagram.com/whyisuckatdating/ (https://www.instagram.com/whyisuckatdating/)
Much love,
Alice xx
10 Jul 2022
Attachment Theory with Jessica DeMarchis
Jessica is back for my third episode and we dive into the basics of Attachment Theory.
TW: In the intro, I address my experience with depression and suicide. Feel free to fast forward to the 15-minute mark to hop right into the episode.
Some things we chat about:
The four different attachment styles: ( 1) secure, (2) avoidant (aka dismissive, or anxious-avoidant in children), (3) anxious (aka preoccupied, or anxious-ambivalent in children), (4) disorganized (aka fearful-avoidant in children).
Is it love or is it a heightened nervous system?
Are you really attracted to them or are you repeating a pattern?
How to go from an insecure attachment to becoming secure.
How anxious & avoidants can healthily navigate through a relationship.
You can find Jessica on Instagram, her podcast and her website here:
https://www.instagram.com/jess (https://www.instagram.com/jess)demarchiscoaching/
https://www.jessicademarchis.com (https://www.jessicademarchis.com)
https://www.jessicademarchis.com/podcast (https://www.jessicademarchis.com/podcast)
Connect with me 🥰:
https://www.instagram.com/whyisuckatdating/ (https://www.instagram.com/whyisuckatdating/)
1 Jun 2022
Understanding Trauma and Emotions to Build Awareness with Jessica Demarchis
Jessica Demarchis is an inspiration. After ten years of being a Therapist and Life Coach, she has developed an accessible way for people to find a better understanding and connection with themselves. If you feel like you suck at dating and want to get a better foundation for human connection, this is the episode to dive into.
Jessica shares her personal journey on how she navigated through trauma to come to a place of acceptance, compassion and neutrality,
It is such a rad conversation filled with so much insight and if you're a science and psychology nerd like myself, you're going to love this one.
Some of the things we talk about:
Cognitive healing vs somatic healing
Approaching mental health through a scientific and holistic lens
Navigating through self-shame and judgment
Surviving, understanding and acknowledging trauma
Attachment theory
Coming back home to your body and finding safety within yourself
Becoming attuned to the physical sensations of emotions
Resources:
https://www.jessicademarchis.com (https://www.jessicademarchis.com)
Jessica's podcast "Un Learn to Level Up" https://www.jessicademarchis.com/podcast (https://www.jessicademarchis.com/podcast)
Book recommendations:
The Body Keeps The Score | Bessel van der Kolk, MD. (https://www.besselvanderkolk.com/resources/the-body-keeps-the-score)
Attached by Amir Levine & Rachel S.F. Heller https://www.attachedthebook.com/wordpress/ (https://www.attachedthebook.com/wordpress/)
The Salty Club
https://thesalty.club (https://thesalty.club)
Connect with me 🥰:
https://www.instagram.com/whyisuckatdating/ (https://www.instagram.com/whyisuckatdating/)
24 May 2022
Sex, Drugs & Mental Health with Drake Woodland
In this episode, my best friend Drake and I dive back 10 years to a time in our life when we were young, dumb and full of various substances. We’re able to laugh at ourselves now but, in all seriousness, I wanted to start with this episode to paint a picture of what I was like before I started to do any healing and inner work. My life would have looked totally different if I continued down that same path. Drake and I’s mental health & substance abuse had such an impact on our relationships and it was such a heart-warming experience to reflect and see how we've learned to show up better for ourselves and our future connections.
*TW: I'd like to make sure everyone feels safe when listening. If you're feeling vulnerable with any of these topics this might be an episode to skip for now.
If you enjoyed this episode and want to tune in regularly you can follow me on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/whyisuckatdating/ (https://www.instagram.com/whyisuckatdating/)
I want to give a big XOXO to Lrybrdbtz for producing the intro song. You can find him on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/lrybrdbtz/ (https://www.instagram.com/lrybrdbtz/)
Big love for my hunni Kayla Craven for designing my artwork. You can find her on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/craven.design/ (https://www.instagram.com/craven.design/)
To learn more about the heartstring dating app you can follow their Instagram, download the beta version of their app or send me a message.
https://www.instagram.com/heartstringdating/ (https://www.instagram.com/heartstringdating/)
To practice safe sex and get checked you can find all of the info at https://getcheckedonline.com/Pages/default.aspx (https://getcheckedonline.com/Pages/default.aspx)
xx,
Alice
19 May 2022
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