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About Sex Tells Podcast Sex Tells is the podcast that fearlessly strips away the shame, silence, and stigma surrounding sex and relationships. Hosted by Lucy Frank, a registered Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist, each episode features deep, unapologetic conversations with leading experts, compelling storytellers, and resilient survivors. We delve into topics most people only whisper about, from intimacy and desire to trauma and healing, because your story, your pleasure, and your well-being deserve to be heard in full voice. Our mission is to create a safe, inclusive space where education meets empathy, empowering listeners to embrace their sexuality, navigate challenges, and forge deeper connections, with themselves and others, by breaking down barriers. Learn more at: theyxologist.co.uk

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Episode thumbnail for Beyond Monogamy, Beyond the Mind | With Ally Iseman & Aisha Paris Smith

July 17, 2026

Beyond Monogamy, Beyond the Mind | With Ally Iseman & Aisha Paris Smith

<p><strong>What if your body knows more about your relationships than your mind? And what if jealousy isn’t something to fear, but something to understand?</strong></p><p><br></p><p>In this episode, <strong>Lucy Frank</strong> is joined by modern relationship expert and certified relationship coach <strong>Ally Iseman</strong>, alongside somatic sexologist and intimacy coach <strong>Aisha Paris Smith</strong>, for a conversation about how we design a relationship that makes sense for ourselves, and in doing so re-write the stories we've inherited about love. Together, they explore how cultural conditioning and societal expectations shape our ideas of monogamy, commitment, pleasure, and connection, and ask: what becomes possible when we begin to question those assumptions?</p><p><br></p><p>Why do so many people feel dissatisfied in relationships without fully understanding why? <strong>Ally</strong> and <strong>Aisha</strong> unpack the emotional and physical signs that something no longer fits, from loss of desire and sexual disconnection to feelings of anxiety and withdrawal. They explore how the body often speaks before the mind catches up and the role of somatic awareness and emotional intelligence in helping us make more authentic relational choices.</p><p><br></p><p>What does it really mean to consciously design a relationship? The conversation explores consensual non-monogamy, relationship agreements, erotic jealousy, communication, and the difference between inherited relationship scripts and intentional partnership. <strong>Ally</strong> challenges common misconceptions about monogamy and polyamory, while <strong>Aisha</strong> shares how learning to listen to sensations and intuition can transform the way we experience intimacy. Together, they discuss why discomfort isn't something to avoid but often the very place where growth begins.</p><p><br></p><p>How can pleasure become a guide rather than a destination? </p><p>Examining the pleasure gap and the importance of building a relationship with yourself before expecting another person to define your worth, happiness, or fulfilment. Whether monogamous or non-monogamous, the discussion explores relationships as living, evolving conversations built on curiosity and compassion, and finding the courage to challenge the relational blueprints we've inherited.</p><p><br><strong>Connect &amp; Learn More<br></strong><br></p><p><strong>Learn More</strong></p><p>Explore Lucy’s therapy services, retreats, workshops, and resources: <a href="https://theyxologist.co.uk/">https://theyxologist.co.uk</a></p><p><br></p><p><strong>Stay Social<br></strong>Follow for updates, insights, and behind-the-scenes perspectives:<br>Instagram:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/theyxologist/"> https://www.instagram.com/theyxologist/</a> @theyxologist </p><p><br></p><p><strong>Get in Touch<br></strong>For session bookings, media enquiries, and collaborations:<br>Email: info@theyxologist.co.uk<br>Contact Form:<a href="https://theyxologist.co.uk/contact/"> https://theyxologist.co.uk/contact/</a></p><p><br></p><p><strong>Work With Lucy</strong><br>Lucy provides tailored psychosexual and relationship therapy, both online and in London. She also leads retreats and workshops on intimacy, desire, and navigating life changes like childlessness, infidelity, illness, and shifting relationship dynamics.</p><p><br></p><p>Find out more and book via the contact page:<br><a href="https://theyxologist.co.uk/contact/"> https://theyxologist.co.uk/contact/</a></p><p><br></p>

Episode thumbnail for The Role of Porn, Lubricant, & Pleasure in Sex Ed | With Anna Richards & Lauren Short

June 19, 2026

The Role of Porn, Lubricant, & Pleasure in Sex Ed | With Anna Richards & Lauren Short

<p>Welcome back to Sex Tells. In this episode, host <strong>Lucy Frank</strong> is joined by <strong>Anna Richards</strong>, founder of the female-focused erotic platform Frolicme, and <strong>Lauren Short</strong>, founder of the lubricant brand Ples’Jour, for an open and thought-provoking conversation about porn, intimacy, and sexual wellness. Together, they explore the gaps left by traditional sex education, particularly around female pleasure, consent, and the role of sexual wellness products, and how these gaps continue to shape people’s experiences of intimacy.</p><p><br>Why is there still so much misinformation and stigma around pleasure? <strong>Anna</strong> reflects on her decision to create Frolic Me as a response to the male-centric narratives often found in mainstream porn, advocating for ethical, inclusive content that centres authentic female desire and connection. Lauren shares the story behind Pleasure, challenging common misconceptions about lubricant use and reframing it as a tool for comfort, confidence, and enhanced sexual wellbeing rather than something to feel embarrassed about.</p><p><br>What does it take to challenge an industry built on taboo? Both <strong>Anna</strong> and <strong>Lauren</strong> speak candidly about their journeys as entrepreneurs in the sexual wellness space, from breaking through stigma to encouraging more honest, open conversations about sex. They debunk persistent myths—such as the idea that using lubricant signals dysfunction or that ethical porn lacks excitement—and dive into the “orgasm gap,” unpacking the cultural and societal influences that contribute to unequal sexual satisfaction, along with practical ways to address it.</p><p><br>How can we build healthier, more fulfilling intimate lives? The conversation highlights the importance of communication, education, and self-advocacy, encouraging listeners to embrace pleasure as a vital part of overall wellbeing. Anna and Lauren emphasise letting go of shame, fostering honest dialogue with partners, and approaching intimacy with curiosity and confidence.</p><p><br>So, as you reflect on this conversation, ask yourself: How can you challenge outdated narratives around pleasure, and what steps can you take to create a more open, confident, and fulfilling relationship with your own sexual wellbeing?<br><br></p><p><strong>Connect &amp; Learn More<br></strong><br></p><p><strong>Learn More</strong></p><p>Explore Lucy’s therapy services, retreats, workshops, and resources: <a href="https://theyxologist.co.uk/">https://theyxologist.co.uk</a></p><p><br></p><p><strong>Stay Social<br></strong>Follow for updates, insights, and behind-the-scenes perspectives:<br>Instagram:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/theyxologist/"> https://www.instagram.com/theyxologist/</a> @theyxologist </p><p><br></p><p><strong>Get in Touch<br></strong>For session bookings, media enquiries, and collaborations:<br>Email: info@theyxologist.co.uk<br>Contact Form:<a href="https://theyxologist.co.uk/contact/"> https://theyxologist.co.uk/contact/</a></p><p><br></p><p><strong>Work With Lucy</strong><br>Lucy provides tailored psychosexual and relationship therapy, both online and in person, in Central, East, South West London, and Brighton. She also leads retreats and workshops on intimacy, desire, and navigating life changes like childlessness, infidelity, illness, and shifting relationship dynamics.</p><p><br></p><p>Find out more and book via the contact page:<br><a href="https://theyxologist.co.uk/contact/"> https://theyxologist.co.uk/contact/</a></p>

Episode thumbnail for Love Through Transition: Transgender Identity, Intimacy & Partnership | With Alexis & Liam Blake

May 22, 2026

Love Through Transition: Transgender Identity, Intimacy & Partnership | With Alexis & Liam Blake

<p>Welcome back to Sex Tells. In this episode, <strong>Lucy Frank</strong> sits down with <strong>Alexis </strong>, a transgender woman, and her husband <strong>Liam</strong> for an intimate and honest conversation about love, identity, and partnership through the journey of gender transition. Together, they share how they first connected on Hinge during the height of the COVID-19 pandemic, building a deep emotional bond despite the challenges of lockdown and distance. As their relationship grew, <strong>Alexis</strong> made the courageous decision to come out to <strong>Liam</strong>, a pivotal moment that ultimately strengthened their connection and commitment to one another.</p><p>How do couples navigate identity, change, and uncertainty within a relationship? <strong>Alexis</strong> and <strong>Liam</strong> reflect on the emotional and practical realities of transition, from the financial pressures of gender-affirming healthcare to experiences of grief, family dynamics, and shifting identities. They speak candidly about managing anxiety in public spaces, facing discrimination, and navigating the world as a visibly transgender couple, highlighting the resilience required to move through these challenges together.</p><p>What supports a relationship through such profound change? The conversation explores the importance of open communication, couples therapy, and mutual care. <strong>Alexis</strong> and <strong>Liam</strong> share how vulnerability, honesty, and a shared commitment to growth have helped them sustain and deepen their relationship. They emphasise creating space for difficult conversations, holding empathy for one another’s experiences, and building a strong support network of friends and allies.How can visibility and advocacy create change? Now recognised as award-winning influencers and ambassadors for LGBTQ+ charities, <strong>Alexis</strong> and <strong>Liam</strong> discuss their work in raising awareness and challenging harmful narratives. Through social media, education, and community outreach, they aim to humanise transgender experiences and foster understanding in a world often shaped by misinformation. Their story highlights the power of representation, resilience, and leading with authenticity.So, as you reflect on this conversation, ask yourself: How can you better support the people in your life through change and identity, and what role can empathy, openness, and understanding play in building stronger, more inclusive relationships?<br><br><strong>Connect &amp; Learn More</strong></p><p><strong>Learn More<br></strong>Explore Lucy’s therapy services, retreats, workshops, and resources: <a href="https://theyxologist.co.uk/">https://theyxologist.co.uk</a></p><p><strong>Stay Social<br></strong>Follow for updates, insights, and behind-the-scenes perspectives:<br>Instagram:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/theyxologist/"> https://www.instagram.com/theyxologist/</a> @theyxologist </p><p><strong>Get in Touch<br></strong>For session bookings, media enquiries, and collaborations:<br>Email: info@theyxologist.co.uk<br>Contact Form:<a href="https://theyxologist.co.uk/contact/"> https://theyxologist.co.uk/contact/</a></p><p><strong>Work With Lucy</strong><br>Lucy provides tailored psychosexual and relationship therapy, both online and in person, in Central, East, South West London, and Brighton. She also leads retreats and workshops on intimacy, desire, and navigating life changes like childlessness, infidelity, illness, and shifting relationship dynamics.</p><p>Find out more and book via the contact page:<a href="https://theyxologist.co.uk/contact/"> https://theyxologist.co.uk/contact/</a></p>

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About Sex Tells Podcast

Sex Tells is the podcast that fearlessly strips away the shame, silence, and stigma surrounding sex and relationships. Hosted by Lucy Frank, a registered Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist, each episode features deep, unapologetic conversations with leading experts, compelling storytellers, and resilient survivors. We delve into topics most people only whisper about, from intimacy and desire to trauma and healing, because your story, your pleasure, and your well-being deserve to be heard in full voice.

Our mission is to create a safe, inclusive space where education meets empathy, empowering listeners to embrace their sexuality, navigate challenges, and forge deeper connections, with themselves and others, by breaking down barriers.

Learn more at: theyxologist.co.uk

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