About You're Too Picky | Dating, Relationships, Millennial Women
You’re Too Picky is the dating podcast for high-standard women who are done settling and over the bare minimum. Hosted by burnout coach and serially single millennial Ellyn Schinke, we’re talking dating apps, red flags, emotional labor, and the wild world of intentional dating. Come for the rants, stay for the solidarity. This isn’t a fixer podcast—it’s a f*ck it, let’s talk about it podcast.
Hey friends—real talk? I haven’t dropped a You’re Too Picky episode in over a month. Between summer slowdown and my own capacity hitting a wall, something had to give.
This little chaotic dating podcast has been such a fun ride... but I’ve realized I can’t keep running two separate shows. So we’re evolving.
Starting now, You’re Too Picky will live on as a bonus dating series inside my other show, Burnout-Proof. Same vibe, same voice, just one home that’s easier to maintain—and honestly? Makes way more sense for my life right now.
Don’t worry: the archives are staying up, and I’ll keep dropping new “Too Picky” episodes when I’ve got dating chaos worth ranting about. But for now? Follow me over on Burnout-Proof (https://www.coachellyn.com/burnout-podcast)and keep an eye out for episodes labeled You're Too Picky.
We’re still dating while ambitious. Still burnout-prone. Still hot messes. We’re just doing it smarter.
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🎧 Listen + subscribe to Burnout-Proof: https://www.coachellyn.com/burnout-podcast
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Stay picky, babes. I’ll see you over there. 💅
1 Aug 2025
013 - Teasing is Earned. It isn't a First Date Free-For-All
Ever had someone start teasing you on a first date—and it didn’t land?
Yeah, me too.
This week, I’m diving into the weird little world of early relationship ribbing. Because I don’t care how many dating podcasts say "banter is flirting"—if I just met you, and you're already poking fun at my tattoos or my career? We're not flirting. You're being disrespectful.
Follow me on IG @youretoopicky (https://www.instagram.com/youretoopicky) and share your own stories: Submit anonymously here (https://www.coachellyn.com/picky/submissions).
In this episode, I talk about:
The "8 Mile effect" and why we call ourselves out before others can
The difference between playful teasing and crossing a boundary
Why I actually think early ribbing is a red flag
And if being "too picky" means you don’t give strangers permission to make fun of you? Then yeah. I’ll own that.
25 Jul 2025
012 - Not Overwhelmed. Not Underwhelmed. Just WHELMED - My 10 Things I Hate About Date.
What do you do when a date isn’t bad… but isn’t great either? In this week’s episode of the You’re Too Picky podcast, I break down a date that was the definition of “meh.” No sparks, no drama—just two hours of pizza, coffee, and a guy who could only talk about food.
Follow me on IG @youretoopicky (https://www.instagram.com/youretoopicky) and share your own stories: Submit anonymously here (https://www.coachellyn.com/picky/submissions).
We're talking:
The fine line between giving someone a chance and wasting your time
Why “not bad” isn’t the same as worth seeing again
How to handle dates where the vibe is just… flat
Why you don’t owe anyone a second shot just because they paid for lunch
If you’ve ever felt guilty for not giving someone a second chance just because they were nice, this one’s for you.
🎧 Listen now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your fix.
18 Jul 2025
011 - The Weirdest Niche Dating Apps You Didn't Know Existed
In this episode of You're Too Picky, I'm taking you on a wild ride through the most bizarre and hyper-specific dating apps and groups I could find across North America. Think ghost dating, clown dating, conspiracy-theorist matchmaking, and apps based on your salad order. I'm serious.
We're talking:
The apps for those who are literally ride or die (hello, Ghost Singles)
What happens when your beard becomes your dating profile
Niche apps that are either genius or absolutely unhinged (maybe both?)
How identity, lifestyle, food, and even fetishes turn into full-on dating platforms
You’ll laugh, cringe, and probably question your entire online dating strategy by the end of this one. But also... it proves there really is someone out there for everyone.
Follow me on IG @youretoopicky (https://www.instagram.com/youretoopicky) and share your own stories: Submit anonymously here (https://www.coachellyn.com/picky/submissions).
11 Jul 2025
010 - Felon Love, Hung Like Eeyore, and Cruise Ship Love Bombing — One Listener's Wild Dating Files
Buckle up, because this week’s episode is basically a dating fever dream—and it all came from ONE listener’s DMs. (Girl, you know who you are 👀)
Ellyn dives into a buffet of dating shenanigans courtesy of one brave soul who submitted everything from questionable Facebook ads to cruise ship heartbreak. Segments today include:
🚩 Red Flag or Nah? — He ghosted her after the second date… then matched again a year later. Sir, do you not own a brain cell?
💀 Dating App Fails — When your opening line backfires spectacularly and you don’t even realize you’ve dated her before.
🤨 WTF Dating App Moment — “I’m like Eeyore. Clinically depressed…and hung like a donkey.” We have questions. And also, applause??
📞 Too Picky Hotline — The cruise ship love story that had her falling in a week… and crying the next. Love bombing? AI-generated texts? Erectile dysfunction? It’s all here.
PLUS: Ellyn shares her own Notion-based dating dashboard and a few hard-earned lessons about second chances and why reconnecting with old matches is usually a trap.
You’re not too picky—you just have standards. And if those standards include working penises and not being love bombed on a boat, you’re in the right place.
🎧 Listen in, laugh hard, and send your chaos to: https://www.youretoopicky.com/submissions (https://www.coachellyn.com/picky/submissions)
4 Jul 2025
009 - Stage 3 Clinger or Just Patriotic? The Saga of Fourth of July Guy
Host of "You're Too Picky" recounts a dating experience with an overly eager man, exploring the nuances of disinterest and the importance of respecting boundaries in modern relationships in this personal story.
27 Jun 2025
008 - My Mom is Setting Me Up. Rock Bottom?
Ellyn, host of You're Too Picky Podcast, discusses her mother's attempt to set her up on a blind date, questioning if this marks a dating low point, and shares dating app stories.
20 Jun 2025
007 - Single in Israel, Single in the States. (ft. Michal Kaye)
Host Ellyn interviews Michal Kaye about the similarities and differences in dating across generations, cultures, and belief systems, highlighting the importance of values and boundaries.
13 Jun 2025
006 - Pay-to-Play Love? Dating Apps, I’m Looking at You
The host discusses how dating apps have shifted to a pay-to-play model, making it harder to find genuine connections and draining users' resources.
6 Jun 2025
005 - That Weird Feeling? It’s Your Intuition, Babe.
Host Ellyn Walker explores the importance of trusting your intuition in dating, discussing scenarios where gut feelings signal incompatibility and offering guidance on discerning genuine connection from superficial attraction.
30 May 2025
004 - Dating From a Burned Out Place (It’s Not Just You)
Ellyn, from the Burnout Proof podcast, explores the exhaustion and emotional toll of modern dating, including hope fatigue and superficial connections, offering insights on protecting energy and trusting intuition in this interview.
23 May 2025
003 - Male Loneliness Epidemic, My Ass.
Host Ellyn Walker challenges the notion of a male loneliness epidemic, asserting that men's lack of effort and emotional labor contribute to their isolation, advocating for active engagement and genuine connection.
23 May 2025
002 - I'm 36...And Starting a Dating Podcast? Oh Boy.
Ellyn Arroyo shares her dating history, insecurities, and reasons for launching the "You're Too Picky" podcast, revealing personal struggles with body image, workaholism, and app burnout.
23 May 2025
001 - Are You Too Picky?
Host Ellyn, a dating coach, examines the myth of being "too picky" in dating, revealing it often signifies refusing to settle and exploring the line between clarity and control.
26 Apr 2025
Trailer | You’re Too Picky — The Dating Podcast for Women Who Know What They Want
Welcome to You’re Too Picky 🥂✨ — the dating podcast for women who are tired of shrinking themselves to find love.
Hosted by Ellyn Schinke, this show is where we laugh at the chaos of modern dating, roast bad dating app bios, debate "red flag or nah," and call BS on the idea that having standards is a flaw.
🎙️ New episodes drop every Friday — because dating apps are unhinged, but we’re not.
Come for the rants. Stay for the solidarity. 🩷
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