You Have the Power - The Road to Recovery from Trauma and Narcissistic Abuse

About You Have the Power - The Road to Recovery from Trauma and Narcissistic Abuse

What if the life you were taught to want isn't the life you actually want? For most of our lives, women are handed a script: Find the right man. Build a life together. Get married. And if you're single? Keep looking. But what happens when you stop looking? Hosted by Darla Ridilla, You Have the Power is an unapologetic exploration of permanent singlehood, women's voices, freedom, connection, and what becomes possible when a woman stops building her life around whether a man shows up. After three marriages, an abusive relationship, years of healing, and trying to date differently, Darla finally asked the question that blew the whole damn thing open: Why am I dating at all? Her answer was to choose permanent singlehood - on purpose. This podcast explores what comes after that choice: the freedom, the grief, the conditioning, the friendships, the solitude, the creativity, the adventure, and the real connection that becomes possible when partnership is no longer the destination. This isn't about convincing women to stop dating or get divorced. It's about questioning the hell out of the rules we were handed. Who told you marriage was the goal? Who told you being single meant something was missing? Who told you a woman needed romantic partnership to have intimacy, connection, security, or a full life? And most importantly: What do YOU actually want? Because being single isn't a waiting room. Your life is happening now. And it already belongs to you.

Publisher

Darla Ridilla

Category

education · health & fitness · society & culture

Language

en

Explicit

Yes

First episode

8 Aug 2024

Latest episode

12 Oct 2026

Latest episodes

113 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   12 Oct 2026

   113: Why Women Don't Just Leave - The Hidden Reality of Domestic Violence

   “My bruises were on the inside, and no one could see them.” October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, and this is a conversation we need to have. I spent ten years in an abusive marriage. And here's something that may surprise you: I didn't even realize I had been in an abusive relationship until a year after I left. Domestic violence isn't always physical. Sometimes it's emotional manipulation, gaslighting, financial abuse, isolation, stalking, and the slow destruction of a woman's confi...

2. 

   28 Sept 2026

   112: The Fork in the Road That Changed My Life

   You hear me say I never want to date or get married again. What you haven't heard is everything it took for me to say those words. And I don't think I fully understood it myself until recently. How does a woman spend most of her life wanting to find the right man, only to reach a point where she no longer wants one at all? What has to happen for her to walk away from something she once believed was essential to her happiness? Fourteen years ago, I made a decision that would change the directi...

3. 

   14 Sept 2026

   111: Red Pill Men Are Giving Women Another Reason to Stay Single

   Red pill men have a lot to say about what women should want, how women should behave, and what will happen to us if we refuse to play along. But there's something they don't seem to understand. The harder you try to control a woman, the less she wants anything to do with you. And when women are already questioning whether relationships with men add anything to their lives, telling us to submit, get in line, lower our standards, or prepare to "die alone" isn't exactly making a compelling case ...

Who has been a guest on You Have the Power - The Road to Recovery from Trauma and Narcissistic Abuse

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• Ada Lloyd
• Darla Ridilla
• Rachel Posner
• Corissa Stepp

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YouTube views

2,896

Score snapshot 15 Sept 2025

Apple Podcasts (US)

4.4 / 5

14 ratings

Spotify

5.0 / 5

2 ratings

Podcast Authority Score: 82 / 100

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98

Social presence

91

YouTube

68

Engagement

51

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