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About How to Human
How to Human is a brave and inclusive space where everyday people in our communities share honest, vulnerable stories to help us better understand ourselves and each other. Through these real experiences, we learn how to human—growing through our differences, connecting through shared emotions, and reimagining a more compassionate world together.
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- jamiemagnant10
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- society & culture
- Language
- en
- Explicit
- No
- First episode
- 24 Aug 2025
- Latest episode
- 5 Apr 2026
Latest episodes
15 episodes in the feed.
5 Apr 2026
Five Years Sober: The Whisper That Changed My Life
This week’s episode of How to Human is a little different. Instead of me interviewing someone else, my partner Anne takes over the host seat and interviews me. The reason? This week marks five years since I last drank alcohol or used cocaine. In this conversation, I share more openly than I ever have on the podcast about my relationship with substances—how it began when I was a teenager, how it evolved through my twenties, and the quiet whisper that eventually told me something had to change. We talk about the messy middle of getting sober: the grief, the shame, the fear, and the courage it took to rebuild my life almost entirely from scratch. I share what it looked like to leave relationships, move in with family, face my trauma, and slowly learn how to feel my emotions without numbing them. But we also talk about what sobriety has given me: love, curiosity, community, deeper connection, and a life I truly never imagined was possible. If you’ve ever been sober curious, struggled with substances, or simply wondered what it means to come home to yourself, this conversation is for you. Sobriety, for me, has been many things. A gift. A rebirth. And ultimately, a journey home.
29 Mar 2026
Befriending Pain
Pain has a way of demanding our attention. In this solo episode, I share two recent experiences with physical pain—one involving a sudden stomach episode at work and another involving a stubborn back injury that completely disrupted my daily life. What unfolded inside those moments wasn’t just physical discomfort. It was shame. Fear. Embarrassment. The urge to power through. The familiar pull toward coping strategies that numb or distract instead of helping. And ultimately, it became an invitation to ask a deeper question: What if pain is actually trying to help us? As I navigated days of back pain that refused to go away, I began experimenting with something simple but surprisingly difficult—listening to it. Instead of fighting the sensation or trying to outthink it, I started paying attention to what the pain was asking for. Slow down. Rest. Move differently. Take care. This episode explores what happens when we stop treating pain as the enemy and start treating it as information. Along the way, I also reflect on how our personal relationship with pain mirrors something much larger—how we respond to discomfort individually, and how that response can echo in our relationships, our systems, and our collective struggles. Because maybe one of the most human things we can learn is this: What if pain isn't something to escape, but rather something to listen to? What would that change about our individual lives and the collective?
15 Mar 2026
Wrestling With Evil
What do we really mean when we talk about evil? In this episode of How to Human, I sit down again with Molly Gorney and Anne Skriba to explore one of the most uncomfortable—and deeply human—questions: what is evil, and where does it actually live? Together we unpack the ways religion shaped our earliest understanding of sin, goodness, and hell, and how those beliefs have evolved through our own journeys of deconstruction, sobriety, healing, and lived experience. We talk about harm, accountability, shame, and the systems that allow suffering to continue. We wrestle with the tension between believing humans are inherently good while also acknowledging the very real harm people cause. And we explore what it means to look honestly at our own shadow without losing our capacity for compassion. This conversation isn’t about arriving at a clean answer. It’s about curiosity, humility, and the courage to sit with complexity. Because maybe learning how to be human means recognizing that the capacity for both harm and healing lives in all of us.
1 Mar 2026
Blackness, Belonging, and Staying Curious
This episode is a gift. Anne Skriba and Arianne Stinson join me with remarkable honesty and generosity, sharing their lived experiences as biracial women navigating identity, race, faith, family, and belonging in America. They speak to what it feels like to be perceived as Black — regardless of how they identify. To navigate colorism, code-switching, systemic bias, and generational history not as concepts, but as daily reality. Their vulnerability is not owed. Their stories are not hypotheticals. This conversation is an invitation to listen , not to fix, defend, or center ourselves. But to witness. To let lived experience shape us. To allow honesty to soften what certainty cannot. If we want to grow, we have to learn how to listen. This is a place to practice.
22 Feb 2026
How to Have Compassion Without Collapse
In this episode of How to Human, I sit down with my friend Molly G — a sober mother of three, a seeker, and someone deeply committed to unlearning. We talk about what it means to practice compassion in a time when harm feels loud and constant. We explore the tension between empathy and accountability. Between shame and growth. Between staying informed and staying regulated. Molly shares about getting sober while raising children, unpacking the religious and cultural systems that shaped her, confronting her own complicity in racism, and learning how to parent from repair rather than perfection. We ask hard questions: How do we hold compassion for people causing harm without endorsing that harm? What is the difference between shame and responsibility? How do we raise white children in a racist country without collapsing into guilt? And what does repair — with our kids, with ourselves, with our communities — actually look like? This conversation weaves sobriety, shadow work, parenting, white fragility, and grief into one central inquiry: How do we stay human — without numbing, without denying, without hardening? This is a tender one.And a necessary one.
15 Feb 2026
Staying Human in the Face of Harm
Content note: This episode includes discussions of sexual violence, trauma, and systemic harm. Please listen with care. In this solo episode of How to Human, Jamie returns after a long season of quiet to speak from a place of humility, grief, and reckoning. Reflecting on winter as a time of inward listening, Jamie shares why words have felt insufficient—and why they now feel necessary. Inspired by recent conversations on We Can Do Hard Things and the release of the Epstein files, this episode becomes a kind of meditation: on sexual violence, power, denial, accountability, and what it means to stay human in the face of harm. Jamie speaks openly as a survivor of sexual violence, tracing parallels between personal trauma and collective systems of oppression. She shares her experience as a young volunteer with the Peace Corps in Uganda, including the aftermath of an attempted rape, institutional invalidation, and the long arc of retraumatization that so often follows reporting harm. This episode explores: The ripple effects of violence and silence White saviorism, power, and unintended harm Shame, substance use, and survival The cost of denial—personally and collectively What accountability, repair, and grief might ask of us More than a story, this is an offering—to survivors, to listeners willing to sit with discomfort, and to anyone asking how we choose differently without losing faith in our shared humanity.
9 Nov 2025
Embracing Change and Curiosity: A Conversation About Living & Healing
Embracing Change and Curiosity: A Conversation with Carol Roller In this heartfelt and thought-provoking episode of How to Human, Jamie Magnant sits down with Carol Roller—a 71-year-old coach, lifelong learner, and sober woman—to explore what it really means to stay curious, connected, and open-hearted through every season of life. Carol shares the wisdom she’s gathered over decades of personal growth, from her work in ontological coaching to her own journey through sobriety and healing. Together, Jamie and Carol discuss the evolving nature of our values, the sacred importance of community, and the often-overlooked need for ritual spaces to process grief and release trauma. With humor, honesty, and grounded insight, Carol reminds us that it’s never too late to grow, to heal, and to rediscover what it means to be human. Her reflections invite us all to embrace aging not as a decline, but as a deepening—a chance to live with curiosity, compassion, and courage, no matter our age. ✨ Key Themes: The lifelong power of curiosity and self-discovery Building and sustaining community through change and sobriety The importance of ritual and shared space in healing Embracing aging as an invitation to keep learning and softening
10 Oct 2025
How We Met: Sobriety, Self-Discovery, and Learning to Love Authentically
How to Human: Episode 8 In this deeply personal episode of How to Human, Jamie sits down with her partner, Anne Skriba, to share the unfolding story of how they met—through sobriety, honesty, and the courage to be seen. What began as two women showing up vulnerably in a recovery meeting became an unexpected journey of friendship, attraction, and profound growth. Together, they reflect on their early conversations about queerness, unlearning religious shame, navigating anxious and avoidant attachment styles, and learning how to show up in love without losing themselves. With tenderness and humor, Jamie and Anne unpack what it means to build a healthy relationship while still healing—and how love can be both a mirror and a teacher on the path to becoming more fully human.
28 Sept 2025
Opening to Love: Finding Healing in the Moments That Hold Us
In this solo episode of How to Human, Jamie shares tender stories from their own journey—moments when they allowed love in, even when it felt hard. From an unexpected act of kindness to letters that cracked their heart open, Jamie explores how letting love flow has shaped their healing and sobriety, and how it continues to influence the way they show up for themselves and others. This episode is an invitation to reflect on the times you’ve felt love move through you—whether from people, music, nature, or your own presence. It’s a reminder that love is always here, waiting for us to open. Resources Song: Free by Florence and the Machine Poem: How the Worst Day of My Life Became the Best by Andrea Gibson
21 Sept 2025
How to Human: The Power of Self- Acceptance
How to Human: The Power of Self-Acceptance with Terrence Dorsey In this heartfelt conversation, Jamie Magnant and Terrence Dorsey explore themes of joy, resilience, and personal growth. Terrence shares his experiences living with a disability, the importance of community, and the lessons along the way. They discuss the challenges of communication, the desire for acceptance, and the journey towards self-acceptance. Terrence's humor and positivity shine through as he reflects on his childhood, aspirations to teach, and coping mechanisms. The conversation concludes with advice for others and a light-hearted exchange of jokes, emphasizing the importance of being true to oneself. Terrence emphasizes the importance of joy and letting go. Living with a disability can be challenging but also rewarding. Asking for help is essential and should be normalized in society. Terrence's childhood experiences shaped his communication skills and resilience. The desire to be seen and accepted is universal. Terrence aspires to be a teacher and enjoys working with children. Meditation and self-talk are vital coping mechanisms for Terrence. Self-acceptance has transformed Terrence's outlook on life. Terrence encourages others to be themselves and learn from their mistakes. References the Americorps Program: VAMOS with non-profit Mandy's Farm in Albuquerque, NM
14 Sept 2025
Setting Down the Story: Embodiment, Ancestral Healing, and the Messy Work of Becoming
How To Human Episode 5 Episode Summary: In this deeply honest and expansive conversation, Jamie Magnant sits down with Bert to explore the tender terrain of inner transformation, ancestral healing, and the layered responsibilities of being white in a world shaped by colonial systems. Together, they unpack the invisible narratives we carry—about worthiness, identity, and belonging—and examine how stories rooted in systemic oppression continue to shape our behaviors, beliefs, and relationships. Bert shares vulnerably about her own journey through sobriety, grief, embodied practice, and the ongoing reckoning with privilege and whiteness. With humility and clarity, she speaks about the necessity of discomfort, the role of spiritual and ancestral connection in healing, and the importance of choosing love—even when it risks heartbreak. This episode invites listeners into the hard and holy work of deconstructing internalized systems, learning from Indigenous and Black wisdom traditions, and beginning to reweave culture, connection, and responsibility in personal and collective ways. Topics include: Letting go of inherited stories and protection mechanisms Embodiment as a path to healing trauma The complexity of white identity and ancestral shame Moving beyond performative allyship Choosing discomfort over disconnection Grief as a portal to deeper love and belonging Mentions & Resources: Hospicing Modernity · My Grandmother’s Hands · Deconstructing Karen · Polyvagal Theory · Joanna Macy · Bayo Akomolafe · Audre Lorde · Deb Dana
7 Sept 2025
How to Human | Growing Up Alongside Our Kids
How to Human | Episode: Growing Up Alongside Our Kids with Jordan Magnant In this tender and honest episode of How to Human, Jamie sits down with someone close to her heart—her cousin, Jordan Magnant—a single mom of three, early childhood educator, and deep-feeler navigating life with courage, curiosity, and compassion. Jordan opens up about her experience raising three boys while rediscovering who she is outside of motherhood. From letting go of control post-divorce, to navigating judgment around parenting choices, to integrating small but meaningful practices like family yoga, Jordan’s story is a heartfelt look at what it means to evolve while parenting. Together, Jamie and Jordan explore: The identity shift that comes with becoming a parent—and reclaiming selfhood afterward Navigating political and social values with kids in a world that’s often heavy Holding your ground in parenting even when others don’t understand Co-parenting dynamics and the real grief of letting go of full-time parenting control Learning to accept your imperfections—and modeling that acceptance for your children How parenting can be a mirror, and maybe even a gateway, to loving the parts of ourselves we used to hide If you're a parent, single or not, or someone just trying to figure out who you are while showing up for others, this episode will remind you that you're not alone. That healing, growth, and joy are possible—even in the messiest seasons. ✨ “If I am staying true to my values, I really don't think there's anything I can do too terribly wrong.” – Jordan
31 Aug 2025
How to Human: Facing Uncertainty Without Numbing
How to Human with Jamie Magnant and Community Episode 3 ✨ Episode Summary: In this solo episode, Jamie shares openly and vulnerably about their personal journey through addiction recovery, estrangement, healing from trauma, and learning to sit with the discomfort of uncertainty—without numbing. With raw honesty and heart-centered reflection, Jamie explores what it means to rebuild trust in yourself and in life, especially when nothing feels certain. They dive into their past with substance use (including alcohol, cocaine, and cannabis), the root causes behind compulsive behaviors, and how recovery became a spiritual and emotional reclamation. This episode is a powerful invitation to consider how we respond to uncertainty, how we can connect more deeply with ourselves, and what it takes to live in alignment—even when the path ahead is unclear. Jamie’s story of addiction and recovery How trauma and uncertainty drove compulsive behaviors The challenges of navigating estranged family relationships Spirituality as a foundation for healing The complicated relationship with cannabis in sobriety spaces Reflections on self-trust, inner child healing, and authenticity Why control isn't the antidote to fear—connection is Preparing to show up sober in a family setting for the first time in a decade Recovery isn’t just about quitting substances—it’s about learning how to stay with yourself. Our need for control is often rooted in past trauma and disconnection. Estrangement from family can be both deeply painful and deeply necessary. Spiritual connection can offer grounding and trust when everything feels uncertain. Courage often looks quiet: choosing to stay present when everything in you wants to run. Episode 2: How to Human as a Survivor of Religious Trauma with Anne Skriba Inner child healing and somatic therapy (referenced throughout) Jamie’s mantra: “Experience the mystery without trying to conquer it” If this episode resonated with you, consider journaling: "How do I respond to uncertainty? What does it look like to stay with myself instead of escaping?" You’re not alone in the unknown. Thank you for being here, and thank you for being human. To find How to Human for more resources and connection go to jamiemagnant.substack.com
24 Aug 2025
How to Human As a Survivor of Religious Trauma
Episode 2 How to Human As a Survivor of Religious Trauma In this deeply personal episode, I sit down with my partner, Anne Skriba, for a vulnerable conversation about identity, healing, and the long, complicated journey of deconstructing religious beliefs. Anne shares her lived experience as a queer Black woman, former athlete, and coach—reflecting on the emotional weight of religious trauma, the complexity of pride, and the transformative power of self-acceptance. We talk about what it means to lead with vulnerability, reclaim agency in your own life, and let go of the stories that no longer fit. Anne’s honesty is a powerful reminder that healing isn’t linear and that we all deserve to take up space in places that honor us. If you’ve ever questioned where you belong or wrestled with your past, this conversation offers compassion, perspective, and a whole lot of heart. In this episode, we explore: The emotional toll of religious trauma How deconstruction can be both freeing and frightening Reclaiming identity and agency after systems of shame Why pride is often misunderstood—and what it really means The power of being witnessed in your full, authentic self Take this with you: You are not your past. You get to choose what happens next. Follow Anne Skriba on Instagram @cleanplaycoaching Subscribe to her website: cleanplaycoaching.com Follow her podcast with her co-host Chris Marshall: Clean Play Podcast
24 Aug 2025
How to Human: A Space For Stories, Healing & Honest Connection
Welcome to How to Human with Jamie Magnant & Community! You are so welcome, seen, and appreciated here! In This First Episode This episode is an invitation. Not for perfection, but for courageous curiosity, emotional truth, and the kind of listening that helps us reimagine a more loving, inclusive world. The origin story of How to Human and why it matters now My journey through addiction, healing, and finding their voice Why storytelling from neighbors, friends, youth, and elders matters How feelings—like shame, fear, and joy—guide us toward deeper truth The power of listening to transform ourselves and dissolve internalized systems An invitation to witness, reflect, and walk alongside one another with care Because you’re ready to feel less alone in your questions. Because you’re curious about how we grow through difference. Because you want to be part of a space that values real stories. How to Human isn’t just a podcast—it’s a movement toward truth, tenderness, and collective healing. This is where we begin.
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