22 Oct 2026
Ep 43: Why Couples Stop Having Sex After 50
What if the reason the sex faded in your relationship has almost nothing to do with desire, and everything to do with what no one taught you to say out loud?
Not sure where you are in your dating or relationship life, or what to do next? Take Laurie’s quiz to find out:https://lauriegerber.com/quiz?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_043_cta-top&utm_term=suzanne_noble
Somewhere along the way the sex slowed down, or stopped, and you made your peace with it. Maybe one of you stopped initiating, maybe it started to hurt, maybe it just felt easier not to bring it up. That quiet truce costs you more than you think, and most of it is fixable.
In this episode, Suzanne Noble, host of Sex Advice for Seniors and a candid voice on intimacy after 50, is back for the next conversation in her series with Laurie. You will learn the real reason most couples stop having sex, and why it is rarely about desire. You will hear what normal frequency actually means at this age and what to do when one partner wants it more, why unreliable erections are so common and why they matter for a man’s health, and the overlooked fixes, from toys to plain communication, that make sex genuinely better. You will also learn how to build a satisfying sex life from scratch with a new partner.
Laurie Gerber helps women over 50 stop guessing and start choosing wisely in dating over 50, and that includes talking honestly about sex. Here she and Suzanne turn the topics couples avoid into practical, hopeful advice you can use tonight. The surprising part is that the fix is almost never performance or stamina; it is permission, novelty, and the courage to name what you want.
Timestamps:00:00–01:58 — Why couples stop expecting good sex, and what it costs.01:58–05:24 — Unreliable erections, shame, and a health warning men ignore.05:24–08:14 — Permission to speak up: to your doctor and your partner.08:14–10:09 — The coffee-cup trick for mismatched initiating.10:09–11:50 — Meet Suzanne Noble: straight talk on sex over 50.11:50–16:18 — Frequency, libido differences, and responsive desire.16:18–19:33 — Why frequency is a symptom, not the real problem.19:33–24:42 — What actually makes sex better.: toys, and dropping the shame.24:42–31:10 — Building a sex life from scratch with a new partner.31:10–35:40 — Talking about sex early, and why clarity wins.35:40–38:37 — Homework: get clear on your 3 H’s, and the free guide.
Ready to go deeper? Laurie walks you through the 3H method in her free 75-minute training, so you can get clear on what a healthy partnership, and a healthy sex life, looks like for you:https://lauriegerber.com/webinar?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_043_cta-webinar-secondary&utm_term=suzanne_noble
More from Laurie:🌐 Website: https://lauriegerber.com/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_043&utm_term=suzanne_noble▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/💙 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber🎧 Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/Part 1 of Laurie’s series with Suzanne Noble, Ep 42: https://youtu.be/HBSJs_iYvkA
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About Suzanne Noble:Suzanne Noble is the founder and host of Sex Advice for Seniors, a podcast and TikTok channel for candid, judgment-free conversations about intimacy after 50. A 65-year-old London-based entrepreneur and sex educator, she is the author of the erotic memoir The Butcher, the Baker, the Candlestick Maker.
🌐 Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.comFree guide, 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebie📖 Her memoir, The Butcher, the Baker, the Candlestick Maker: https://www.amazon.com/Butche
