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DAM Parenting is a weekly English-language podcast for international parents in the Netherlands: pregnancy and birth in the Dutch system, kraamzorg, postpartum, matrescence, relationships after kids, bilingual families, ADHD assessments, Dutch schools, and finding your people far from home.
Hosted by Eva, an Irish parent in Amsterdam. Honest, warm, non-judgemental. 200+ episodes with midwives, psychologists and parents telling the truth about how it actually went.
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ADHD and Sex: Why 'Not Tonight' Feels Like Rejection
Does ADHD affect your sex life? If you or your partner has ADHD, "not tonight" can land like a door slamming, and nobody has told either of you why.
It's ADHD Awareness Month, and DAM ex goes there. Sex and intimacy counsellor Debby Poort explains why the intense early spark shifts, what rejection sensitivity does in the bedroom, and why so many couples end up feeling more like parent and child than partners. Plus the medication conversation almost nobody has with their doctor.
For the partner with ADHD and the one who loves them. Neither of you is the problem.
Guest: Debby Poort, sex and intimacy counsellor at Yellow Wood. (yellowwood.nl)
Her free welcome course: sexandintimacycounseling.nl (https://www.sexandintimacycounseling.nl/).
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1 Oct 2026
ADHD Awareness Month: (Recorded Nine Hours Before It Airing)
Kicking off ADHD Awareness Month with the least polished episode I've ever made. Recorded nine hours before it went out, at my kitchen table, in one take. The deadline is the only thing that has ever made me do anything.
I was diagnosed in my forties — the same month this podcast launched. Three medications in three months, none of which worked, and then I was told I'd maxed out my dose. And what I felt wasn't "the system failed me." It was "I've failed. Again."
In this one:
– What a late ADHD diagnosis actually feels like as a parent
– Why ADHD medication not working can feel like a personal failure
– New University of Warwick research linking ADHD to gut problems, IBS and constipation
– Why calling it a deficit of attention was always a con — it's regulation, not concentration
– Why neurodivergent mothers burn out more than everyone else
– And why "just rest" is the most useless advice ever given to a working parent
All of October is ADHD on DAM Parenting — for you, your partner, your kids. Debby on sex and intimacy when your brain won't settle. Adina on the grief nobody warns you about after a late diagnosis. Kate on raising neurodivergent children here. Mimi on languages. And Liam and me on a Saturday, going through everything we've tried that didn't work.
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🎧 Last month's episode on regulation with Adina Petre (https://pod.link/1714151581/episode/MjY0NmI4NzctNzgxYS00MmU3LTg5ZDUtNmYyZmY4NzdmNDJi)
30 Sept 2026
My Child Understands My Language but Only Answers in Dutch
Your child understands every word of your home language, and answers you in Dutch. Every time. If it started when school or daycare went back, you're not imagining it.
Why does my bilingual child only answer in Dutch? Mimi (https://www.instagram.com/growingup_multilingual)from Growing Up Multilingual (https://www.growingupmultilingual.com/)explains why the school language takes over so fast, whether you should insist on a reply in your language, and why she'd retire one very popular piece of bilingual parenting advice.
We also get into the child who seems embarrassed by the home language, one easy thing to try this week, and what to do if you feel you've already lost ground.
For international parents raising bilingual and multilingual children in the Netherlands, where Dutch at school can quickly become Dutch at home too.
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Dr Elke De Witte
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