You Control You

About You Control You

You Control You is a podcast hosted by Mark ShaH Evans, diving deep into personal growth, relationships, and the power of self-discipline. We explore cultural differences, gender perspectives, marriage, and much more. Join us for real conversations, practical advice, and motivational insights to help you take control of your life, one decision at a time. Tune in and discover the strength within—you control you. https://linktr.ee/YouControlYou

Publisher

ShaH Evans

Category

education

Language

en

Explicit

Yes

First episode

8 Jan 2025

Latest episode

10 Oct 2026

Latest episodes

97 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   10 Oct 2026

   Why You're Not Ready for a Relationship (And How to Fix It)

   Build healthy relationships by focusing on your own personal growth instead of searching for a perfect partner. Learn to improve yourself first.Many people spend years looking for the right person, only to realize that the most effective way to improve their dating life is to work on their own development. This video explains why your personal growth is the foundation of any long-term connection. If you are tired of repeating the same patterns, understanding how self improvement shifts your perspective is essential.We also discuss the importance of accepting your partner for who they are rather than trying to mold them. By focusing on becoming your best self, you create space for a genuine relationship advice-backed dynamic to flourish. Adopting this dating mindset allows you to step back, stop controlling outcomes, and let your partner grow alongside you.Subscribe for weekly relationship advice breakdowns, and comment below if you want more tips on shifting your mindset for better connections.Linktree - https://linktr.ee/YouControlYou0:00 Becoming Before You Belong0:35 Why Modern Relationships Are Failing3:30 The Masculine and Feminine Dynamic8:19 Redefining Masculinity and Leadership10:14 The True Strength of Femininity23:47 The Umbrella Analogy Explained30:02 Sacrifice and Selfless Love

2. 

   9 Sept 2026

   Should You Still Fight? The Brutal Reality of Combat Sports

   An MMA comeback at 40 is more than a physical decision—it forces you to confront grief, responsibility, ego, and the legacy you want to leave behind.In this episode of the You Control You Podcast, ShaH Evans sits down with veteran professional MMA fighter, coach, and Ronin Muay Thai owner Charlie “Hollywood” Brown.Charlie opens up about the grandfather who introduced him to boxing, why losing him changed Charlie’s relationship with fighting, and whether he has one more fight left in him. He also explains how a dare led him from wrestling into Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu and MMA—and why martial arts became something he could never walk away from.This conversation goes far beyond fighting. ShaH and Charlie discuss:• Making an MMA comeback at 40• Why ego prevents martial artists from learning• Building martial artists instead of chasing wins• Fight camps, shark tanks, pain, and mental toughness• Separating feelings from responsibilities• The difference between being a fighter and being a coach• Marriage, faith, maturity, and carrying the crown• Building a martial arts gym and mentoring young people• Black leadership in Wisconsin martial arts• Creating a legacy that continues through your studentsShould Charlie take one more fight—or keep building champions from the corner? Drop your answer in the comments.Learn more about Charlie and Ronin Muay Thai:https://www.roninmuaythai.com/Follow Charlie on Instagram and TikTok:@Hollywood7114Subscribe for more honest conversations about discipline, purpose, relationships, accountability, and taking control of your life.0:00 Ego and the Martial Artist Mindset2:14 Welcome to the You Control You Podcast3:03 Meet Charlie “Hollywood” Brown4:54 How His Grandfather Started His Fighting Journey7:46 A Dare Led to Wrestling, BJJ and MMA12:45 Falling in Love With Muay Thai15:40 Grief, His Grandfather and One More Fight21:21 The Physical Cost of Fighting at 4024:46 Coaching the Next Generation29:17 Shark Tanks and Preparing Fighters to Suffer31:49 Pain Is Temporary—Keep Going34:26 Mental Toughness: Feelings vs. Responsibilities36:16 Becoming a Championship Coach42:33 The Lost Respect Between Fighters and Coaches46:14 Building Martial Artists, Not Just Fighters49:40 Coaching Family and Communicating With Your Wife1:02:45 Why Charlie Opened Ronin Muay Thai1:11:45 Building a Legacy Beyond Fighting1:13:23 Being a Black Gym Owner in Wisconsin1:16:15 Mentoring Young People Through Martial Arts1:19:05 Marriage, Faith and Taking Control of Your Life1:25:59 Where to Find Charlie Brown1:27:41 Final Thoughts and Outro#MMAPodcast #MuayThai #MartialArtsLinktree - https://linktr.ee/YouControlYou

3. 

   8 Sept 2026

   Four Months of Sacrifice Doesn't Guarantee a Championship | TBA Classic

   12 fighters. 14 fights. 4 belts. After four months of fight camp, Wolf Pack Combat Academy stepped into the 2026 TBA Muay Thai Classic. But this episode is about much more than championships, wins, and losses.I talk about leading without having all the answers, changing game plans during fights, questioning myself after a brutal run of losses, and pulling myself back together because more fighters still needed me. I also share the story of a 10-year-old fighter who lost his fight but showed more heart than most adults, and a 12-year-old champion who discovered that everything he needed was already inside him.Being a fighter can be selfish. Being a coach requires you to become selfless. Four months of sacrifice does not guarantee a championship. It only gives you an opportunity to knock on the door. The real victory is the confidence, discipline, faith, and identity you build while chasing it. Everything is within. You control you.If this episode speaks to you, like, subscribe, and tell me in the comments: What has losing taught you that winning never could?Chapters:0:00 A 10-Year-Old’s Incredible Heart1:36 Starting With Gratitude2:22 12 Fighters, 14 Fights, 4 Belts4:11 Four Months of Fight Camp7:27 Leading Without All the Answers10:15 Fighting Is Selfish, Coaching Is Selfless10:54 The 10-Year-Old Who Wouldn’t Quit20:50 Training Gives You an Opportunity23:20 Stories From the Fighters31:20 Doubting Myself After the Losses36:00 Growth Bigger Than Championships37:55 Everything You Need Is Inside You41:19 Show Up and Do the Work42:35 You Control YouLinktree - https://linktr.ee/YouControlYou

Who has been a guest on You Control You

Names identified in recent episode analyses. Showing up to five guests.

• PK Cherry
• 1neofmani
• Craig Hodges
• Jacob "Stitch" Duran
• Mark "ShaH" Evans

Reach and audience

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YouTube views

306,140

Score snapshot 15 Sept 2025

Spotify

5.0 / 5

2 ratings

Podcast Authority Score: 67 / 100

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Quality

88

Social presence

0

YouTube

82

Engagement

32