Let’s skip the small talk and destigmatize mental health through intimate conversations with everyday people about their mental health journeys and how they stay well in a world that feels like it’s falling apart.
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Narcissism, Gaslighting, and High-Control Groups
Alisa Stamps is a therapist who helps adult children of narcissists, cult abuse and religious trauma survivors, and those struggling with disordered eating and body image overcome their emotional and relational trauma so that they can discover their true authentic selves. She is the author of The Gaslighting Recovery Journal--Prompts and Practices for Healing from Emotional Abuse and host of the podcast, You're Not the Crazy One!. You can find all the information about Alisa’s book and podcast and information about how to work with her on her website, https://www.alisastamps.com/ (https://www.alisastamps.com/). You can also follow along on Instagram at @alisastamps.therapist. (https://www.instagram.com/alisastamps.therapist/)
Summary
In this conversation, Alisa Stamps discusses her personal background and upbringing in a conservative Jewish synagogue. Alisa also explores her fascination with high control groups and cults, particularly in relation to narcissistic family systems. She explains the concept of gaslighting and its use in manipulation and control. Alisa highlights the impact of moral and religious gaslighting and the “never enough” mentality. She discusses the roots of narcissistic behavior and the projection of self-hatred onto others. Finally, Alisa shares her journey from being a music teacher to becoming a therapist and the inspiration behind her podcast, You're Not the Crazy One!.
Your Friend, The Therapist is hosted and produced by Kari Fillian. You can follow the show on Instagram at @yourfriendthetherapistpod (https://www.instagram.com/yourfriendthetherapistpod/). Subscribe to my Substack for more musings: https://yourfriendthetherapist.substack.com/ (https://www.alisastamps.com/)
You can listen to the show on Substack (https://yourfriendthetherapist.substack.com/), Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/0kXByhhCd0cv7efP0uu3Z3?si=9f4945251ff44edb) & Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-friend-the-therapist/id1703304602).
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11 Apr 2024
The Way You Feel Is More Important Than The Way You Look
The Way You Feel Is More Important Than The Way You Look
Libby is an artist who was in the Presbyterian Church in America until she was 38. Libby describes herself as a nature-loving Atheopaganist, neuro-spicy queer dryad with misophonia. Libby is a parent to three kids and lover of French fries. You can follow Libby on Instagram at @libby_newell. (https://www.instagram.com/libby_newell/)
In this conversation, Kari interviews artist Libby Newell about her relationship to high control religion and the role of art in her deconstruction journey. They discuss the impact of Calvinism, the shift in Libby's relationship to the land, and the importance of body acceptance and reclamation. They also explore how art has been a tool for processing and communication, as well as a source of joy and healing. The conversation highlights the messages and challenges faced in high control religion, the discovery of queerness and neurodivergence, and the importance of validating personal experiences.
Your Friend, The Therapist is hosted and produced by Kari Fillian. You can follow the show on Instagram at @yourfriendthetherapistpod (https://www.instagram.com/yourfriendthetherapistpod/). Subscribe to my Substack for more musings: https://yourfriendthetherapist.substack.com/ (https://www.instagram.com/yourfriendthetherapistpod/)
You can listen to the show on Substack (https://yourfriendthetherapist.substack.com/), Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/0kXByhhCd0cv7efP0uu3Z3?si=9f4945251ff44edb) & Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-friend-the-therapist/id1703304602).
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4 Apr 2024
LGBTQIA+ Affirming Therapy
Moriah Conant (she/they) is a psychologist-in-training who specializes in working with the LGBTQIA+ community, especially in the areas of trauma, identity development, and identity integration. She utilizes a relational psychodynamic approach to therapy, along with feminist psychology and LGBTQIA+ affirming psychology. They are particularly passionate about helping people heal from religious trauma. You can follow Moriah on Instagram at @mconantpsychology. (https://www.instagram.com/mconantpsychology/)
In this conversation, Moriah and Kari discuss their personal experiences with high control religion and Moriah’s research on identity development for gender and sexual orientation. They highlight the lack of training for mental health providers in working with queer populations and the unintentional harm caused by ignorance. Moriah emphasizes the importance of integrating spirituality into therapy and the challenges faced specifically by bisexual individuals. They also discuss the relational psychodynamic approach and the significance of feminist psychology and a systems perspective. Moriah shares the importance of self-care and finding queer joy in their work.
Your Friend, The Therapist is hosted and produced by Kari Fillian. You can follow the show on Instagram at @yourfriendthetherapistpod (https://www.instagram.com/yourfriendthetherapistpod/). Subscribe to my Substack for more musings: https://yourfriendthetherapist.substack.com/ (https://www.instagram.com/mconantpsychology/)
You can listen to the show on Substack (https://yourfriendthetherapist.substack.com/), Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/0kXByhhCd0cv7efP0uu3Z3?si=9f4945251ff44edb) & Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-friend-the-therapist/id1703304602).
This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit yourfriendthetherapist.substack.com (https://yourfriendthetherapist.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1)
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