Overachiever Recovery

About Overachiever Recovery

You wake up already exhausted. You snap at your kids before school, say yes to things you don't have capacity for, send perfectly professional emails while your jaw is clenched — and by the time you get home, your family isn't getting your best. They're getting what's left. You've tried therapy, but you're tired of rehashing the same things for months without anything actually changing. You've tried setting boundaries, but guilt floods in the second you see their face. You've tried self-care routines and time management hacks, but nothing sticks — because the deeper issue isn't your schedule.

Publisher

Dasha

Category

health & fitness

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

10 Mar 2026

Latest episode

21 Oct 2026

Latest episodes

12 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   21 Oct 2026

   Perfectionism: Why Asking for Help Feels Like Failure

   You reread the email ten times. You need help, but you handle it yourself. And one missed appointment leaves you wondering how you could have let it happen. When you're used to being the capable one, a mistake can feel like evidence that something is wrong with you. You replay it, talk to yourself harshly, and work harder to make sure it doesn't happen again. Your self worth has become tied to how well you hold everything together. I know this pattern because I lived it. In corporate law, I measured myself through performance and comparison: who could work harder, handle more, and keep going without cracking. When I moved into training as a therapist, I found myself surrounded by supportive mentors who welcomed mistakes as opportunities to learn. I was completely lost. Without the competition, I didn't know who I was. Perfectionism can make being human feel dangerous. If you're wondering how to stop being a perfectionist, start by noticing what you're protecting when you won't acknowledge that you need support. Recovery means making room for mistakes, rest, and other people's disappointment while staying connected to your ambition. You can pursue excellence because you're capable and talented, without making every achievement a test of whether you deserve love and respect. Key Topics The identity of being capable and self-sufficient Why small mistakes trigger disproportionate shame Performance, comparison, and self worth Asking for support without seeing yourself as weak Ambition beyond proving yourself “Who would I be if I didn't have to be so perfect and invulnerable anymore?” How to Be Strong AND Ask for Help If acknowledging your needs feels like admitting weakness, How to Be Strong AND Ask for Help ($47) (https://coachingbydasha.thrivecart.com/how-to-ask-for-help/) helps you recognize those needs and make specific requests instead of expecting yourself to handle everything. Connect with Dasha Website (https://www.coachingbydasha.com/) | YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIkg-g7g3VB3DF3-lLmZyng) | Pinterest (https://www.pinterest.com/coachingbydasha/)

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   14 Oct 2026

   Trying to Ignore Anxiety? That’s What’s Draining You

   Your stomach knots up, your chest feels tight, and you keep working. How much energy are you spending trying not to feel what’s there? Successful women often respond to anxiety by doing more. Work harder. Prepare longer. Take on another responsibility so nobody has a reason to be disappointed. But that effort can leave you exhausted before the day even starts. Suppressing what you feel adds to emotional exhaustion without addressing what’s underneath. I used to have a constant knot in my stomach around a senior partner at work. I assumed I wasn’t performing well enough, so I doubled down. When I paid attention, I recognized an old pattern of people pleasing. I was trying to earn his approval while ignoring how small I felt around him. Speaking up changed how I handled our interactions. Anxiety can point to something that needs your attention: a limit you haven’t communicated, a decision that conflicts with your values, or a conversation you’re avoiding. Sometimes you need more preparation. Sometimes you need to stop saying yes. This week, when anxiety shows up, ask yourself what it’s here to tell you. Key Topics: The energy cost of suppressing anxiety Approval-seeking and overcommitting at work Anxiety as information about your needs and values Speaking up when staying quiet costs you “When you work hard to ignore anxiety, it drains your energy. When you listen to it, it can help protect your energy.” A Next Step If you recognize yourself staying quiet or going along with something that doesn’t work for you, join my free “Don’t Just Let Them” 7-Day Challenge (https://www.coachingbydasha.com/dont-just-let-them). We’ll go beyond “just let them” advice and focus on what you can change in your own response. Connect with Dasha Website (https://www.coachingbydasha.com/) · YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIkg-g7g3VB3DF3-lLmZyng) · Pinterest (https://www.pinterest.com/coachingbydasha/)

3. 

   21 Sept 2026

   Why Success Doesn’t Fix Your Self-Worth

   You hit the goal. The promotion, the title, the life you said you wanted. And then you woke up and felt nothing. So many capable, successful women hit a milestone expecting pride and get flatness instead. Not because they're ungrateful, and not because the win wasn't big enough. It's because self worth was never something achievement could hold in the first place. In this episode, Dasha traces where that gap actually starts. For a lot of women, feeling good about yourself was never handed to you. It had to be earned, through approval, through being needed, through doing things right. So achievement became the stand-in. It works for a moment, gives a quick lift, and then resets. You finish one thing and you're already looking for the next, which is why so many high achievers describe their own life as looking good from the outside while feeling like nothing on the inside. The shift Dasha teaches isn't about wanting less or doing less. It's about learning to say "I matter" without an achievement attached to it, and separating ambition from worth instead of using one to prove the other. That distinction is harder to actually live than it sounds, and this episode walks through exactly why. Key Topics: The hollow feeling that shows up after a big win Where self worth gets tied to achievement in the first place Why overachievers move on before a win has a chance to land What it actually means to separate ambition from worth Learning to feel worthy without earning it first Signature Quotes: "I don't have to justify my place here. I don't need another achievement to be allowed to feel okay." "I matter simply because I exist as a human being." Ready to stop needing the next achievement to feel okay? This episode is the start of the work. Learning to Love Yourself: A 15-Day Journey (https://coachingbydasha.thrivecart.com/learning-to-love-yourself/) is where it becomes practice, fifteen days built around one thing: feeling worthy without earning it first. Connect with Dasha: Website (https://www.coachingbydasha.com/) | YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIkg-g7g3VB3DF3-lLmZyng) | Pinterest (https://www.pinterest.com/coachingbydasha/)

4. 

   14 Sept 2026

   Why You People-Please (Even When You Know Better)

   You rehearsed the words. You said them. Then you saw their face, and you caved. If that's happened to you more times than you can count, you're not bad at setting boundaries. You're a recovering good girl, and most of us are one. Somewhere along the way, saying yes got tangled up with being lovable. So you gave when you were empty, showed up when you needed rest, and told yourself it was kindness. It wasn't. It was fear, dressed up as being a good friend, a good employee, a good daughter. Dasha walks through the real diagnostic behind people pleasing: guilt versus self-interest. Guilt sounds like I should and they'll be upset with me. Self-interest sounds like this isn't aligned with my values or I don't have the bandwidth right now. That one distinction changes which choices you actually get to make. She shares scripts for how to say no at work, with family, and with friends, and gets honest about the part nobody prepares you for: the pushback. The guilt trip. The "you've changed." Your job isn't to make that feeling disappear. It's to hold your line while it's happening. People pleasing isn't a personality trait. It's a pattern you can unlearn, one uncomfortable boundary at a time. Key Topics The difference between guilt and healthy self-interest Why people pleasing isn't kindness, it's fear of rejection Boundary scripts for work, family, and friends What to expect when people push back on a new limit Tolerating guilt without abandoning the boundary Signature Quote "If your boundaries feel mean at first, you're probably doing them right." Next Step Guilt isn't proof you did something wrong. It's proof you broke someone else's rules. If you want help sorting out where your guilt is actually coming from, The Truth About Guilt (https://coachingbydasha.thrivecart.com/the-truth-about-guilt/) walks you through it. Connect with Dasha Website: coachingbydasha.com (https://www.coachingbydasha.com/) YouTube: Coaching by Dasha (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIkg-g7g3VB3DF3-lLmZyng) Pinterest: Coaching by Dasha (https://www.pinterest.com/coachingbydasha/)

5. 

   16 Apr 2026

   You're Grateful. You're Also Miserable. Both Can Be True.

   You've built the life you were supposed to want. Good partner, good career, healthy kids. So why does it feel flat? This is the question successful but unhappy women rarely let themselves ask out loud. Because asking feels like ingratitude. And for women raised to be good girls, ungrateful is just about the worst thing you can be. But gratitude and desire are not opposites. You can be genuinely thankful for everything you have and still feel a persistent ache for something more. That ache isn't a character flaw. It's information. It's telling you that your inner world is ready to evolve, even if your outer world hasn't caught up yet. Dasha shares the story of a client who would scroll Instagram late at night and see women launching creative projects, traveling solo, doing things that felt alive. And she would feel it, that pull, followed immediately by the shame spiral: who am I to want more when I already have so much? That's not ingratitude. That's what happens when you've been measuring success by boxes checked instead of by how you actually feel inside. Three truths worth sitting with: enough is a moving target, not a finish line; desire isn't greedy, it's the signal that there's more of you to express; and the exhaustion behind your achievements isn't ambition. It's years of over-functioning to prove you deserve to be here at all. Key Topics: Why "I should be happy" keeps you stuck in a life that doesn't feel like yours The shame that comes with wanting more when your life already looks good on paper How the "good girl" rulebook turns desire into something to hide Why gratitude and wanting more aren't in conflict The difference between achieving to prove your worth and living from it "Gratitude grounds you. Desire expands you." If this episode put words to something you've felt but couldn't say, Learning to Love Yourself: A 15-Day Journey (https://coachingbydasha.thrivecart.com/learning-to-love-yourself/) is the next step. Over 15 days, you'll work through the beliefs that keep you earning your place instead of simply occupying it. This is the practical, structured version of everything Dasha talked about today. $17. Connect with Dasha: Website: coachingbydasha.com (https://www.coachingbydasha.com/) LinkedIn: Dasha Tcherniakovskaia (https://www.linkedin.com/in/dashat/)

6. 

   7 Apr 2026

   You Forgave Them. So Why Are You Still Resentful?

   You said the words. You told yourself to let it go. But you're still replaying that conversation at 2am, still feeling the burn of something that isn't moving. That's not a healing problem. That's what happens when we swap real processing for forced positivity and call it growth. Overachievers are especially susceptible to this. We're drawn to the idea of being high vibe, conscious, healed. So when something bothers us, we talk ourselves out of the feeling before we've even understood it. We forgive before we've processed the harm. We say "it's fine" when it isn't. And then we wonder why we're still resentful months later. Here's what I want you to hear: resentment isn't low vibe. It's information. It's your nervous system flagging that something mattered and wasn't honored. The goal isn't to get over it faster. The goal is to understand what it's actually telling you, so you can stop giving your power away in the same situation again. In this episode I walk through three questions I use with myself and my clients when something feels off. Not to process your feelings in circles, but to move from "this happened to me" to "here's what I'm doing differently now." That shift is the difference between staying stuck and stepping back into your own life. Key Topics: Why "good vibes only" culture keeps you feeling stuck long-term What resentment is actually trying to tell you (and why suppressing it doesn't work) The difference between forgiving too fast and genuinely processing something How replaying conversations in your head signals unmet needs, not weakness Using your emotions as data to stop people-pleasing on autopilot "Resentment doesn't vanish because you tell yourself to rise above. It lingers because it has a message." If this episode hit close to home, Dasha's free toolkit Stop Bottling Up Your Feelings is a practical starting point for anyone who's spent years pushing feelings down to keep the peace. It walks you through what emotional suppression actually costs you and gives you concrete tools to start expressing what's real without blowing everything up. Access it here. (https://www.coachingbydasha.com/stop-bottling-up-your-feelings) Connect with Dasha: Website: coachingbydasha.com (https://www.coachingbydasha.com/) LinkedIn: Dasha Tcherniakovskaia (https://www.linkedin.com/in/dashat/)

7. 

   31 Mar 2026

   5: You Can't Relax. That's Not a Personality Trait.

   You can't slow down. Not really. Even when nothing is on fire, your body stays braced for it. You go on vacation and pack it full of activities. You come home more exhausted than when you left. You eat fast, walk fast, move through your days like something is always about to go wrong if you stop. And when someone suggests you just rest, something in you resists so hard it almost feels like offense. That's not ambition. That's your nervous system doing exactly what it learned to do. Most overachievers didn't choose the pace they're running at. They learned that staying busy kept them safe. That being useful, responsible, and on top of everything was how love worked. That stillness, in the homes they grew up in, wasn't peaceful. It was loaded. And so your body learned to fill it. What looks like productivity from the outside is often something quieter on the inside: the fear that if you stop moving, something will fall apart. That if you're not doing enough, you are not enough. Slowing down doesn't feel lazy. It feels like a threat. Dasha shares what it actually looks like to start unwinding this — without slamming on the brakes and sending your nervous system into revolt. The goal isn't stillness. It's safety. And that gets built in 5% increments. Key Topics: Why your body treats calm like a warning signal How childhood environments wire the nervous system for overdrive The identity cost of letting go of being "the one who handles everything" Why rest doesn't feel restful — and what's actually going on What slowing down by 5% looks like in practice "If your life collapses because you paused, it wasn't an authentic life. It was a performance designed to keep someone else comfortable." If this episode hit close to home, Stop Running on Empty (https://coachingbydasha.thrivecart.com/empty/) is the next step. It's built for overachievers who know they're depleted but don't know where the drain is actually coming from. Connect with Dasha: coachingbydasha.com (https://www.coachingbydasha.com/) | LinkedIn (https://www.linkedin.com/in/dashat/)

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   24 Mar 2026

   4: Everyone Relies on You. Nobody Checks on You.

   Everyone Relies on You. Nobody Checks on You. You're the one who remembers everything, notices everything, holds everything together. And somehow, you're also the one nobody thinks to ask about. You're the person who senses tension the second you walk into a room. The one who smooths things over before anyone else realizes something was wrong. At work, you see the problem before it becomes one. At home, you're the one holding it together when everyone else falls apart. In friendships, you're the listener, the helper, the steady one. And you go home at night feeling completely depleted. And a little invisible. Most women who end up carrying this role didn't choose it. It started early — as a survival strategy. Maybe you were the easy child, the one who didn't make waves. Maybe you grew up around adults who couldn't regulate themselves, so you learned to read the room and adjust yourself before anything could blow up. Over time, that strategy became your identity. Being responsible bought you appreciation. Being useful bought you love. Being the strong one bought you a sense of belonging. So by the time you're an adult, you're not just managing tasks. You're managing emotions, expectations, and other people's comfort — often without realizing it. Here's what that costs. Responsibility without limits turns into resentment. Depletion that isn't just physical — it's that bone-deep tiredness where everything feels like too much. And a slow loss of self, because when you're always scanning for what everyone else needs, you stop knowing what you want. The hardest part to say out loud: when you're always the one holding everything together, no one holds you. Key Topics: How the "responsible one" role gets assigned in childhood — and why it sticks The hidden cost of managing everyone else's emotions, not just their tasks Why the people who rely on you most are often the least likely to ask if you're okay The difference between being capable and carrying what was never yours Where overfunctioning lives in the body — and where healing starts "When you're always the one holding everything together, no one holds you." If you recognized yourself in this episode, Dasha's free guide Stop Feeling Drained by Other People is a practical place to start — because your biggest energy leak isn't your schedule. It's carrying what isn't yours. Grab it here. (http://coachingbydasha.kit.com/stop-feeling-drained) Connect with Dasha: Website: coachingbydasha.com (https://www.coachingbydasha.com/) LinkedIn: Dasha Tcherniakovskaia (https://www.linkedin.com/in/dashat/)

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   10 Mar 2026

   3: How to Set Boundaries That Don't Push People Away

   How to Set Boundaries That Don't Push People Away You spent years saying yes to everything. You finally learned to say no. So why do your relationships feel worse? As overachievers, we tend to run without boundaries for a long time, saying yes, carrying what isn't ours, pleasing and accommodating until we hit exhaustion and resentment. That's usually when we discover boundaries, and at first they feel life-changing. But sometimes, in the process of protecting ourselves after years of over-giving, our boundaries get rigid. They keep us safe, but they also keep us separate from the people we're actually trying to stay connected to. Dasha sees this constantly in her work with individuals and couples. The popular advice sounds empowering: state your boundary, and if someone crosses it, walk away. "No is a complete sentence." And there's truth in that. But she challenges the idea that boundaries have to be hard lines in the sand. When your partner wants to talk after a fight and you shut down with "my boundary is I need space," it can land like a door slammed in their face. Two people protecting themselves, both more disconnected than before. The better version isn't about enforcement. It's about agreement. It's learning to say "I know my limits, I'm going to take care of myself, and I'm going to consider your needs too." That's not people-pleasing. That's relational strength. You can say no without making someone feel bad for asking. You can honor your limits without guilt and still nurture the relationship. Key topics: When boundaries stop protecting you and start isolating you The difference between rigid boundaries and relational agreements Why "no is a complete sentence" isn't the whole story How to say no with kindness instead of guilt Taking radical responsibility for your needs while staying connected "Your emotional strength isn't just in your boundaries. It's in your ability to stay connected while honoring yourself." If you struggle with guilt every time you say no, download Dasha's free guide Stop Feeling Guilty for Saying No — simple boundary scripts that actually work, plus how to tolerate people's reactions when you use them. Grab it here. (http://coachingbydasha.kit.com/say-no) Connect with Dasha: Website: coachingbydasha.com (https://www.coachingbydasha.com/) LinkedIn: Dasha Tcherniakovskaia (https://www.linkedin.com/in/dashat/)

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    10 Mar 2026

    2: Why You Can't Stop Replaying Every Mistake You've Ever Made

    Why You Can't Stop Replaying Every Mistake You've Ever Made You gave a less-than-perfect answer in a meeting. You sent an email with a typo. And somehow, three years later, you're still cringing about it. High-achieving women are conditioned to believe their worth is tied to their output. One mistake, one imperfect moment, and the spiral kicks in: replaying it on loop, over-apologizing, throwing yourself into a frenzy of productivity just to outrun the shame. You don't just feel disappointed. You feel like it proves something about who you are. Dasha lived this. As a corporate lawyer, a single off-base comment in a group training with a senior partner haunted her for years. Not as a passing memory, but with the same acute mortification as if it had just happened. Her nervous system couldn't tell the difference. Every small imperfection felt like proof she wasn't good enough, and she'd overcompensate, over-apologize, and perform harder just to make sure nobody rejected her. The shift wasn't becoming perfect. It was learning to sit in disappointment without disintegrating into shame. To feel bummed about a mistake without attaching her entire identity to it. That's not a bubble bath version of self-love. It's an unshakable feeling of being okay, even when you mess up. And it changes everything. Key topics: Why high achievers tie their worth to their performance The difference between disappointment and shame spiraling How your nervous system keeps replaying old mistakes as if they're happening now Learning to feel safe in your body even after making a mistake Why self-compassion isn't softness, it's the foundation "I don't need to disintegrate into shame just because I made a mistake anymore. I have learned to feel that I'm still okay even though I made that mistake." If you recognized yourself in this episode, download Dasha's free guide Stop Caring What Other People Think — a practical guide to breaking the approval-seeking cycle so your worth stops living in other people's opinions. Grab it here. (http://coachingbydasha.kit.com/stop-caring) Connect with Dasha: Website: coachingbydasha.com (https://www.coachingbydasha.com/) LinkedIn: Dasha Tcherniakovskaia (https://www.linkedin.com/in/dashat/)

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    10 Mar 2026

    Overachiever Recovery: Welcome to the Podcast | Trailer

    You've built the career. The life. The reputation. You've done everything right. And you still feel flat. Not broken. Not in crisis. Just... off. Like you're going through the motions until retirement. Like you're responsible for everything and everyone, and somewhere along the way you stopped knowing what you actually want. If that's where you are, you've found the right podcast. Welcome to Overachiever Recovery. I'm Dasha Tcherniakovskaia, former corporate lawyer turned transformation coach, and this show is for overachievers who are done surviving their own lives. I work with successful women who feel stuck in the same exhausting cycles: people pleasing, guilt, burnout, overfunctioning, and the quiet dread of "is this all there is?" Women who have tried therapy, read the books, done the journaling, and still can't figure out why nothing actually changes. This isn't surface-level advice. I'm not here to give you scripts, hacks, or a new morning routine. I'm here to get to the root of what's actually keeping you stuck, so you can process the emotional blocks that drive the patterns and start living differently. I've been where you are. I left a high-paying legal career when everyone thought I was out of my mind. But I knew that following someone else's recipe for success was a recipe for burnout. Through my own coaching work, I made real changes, not just externally but internally. And that's what this show is about. Each episode, we go deeper than the symptom. We name what's really happening underneath the exhaustion, the resentment, and the people pleasing, and we figure out what to do about it. If you're ready to stop managing your life and start living it, subscribe now. New episodes drop every week.

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    10 Mar 2026

    1: Is This All There Is? What No One Tells You About Having It All

    Is This All There Is? What No One Tells You About Having It All You've checked every box, hit every milestone, and built a life that looks incredible on paper. So why do you feel hollow? There's a crisis nobody talks about. Not a dramatic breakdown or a life-altering event, but a slow, quiet erosion. You wake up, go through the motions, perform at a high level, and come home feeling nothing. You tell yourself you should be grateful. Other people have real problems. But that ache in your chest won't go away, and no amount of productivity is filling the void. Dasha calls it the invisible crisis of limbo, and she knows it intimately. She sat in a beautiful office, working with big-name clients, every box checked, feeling completely hollow. It wasn't until she read a book by a woman with terminal cancer who regretted never taking a risk that it hit her: she was living someone else's blueprint. College, law school, partnership track. Not a single choice made off the beaten path. This episode is about naming what so many successful women feel but can't articulate. That flat, disconnected feeling isn't a character flaw or ingratitude. It's a signal. And the biggest trap is believing that change has to be dramatic to count. It doesn't. It just has to start. Key topics: The invisible crisis that successful women don't talk about Why gratitude and wanting more can coexist How overachievers use busyness to avoid what they're actually feeling The cost of staying in limbo on your body, relationships, and joy Why nobody is coming to give you permission to change "You're not broken. You're not ungrateful. You're just ready for more." If this episode hit close to home, download Dasha's free guide Stop Settling for "Good Enough" — a clarity worksheet for the woman who knows she wants more, even when her life looks great on paper. Grab it here. (http://coachingbydasha.kit.com/good-enough) Connect with Dasha: Website: coachingbydasha.com (https://www.coachingbydasha.com/) LinkedIn: Dasha Tcherniakovskaia (https://www.linkedin.com/in/dashat/)

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