With a real, raw, and relatable approach, clinical psychologist and narcissism expert, Dr. Jaime Zuckerman, takes a hard look at narcissistic abuse and its devastating effects across relationships of all types. Next Up: Narcissism explores all things narcissism and mental health; educating listeners on the patterns of narcissistic abuse, including gaslighting, love bombing, and coercive control. Listen in each week as we breakdown these toxic behaviors, and offer concrete strategies and actionable steps to help you navigate these toxic relationships. Through in-depth discussions, Q&A’s and expert guests, you will learn the skills and tactics to unravel this web of chaos, helping you to move forward into a healthier, happier and healed life.
Episode 57: Replay: Boundaries and Narcissistic Parents with Terri Cole
Some people will resist your boundaries. That doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong.
In this replay episode, I sit down with psychotherapist and Boundary Boss author Terri Cole for a conversation that so many of you have been asking for: how to set boundaries with a narcissistic parent. Terri doesn’t sugarcoat it. She names what’s hard, calls out the behaviors you might be normalizing, and gives you language and frameworks that actually work, even when you’re dealing with someone who refuses to respect your limits.
We talk about her “three boundary offenders” framework (first-timers, repeat offenders, and destroyers), how to enforce boundaries without being rigid or resentful, and why narcissists in particular see your limits as a threat to their control. If you’ve ever had someone use guilt, emotional blackmail, or even faux-concern (“are you okay? you seem unstable…”) to manipulate you into staying small, this conversation is for you.
We also talk about the long-term impact of growing up with a narcissistic parent—including codependency, emotional triggers that don’t match the moment, and why so many adult children end up feeling deeply unknown in their closest relationships.
If you’re ready to shift the dynamic and protect your peace without losing yourself in the process, this episode is a powerful place to start. There’s nothing wrong with you, and it’s not too late to make a change.
Episode Breakdown
00:00 Introduction
02:08 What Healthy Boundaries Actually Are
05:03 Why Boundaries Fail Without Enforcement
08:24 The Three Types of Boundary Offenders
19:02 Why Narcissists React Differently to Boundaries
21:22 Common Manipulation Tactics Narcissists Use
33:15 How Narcissistic Parents Impact Adult Relationships
41:02 Signs You Were Raised by a Narcissistic Parent47:12 Gaslighting, Triangulation, and Emotional Violations
Links
Connect with Terri Cole:
terricole.com/workshop
terricole.com/fatherwound
https://boundarybossbook.com/
https://www.instagram.com/terricole/
Connect with Dr. Jaime Zuckerman:
https://www.drjaimezuckerman.com/
https://www.zgrouptherapy.com/
https://www.instagram.com/dr.z_psychologist/
https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.z_psychologist
https://www.youtube.com/@DrJaimeZuckerman
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Register for my on demand virtual courses here: http://www.drjaimezuckerman.com/workshops
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4 Jul 2025
Episode 56: Trauma and The Fawning Response with Dr. Ingrid Clayton
Clinical psychologist Dr. Ingrid Clayton discusses the misunderstood trauma response of fawning, explaining how it develops as a survival mechanism and impacts relationships in an interview with Dr. Jaime Zuckerman.
20 Jun 2025
Episode 55: On Love and Relationships with Jillian Tureck
Host Dr. Jaime Zuckerman interviews relationship expert Jillian Turecki about understanding unhealthy relationship patterns, recognizing personal worth, and reclaiming power after heartbreak.
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