Welcome to Geordie Lass & Doc Sass, the relationship podcast hosted by relationship coaches Sara Liddle and Anna Stratis.
Together, we explore the real, honest experiences that shape our relationships, from emotional disconnection and communication struggles to intimacy, trust, and the quiet questions many people carry but rarely say out loud.
Each episode brings thoughtful conversation, practical insight, and a deeper understanding of what it means to build, maintain, and sometimes repair a relationship over time.
Whether things feel strong, uncertain, or somewhere in between, this podcast offers space to reflect and see your relationship more clearly.
If any of these conversations feels familiar, you can begin with a private Relationship Reset Review. This is a gentle, personal reflection designed to help you understand what’s been happening and what might need attention next.
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Who gets the best of you?
Your colleagues? Your friends? Your children? Everyone else in your life?
And then, by the time you get home, is there anything left for your partner?
In this episode of Geordie Lass & Doc Sass, we explore what happens when the people we love most end up getting the tired, snappy or switched-off version of us while everyone else gets our energy, patience and charm.
THE DESK OF LOVE
With wedding season in full swing, we start with a question about wedding etiquette.
If children are invited to a wedding, should the couple provide a separate children's menu? Or is it down to parents to make sure their child has something they'll eat?
As ever, it comes back to one thing: communication. A quick conversation beforehand can prevent a lot of assumptions and resentment later.
HOT TOPIC: WHO GETS THE BEST VERSION OF YOU?
We all have a limited amount of energy on any given day.
Sometimes we're at 100%. Sometimes we're barely functioning at 20%.
But how often do we spend everything we've got at work, with friends, helping family or running around after everyone else, then arrive home with nothing left?
We talk about:
• Why comfort can sometimes turn into complacency
• The difference between feeling safe with your partner and simply stopping making an effort
• Why our partners shouldn't always get the leftovers
• Communicating when you're tired, hormonal or simply not yourself
• The importance of rest and recharging
• Why small gestures can create more connection than we realise
• Letting go of the idea that everything in a relationship has to be perfectly 50/50
• Noticing the ways your partner shows love, even when it isn't the way you would
Sometimes love looks like spontaneous flowers.
Sometimes it looks like filling the car with petrol.
The important thing is that we're still choosing to show up for one another.
LISTENER QUESTION
“My husband is a wonderful man. He's loyal, kind and works hard for our family. But he never asks me how I am and doesn't seem to notice when I'm struggling. He says I just need to ask for what I need. I don't want to have to ask every time. Am I expecting too much?”
We explore the difference between expecting our partners to read our minds and wanting to feel emotionally noticed.
Can emotional attentiveness actually be learned?
We think it can, but perhaps not always in the spontaneous way we imagine.
Sometimes creating a stronger relationship means becoming clearer about what we need, accepting who our partner actually is and recognising the ways they may already be showing love that we've stopped noticing.
CONNECT WITH US
Sara Liddle – Geordie Lass
sara.liddle@hotmail.co.uk (mailto:sara.liddle@hotmail.co.uk)
www.inflori.co.uk (http://www.inflori.co.uk)
Relationship Reset: www.inflori.co.uk/reset (http://www.inflori.co.uk/reset)
Anna Stratis – Doc Sass
coachdocanna@gmail.com (mailto:coachdocanna@gmail.com)
www.coachdocanna.com (http://www.coachdocanna.com)
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11 Aug 2026
225. Why wait till your relationship is in crisis?
Why do we so often wait until our relationship is in crisis before we do something about it?
In this episode of Geordie Lass & Doc Sass, we explore the slow, often almost invisible slide from feeling connected to simply going through the motions.
Sometimes there’s a big event that knocks a relationship sideways. But often it’s much quieter. We stop making time for each other. Appreciation disappears. Conversations become functional. We tell ourselves it’s just a busy month, work is stressful or things will get better when life calms down. Until one day we wonder: how did we get here?
❤️ THE DESK OF LOVE
We start with research into what happens when women earn more than their male partners, and why the real issue may be less about who brings home the bigger salary and more about who is still carrying the mental load.
When one person is managing the appointments, childcare, holidays, meals, laundry and household admin, resentment can quietly build.
And yes, we somehow end up discussing that age-old relationship battleground: the dishwasher.
🔥 HOT TOPIC: WHY DO WE WAIT UNTIL CRISIS?
Why are relationship problems sometimes so much easier to see with hindsight?
We talk about how easy it is to explain away the warning signs and explore:
• The difference between compromise and toleration
• How relationships slip into transactional mode
• Why familiarity can keep us stuck
• Noticing disconnection before it becomes a crisis
• Using anger as a force for positive change
• Why repair needs to continue after the argument
• The small, everyday behaviours that keep us connected
Relationships aren't built only through holidays, anniversaries and grand gestures. They're shaped by what happens between us every day: appreciation, conversation, affection and choosing to make space for each other.
💌 LISTENER QUESTION
Our listener discovers that her husband pretended to go to work but instead took the day off to go on a nine-mile hike and spend the day swimming with his ex-girlfriend.
He insists nothing happened and it was completely platonic.
But he lied about it. And this isn't the first time honesty has been an issue.
So where does she go from here?
We discuss why the secrecy matters, how repeated lying damages trust and why confronting something at the height of your anger isn't always the best way to get the conversation you need.
We also explore non-negotiables, boundaries and the bigger question:
Is the relationship you want actually possible with the person you're with?
Not every struggling relationship needs to end. We've seen incredible turnarounds when both people genuinely commit to change. But sometimes awareness means being willing to see what's actually happening rather than what we hope might happen.
❤️ CONNECT WITH US
Sara Liddle – Geordie Lass
sara.liddle@hotmail.co.uk (mailto:sara.liddle@hotmail.co.uk)
www.inflori.co.uk (http://www.inflori.co.uk)
Relationship Reset: www.inflori.co.uk/reset (http://www.inflori.co.uk/reset)
Anna Stratis – Doc Sass
coachdocanna@gmail.com (mailto:coachdocanna@gmail.com)
www.coachdocanna.com (http://www.coachdocanna.com)
Have a relationship dilemma you'd like us to discuss? Get in touch. Your question can be completely anonymous.
Follow Geordie Lass & Doc Sass wherever you listen to your podcasts.
28 Jul 2026
224. Is alcohol becoming the third person in your relationship?
Is Alcohol Becoming the Third Person in Your Relationship?
What happens when a glass of wine after work slowly becomes something much bigger? And how do you know when alcohol is no longer just part of your social life, but has become something that's standing between you and your partner?
In this episode, Sara and Anna explore the impact alcohol can have on relationships. From the subtle signs that drinking is changing the dynamic between you, to the loneliness felt by the partner who doesn't drink, this is a compassionate conversation about one of the most difficult topics couples can face.
The Love Desk also introduces the idea of a "sunset clause" in relationships. Could setting a date to fully commit or move on help people avoid years of uncertainty?
Finally, the listener question asks:
"Since my partner and I moved in together, they've stopped seeing friends and pursuing hobbies. Now they rely on me for all of their social interaction. How do I encourage them to build an independent life outside of our relationship?"
As always, Sara and Anna share practical advice, honest reflections and plenty of warmth along the way.
In this episode:
• What the "sunset clause" is and whether it could strengthen relationships.
• Why staying in an unhappy relationship often feels easier than leaving.
• When alcohol stops being something you share and starts becoming the third person in your relationship.
• The warning signs that alcohol is affecting your connection.
• Why conversations about drinking are often so difficult to have.
• The difference between compassion and enabling.
• Why you cannot change someone who isn't ready to change.
• How to start difficult conversations with care rather than criticism.
• Why maintaining friendships and hobbies matters after moving in together.
• The difference between dependence and healthy interdependence.
• How supporting your partner's independence can actually strengthen your relationship.
Key takeaway
Healthy relationships aren't built on dependence. They're built on two people choosing each other while still allowing one another to grow as individuals. Whether you're navigating difficult conversations about alcohol, commitment or independence, approaching each other with curiosity, compassion and honesty creates the strongest foundation for lasting connection.
We'd love to hear from you
Have a relationship question you'd like us to answer on the podcast?
Email us at info@geordielass.com (mailto:hello@geordielassanddocsass.com)
Or connect with us:
Sara (Geordie Lass)
Website: https://inflori.co.uk (https://inflori.co.uk)
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/inflori_coaching (https://www.instagram.com/inflori_coaching)
Anna (Doc Sass)
Website: https://www.drannakaminsky.com (https://www.drannakaminsky.com)
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.anna.kaminsky (https://www.instagram.com/dr.anna.kaminsky)
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Until next time, keep choosing connection.
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