7 Oct 2026
Episode #36 | HUSBAND INTERVIEW: We Became Great Parents and Almost Lost Our Marriage
You can be successful at work, responsible with your family, and deeply committed to your children, yet still feel like you and your spouse are slowly becoming strangers.
In this episode of Love Life Lessons, I sit down with my husband, Chris, to talk honestly about how parenting affected our marriage and how we went from feeling like we were on separate teams to actually enjoying parenting together.
When our kids were young, we were exhausted, overwhelmed, and fighting to hold onto our own independence. Work mattered. Hobbies mattered. The kids needed us constantly. And without realizing it, our marriage kept moving further down the priority list.
Eventually, our differences in parenting became another place for the tension between us to show up. I thought Chris was too strict. He thought I was too lenient. I became protective of the kids, he felt criticized and disrespected, and instead of parenting together, we started living increasingly separate lives.
What we eventually realized was that some of our biggest "parenting problems" were actually connection problems in our marriage.
In this conversation, we talk about how our childhoods shaped the way we parent, why high achieving parents can struggle to mentally leave work at work, how nervous system regulation changed Chris's relationship with our children, and why reconnecting with your spouse can completely change the way you parent together.
We also talk about something I wish we had understood much earlier: you do not have to wait for date night or the perfect child-free weekend to reconnect. Connection can happen in ordinary moments, even with the kids running around you.
If you are successful in almost every area of your life but feel like your marriage has become about kids, schedules, responsibilities, and getting through the day, this conversation is for you.
IN THIS EPISODE, WE TALK ABOUT:
• Why having children can magnify existing tension in a marriage
• How sleep deprivation and constant responsibility affected our connection
• Why we became competitive about free time instead of functioning as a team
• What happens when work, parenting, and personal goals push the marriage to the back burner
• How different childhoods create completely different parenting expectations
• Why criticizing your spouse's parenting can create even more distance
• The connection between work stress, impatience, and being emotionally unavailable at home
• How nervous system regulation helped Chris become more present and patient
• Why parenting disagreements are sometimes marriage connection problems in disguise
• How rebuilding respect changed the way we saw each other's parenting
• Why becoming a united front gives children more stability
• The danger of building a stronger alliance with your children than with your spouse
• How to stay connected during the busiest seasons of raising a family
• Why strengthening your marriage can improve your relationship with your children too
TIMESTAMPS
00:00 Why parenting can magnify problems in your marriage
02:30 The shock of becoming parents and years of sleep deprivation
05:20 How our marriage ended up on the back burner
08:10 Fighting for independence and competing over free time
11:40 When different parenting styles become a power struggle
15:30 How your childhood shapes the way you parent
19:10 Why high achievers struggle to switch off work at home
23:00 When the kids get all the attention and your spouse feels forgotten
26:30 How parenting disagreements created more distance between us
30:20 When I chose "me and the kids" instead of our marriage
33:40 What changed Chris's approach to parenting
36:00 Nervous system regulation, patience, and learning to be present
39:20 Why some parenting problems are actually marriage problems
42:30 Seeing your spouse's differences as strengths instead of threats
45:50 Grace, respect, and becoming a team again
49:00 Why a united front matters for your children
52:10 Why the marriage needs to remain a primary relationship
55:10 What we wish we understood during the early parenting years
57:20 Staying connected even when the kids are around
59:00 Final thoughts on marriage, parenting, and enjoying your family
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