You Reclaimed is a show about limerence, attachment, and the patterns that quietly run our lives — and how we heal them. In each episode, I explore why certain people affect us so deeply, what we're really reaching for through love and longing, and how to come back to ourselves with more clarity, self-respect, and steadiness. It starts with obsessive love and heartbreak, but it runs underneath all of it: the people-pleasing, the overthinking, the going quiet when you should speak, the fear of being left. If any of that is familiar, you're in the right place.
Why Emotionally Unavailable People Never Just Tell You
Months of warmth, affection, maybe even love. Then you ask one real question about where this is going, and the person goes vague on you. And you're left wondering why they didn't just say it at the start, so you could have decided for yourself what to do with it.
This episode is about why that conversation almost never happens, and why the reason is not what we assume. We go through the different people who end up under the word "unavailable" — the ones who learned early that closeness isn't safe, the ones in a stretch of life with no room for depth, and the ones who simply aren't interested in that kind of depth with you — and why each of them has their own reason for staying quiet. Then we look at the part underneath all three: what your ordinary questions ("what are we doing here," "can we plan something next month," "why did you go quiet for four days") actually sound like from their side, why so many of them just slip back into the background instead of ending it, the small things they do try to tell us and why we tend not to hear them, and when something with an unavailable person can actually work. The answer you've been waiting for mostly isn't being withheld, and understanding why changes what you do with the silence.
Resources
Website + free tools: https://www.youreclaimedproject.com
Q&A inbox: https://youreclaimedproject.com/ask/
Is It Limerence? Quiz: https://youreclaimedproject.com/is-it-limerence-quiz/
Attachment Style Quiz: https://youreclaimedproject.com/attachment-style-quiz/
The Calm-Down Toolkit: https://youreclaimedproject.com/calm-down-toolkit/
Disclaimer: I'm not a therapist or medical professional. This podcast is for educational purposes only and is based on personal experience and research. It isn't a substitute for therapy, medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you're in crisis or need immediate support, contact local emergency services or a licensed provider in your area.
12 Oct 2026
Limerence Is an Addiction — But Not the Kind You Can Walk Away From
You did everything the advice said. Blocked them, deleted the photos, stopped looking. And the limerence is still here, as loud as ever, weeks after they left your life.
This episode is about what your brain is actually doing when you try to quit. Why it behaves like withdrawal rather than grief. Why "just go no contact" is such incomplete advice — because in limerence, the person was often barely there to begin with, and the thing you got hooked on was never really them. We look at what your reward system learned to do, why it's so much harder to put down than an ordinary breakup, what the fantasy was doing for you besides feeling good, and why quitting means more than willpower.
Resources
Website + free tools: https://www.youreclaimedproject.com
Q&A inbox: https://youreclaimedproject.com/ask/
Is It Limerence? Quiz: https://youreclaimedproject.com/is-it-limerence-quiz/
Attachment Style Quiz: https://youreclaimedproject.com/attachment-style-quiz/
The Calm-Down Toolkit: https://youreclaimedproject.com/calm-down-toolkit/
Disclaimer: I'm not a therapist or medical professional. This podcast is for educational purposes only and is based on personal experience and research. It isn't a substitute for therapy, medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you're in crisis or need immediate support, contact local emergency services or a licensed provider in your area.
5 Oct 2026
Fearful Avoidant Limerence — Why Having Them Feels Worse Than Wanting Them
You finally got them. The person you spent months half-obsessed with turned around and made it clear they want you — and within a few weeks, you were the one going cold. Picking at small things. Looking for an exit you could've sworn you didn't want. And now you're wondering what's wrong with you, because you wanted this more than anything, and having it feels worse than wanting it did.
This is part two on fearful avoidance and limerence. Last time we looked at the two halves of us that can never seem to rest at the same time — and how limerence works for us precisely because the other person's uncertainty keeps those halves in their separate corners. This episode is about what happens when the uncertainty goes away. Why the testing starts: the pulling back to see if they notice, the going cold to see if they stay, the picking at their life and their friends. Why "just stop chasing unavailable people" almost never works for us, because it only speaks to one half. And why the person we're limerent about can only ever offer the amount of closeness we can already handle — which is exactly why it feels so right, and exactly why it so rarely goes anywhere.
If you've ever been chosen and felt the wanting switch off, this one's for you. It's not a wanting problem. It's a limit — and limits can move.
🌐 Website + free resources
https://www.youreclaimedproject.com
🔗 Q&A inbox — submit a question for a future episode
https://youreclaimedproject.com/ask/
📗 Free resources
▸ Is It Limerence? Quiz — https://youreclaimedproject.com/is-it-limerence-quiz/
▸ Attachment Style Quiz — https://youreclaimedproject.com/attachment-style-quiz/
▸ The Calm-Down Toolkit — https://youreclaimedproject.com/calm-down-toolkit/
▶️ Watch on YouTube
Part 1 — Fearful Avoidant Limerence: Your Two Halves Will Never Let You Rest
https://youtu.be/9wi9toebVWs
Around here we talk about limerence, attachment, relationships, and how real people like us build healthier love while still healing.
Disclaimer: I'm not a therapist or medical professional. The information on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is based on personal experience and research. It isn't a substitute for therapy, medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you're considering therapeutic techniques discussed here, I recommend exploring them with a licensed mental health professional. If you're in crisis or need immediate support, contact local emergency services or a licensed provider in your area.
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