Nosy With Intent

About Nosy With Intent

Nosy With Intent is a cultural diary disguised as a podcast. It's where media, culture, and society get decoded, dissected, and overanalyzed through a curious lens. Join host Tochi Iruke, a Nigerian-American young woman, and chronic over-thinker, as she unpacks the chaos of pop culture, society, and lets face it, the human condition. One spiral, hot take, and nosy question at a time. A safe place for smart conversations, cultural commentary, comedy and general overthinking.

Publisher

Tochi-Maureen Iruke

Category

society & culture

Language

en

Explicit

Yes

First episode

15 Oct 2025

Latest episode

1 Oct 2026

Latest episodes

16 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   1 Oct 2026

   Back to the Good ol' Days!

   Where the hell did the good ol’ days go? Maybe they never left. Maybe they never existed. Or maybe we’re all just really delusional. For the Season 2 finale, we’re taking a long, messy trip down memory lane from childhood bedrooms and third spaces to Y2K fever dreams, IP slop, doomscrolling, dying monocultures, overpriced cost of living, the media we swear used to sound, look, and was better, and a world that somehow feels more connected and disconnected at the exact same time. The past can be comforting. But maybe she can be a dirty little liar too. And somewhere between romanticizing what was and dreading what’s next, there’s still a present happening right in front of us. So our Nosy Question today is: How do we create something now that will actually be worth being nostalgic for?

2. 

   20 Aug 2026

   So They're Mentally Ill! Now What?!

   SO THEY'RE MENTALLY ILL! NOW WHAT?! We love to say we've gotten better at talking about mental health. We know the language now: trauma, triggers, boundaries, depression, anxiety, healing, therapy. But are we actually more comfortable with mental illness, or are we just more comfortable talking about it? Through Ariana Grande, Anthony Bourdain, Britney Spears, and a few more infamous celebrities part of these conversations, and even some of my own experiences, this episode is about the body, the mind, the soul, the people we become when we're struggling, and the empathy we sometimes struggle to extend when mental illness isn't pretty, palatable, or easy to understand. Maybe we don't always need an answer. Maybe sometimes we need to get a little more comfortable saying three simple words: I don't know. Content note: This episode contains non-graphic discussions of depression, suicidal thoughts, eating disorders, addiction, body image, trauma, and mental illness. Please listen in whatever way feels right for you. 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Call or text 988 for free, confidential crisis support in the U.S. Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 to connect with a trained crisis counselor. SAMHSA National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357) for mental health and substance-use information and treatment referrals. National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA): Eating-disorder screening, treatment directories, and support resources are available through NEDA. If you're struggling, please reach out to a professional or someone you trust. And if somebody comes to you struggling, you don't have to have the perfect thing to say. You don't have to fix them. Sometimes you can just listen. Take care of yourselves. 🤍 — Tochi Resources

3. 

   22 Jul 2026

   Turn Your Brain on Motherf*cker!

   Has your brain been turned off? Has culture become more mediocre... or have we simply forgotten how to criticize it? This week, we're getting nosy about manufactured hype, algorithmic culture, fake virality, critics, and the uncomfortable question asks: have we become too afraid to admit when something is just... average. Using Justin Bieber's polarizing Coachella performance and Vulture's The Feed Is Fake as a jumping off point, we explore how marketing has evolved from selling products to shaping public opinion and why the line between genuine excitement and carefully engineered excitement has never been blurrier. Have our standards for art, music, film, and entertainment shifted? Has criticism become taboo? And in an era of algorithms, AI takeover, outrage cycles, and endless discourse, are we losing our ability to think independently? This isn't a rant against social media or a plea to romanticize the past. It's a conversation about curiosity, discernment, and reclaiming our attention in a world constantly competing for it. So turn that motherf*cking brain on and gear up for an adrenaline filled episode in true Nosy With Intent. Special thanks to Danya Vodovoz, Royalty Free Music and Ross Bugden for providing their beautiful musical scores!

4. 

   27 May 2026

   Ashes to Ashes, Dust to Hollywood (The Last Movie Star)

   Sean Penn declared Jennifer Lawrence as the last true movie star. ✨⭐️ Do you agree with him? When did the last true star fall from the sky? And when did social media kill the movie star altogether? This week on Nosy With Intent, we’re diving into: old hollywood glamour and what rotted beneath those diamonds propaganda & the studio system Tom Cruise, Julia Roberts, Brad Pitt, Denzel Washington, Marilyn Monroe, Audrey Hepburn, and the old Hollywood machine Timothée Chalamet, Zendaya, Florence Pugh, Sydney Sweeney, and modern celebrity culture parasocial relationships, influencers, and the death of monoculture streaming, social media, and why movies no longer dominate culture the same way Hollywood’s dirty laundry beneath the glamour why audiences now demand relatability, morality, and constant access from celebrities Black representation and the shrinking visibility of Black-led media and why creative people increasingly feel forced to build their own tables instead of waiting for permission from the industry itself This episode is part cultural analysis, part old Hollywood obituary, part existential spiral. Fantasy. Desire. Illusion. Reality

5. 

   30 Apr 2026

   Zillennials! The Forgotten Generation....

   What does it mean to grow up between two worlds? In this episode, Tochi explores the in-between generation often overlooked in cultural conversations: Zillennials.  Those born between the mid-90s and early 2000s, who remember life before the internet took over everything… but came of age as it did. From Disney Channel and DVD extras… to Tumblr, early YouTube, and the rise of stan culture, this episode is a cinematic reflection on memory, identity, and the quiet shift from monoculture  to algorithmic isolation. Through personal stories, cultural analysis, and a nostalgic “sleepover quiz” segment, we unpack: The death of monoculture Why nostalgia feels stronger than ever The cultural disconnect between Millennials and Gen Z The evolution of the internet The loneliness, identity confusion, and pressure of modern adulthood And what it really means to exist in the middle of everything This is not a generation vs. generation episode. It’s about memory. It’s about longing. It’s about trying to figure out who you are… while the world keeps changing around you. If you’ve ever felt too young for one thing and too old for another, this one’s for you. Stay calm. Stay curious. Stay nosy. (SPECIAL THANKS TO ROSS BUGDEN FOR ELEVATING THIS EPISODE WITH HIS BEAUTIFUL MUSICAL SCORE .)

6. 

   12 Mar 2026

   Nostalgia Alley: The Illuminati Needs a Comeback

   Ah yes. The late 2000s and early 2010s.Triangles everywhere. Reversed songs. Music videos decoded. When every pop star, politician, and even the Pope himself was apparently part of some satanic triangle. The Illuminati craze was the late 2000s/early 2010s version of satanic panic. But conspiracy theories aside… pop culture was actually fun! If the Illuminati really was running things back then…..maybe it’s time for them to clock back in. Let’s take a walk down nostalgia lane and revisit a time that didn’t quite feel real, yet somehow still was.Some history, some origins, the past, the present, lots of laughs, lots of fun, and a whole lotta shee-it talking. 😉 Out on all platforms now 🎤 Timestamps: Introduction (4:40) - Tochi's Opening Ritual History of the Illuminati and Satanic Panic (9:43) - Adam Weishaupt and the organization's origins in 1776 The Illuminati in Popular Culture (19:01) - How it evolved into modern conspiracy theories Beyoncé, Jay Z and the Illuminati Craze (23:22) - Single Ladies, symbolism, and the peak of the conspiracy era Other Artists Address the Allegations (53:38) - How celebrities responded to accusations The Boring State of The Music Industry Today (1:03:41) - Reflections on current mainstream music Modern Conspiracy Culture (1:36:39) - How conspiracy thinking has evolved today Conclusion and a Plea for a Comeback(1:50:26) - Final thoughts and closing

7. 

   25 Feb 2026

   In My (?) Era..... (A Brain Dump)

   This week is a little different. A little more stripped down. A little more personal. But not too bare-cheeked. Just like...half the crack. You'd have to take me to dinner first! No big production. No tight structure. Just me, my thoughts, and a semi-hinged existential spiral.

8. 

   12 Feb 2026

   Sex? In This Economy?!

   This is not an episode about sex. At least not in the way you’re thinking of. But we do talk about sex. Does that make you uncomfortable? Does that make you shift? Or does it make you perk up a little bit? Why does this three-letter word still make people shift in their seats? Why does this topic still evoke shame, spectacle, and taboo, no matter the generation? We’ll talk about power, purity culture, hookup culture, the patriarchy, porn, panic, the movies, television, social media, the overall dynamics as a whole that play into the media we consume, and this never-ending weird cultural ferris wheel we keep riding when it comes to sex. And maybbeeeee… a few embarrassing personal experiences of my own sprinkled in between. A very loaded topic, confined into an hour and some change: We unpack at least some of it to give us a better explanation as to why discussing this topic still feels wrong. This is not an attempt to be vulgar for the sake of vulgarity. Nor is it a TED Talk. We are here to have honest adult conversations. Expect history. Expect pop culture. Musical lyrics sprinkled all throughout (can you catch it? 😉). Expect a few laughs, discomfort, and pure raw (no pun intended) honesty. Let's unrot our brains together bestie. The Field. Intro. (1:18) Act One: Memories and the Cracks in Between (8:25) Learning About Sex Through Pop Culture (8:44) Cable Television & Sanitized Sex (10:34) Personal Story: Teenage Ignorance (17:27) Music & Euphemisms (23:10) Act Two: Past, Present, and Everything in Between (25:29) Sexual Violence Throughout History (26:05) Sex Strikes & Women's Power (31:53) Old Hollywood & The Hays Code (37:20) Act Three: The Modern Contradiction (47:41) Gen Z & Conservative Shift (49:23) Madonna & Sexual Liberation in Pop Music (54:28) Gen Z's Sexual Recession (57:52) The Performative Lens of Sex (1:01:38) Consent vs. Ambiguity (1:05:30) Act Four: Media and Moral Panic (1:07:01) Gen Z Survey Results (1:08:20) Reddit Discussion on Prudishness (1:12:05) Art Should Make You Uncomfortable (1:18:48) Problematic Assault Scenes in Film (1:22:48) Language & Sanitization (1:30:29) Violent Language Around Sex (1:32:26) Hookup Culture & Lack of Care (1:34:58) The Finale: Personal Reflections (1:37:10)Closing Thoughts & Valentine's Day Message (1:45:13)

9. 

   28 Jan 2026

   "Poor Little Rich Kid"

   Nepo babies. Going no-contact with your family. Eat the Rich. Projection. In this episode, we unpack the “poor little rich kid” discourse through pop culture moments, a little Oprah-esque friendly psychology, and some uncomfortable truths the internet hates to hear. Disclaimer: This episode may have bits and bobs of sympathy for the devil. AKA. A rich person. Listener discretion advised.

10. 

    14 Jan 2026

    First Date Idea...Men & Therapy!

    Oh hello there. Happy New Year. Let’s talk. I watched Marty Supreme over my holiday break. And as I left the theater to have my usual post-movie debrief with myself, the spirit of Carrie Bradshaw jumped into me ... and I couldn’t help but wonder ... is it time to boycott men in film until we figure this shit out? In the first very nosy episode of 2026, I yap about the repetitive men-in-film stories audiences love, hate, coddle, excuse, and mythologize. From Marty Supreme and The Wolf of Wall Street to Breaking Bad and Whiplash to the tween/teen media that raised us. We talk about antiheroes/antiheroines, female rage vs. male coming-of-age moments, why male chaos gets poeticized and intellectualized while women get villainized, and why “it’s not that deep” only applies when men are at the forefront. Amusing, unhinged, immersive, raunchy (maybe don’t play this with your kid in the room), and in true Nosy With Intent fashion: introspective. 😉 Stay calm, curious, and collected! Featuring special guest appearances by: Mr. Alpha Male Camp Recruiter Mr. Hypothetical Mr. Pivoter Mr. “It’s Not That Deep” Mr. “It Doesn't Apply to Me"

11. 

    31 Dec 2025

    To Be Cringe is To Be Free Baby!

    As we wrap up 2025, we explore how our culture shifted from wacky, tacky, maximalist fun to today’s landscape of cringe, where caring is embarrassing, nonchalance is currency, and fear of judgment quietly keeps us small. This episode digs into cringe culture, performance, and the ways we abandon ourselves just to avoid being seen trying from a pop culture lens. If you’ve ever cared too much, tried publicly, or felt the urge to disappear before you even began , this one’s for you baby. Be cringe. Be free! Happy New Year!

12. 

    20 Nov 2025

    Nostalgia Alley: The Lost Art of DVD Extras!

    Choose your year: 2002, 2004, 2005, or 2007. You're rummaging through your DVDs deciding, what movie you'll indulge in for the day. The menu button is on a constant loop. Will you watch bloopers, commentary tracks, cast interviews, and hours of behind-the-scenes magic? Or are you playing an interactive game or watching the music videos? This episode, we're taking a walk down Nostalgia Alley. (Our host's regular hangout spout) and we're going back to the era where DVD extras were sacred, chaotic, educational little treasure chests for nosy kids like you and me and let the host spiral about how she will NEVER forgive studios for hiding behind the streaming machine and the death of investment in physical media. And why the death of DVD extras low-key killed our media literacy, but also our empathy. And maybe, a behind the scenes look into the podcast itself right there alongside our host. Press play, sit back, and relive the golden age of pop culture with our host ! The menu screen is right there

13. 

    29 Oct 2025

    Saved By Jesus, Sucker For the Grim Reaper

    Join host, Tochi Iruke as she confesses her sins, unpacks her religious guilt, rants about her love of the fall-o-ween pop culture that raised her, and a nostalgic whimsical love letter to her inner child and every other person out there out that needs a cardigan of love wrapped around them. All seeped in autumn flavored goodness. Suppression. Rebellion. Freedom. 00:17 - Confession Booth Cold Open 02:50 - Introduction & Episode Overview 06:17 - Growing Up Without Halloween 12:30 - The Origins of Halloween 21:23 - Falloween Pop Culture that Raised Me 43:04 - Easy-Breezy-Beautiful Autumn Girl 45:31 - Reclaiming Joy & Healing Inner Child 54:50 - Quirky Black Girl Joy 1:04:39 - Final Thoughts 1:10:12 - 1800-Saved By Jesus Hotline https://linktr.ee/nosywithintent

14. 

    15 Oct 2025

    Break Up with Your Celebrity Crush and Go on a Real Date Part 2

    In Part 2 we spiral a little bit deeper. A rant about modern crush culture evolves into a reflection on loneliness, disconnection, and the fear of real intimacy. Tochi Iruke unpacks why it’s easier to romanticize loneliness, and how embracing community might be the boldest action of them all! https://linktr.ee/nosywithintent (https://linktr.ee/nosywithintent)

15. 

    15 Oct 2025

    Break Up With Your Celebrity Crush and Go on a Real Date Part 1

    You’re not in love, babe , you just need to go outside. Have you ever romanticized someone you’ve never met? Same. In Part 1 of this episode, get cozy, and join Tochi while she unpacks our youth's collective crush delusions, internet boyfriends, celebrity worship, and why falling for a fantasy feels safer than flirting in real life https://linktr.ee/nosywithintent (https://linktr.ee/nosywithintent)

16. 

    15 Oct 2025

    Introducing Myself

    Welcome to Nosy With Intent ! Where media, culture, and society get picked apart through a curious, chaotic, and deeply nosy lens. In this intro, host Tochi Iruke introduces herself and sets the tone for what’s to come: smart spirals, cultural commentary, hot takes, and a small dose of healthy overthinking. And if you're feeling even more nosy, don't forget to keep up with here here: https://linktr.ee/nosywithintent

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Apple Podcasts (US)

5.0 / 5

5 ratings

Spotify

5.0 / 5

12 ratings