- 10
- Episodes
- 2024
- First episode
About My Mother's Trauma
Healing intergenerational trauma needs more than quick fixes and self-care strategies, especially when racism and systemic oppression undermine every aspect of our existence. How do we do ‘the work’ of unlearning our inherited patterns when we’re exhausted? Join trauma therapist Kim Loliya for a different conversation on how to break the cycle through an anti-oppressive lens of justice and liberation.
- Publisher
- Kim Loliya
- Category
- health & fitness
- Language
- en
- Explicit
- No
- First episode
- 12 Sept 2024
- Latest episode
- 7 Jan 2025
Latest episodes
10 episodes in the feed.
7 Jan 2025
From Mothering to Smothering
In this episode, host Kim Loliya delves into the complexities of mothering and smothering, particularly in the context of intergenerational trauma and societal pressures. Kim reflects on the toxic culture surrounding New Year's resolutions and the systemic forces that shape our desires for change. The conversation transitions into an exploration of smothering behaviors, their roots in fear and anxiety, and the cultural dynamics that perpetuate them. Kim acknowledges the importance of recognizing these patterns and working towards healthier relationships, both as mothers and as individuals who have been smothered. CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction to My Mother’s Trauma Podcast 01:33 Resolutions are Colonial 06:01 Decolonial Freebies Coming Up at Black Psychotherapy 08:59 The Continuum of Harmful Mothering 10:43 Smothering in Black, Brown and Indigenous Mothers 15:13 Deconstructing Smothering 18:25 Smothering Ingrained in Culture 19:49 From Smothering (Back) To Mothering 30:28 Outro CONTACT INFO Newsletter - Sign up here (https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfkqwHQpik-dZqWeYOpu4TwXVaQUuidZkbnkpBtrA7DGOkzTg/viewform) Question for Kim – Submit here (https://black-psychotherapy.neetoform.com/536d3868ad90825d9a82) Website - blackpsychotherapy.org (https://blackpsychotherapy.org/) Instagram - @blackpsychotherapy (https://www.instagram.com/blackpsychotherapy/) Email address - info@blackpsychotherapy.org (mailto:info@blackpsychotherapy.org) EPISODE LINKS Transcript –You can find the transcript here (https://medium.com/@info_67689/my-mothers-trauma-podcast-episode-6-transcript-myths-and-misconceptions-d1058c3613d0) Events – Register here (https://www.eventbrite.com/o/black-psychotherapy-30073483024) Event - Holding Black Rage CPD for Helping Professionals, on 7th February 2025, online. Tickets can be purchased here (https://www.eventbrite.com/e/holding-black-rage-professionals-training-tickets-1114634504809?aff=ebdsoporgprofile) Event - Justice in Therapy, on 15th March 2025, online. Tickets can be purchased here (https://www.tickettailor.com/events/blackpsychotherapy/1490531) CREDITS Artwork – Kim Loliya in collaboration with DALL-E Editor & Producer – ZShed Productions
23 Dec 2024
Intergenerational Trauma Over The Holidays
In this episode Kim Loliya reflects on the recent Justice in Therapy conference, discussing the complexities of engaging in justice work, especially in the context of familial trauma during the holiday season. Kim explores themes of emotional labor, gender dynamics, racial capitalism, and the impact of migration and displacement on holiday experiences. Kim goes on to emphasise the importance of community support, self-care, and the need for mental health resources during this challenging time. The episode concludes with gratitude for the listeners and a hopeful outlook for future discussions on intergenerational trauma. CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction to My Mother’s Trauma Podcast 01:08 Intergenerational gifts making justice work possible 09:13 Femme labour over the holidays 12:56 Racial capitalism as intergenerational trauma 18:16 Navigating harm from family members 26:53 Migration, displacement and loneliness 29:58 Breaks in therapy 33:10 End of year gratitude 36:25 Outro CONTACT INFO Newsletter - Sign up here (https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfkqwHQpik-dZqWeYOpu4TwXVaQUuidZkbnkpBtrA7DGOkzTg/viewform) Question for Kim – Submit here (https://black-psychotherapy.neetoform.com/536d3868ad90825d9a82) Website - blackpsychotherapy.org (https://blackpsychotherapy.org/) Instagram - @blackpsychotherapy (https://www.instagram.com/blackpsychotherapy/) Email address - info@blackpsychotherapy.org (mailto:info@blackpsychotherapy.org) EPISODE LINKS Transcript –You can find the transcript here (https://www.blackpsychotherapy.org/podcast/episode-eight) Racial Capitalism (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Racial_capitalism) Event - Holding Black Rage: Professionals Training, on 7th February, online. Tickets can be purchased here (https://www.eventbrite.com/e/holding-black-rage-professionals-training-tickets-1114634504809?aff=ebdsshcopyurl&utm-campaign=social&utm-content=attendeeshare&utm-medium=discovery&utm-source=cp&utm-term=listing) Event - Justice in Therapy, on 15th March 2025, online. Tickets can be purchased here (https://www.tickettailor.com/events/blackpsychotherapy/1490531) Other Events – Register here (https://www.tickettailor.com/events/blackpsychotherapy) CREDITS Artwork – Kim Loliya in collaboration with DALL-E Editor & Producer – ZShed Productions
3 Dec 2024
Holding The Good
Kim Loliya shares practical steps to cultivate a mindset that embraces goodness, amidst the challenges of trauma and cultural barriers, by emphasizing self-love and community.
19 Nov 2024
Intergenerational Trauma: Myths and Misconceptions
In this episode of 'My Mother's Trauma', host Kim Loliya explores the complexities of intergenerational trauma, challenging common myths and misconceptions surrounding the topic. Kim emphasises the importance of broadening our understanding of trauma beyond major calamities, recognising the variability in how it manifests across different individuals and communities. The conversation delves into the roles of accountability, forgiveness, and the pressures of healing, while also highlighting the need for a broader perspective that includes community dynamics. Ultimately, the episode encourages a reflection on our own experiences and the impact of intergenerational trauma in our lives. CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction to My Mother’s Trauma Podcast 03:43 A consequence of a big calamity like war or famine 07:12 Everyone’s suffering will look the same 10:11 You can’t stop IGT from being passed down to your children 13:51 IGT affects only Global Majority communities 16:01 It’s all your mother’s fault 19:15 Acknowledging IGT must lead to forgiveness 20:45 You can’t enjoy life until you’ve broken the cycle 22:27 You can heal IG for your whole family 24:30 A misconception that The healing process will be painful 26:57 IGT only relates to your biological family 31:28 Outro CONTACT INFO Newsletter - Sign up here (https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfkqwHQpik-dZqWeYOpu4TwXVaQUuidZkbnkpBtrA7DGOkzTg/viewform) Question for Kim – Submit here (https://black-psychotherapy.neetoform.com/536d3868ad90825d9a82) Website - blackpsychotherapy.org (https://blackpsychotherapy.org/) Instagram - @blackpsychotherapy (https://www.instagram.com/blackpsychotherapy/) Email address - info@blackpsychotherapy.org (mailto:info@blackpsychotherapy.org) EPISODE LINKS Transcript –You can find the transcript here (https://medium.com/@info_67689/my-mothers-trauma-podcast-episode-6-transcript-myths-and-misconceptions-d1058c3613d0) Events – Tickets and further information can be found here (https://www.tickettailor.com/events/blackpsychotherapy?) Event - Justice in Therapy, on 30th November at The Advocacy Academy, (https://www.theadvocacyacademy.com/) Brixton. Tickets can be purchased here (https://www.tickettailor.com/events/blackpsychotherapy/1447678) CREDITS Artwork – Kim Loliya in collaboration with DALL-E Editor & Producer – ZShed Productions
5 Nov 2024
Dinner With The Dead
In this episode of My Mother's Trauma, host Kim Loliya explores how different cultures relate to the dead during this season of collective remembrance. Kim reflects on a personal experience from 2023 of experiencing Day of the Dead while in Mexico and the significance of community and intergenerational inclusion in processing grief. The conversation delves into the complexities of grief work, the role of joy and the importance of decolonial approaches and rituals that make space for rage and authenticity. Kim encourages listeners to find their own ways to honour their loved ones, which can also include choosing not to do that if it doesn’t feel safe or appropriate to do so. CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction to Intergenerational Trauma 05:20 The Benefits of Time Travel 10:52 Day of the Dead Season 16:54 Complicated Feelings About The Dead 20:13 Reimagining Ancestral Work 22:28 Realistic Remembrance 28:52 Outro CONTACT INFO Newsletter - Sign up here (https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfkqwHQpik-dZqWeYOpu4TwXVaQUuidZkbnkpBtrA7DGOkzTg/viewform) Question for Kim – Submit here (https://black-psychotherapy.neetoform.com/536d3868ad90825d9a82) Website - blackpsychotherapy.org (https://blackpsychotherapy.org/) Instagram - @blackpsychotherapy (https://www.instagram.com/blackpsychotherapy/) Email address - info@blackpsychotherapy.org (mailto:info@blackpsychotherapy.org) EPISODE LINKS Transcript –You can find the transcript here (https://medium.com/@info_67689/my-mothers-trauma-podcast-episode-5-transcript-dinner-with-the-dead-050ab482beed) How Madagascar Celebrates the Day of the Dead (https://www.africa.com/how-madagascar-celebrates-the-day-of-the-dead/#:~:text=It%20is%20a%20sacred%20ritual,to%20their%20tombs%20before%20sunset.) Visiting A Voodou Ceremony, Haiti - Fet Gede - Day of the Dead (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0LY_FiSB_jo) Events – Tickets and further information can be found here (https://www.tickettailor.com/events/blackpsychotherapy?) Event - Honouring the Dead, Honouring the Living, on 10th November, online. Tickets can be purchased here (https://www.tickettailor.com/events/blackpsychotherapy/1456054) Event - Justice in Therapy, on 30th November at The Advocacy Academy, (https://www.theadvocacyacademy.com/) Brixton. Tickets can be purchased here (https://www.tickettailor.com/events/blackpsychotherapy/1447678) CREDITS Artwork – Kim Loliya in collaboration with DALL-E Editor & Producer – ZShed Productions
24 Oct 2024
A Harvest For The Heart
In this episode of My Mother's Trauma, Kim Loliya explores the theme of harvesting, particularly in the context of living in the diaspora. Kim discusses the significance of land, the challenges faced by those disconnected from it, and the importance of land justice. The conversation transitions into defining harvesting both physically and emotionally, emphasising the need for community support and the potential for emotional healing. Kim invites listeners to reflect on their own emotional harvesting and the tools they may need to gather their realisations and feelings. CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction to Intergenerational Trauma 01:49 Ancestral Rites: The Invisible Pull of Land 07:45 Improved Recovery With Nature Scenes 09:52 Defining Harvesting: Physical and Emotional Perspectives 13 41 Emotional Harvesting: Gathering from the Heart 16:42 Harvesting Dreams: An Afrofuturist Perspective 22:32 Tools for Emotional Harvesting 27:07 Outro CONTACT INFO Newsletter - Signup here (https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfkqwHQpik-dZqWeYOpu4TwXVaQUuidZkbnkpBtrA7DGOkzTg/viewform) Question for Kim – Submit here (https://black-psychotherapy.neetoform.com/536d3868ad90825d9a82) Website - blackpsychotherapy.org (https://blackpsychotherapy.org/) (currently under construction) Instagram - @blackpsychotherapy (https://www.instagram.com/blackpsychotherapy/) Email address - info@blackpsychotherapy.org (mailto:info@blackpsychotherapy.org) EPISODE LINKS Transcript – You can find the transcript here (https://medium.com/@info_67689/my-mothers-trauma-podcast-episode-4-transcript-a-harvest-for-the-heart-45dd1fe818bf) Increase Support for Black, Indigenous, and People of Color (BIPOC) Farmers (https://farmland.org/wp-content/uploads/2024/05/5-Increase-Support-for-BIPOC-Farmers-AFT-NE-Policy.pdf) Viewing Nature Scenes Positively Affects Recovery of Autonomic Function (https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3699874/) Healing environment: A review of the impact of physical environmental factors (https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0360132312001758#bib10) Wolves Lane Centre (https://www.woodsandgreens.co.uk/) To be black in the British countryside means being an outsider (https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2020/oct/20/black-woman-british-countryside-london-rural-village-stereotypes) Events – Register here (https://www.eventbrite.com/o/black-psychotherapy-30073483024) Event - Virtual Panel Discussion - Decolonising Therapy (30th October) - to celebrate our new team of therapists and trainees we will be hosting a panel and Q&A that explores the colonial context of therapy, what decolonising therapy looks like in practice and some of the challenges of doing this work, and the mental health benefits of liberatory approaches for both clients and practitioners. CREDITS Artwork – Kim Loliya in collaboration with DALL-E Editor & Producer – ZShed Productions
8 Oct 2024
Reclaiming Narratives (Black History Month Edition)
In this episode of My Mother's Trauma, host Kim Loliya explores the theme of reclaiming narratives during Black History Month. Kim discusses the importance of recognizing how external narratives shape our identities and the need to consciously reclaim and redefine our stories. The conversation emphasises the collective nature of this work, the impact of societal structures on personal narratives, and the importance of inclusion and accessibility in community celebrations. Kim encourages listeners to reflect on the narratives they wish to rewrite and to engage in a process of empowerment and healing. CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction to My Mother's Trauma Podcast 01:07 Celebrating Black History Month 04:26 Reclaiming Narratives: A Central Theme 11:16 The Impact of External Narratives 20:12 Exploring Black Narratives in History 23:01 The Deliberate Act of Reclamation 25:33 Inclusion and Accessibility in Black History Month Celebrations 27:08 Outro CONTACT INFO · Newsletter - Signup here (https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfkqwHQpik-dZqWeYOpu4TwXVaQUuidZkbnkpBtrA7DGOkzTg/viewform) · Question for Kim – Submit here (https://black-psychotherapy.neetoform.com/536d3868ad90825d9a82) · Website - blackpsychotherapy.org (https://blackpsychotherapy.org/) (currently under construction) · Instagram - @blackpsychotherapy (https://www.instagram.com/blackpsychotherapy/) · Email address - info@blackpsychotherapy.org (mailto:info@blackpsychotherapy.org) EPISODE LINKS · Transcript – You can find the transcript here (https://medium.com/@info_67689/my-mothers-trauma-podcast-episode-3-transcript-reclaiming-narratives-black-history-month-3a8e4626615f) · Events – Register here (https://www.eventbrite.com/o/black-psychotherapy-30073483024) · In-Person Workshop - Black Stories of Survival (10th October) - our lunchtime community workshop in Brixton will explore our everyday stories of survival and the wisdom that comes from trusting our lived experience. · Virtual Interview and Q&A - In Conversation with Shocka (16th October) - Grime legend, author and mental health advocate Shocka will be joining us for a special conversation and Q&A exploring his journey of mental health recovery and the importance of destigmatising mental illness within the Black community. · Virtual Panel Discussion - Decolonising Therapy (30th October) - to celebrate our new team of therapists and trainees we will be hosting a panel and Q&A that explores the colonial context of therapy, what decolonising therapy looks like in practice and some of the challenges of doing this work, and the mental health benefits of liberatory approaches for both clients and practitioners. · Article - A 5-Year-Old Girl Gives Her Verdict on Famous Logos, and Some Fail Miserably (https://www.businessinsider.com/these-brand-logos-get-put-to-the-test-by-a-5-year-old-girl-and-some-fail-miserably-2012-1#:~:text=By%20the%20time%20an%20American,Want%20some%20proof%3F) CREDITS · Artwork – Kim Loliya in collaboration with DALL-E · Editor & Producer – ZShed Productions
8 Oct 2024
Surrendering To The Unknown
In this episode of 'My Mother's Trauma', host Kim Loliya delves into the complexities of intergenerational trauma, focusing on the theme of the unknown. Kim discusses how uncertainty intolerance affects individuals, particularly those from marginalised backgrounds, and how this impacts their understanding of family histories. The conversation explores the murky waters of inherited trauma, the challenges of naming and acknowledging past experiences, and the importance of community in navigating these feelings. Ultimately, Kim emphasises the need to embrace uncertainty as a pathway to healing and understanding. CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction to Intergenerational Trauma 01:02 Understanding the Unknown 03:30 Intolerance for Uncertainty 07:03 The Tip of the Iceberg 09:37 Defining Trauma Differently 12:18 Identifying the Known 15:08 Making Assumptions to Manage Uncertainty 19:47 Coping with the Unknown 23:04 Outro CONTACT INFO · Newsletter - Signup here (https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfkqwHQpik-dZqWeYOpu4TwXVaQUuidZkbnkpBtrA7DGOkzTg/viewform) · Question for Kim – Submit here (https://black-psychotherapy.neetoform.com/536d3868ad90825d9a82) · Website - blackpsychotherapy.org (https://blackpsychotherapy.org/) (currently under construction) · Instagram - @blackpsychotherapy (https://www.instagram.com/blackpsychotherapy/) · Email address - info@blackpsychotherapy.org (mailto:info@blackpsychotherapy.org) EPISODE LINKS · Transcript – You can find the transcript here (https://medium.com/@info_67689/my-mothers-trauma-podcast-episode-2-transcript-surrendering-to-the-unknown-9e5c7fb28768) · Definition of Intolerance of Uncertainty (https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3712497/#:~:text=Intolerance%20of%20uncertainty%20(IU)%20has,Buhr%20%26%20Dugas%2C%202009%2C%20p) · Questionnaire for Uncertainty Intolerance (https://integratedwellbeing.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/03/Tomatis-Questionnaire-Adults.pdf) · Scale for Uncertainty Intolerance (https://arc.psych.wisc.edu/self-report/intolerance-of-uncertainty-scale-ius/) CREDITS Artwork – Kim Loliya in collaboration with DALL-E Editor - Salar Khan Producer – ZShed Productions
8 Oct 2024
Deconstructing The Mother
In this inaugural episode of 'My Mother's Trauma', host Kim Loliya explores the themes of intergenerational trauma, family wounding, and the complexities of motherhood. Kim emphasises the importance of understanding these issues within the context of systemic oppression and the need for compassion in healing. The episode also delves into the societal expectations surrounding motherhood and the diverse experiences of those who identify as mothers, highlighting the need for a nuanced conversation around these topics. CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction to My Mother’s Trauma Podcast 01:04 Birth of a Podcast 08:45 Defining the Mother 16:31 Mothering Beyond Gender 17:29 Alternatives to Traditional Motherhood 22:57 Taking Care Around Trauma 25:05 Outro CONTACT INFO · Newsletter - Signup here (https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfkqwHQpik-dZqWeYOpu4TwXVaQUuidZkbnkpBtrA7DGOkzTg/viewform) · Question for Kim – Submit here (https://black-psychotherapy.neetoform.com/536d3868ad90825d9a82) · Website - blackpsychotherapy.org (https://blackpsychotherapy.org/) (currently under construction) · Instagram - @blackpsychotherapy (https://www.instagram.com/blackpsychotherapy/) · Email address - info@blackpsychotherapy.org (mailto:info@blackpsychotherapy.org) EPISODE LINKS · Transcript – You can find the transcript here (https://medium.com/@info_67689/my-mothers-trauma-podcast-episode-1-transcript-deconstructing-the-mother-a7f544b84310). · Article - ‘Other’ mothers: motherhood and the African diaspora (https://artuk.org/discover/stories/other-mothers-motherhood-and-the-african-diaspora) by Marjorie H Morgan · Website - Word associations (https://wordassociations.net/en/words-associated-with/Mother?button=Search) CREDITS Artwork – Kim Loliya in collaboration with DALL-E Editor – Ed Bishop
12 Sept 2024
Welcome to "My Mother's Trauma"
Healing intergenerational trauma needs more than quick fixes and self-care strategies, especially when racism and systemic oppression undermine every aspect of our existence. How do we do ‘the work’ of unlearning our inherited patterns when we’re exhausted? Join trauma therapist Kim Loliya for a different conversation on how to break the cycle through an anti-oppressive lens of justice and liberation.
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