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About Wind in Her Hair
**Wind in Her Hair** is where we ditch the BS, skip the small talk, and get straight into the raw, unfiltered conversations you actually need. I’m Ana, a mama of three, relationship expert, country singer-songwriter, and your new favorite truth-teller. I’ve walked through fire, rebuilt from scratch, and learned how to create a life that's free, full, and unapologetically mine—and I’m here to help you do the same. Follow me: Website: https://www.ana-lea.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ana__lea__/ Book a Call: https://calendly.com/analeacoaching/discovery-call
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- 11 Aug 2025
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- 3 Nov 2026
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3 Nov 2026
Contempt is the Poison You Are Drinking
FROM CONTEMPT TO SURRENDER Healing Contempt: What Your Anger Is Protecting You From CONTEMPT CAN FEEL LIKE STRENGTH, BUT SOMETIMES IT'S JUST GRIEF YOU HAVEN'T ALLOWED YOURSELF TO FEEL. Is there someone you struggle to say anything good about? An ex, a parent, or someone who hurt you deeply? In this 50th episode of Wind in Her Hair, Ana shares a revelation from her daily grief practice: despite years of healing after her divorce, she was still carrying contempt toward her ex-husband. She explores how contempt protects us from painful emotions, how it affects our children and relationships, and what it means to surrender what we cannot control. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN • How contempt differs from anger and resentment • Why contempt can be unresolved grief in disguise • How contempt can outlive a marriage • What children carry when parents disrespect each other • Why respect doesn't mean approval or reconciliation • How successful men can hide grief behind anger and work • What surrender looks like in everyday life • How to begin a 10-minute grief practice CONTEMPT IS GRIEF WEARING ARMOR For years, Ana felt invisible, unheard, insignificant, and unloved in her marriage. Afterward, looking down on her ex protected her from revisiting how small she once felt. Contempt makes someone else small so you don't have to feel small anymore. But it doesn't heal the pain underneath. ANGER VS. RESENTMENT VS. CONTEMPT ANGER: I'm upset about what you did. RESENTMENT: I'm still carrying what you did. CONTEMPT: I've lost respect for who you are. Contempt attacks someone's dignity rather than addressing their behavior. It can show up through sarcasm, mockery, eye-rolling, and condescension. Relationship researcher Dr. John Gottman identifies contempt among the Four Horsemen of destructive relationship patterns. WHEN YOUR CHILDREN CARRY YOUR CONTEMPT Children notice the sighs, jokes, criticism, and disrespect aimed at their other parent, even after divorce. They should not have to carry the weight of a conflict between adults. RESPECT ISN'T APPROVAL You can acknowledge the harm someone caused, maintain boundaries, and still respect their humanity. You don't need to make someone the villain to validate what you experienced. FROM CONTROL TO SURRENDER Ana shares a moment in prayer that changed how she saw her ex-husband and her relationship with God. She also explains her "God box," where she places worries and outcomes she cannot control, including her children's return and her future. Surrender isn't giving up responsibility. It's doing your part without trying to control everyone else's. THE CONTEMPT SELF-AUDIT • Who do I look down on? • What pain is my contempt protecting me from feeling? • Am I telling my story or building a case against someone? • What is one thing I can genuinely respect about them? • What am I still trying to win that's already over? • What do I need to surrender? THE 10-MINUTE GRIEF PRACTICE Sit quietly without distractions, set a timer for 10 minutes, and ask God: What do You want to show me? What do I need to heal from? What do I need to grieve that I haven't? Notice the memories and feelings that surface. Write down the story you've attached to them and ask what is actually true. THE BOTTOM LINE You don't have to keep fighting someone to prove they hurt you. Your healing doesn't depend on their apology or transformation. What is your contempt protecting you from feeling? READ UNAVAILABLE Ana's book explores emotional unavailability and attachment patterns. amzn.to/4tOQDUE BOOK A COACHING SESSION Work with Ana to address repeating relationship patterns and build emotional connection. calendly.com/analeacoaching/60-minute-zoom-hourly EXTRA RESOURCES Attachment Style Quiz quiz.attachmentproject.com Enneagram Quiz www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test (http://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test)
27 Oct 2026
Solo Partnering or Self Sabotage?
How to Know If You're Healing or Hiding BEING SINGLE CAN BE THE HEALTHIEST SEASON OF YOUR LIFE OR THE BEST HIDING PLACE YOU'VE EVER BUILT. Are you choosing yourself because you're growing, or avoiding relationships because you're afraid of getting hurt again? In this solo episode of Wind in Her Hair, Ana explores solo partnering, the choice to step away from dating and invest in yourself, and the difference between healing and hiding. She shares how a breakup and major life changes led to an unexpected season of solitude in Nashville. With fewer distractions, she focused on her faith, fitness, business, and the relationship she had with herself. But choosing solitude isn't automatically personal growth. You can spend years alone, build a successful business, and still avoid the vulnerability required for real intimacy. Ana gets into dating burnout, abstinence, attachment styles, emotional unavailability, and why protecting your peace can sometimes mean protecting your wounds. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN • How to tell whether your solo season is intentional or fear-based • Why being tired of dating isn't the same as being healed • How high-performing men can use work to avoid intimacy • When independence becomes a wall instead of a strength • Why attraction and chemistry aren't enough to establish compatibility • How abstinence helped Ana protect her focus and discernment • Why relationships reveal patterns you can't fully work through alone • How to use a season of solitude to prepare for healthy love CHOOSING YOURSELF VS. HIDING CHOOSING YOURSELF You're working on specific goals and emotional patterns. You enjoy your own company, maintain meaningful relationships, and have standards without closing yourself off to love. HIDING You say relationships aren't worth the trouble. You stay busy so nobody gets close, find reasons to reject promising people, or call your avoidance "protecting my peace." Being alone isn't the problem. Refusing to examine why you're alone might be. WHEN SUCCESS BECOMES AN EXCUSE For some high-performing men, "I'm focused on my business" is the truth. For others, achievement offers a socially acceptable way to avoid being emotionally seen. Ask yourself: Am I building something, or am I avoiding being seen? THE SOLO PARTNERING SELF-AUDIT • When did my solo season begin, and what happened right before it? • What specific internal work am I doing right now? • What would being ready for a healthy relationship look like? • If the right person showed up tomorrow, what excuse would I reach for? • Am I alone because I love my own company, or because I don't trust anyone else with me? MAKE YOUR SOLO SEASON COUNT Give it a purpose. Identify the patterns, beliefs, and habits you want to change, not just the career or fitness goals you want to hit. Set a loose timeframe and check your progress. Do the work through journaling, coaching, reading, prayer, and honest feedback. Stay connected to family, friends, and community. Being self-partnered doesn't mean becoming isolated. And remember: time alone can prepare you for a relationship, but real connection reveals whether you've learned to show up differently. THE BOTTOM LINE A healthy solo season should make you more open to love, not less. If your walls keep getting higher, ask yourself whether you're protecting your peace or protecting your fear. READ UNAVAILABLE Ana's book explores emotional unavailability, attachment patterns, and becoming unavailable to love that hurts. https://amzn.to/4tOQDUE (https://amzn.to/4tOQDUE) BOOK A COACHING SESSION If you're successful at work but keep repeating painful relationship patterns, work with Ana to become more emotionally available and create lasting connection. https://calendly.com/analeacoaching/60-minute-zoom-hourly (https://calendly.com/analeacoaching/60-minute-zoom-hourly) EXTRA RESOURCES Attachment Style Quiz https://quiz.attachmentproject.com (https://quiz.attachmentproject.com/) Enneagram Quiz https://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test (https://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test) Tighten the episode descriptionMake the audience more consistent
20 Oct 2026
Attachment Styles 101
How Your Attachment Style Influences Who You Choose and How You Love YOU DON'T HAVE A TYPE. YOU HAVE AN ATTACHMENT STYLE, AND IT MAY BE CHOOSING YOUR PARTNERS FOR YOU. Why do you panic when someone pulls away, shut down when things get serious, or question a relationship that's going well? Your attachment style may explain why. In this solo episode of Wind in Her Hair, Ana breaks down the four attachment styles: anxious, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant, and secure. She explains how they influence attraction, communication, conflict, and emotional intimacy. Ana shares how discovering attachment theory changed her understanding of the emotionally unavailable men she chose and her own anxious and fearful-avoidant patterns. You'll hear why anxious and avoidant partners get caught in a cycle, why self-reliance can block intimacy, and why long relationships aren't always happy ones. She explores high-performing men's emotional avoidance, the influence of childhood, and what secure attachment looks like. This isn't about blame. It's about recognizing your patterns and taking responsibility. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN • The four attachment styles and how each shows up in relationships • Why anxious partners pursue while avoidant partners withdraw • Why independence and professional success don't guarantee intimacy • How childhood experiences can influence adult attachment • Why familiar patterns can feel like chemistry • How to identify your style by examining past relationships • What secure attachment looks like in communication and conflict • Small steps toward becoming more securely attached THE FOUR ATTACHMENT STYLES ANXIOUS PREOCCUPIED You want closeness but fear losing it. You may overthink texts and interpret distance as rejection. DISMISSIVE AVOIDANT You value independence and self-reliance. When someone gets close or conflict becomes uncomfortable, you may shut down or withdraw. FEARFUL AVOIDANT You want intimacy but fear getting hurt. You may pursue connection, then pull away when it starts to feel vulnerable. SECURE You're comfortable with closeness and space. You communicate directly, respect boundaries, and work through conflict without turning it into a battle. THE RELATIONSHIP PATTERN AUDIT Look back at your last three relationships. • Did you pursue connection or pull away from it? • How did you react when your partner needed reassurance or space? • Did you ask for what you needed or expect them to figure it out? • When conflict arose, did you engage, shut down, or become reactive? • Which patterns repeated, even with different partners? Don't just consider what you believe about yourself. Look at how you actually behaved. Your patterns are the data. MOVING TOWARD SECURE ATTACHMENT If you're anxious, ask: "What do I actually know, and what am I making up?" If you're dismissive avoidant, communicate your need for space instead of disappearing. If you're fearful avoidant, notice when fear makes you question or sabotage a connection that may actually be healthy. Look for people whose actions match their words, who respect boundaries, and own their mistakes. Secure doesn't mean perfect. It means you can be close without losing yourself, face discomfort without running, and ask questions instead of making assumptions. Your attachment style isn't a life sentence. You can learn to show up differently. READ UNAVAILABLE Ana's book explores emotional unavailability, attachment patterns, and becoming unavailable to love that hurts. https://amzn.to/4tOQDUE (https://amzn.to/4tOQDUE) BOOK A COACHING SESSION If you're successful at work but keep repeating relationship patterns that leave you disconnected, work with Ana to understand what's keeping you stuck. https://calendly.com/analeacoaching/60-minute-zoom-hourly (https://calendly.com/analeacoaching/60-minute-zoom-hourly) EXTRA RESOURCES Attachment Style Quiz https://quiz.attachmentproject.com (https://quiz.attachmentproject.com/) Enneagram Quiz https://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test (https://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test) Strengthen the high-performing men angleAdd a sharper episode opening
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