Raised on Shame is a trauma-informed podcast about unlearning shame-based beliefs rooted in faith, purity culture, and high-control systems. Hosted by Licensed Mental Health Counselor and EMDR therapist Kimberly Wilder, the show explores how shame shapes identity, relationships, bodies, and choice. This is not about abandoning faith, it’s about reclaiming agency, voice, and self-trust. You decide what comes next.
Raised on Shame
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Raised on Shame is a trauma-informed podcast about unlearning shame-based beliefs rooted in faith, purity culture, and high-control systems. Hosted by Licensed Mental Health Counselor and EMDR therapist Kimberly Wilder, the show explores how shame shapes identity, relationships, bodies, and choice. This is not about abandoning faith, it’s about reclaiming agency, voice, and self-trust. You decide what comes next.
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May 19, 2026
There Are No Wrong Answers
<p><strong>There Are No Wrong Answers</strong></p><p>Consent, God, and ASMR: Raised on Shame, Kids Edition <br></p><p><strong>Season One Finale</strong></p><p>In this special Mother’s Day season finale of Raised on Shame, Kimberly sits down with her daughters for tea, questions, giggles, and an unscripted conversation about God, love, shame, consent, death, boundaries, curiosity, and the questions adults are sometimes afraid to answer.</p><p>Together, they explore:</p><ul><li><p>what love feels like</p></li><li><p>whether grownups know everything</p></li><li><p>what consent means</p></li><li><p>what shame feels like</p></li><li><p>what happens after people die</p></li><li><p>why asking questions matters</p></li><li><p>and what it sounds like when children are allowed to think out loud without fear</p></li></ul><p>This episode is messy, funny, thoughtful, philosophical, tender, distracting, sincere, and deeply human.</p><p><strong>Topics discussed include:</strong></p><ul><li><p>emotional safety</p></li><li><p>shame-free parenting</p></li><li><p>spirituality and faith</p></li></ul><ul><li><p>bodily autonomy</p></li><li><p>consent and boundaries</p></li><li><p>grief and death</p></li><li><p>childhood curiosity</p></li><li><p>raising children without fear-based conversations</p></li></ul><p><strong>Books & Resources Mentioned</strong></p><ul><li><p>Let’s Talk About Body Boundaries, Consent and Respect<br>A children’s book focused on body ownership, consent, respectful relationships, boundaries, and emotional safety.<br><a href="https://midtownreader.com/book/9781925089189?utm_source=chatgpt.com">Midtown Reader</a></p></li><li><p>Amazing You!: Getting Smart About Your Private Parts<br>A body-awareness book for young children focused on anatomy, privacy, boundaries, and age-appropriate conversations about bodies.<br><a href="https://midtownreader.com/book/9780142410585?utm_source=chatgpt.com">Midtown Reader</a></p></li></ul><p><strong>Listener Reflection</strong></p><p>Take a quiet moment sometime this week and ask yourself:</p><p>“What questions was I afraid to ask as a child?”</p><p>Or:</p><p>“What parts of myself learned that curiosity was unsafe?”</p><p>You do not have to solve those questions.<br>Just notice them.</p><p>And if you have children in your life, maybe ask them a real question and let their answer exist without correcting it.</p><p><strong>If this episode resonated with you:</strong></p><ul><li><p>follow the podcast</p></li><li><p>leave a rating or review</p></li><li><p>share the episode with someone you trust</p></li><li><p>or send a message about what stood out to you</p></li></ul><p><strong>Disclaimer</strong></p><p>Raised on Shame is a storytelling and conversational podcast and is not a substitute for therapy, mental health treatment, medical advice, or crisis services. The views shared in this episode are personal reflections and lived experiences intended for educational and reflective purposes only.</p><p>Connect with Kimberly and find additonal resources at <a href="https://www.wildertally.com?utm_source=chatgpt.com">wildertally.com</a></p><p>If this episode resonated with you:</p><ul><li>follow the podcast</li><li>leave a rating or review</li><li>share the episode with someone you trust</li><li>or send a message about what stood out to you</li></ul><p>Thank you for listening to season one of Raised on Shame.</p><p><br></p>
May 5, 2026
Faith, Shame, and the Stories We Inherit
<p>In this episode, Kimberly Wilder, LMHC sits down with filmmaker and storyteller Candace Young for a deeply personal conversation about faith, identity, and the stories that shape us.</p><p>What happens when two people grow up with completely different experiences of Christianity and still choose to sit at the same table and talk about it?</p><p>Kimberly Wilder, LMHC shares her experience of growing up in a highly rule-based, shame-driven religious environment in the South. Candace offers a contrasting perspective, describing a childhood where faith was modeled through love, connection, and lived example rather than control.</p><p>Together, they explore what it means to question what you were taught, to define your own beliefs, and to navigate spirituality on your own terms.</p><p>This conversation moves through:</p><ul><li>religious trauma versus relational spirituality</li><li>how shame forms across different life experiences</li><li>racism, identity, and feeling like an outsider</li><li>adoption, belonging, and internalized narratives of feeling unwanted</li><li>the pressure placed on women to carry and care for everything</li><li>learning to trust your own voice and intuition</li><li>interdependence and asking for help without guilt</li><li>purity culture, silence around sex, and generational patterns</li><li>grief, death, and evolving beliefs about what comes after</li></ul><p>At its core, this episode is about connection. Not agreement. Not conversion. Just the willingness to listen, to hold space, and to let different truths exist side by side.</p><p><strong>Resources & Media Mentioned</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0318462/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">The Motorcycle Diaries (film)</a></li><li><a href="https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0163651/?ref_=fn_t_1" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">American Pie (film)</a></li><li><a href="https://www.imdb.com/title/tt31938062/?ref_=fn_t_1" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">The Pitt (TV show)</a></li><li><a href="https://www.imdb.com/title/tt5640558/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">Claws (TV series)</a></li><li><a href="https://www.imdb.com/title/tt29926213/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">Let Us Prey (Documentary)</a></li><li><a href="https://www.mickeefaust.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">Mickee Faust Club (Tallahassee theater collective)</a></li><li><a href="https://www.fivewishes.org/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">Five Wishes (end-of-life planning resource)</a></li></ul>
April 21, 2026
You Were Never Meant to Do This Alone
<p>In this episode of Raised on Shame, we explore the role of community in healing.</p><p>This conversation centers on a truth that often gets overlooked in trauma work: healing does not happen in isolation. While many of us have learned to cope, survive, and even function on our own, those adaptations often come at the cost of connection.</p><p>We talk about what happens when shame is carried alone, how trauma can disrupt our sense of belonging, and why safe, attuned relationships are not optional in the healing process, they are essential.</p><p>This episode invites you to consider:</p><ul><li>How isolation may have been an adaptive response, not a personal failure</li><li>What it means to experience being seen and understood without judgment</li><li>How community can begin to shift long-held patterns of shame</li><li>What safe connection actually looks like, beyond surface-level interaction</li></ul><p>There is also space in this conversation for the complexity of community. For many, connection has not always been safe. Rebuilding trust in relationships can be slow, layered, and deeply personal.</p><p>If you have ever felt like you were carrying too much on your own, this episode is for you.</p><p><br></p><p>Resources & Support</p><p>This podcast is not a substitute for therapy.If this episode brought anything up for you, support matters.</p><p>You can find additional resources <a href="https://www.wildertally.com/resources" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">www.wildertally.com/resources</a></p><p>Guest Information</p><p><strong>Deborah Jean Nielsen</strong>, LMFT, ATR-BC, EMDR Certified Therapist, EMDRIA Approved Consultant</p><p>You can find her:</p><ul><li>website <a href="www.deborahnielsen.com" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">www.deborahnielsen.com</a> </li><li>book <a href="https://www.audible.com/pd/Breaking-Whole-Audiobook/B0F2GMD55X?loginAttempt=true&ref=a_search_c3_lProduct_1_1&ref_pageloadid=not_applicable&plink=QNvoeYrrgeahqk22&pageLoadId=vJhXidYgcSK2lu5h&qid=1743526296&creativeId=0d6f6720-f41c-457e-a42b-8c8dceb62f2c&sr=1-1&showAmznLopSignalBanner=true" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">Breaking Whole</a></li></ul><p>Stay Connected</p><p>Season one of Raised on Shame is coming to a close soon.</p><p>If you want to stay connected for the final episodes and what’s coming next, follow the podcast so you don’t miss future releases.</p><p><br></p><p>About the Podcast</p><p>Raised on Shame explores trauma, shame, and healing through honest conversations that bridge clinical understanding and lived experience.</p>
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