by Avery the Quiet
<p>AVERY WILL RETURN IN 2025</p><p>Thank you for all of your incredible support while I've navigated many personal challenges and changes in 2024. </p><br><p>Your recovery journey is calling...</p><p>All you have to do is listen.</p><p>📞🌱</p><p>You got this.</p><br><p>Wherever you are on your journey, I would love to hear from you.</p><p><a href="mailto:[email protected]" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">[email protected]</a></p><br><p>Quiet, Not Silent is a podcast dedicated to exploring recovery while living with Borderline Personality Disorder.</p><br><p>I'm Avery (they/them), and I live with quiet (discouraged) BPD. I was diagnosed with BPD in 2019 at 24 years old. After reading about Millon's subtypes, I was finally able to understand the way I had been coping with this mental health condition.</p><br><p>The subtypes have been an effective describing tool for many people with BPD to better explain their own experiences and coping mechanisms. After all, no two people experience BPD the exact same way.</p><br><p>Since 2021, I've been compelled to break the silence that stigma traps us in, and speak up on my experiences with this hidden subtype.</p><p>So, here I am: <strong>quiet, not silent.</strong></p><br><p>Follow my IG for updates: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/averythequiet/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@averythequiet</a></p><p>More info: <a href="https://averythequiet.carrd.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">averythequiet.carrd.co</a></p><br><p>xx atq</p><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>
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May 2, 2024
<p><em>CW: Mentions of DV, Assault, Body Shaming</em></p><br><p>EMDR is going to be very, very hard for me to do. And I know I can f*cking do it.</p><p>This is what trauma does, though. It breaks you into pieces.</p><p>I needed to let myself break, instead of absorbing it all and eroding slowly into dust.</p><p>And I can put myself back together, perfectly imperfect.</p><p>This is <em>The Art of Falling Apart.</em></p><br><p>Four years ago, during the first year of the pandemic, I became a victim of intimate partner violence. In order to survive and cope with the ongoing abuse, I suppressed my emotions and memories, and denied my reality. Finally, after leaving in December 2020, I began my journey of healing - and part of this journey involved content creation and community. In the years that followed, I was not yet in a stable enough place, emotionally, to be confident that I could handle EMDR. Now, after completing DBT, building my support system, and taking my time coming to terms with various traumas from the past, I am finally in a position to try.</p><br><p>Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a psychotherapy approach aimed at alleviating distress associated with traumatic memories. We can process these memories using bilateral stimulation, such as eye movements, taps, or sounds.</p><br><p>I recorded this voice note before going to bed after doing an Assessment Phase of EMDR that day. Here's how it worked:</p><ul><li>Assessment: We went into my personal history, current symptoms, and trauma experiences. This is to help my therapist have a look at my unique needs, triggers, and areas of distress. We talked about specific memories that were especially coming up for me and causing problems for me. We then talked about my particular goals with EMDR.</li><li>Target Memories: We talked about some of my specific memories that are causing me distress. These memories are really emotionally charged, recurrent, and have a significant impact on my functioning and specifically my self-worth.</li><li>Distress Levels: My therapist asked me to rate the level of distress associated with each memory. For her, this helps to prioritize which memories to address first and provides a baseline for tracking progress.</li><li>The Container: We went through a visualization exercise with me in order to bring me back to the present and manage my difficult emotions after.</li></ul><p><br></p><p>Need a DBT Skill?<a href="https://www.therahive.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> DBT Pocket Guide</a></p><br><p>[ s o c i a l s ]</p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/averythequiet/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">INSTAGRAM</a> |<a href="https://patreon.com/user?u=49086445&utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=join_link" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> PATREON</a></p><p><a href="https://averythequiet.carrd.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">averythequiet.carrd.co</a></p><p>SHOP:<a href="https://heartandsleeve.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> Heart & Sleeve Co.</a></p><br><p>[ d i s c o r d ]</p><p><a href="https://discord.gg/quietbpd" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">The Quiet BPD Keep</a> is a recovery-focused community that offers daily affirmations, tarot readings, self-care reminders, DBT skills, books and resources, and more. Age 18+, LGBTQ+ and 420 friendly.</p><br><p>[ c r e d i t s ]</p><p>Recorded with: Podcastle</p><p>Music by: ODDBAHL • Lunareh • Out of Flux</p><br><p>[ d i s c l a i m e r ]</p><p>My content is meant for educational purposes only and is not a replacement for professional clinical advice, diagnosis, or therapy.</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>
April 9, 2024
<p>Content Warning: Discussion of Self H*rm</p><br><p>Behaviorism is a scientific approach in psychology that focuses on the study of observable behaviors rather than people’s internal mental processes. The reason it's good to consider Behaviorism when learning about Interpersonal Effectiveness, is because it's helpful for us to understand how to reinforce the behaviour we want to see in ourselves and in others, and to make sure we're conscious of the ways we might be reinforcing unwanted behaviours without realizing. </p><br><p>In this episode, I’ll go over my reflections on the FINAL WEEK of the course, including:</p><ul><li>What is Classical and Operant Conditioning?</li><li>What is Positive and Negative Reinforcement?</li><li>Why do we need to reinforce behavior when people should just know it's the right thing to do?</li><li>What is the difference between Continuous and Intermittent Reinforcement?</li><li>Are we reinforcing other people's behaviour without even realizing it?</li><li>What is the difference between Positive and Negative Punishment?</li><li>Why isn't punishment effective in eliminating behaviours in the long term?</li><li><a href="https://heartandsleeve.co/products/microhabit-tracker-30-days" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">MICROHABIT TRACKERS</a>: Reinforcing your own behavior</li></ul><p><br></p><p>Thank you to Roland, Alicia, Jesse, and the TheraHive team for collaborating with me and allowing me to try out this course!</p><br><p><a href="https://www.patreon.com/averythequiet" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">QUIET BPD PATREON</a> | TYSM to my wonderful patrons:</p><p>Christian • Steph • Winter Peach • Ashley Marie • Tom • Mimi • Kristen • Bjorn • Laura • Sierra • Bree • Ruxia</p><p>Your support helps me to keep going. <3</p><br><p>[ m o r e ]</p><p>TheraHive: <a href="https://www.therahive.com/dbt-course-details" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">DBT Skills Group, Course Info</a></p><p>Need a DBT Skill?<a href="https://www.therahive.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> DBT Pocket Guide</a></p><p><a href="https://www.therahive.com/blog/dr-jesse-finkelstein-joins-quiet-not-silent-recovering-with-bpd-to-share-insights-on-dbt" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Blog Post: Dr. Jesse Finkelstein Joins 'Quiet, Not Silent' podcast to Share Insights on DBT</a></p><br><p>[ s o c i a l s ]</p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/averythequiet/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">INSTAGRAM</a> |<a href="https://patreon.com/user?u=49086445&utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=join_link" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> PATREON</a></p><p><a href="https://averythequiet.carrd.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">averythequiet.carrd.co</a></p><p>SHOP: <a href="https://heartandsleeve.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Heart & Sleeve Co.</a></p><br><p>[ d i s c o r d ]</p><p><a href="https://discord.gg/quietbpd" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">The Quiet BPD Keep</a> is a recovery-focused community with daily affirmations, tarot readings, DBT skills, books and resources, and more. Age 18+, LGBTQ+ and 420 friendly.</p><br><p>[ c r e d i t s ]</p><p>Music by: ODDBAHL • Lunareh • Out of Flux</p><br><p>[ d i s c l a i m e r ]</p><p>My content is meant for educational purposes only and is not a replacement for professional clinical advice, diagnosis, or therapy.</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>
March 26, 2024
<p>In Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT), the fourth and final module - known as Interpersonal Effectiveness - teaches you skills to communicate effectively, set boundaries, and maintain relationships while achieving your personal goals. If you'd like to take <a href="https://www.therahive.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">this exact course</a>, here's a 25% discount code you can use on your deposit - just cause you listen to my pod. (QUIETBPD25)</p><br><p>Many people with BPD have a tendency to think in polarized ways, referred to as black and white thinking, or “splitting”, in the sense that you’re split right down the middle and can only think on one side or the other - no in-between. In our relationships, we often subconsciously engage in idealization and devaluation: coping responses to a fear of abandonment.</p><br><p>This week is all about Dialectics: the foundation of DBT. Dialectics refer to the concept that two opposing things can BOTH be true at the same time. That there is no one OR the other. That there is instead, a Yes, AND.</p><br><p>Thank you to Roland, Alicia, Jesse, and the TheraHive team for having me try out this course!</p><br><p>P.S. The first Patreon BPD n CHILL WAS AMAZING!! Thanks for coming! The full hour is now on Patreon. And if you missed this one... <a href="https://patreon.com/averythequiet" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">You're invited to the next one!</a> <3</p><br><p>TYSM to my wonderful patrons:</p><p>Christian • Steph • Winter Peach • Ashley Marie • Tom • Kristen • Mimi • Bjørn • Pluto • Laura • Ruxia • Bree</p><p>Your support helps me to keep going. <3</p><br><p>[ m o r e ]</p><p>TheraHive: <a href="https://www.therahive.com/dbt-course-details" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">DBT Skills Group, Course Info</a></p><p>Need a DBT Skill?<a href="https://www.therahive.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> DBT Pocket Guide</a></p><p><a href="https://www.therahive.com/blog/dr-jesse-finkelstein-joins-quiet-not-silent-recovering-with-bpd-to-share-insights-on-dbt" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Blog Post: Dr. Jesse Finkelstein Joins 'Quiet, Not Silent' podcast to Share Insights on DBT</a></p><br><p>[ s o c i a l s ]</p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/averythequiet/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">INSTAGRAM</a> |<a href="https://patreon.com/user?u=49086445&utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=join_link" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> PATREON</a></p><p><a href="https://averythequiet.carrd.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">averythequiet.carrd.co</a></p><p>SHOP: <a href="https://heartandsleeve.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Heart & Sleeve Co.</a></p><br><p>[ d i s c o r d ]</p><p><a href="https://discord.gg/quietbpd" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">The Quiet BPD Keep</a> is a recovery-focused community that offers daily affirmations, tarot readings, self-care reminders, DBT skills, books and resources, and more. Age 18+, LGBTQ+ and 420 friendly.</p><br><p>[ c r e d i t s ]</p><p>Music by: ODDBAHL • Lunareh • Out of Flux</p><br><p>[ d i s c l a i m e r ]</p><p>My content is meant for educational purposes only and is not a replacement for professional clinical advice, diagnosis, or therapy.</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>
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