Welcome to the Rebel Ninja Parent Series, the show for parents raising confident, resilient kids. Coach Andrew shares real talk and actionable tools to help your child build unstoppable confidence, a resilient mindset, and the social skills to thrive in any situation.
Your child gets nervous before anything new, and you worry other kids will notice. Today a 10 year old and his mom join me to explain what really scares kids and why bullies pick the kids they pick.
You’ll hear a kid explain it in his own words. His mom shares what helped him most. I also teach a simple way to help a hurting bully instead of fighting back, plus a game you can play at home tonight.
Learn the two reasons a bully picks a target.
See what a confident kid looks like, from the back to the eyes to the face.
Use a compliment and a question to meet a new kid.
Practice 80 percent listening and 20 percent talking.
Try speaking life with a kid who is hurting others.
If your child freezes around new kids or worries about bullies, this is the one to press play on tonight.
(00:00) - Intro
(00:42) - Meet Aaron and Mandy
(03:05) - Why new things feel scary
(08:42) - Hurt people hurt people
(10:34) - Andrew's story of being bullied
(12:07) - Two reasons bullies pick a kid
(13:03) - How rumors work behind your back
(14:03) - What confident looks like
(15:40) - The what if thoughts
(19:07) - Mom on the talk to a stranger challenge
(21:05) - Why compliments work
(22:13) - Real proof beats saying it
(25:21) - 80 percent listening
(27:15) - How listening builds trust
(30:39) - The weed and the root problem
(34:52) - Speaking life into a bully
(37:11) - The Question Challenge game
(38:39) - Better questions to ask
(45:29) - Compliment first, then a question
(50:11) - Advice for parents
14 Oct 2026
Why Won’t the Other Kids Play With Me?
Your child comes home and asks, “How come the other kids don’t want to play with me?” It breaks your heart, and you want to fix it fast.
Today I share how I helped four girls who felt shy, left out, or stuck in friend drama. The answer is not trying harder to fit in. It’s helping your kid see herself as a leader, and leaders are just really good helpers.
Learn why people pleasing and hiding are the same fear of rejection.
Use the wolf pack story to show your kid why the leader walks in the back.
Tell the 12 oranges story so your child learns you can’t share what you don’t have.
Show your kid how to compliment, volunteer, and speak life into other kids.
Try the best friend challenge to help a shy kid feel warm around new people.
A kid who sees herself as a helper stops waiting for someone else to say hi.
(00:00) - Intro
(01:02) - The three pillars of confidence
(02:59) - The 7 year old who felt left out
(03:46) - People pleasing vs hiding
(04:15) - Shy in groups and with new kids
(05:12) - Left out of a birthday party
(05:56) - What is a leader's self image?
(08:31) - Leaders are really good helpers
(10:34) - All parents are teachers
(13:23) - The wolf pack drawing
(14:40) - Why the leader walks in the back
(17:30) - You can't help if you don't know how
(20:13) - The 12 oranges story
(23:06) - Compliment the girl who left you out
(24:57) - Volunteering and the five second rule
(26:01) - Creating a spark in other kids
(28:57) - Speak life into others
(31:22) - Act warm, not cold
(32:53) - The spotlight effect loop
(35:58) - The best friend challenge
7 Oct 2026
11 Year Old Learns to Outsmart Bullies
You can't follow your child to school. You can't stop a mean kid from saying something cruel. But you can make sure your child knows exactly what to do when it happens.
Coach Andrew walks you through a real coaching call with an 11 year old girl who was about to start a new school. You'll hear the exact words, questions, and pictures he used to help her feel strong and calm. Every tool is simple enough to practice at home tonight.
Explain why bullies bully so your child stops taking it personally.
Show your child why bullies pick the "hurt zebra" and how to stop being an easy target.
Practice faces and tone in the mirror so your child looks and sounds calm.
Use the repeat technique, the uncomfortable flip, and the question technique to shut teasing down.
How to help a kind child speak up without feeling like the bad guy.
Your child doesn't need to be tough to stand strong. They just need the right tools before the first hard day.
(00:00) - Intro
(00:51) - Keep it super simple: the KISS method
(02:26) - Free bully videos in the Rebel Ninja app
(06:12) - Why bullies bully: hurt people hurt people
(08:28) - Bad kids or kids making bad choices?
(09:15) - Why empathy comes first
(11:05) - The two reasons a bully targets your child
(11:49) - The hurt zebra
(13:20) - Why being a threat brings rumors
(15:14) - The diary story
(16:34) - Why ignoring a bully doesn't work
(18:22) - Why fighting back isn't the answer
(19:43) - Step 1: Control your face
(21:34) - Logical kids and facial expressions
(24:45) - Step 2: Tonality
(27:17) - Step 3: What to say
(29:08) - The repeat technique
(31:21) - The uncomfortable flip
(32:31) - The question technique
(34:10) - Why telling the teacher is okay
(37:29) - Recap
(38:43) - How to reach Coach Andrew
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