Your Own Medicine Podcast

About Your Own Medicine Podcast

Creating spaces for recovering people pleasers to find support through somatics and nervous system regulation. Hosted by Kali Somatics

Publisher

Kali Somatics

Category

health & fitness

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

14 Sept 2021

Latest episode

6 Oct 2026

Latest episodes

99 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   6 Oct 2026

   96 | Why we try to be perfect in relationships: Analyzing Sex and the City with somatic psychology (S1:E11)

   Welcome back to Somatics on Screen, a *Your Own Medicine Podcast* series where I analyze TV and film through a somatic and psychological lens.This week we’re talking about **Sex and the City, Season 1, Episode 11: “The Drought”**—an episode that, unfortunately for me, felt a little like watching someone turn parts of my own life into a 26-minute HBO comedy.Carrie accidentally farts in front of Big and proceeds to have what can only be described as a full nervous system event about being perceived as an actual human woman.And honestly? This episode is such a good depiction of fawning in romantic relationships.Because fawning doesn’t always look like overtly agreeing with someone or doing everything they want. Sometimes it’s the enormous amount of internal effort that goes into trying to remain desirable. Monitoring yourself. Editing yourself. Hiding the embarrassing parts. Trying to figure out what version of you will keep someone interested.And the more you actually like someone, the higher the stakes can feel.We talk about the somatic experience of shame and insecurity, the tension created by trying to perform a more perfect version of yourself, and what happens when a tiny moment of perceived rejection gets turned into evidence that the relationship is slipping away.I also get more personal in this episode and talk about the parallels I saw in my own relationships—because Carrie’s spiral around Big hit a little too close to home.Ultimately, “The Drought” asks a much bigger question than whether farting in front of someone kills your sex life:What happens when intimacy requires us to become increasingly visible, but being fully seen is exactly what our nervous system is afraid of?Find me on Instagram & Tiktok:@kali.somatics📖 Tired of Being Good: A Nervous System Map for Reinhabiting Your Body After a Lifetime of Fawninghttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B0H53CHKJL?lv=shuf&bestFormat=true&social_share=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_apin_dp_TS5ZHVAY9B4F28BTWBPG&channelId=704&ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_apin_dp_TS5ZHVAY9B4F28BTWBPG&plpRedirect=mhFallback❤️🔥 **Sexual Fawning Course**My on-demand course exploring fawning, desire, embodied consent, arousal, sexual boundaries, and what it looks like to stay connected to yourself inside of intimacy.https://v2.stan.store/kalisomatics/p/sexual-fawning-courseSubscribe for more **Somatics on Screen** and *Your Own Medicine Podcast*

2. 

   1 Oct 2026

   95 | Analyzing girl group dynamics in Sex & the City (S1:E10)

   Welcome back to Somatics on Screen, a Your Own Medicine Podcast series where we analyze TV and film through a somatic and psychological lens.In this episode, we’re breaking down Sex and the City, Season 1, Episode 10: “The Baby Shower.”Carrie, Samantha, Miranda, and Charlotte head to a baby shower and suddenly everyone is taking inventory of their lives: the women with children are reminiscing about who they were before motherhood, while the single women are wondering whether marriage and babies are things they actually want—or things they’re eventually supposed to want.We get into the sunk cost of our decisions, the nervous system experience of insecurity, and what happens when someone else’s life makes us question our own.We also talk about female group dynamics and the ways women can fawn with one another—softening our opinions, bridging differences, or trying to make our choices more palatable when our lives, values, or desires don’t line up.And underneath all of it: How do you know when a desire is actually yours?How do we tell the difference between an organic desire emerging from the body and a life path we’ve absorbed because it has been modeled, rewarded, or expected of us?Connect with me on social media: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kali.somatics/?hl=enTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kali.somaticsGet my book - 📖 Tired of Being Good: A Nervous System Map for Reinhabiting Your Body After a Lifetime of Fawninghttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B0H53CHKJL?lv=shuf&bestFormat=true&social_share=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_apin_dp_TS5ZHVAY9B4F28BTWBPG&channelId=704&ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_apin_dp_TS5ZHVAY9B4F28BTWBPG&plpRedirect=mhFallback🖤 Tired of Being “Good” LabMy on-demand companion course for working with fawning, boundaries, anger, the inner villain, family dynamics, work, dating, and more.https://v2.stan.store/kalisomatics/p/tired-of-being-good-labSubscribe for more episodes of Somatics on Screen and Your Own Medicine Podcast.

3. 

   22 Sept 2026

   94 | Analyzing SEXUAL FAWNING in Sex and the City (S1:E7)

   In this episode of Somatics on Screen, we’re getting into Sex and the City Season 1, Episode 7: “The Monogamists.” This episode gives us A LOT to work with somatically. Carrie realizes she and Big may have very different ideas about what dating each other actually means. Miranda finds herself dating someone whose desire for closeness and time together exceeds her own capacity for it. And Charlotte is confronted with a sexual act she genuinely does not want to do — while also navigating the pressure, expectations, and relational consequences attached to saying no. So naturally, we’re talking about sexual fawning, attachment, relational capacity, desire, boundaries, and what happens when two people want very different amounts of closeness. With Charlotte, I unpack the difference between choosing something sexually because you genuinely want to and overriding your own disgust, hesitation, or lack of desire because you’re afraid of what saying no might cost you. And through Carrie and Miranda, we explore something I think gets flattened in dating conversations all the time: two people can like each other and still have very different capacities for intimacy, commitment, frequency of contact, or relational closeness. Those differences don’t automatically make one person avoidant and the other needy — but they do give us information. Welcome back to Somatics on Screen, where we use television as an excuse to talk about what bodies, attachment systems, and nervous systems are doing underneath the plot. 📚 READ TIRED OF BEING GOOD My book, Tired of Being Good: A Nervous System Map for Reclaiming Your Body After a Lifetime of Fawning, is a deeper exploration of fawning, boundaries, anger, desire, self-abandonment, and learning to hear yourself again. https://us.amazon.com/Tired-Being-Good-reinhabiting-lifetime-ebook/dp/B0H1K2MZ4V 🔥 SEXUAL FAWNING COURSE My on-demand course for understanding sexual fawning and building a more embodied relationship with consent, desire, sexual boundaries, pleasure, and your body’s yes/no/maybe. https://stan.store/kalisomatics/p/sexual-fawning-course (https://stan.store/kalisomatics/p/sexual-fawning-course)

Who has been a guest on Your Own Medicine Podcast

Names identified in recent episode analyses. Showing up to five guests.

• Ingrid Clayton
• Rachel Leviss
• Deb Dana
• David Bedrick

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Apple Podcasts (US)

4.5 / 5

19 ratings

Spotify

4.0 / 5

93 ratings

Podcast Authority Score: 40 / 100

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Quality

61

Social presence

0

YouTube

0

Engagement

50

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