Ask The Betrayed

About Ask The Betrayed

The Ask The Betrayed podcast provides tangible hope to those in crisis and a safe place for Betrayed Partners to find healing and insight into the behaviors of the Unfaithful (who can also to learn how to help their Betrayed partners heal). We hope to fulfill a great need for betrayed partners to hear professionals who have personally experienced the deep traumatic pain of betrayal: Ask the Betrayed not only provides expert insight, it is hosted by two Betrayed Partners in long-term recovery from Betrayal Trauma, Sharon and Rae, who both specialize in helping Betrayed Partners, the Unfaithful and Couples recover from betrayal: - Sharon is a Licensed Therapist and Certified Professional Coach who is certified in betrayal trauma and, along with her husband, James Annear (@AskTheUnfaithful) - Rae is a Master Certified Life, Relationship and Divorce coach Ask the Betrayed airs every other week, alternating with it's companion channel, Ask the Unfaithful (@asktheunfaithful)

Publisher

Sharon & Rae

Category

education · society & culture

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

2 Jun 2025

Latest episode

17 Sept 2026

Latest episodes

35 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   17 Sept 2026

   WHO SHOULD YOU TELL ABOUT THE BETRAYAL AND WHO SHOULD YOU NOT TELL?

   Please Comment, Like and Subscribe - we would love to develop our community more and reach more people who need help! Thank you! After betrayal, the instinct to reach out for support can be overwhelming – and is necessary. You may desperately need someone who understands, someone who will listen, or simply someone who can remind you that you are not alone. But deciding who to tell about an affair or betrayal can be complicated: Tell everyone, and you may later wish some people didn't know. Tell no one, and you may find yourself carrying betrayal trauma in painful isolation. In this episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae talk about how to make thoughtful decisions about who to tell, when to tell, what to share, and why you're sharing it after discovering infidelity.   Sharon and Rae discuss: • How to decide who is emotionally safe to tell about infidelity • How you can safely share your experience of being betrayed • Why you don't owe everyone an explanation about what is happening in your life and how to set boundaries around that • The difference between someone who is supportive and someone who is simply curious • Why telling everyone—or telling no one—can both have consequences • How to find people who can support you without taking control of your decisions • Why a good support person needs to be able to do and what they should NOT do. • When a betrayal trauma professional may be an important part of your support system • How to approach friends, family members, faith communities, and spiritual leaders carefully • What to do when someone you've trusted can no longer support the choices you're making • What to do if you've already told someone you now wish you hadn't • How an unfaithful partner may feel about other people knowing - and why the betrayed partner still deserves safe support – and how to handle that without surrendering your right to share your pain. One of the strongest themes in this conversation is choice and autonomy. 💬 Please comment - We'd love to hear what you took away from this podcast.  If this episode encourages you, please Like, Subscribe, and Share to help others recovering from betrayal trauma find hope and practical tools for healing. 🔔 Please Subscribe (and Like) for More Join Sharon and Rae every two weeks for grounded, empathetic conversations about healing after betrayal, rebuilding your identity, strengthening your voice, and reclaiming your life. Please share this video with someone who needs encouragement in their healing journey. 📬 If you have questions you'd like us to answer in an episode, or would like to inquire about coaching with Rae or therapy help, including intensives, with Sharon and James, please reach out to us at: AskTheBetrayed@gmail.com 🎧 You can also find us on Apple, Spotify, and everywhere podcasts are found. 🔗 Need help healing? Find James & Sharon at the CORE Relationship Recovery website: www.HopeForUs.com (Email: Info@HopeForUs.com (mailto:Info@HopeForUs.com) ) or find Rae at www.HealingTalksBack.com (https://www.healingtalksback.com/) (Email: Rae@HealingTalksBack.com) Our Website: https://www.AskTheBetrayed.com Follow CORE Relationship Recovery (James & Sharon) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CORERelationshipRecovery

2. 

   2 Sept 2026

   BETRAYAL RECOVERY: COMING BACK TOGETHER AFTER THERAPEUTIC SEPARATION? WATCH THIS FIRST

   How do you come back together after a therapeutic separation—without slipping right back into the patterns that pulled you apart? A therapeutic separation can create much-needed space for healing, clarity, independence, and personal growth after betrayal. But eventually, couples who hope to reconcile face another difficult question: Are we actually ready to reconnect—and if we are, how do we do it safely? In this episode of Ask the Betrayed, Sharon and Rae explore what reconciliation after a therapeutic separation really looks like. Rather than rushing back into the relationship, they discuss why reconnection is often best approached gradually—through small interactions, careful observation, honest reflection, and an ongoing willingness to protect the growth each partner developed while apart.  They also explore an important shift in how couples measure progress: The goal isn't to never experience another rupture. The real question is whether the couple has learned how to repair differently when ruptures inevitably occur.   In this episode, you'll learn how to: • Recognize whether a therapeutic separation has accomplished what it was intended to accomplish. • Reintroduce communication and time together gradually instead of rushing back into the relationship. • Protect the independence, boundaries, and personal growth developed during separation. • Resist returning to old roles, defenses, and relationship patterns. • Allow the unfaithful partner to carry responsibilities the betrayed partner may previously have carried for the relationship. • Learn to simply be together again without making every interaction about betrayal and recovery. • Evaluate how you actually feel before, during, and after reconnecting. • Recognize the difference between change that occurs and change that sustains. • Look for shared meaning, curiosity, honesty, presence, and increasing stability. • Practice uncomfortable truth-telling rather than masking or people-pleasing. • Recognize genuine engagement with recovery. • Begin noticing what your partner is doing right without abandoning healthy awareness of danger.  • Ask perhaps the most important question of all: What is the purpose of coming back together?  Reconciliation after betrayal requires risk. There will be missteps. Old patterns will reappear. But those moments don't necessarily mean recovery is failing. Sometimes the clearest evidence of change isn't whether a rupture happens. It's what the two of you do next. If you're considering whether it's time to reconcile after therapeutic separation - or wondering whether you and your partner are truly ready to come back together - this episode offers practical guidance for rebuilding the bridge without losing yourself along the way. 💬 Please comment - We'd love to hear what you took away from this podcast.  If this episode encourages you, please Like, Subscribe, and Share to help others recovering from betrayal trauma find hope and practical tools for healing. 🔔 Please Subscribe (and Like) for More Join Sharon and Rae every two weeks for grounded, empathetic conversations about healing after betrayal, rebuilding your identity, strengthening your voice, and reclaiming your life. Please share this video with someone who needs encouragement in their healing journey. 📬 If you have questions you'd like us to answer in an episode, or would like to inquire about coaching with Rae or therapy help, including intensives, with Sharon and James, please reach out to us at: AskTheBetrayed@gmail.com 🎧 You can also find us on Apple, Spotify, and everywhere podcasts are found. 🔗 Need help healing? Find James & Sharon at the CORE Relationship Recovery website: www.HopeForUs.com (Email: Info@HopeForUs.com ) or find Rae at www.HealingTalksBack.com (Email: Rae@HealingTalksBack.com) Our Website: https://www.AskTheBetrayed.com Follow CORE Relationship Recovery (James & Sharon) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CORERelationshipRecovery

3. 

   20 Aug 2026

   THERAPEUTIC SEPARATION: CAN BEING APART BRING YOU BACK TOGETHER AFTER BETRAYAL?

   Could a therapeutic separation actually save your relationship after infidelity? Many couples fear that a separation means the marriage is over. But what if a carefully planned, intentional, and therapeutic separation could actually create the space needed for healing, clarity, and lasting recovery? In this episode of Ask the Betrayed, Sharon and Rae explore one of the most misunderstood interventions in betrayal recovery: the therapeutic separation. You'll learn what a therapeutic separation is - and what it is not - when it may be appropriate, how to know if the timing is right, and the essential elements that make it therapeutic instead of simply becoming time apart or a prelude to divorce. Whether you're considering a therapeutic separation or simply want to understand this important recovery tool, this episode offers practical guidance, hope, and a thoughtful roadmap. In This Episode You'll Learn: • What a therapeutic separation actually is - and what it is not. • When a therapeutic separation can help save a relationship. • Why timing matters. • The difference between crisis intervention and therapeutic separation. • How to create clear goals, measurable outcomes, and a mission statement. • Why therapeutic separation is a break in unhealthy patterns—not a break from recovery. • How to establish communication boundaries, financial agreements, and living arrangements. • Why no-contact periods can create unexpected peace and clarity. • Common mistakes couples make during separation. • How to know when it's time to end—or extend—a therapeutic separation.  One of the most powerful reminders from this conversation is this: A therapeutic separation isn't a step toward divorce. It's a courageous attempt to preserve a marriage when old patterns are preventing healing. If you're navigating betrayal trauma, recovery doesn't always mean staying together every day under the same roof. Sometimes creating intentional space allows both partners to heal in ways that aren't possible while unhealthy patterns continue. While recovery isn't about avoiding discomfort; it IS about creating the conditions where genuine healing can occur. 💬 Please comment - We'd love to hear what you took away from this podcast.  If this episode encourages you, please Like, Subscribe, and Share to help others recovering from betrayal trauma find hope and practical tools for healing. 🔔 Please Subscribe (and Like) for More Join Sharon and Rae every two weeks for grounded, empathetic conversations about healing after betrayal, rebuilding your identity, strengthening your voice, and reclaiming your life. Please share this video with someone who needs encouragement in their healing journey. 📬 If you have questions you'd like us to answer in an episode, or would like to inquire about coaching with Rae or therapy help, including intensives, with Sharon and James, please reach out to us at: AskTheBetrayed@gmail.com 🎧 You can also find us on Apple, Spotify, and everywhere podcasts are found. 🔗 Need help healing? Find James & Sharon at the CORE Relationship Recovery website: www.HopeForUs.com (Email: Info@HopeForUs.com ) or find Rae at www.HealingTalksBack.com (Email: Rae@HealingTalksBack.com) Our Website: https://www.AskTheBetrayed.com Follow CORE Relationship Recovery (James & Sharon) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CORERelationshipRecovery

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