Sex With Dr. Jess

About Sex With Dr. Jess

In Sex With Dr. Jess, Dr. Jessica O’Reilly, Toronto-based sexologist, author, and media personality, shares tips on how to enhance your sexual life to improve the quality of your relationships. She interviews guests with questions ranging from how to deal with jealousy to getting down in the bedroom, as well as hosting thought-provoking episodes centered around compatibility and strengthening relationships.

Publisher

Dr. Jess O'Reilly

Category

health & fitness

Language

en

Explicit

Yes

First episode

2 Feb 2018

Latest episode

8 Sept 2024

Latest episodes

1 of 302 episodes have a transcript.

1. 

   8 Sept 2024TRANSCRIPT

   Sex Terms You’ve Never Heard: CBT, AMDL & More!

   Sex Terms You’ve Never Heard: From CBT to CEI & Beyond 🎧 Prefer to listen? This post is based on a Sex With Dr. Jess podcast episode featuring Sunny Megatron. Scroll down to listen or listen on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. What Counts as a "Normal" Fantasy? What turns someone on might surprise others—but that doesn’t make it wrong. In a world where sexual fantasies are often hidden behind closed doors and filtered out of mainstream studies, a growing vocabulary of kink and fetish acronyms reveals just how varied, creative, and expressive people’s desires can be. While a study out of Quebec found that fantasies such as swinging, BDSM, and threesomes are common and “normal” (with over half of participants reporting them), the reality is that many desires extend beyond the bounds of academic inquiry. That’s where lesser-known acronyms come in. Kink Acronyms 101: From Familiar to Fantastical Sex educator Sunny Megatron recently joined the Sex With Dr. Jess podcast to decode the sex terms that rarely show up in textbooks. From CEI to ASFR, here are a few that stand out: CBT: Cock and ball torture This can include everything from gentle squeezing to bondage, ball stretchers, clamps, and even full-contact ball busting. CEI: Cum eating instruction Often paired with JOI (jack off instruction), usually in a dom-sub dynamic, and frequently rooted in taboo play. SPH: Small penis humiliation Involves psychological play and consensual embarrassment. ABF: Adult breastfeeding fetish Not necessarily about lactation, but more often about the eroticism of care, comfort, and vulnerability. CFNM: Clothed female, nude male An inversion of mainstream objectification that centers the clothed partner’s power and gaze. ASFR: Alt sex robot fetish Sometimes referred to as technosexuality, especially relevant in a world where Bluetooth-connected toys like the We-Vibe Chorus and Lovehoney Sync 2 blur the lines between tech and touch. The Psychology of Kink: Power, Play & Permission Many of these fantasies involve submissive men and dominant women—a dynamic that directly challenges cultural norms of masculinity. Kinks like CEI or CFNM provide a mental reprieve from societal expectations of dominance and emotional suppression. This kind of exploration is not necessarily about the acts themselves, but about rewriting personal narratives around power, control, and vulnerability. For some, it’s healing. For others, it’s just hot. And for anyone looking to explore dominant/submissive roles in a playful way, a toy like the We-Vibe Pivot can be an excellent starting point. It’s discreet, app-controlled, and ideal for giving control to a partner—whether across the room or across the world. Shame, Humiliation & the Erotic Erotic humiliation is another thread running through many of these kinks. It’s not about degradation but about consensual embarrassment—such as being asked to perform a sexy task in front of others or being lovingly teased. These types of fantasies often stem from early experiences or internalized cultural messages. For those looking to process shame through pleasure, even seemingly taboo kinks like CBT or CEI can become cathartic and empowering when approached with consent, communication, and curiosity. Want to take shame out of the bedroom entirely? Explore the Mindful Sex video course to reconnect with your body and desires, especially if past experiences have layered sex with anxiety, guilt, or performance pressure. Playing With Consent: SSC and RACK All these acts—no matter how edgy—rely on enthusiastic, informed consent. The frameworks of SSC (Safe, Sane, and Consensual) and RACK (Risk-Aware Consensual Kink) guide participants toward ethical, joyful exploration.

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   8 Dec 2023

   4 Types of Couples — Which One Are You?

   Do opposites attract? Are you really attracted to funny people or do you find attractive people funnier? And which type of dating couple are you? Researchers suggest that there are four types of dating couples and your type can influence whether the relationship lasts. Jess and Brandon explore these research topics in their last episode of 2023. Check out AdamAndEve.com and use code DRJESS50 to save 50% off almost any one item with FREE shipping. And if you have podcast questions, please submit them here. You can find the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. Episode 344 4 Types of Couples -- Which One Are You? [00:00:00] You're listening to the sex with Dr. Jess podcast, sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. [00:00:15] Jess O'Reilly: Alright, alright. Are we ready to talk about four types of couples? [00:00:17] Brandon Ware: I'm always ready to talk about four types of couples. Which four types of couples are we talking about? [00:00:21] Jess O'Reilly: Four types of couples. Which one are you? It reminds me of like a quiz. What type of onion are you? [00:00:26] Brandon Ware: I'm a white onion. [00:00:28] Jess O'Reilly: You are a white onion. [00:00:28] Brandon Ware: Because I can only name two types of onions. [00:00:30] Jess O'Reilly: What's the other one? [00:00:31] Brandon Ware: Red onions. [00:00:32] Jess O'Reilly: What about Vidalia? [00:00:33] Brandon Ware: I don't know what that is. [00:00:34] Jess O'Reilly: Green. [00:00:35] Brandon Ware: Sure. Green. [00:00:35] Jess O'Reilly: Yes. Spanish. [00:00:36] Brandon Ware: Okay. Listen, listen. [00:00:38] Jess O'Reilly: Shallot. [00:00:38] Brandon Ware: Onion connoisseur. [00:00:41] Jess O'Reilly: I like an onion. So we'll be talking about four types of couples and some research. But before we do that, I wanted to very briefly dive into some other research and data that I've come across this week. [00:00:51] Jess O'Reilly: And we have a little announcement at the end, I guess before we dive into it, I need to shout out adamandeve. com because they've got a big, big, big sale going on. And. You can save 50 percent off almost any single item plus free shipping and rush handling with code. Dr. Jess 50, [00:01:08] Brandon Ware: Dr. Jess 50. [00:01:09] Jess O'Reilly: Go buy something that vibrates something. Okay. Question for you. [00:01:12] Brandon Ware: Yes. [00:01:12] Jess O'Reilly: Are funny people more attractive to you? [00:01:15] Brandon Ware: Funny people are more attractive. [00:01:16] Jess O'Reilly: Like, are you attracted to funny people? [00:01:18] Brandon Ware: Yes. [00:01:19] Jess O'Reilly: Hang on. Am I funny? [00:01:19] Brandon Ware: Hold on. Yes. You're very funny, but what, but what else is like, what's the and [00:01:24] Jess O'Reilly: well, the question is, are you attracted to humor? Or do you find attractive people funnier? [00:01:29] Jess O'Reilly: Okay. I'm going to just say this. So I noticed that every little joke, like every little snide remark, every little kind of anything I say, that's even a little bit funny, I noticed you really laugh at, and I'm like, this guy's my biggest fan, but [00:01:41] Brandon Ware: I'm your biggest fan. For sure. [00:01:42] Jess O'Reilly: Is it because I'm funny? Is it because you get my jokes or is it because you just like me? [00:01:46] Brandon Ware: I think it's a combination of all those things. But I also think that I don't want somebody who's. Super funny and not attractive to me.

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   23 Nov 2023

   Sex, Gender & Intimacy: People Collide with Isle McElroy

   Isle McElroy joins Jess and Brandon to talk about intimacy, vulnerability and sex -- on paper and in the flesh. An award-winning non-binary author based in New York, McElroy's latest novel People Collide is a gender-bending, body-switching story exploring marriage, identity, and sex, which delves into questions about the nature of true partnership. Isle shares personal insights on what makes for a good sex scene, how inadequacy plays out in relationships and what they've learned from rethinking sex and pleasure. To learn more about Isle McElroy, check out their social media - Instagram and Twitter And if you have podcast questions, please submit them here. You can find the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. Episode 343 Sex, Gender & Intimacy: People Collide with Isle McElroy [00:00:00] You're listening to the sex with Dr. Jess podcast, sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. [00:00:15] Brandon Ware: Hey, hey, today we're talking about sex, gender, and intimacy with Isle McElroy, an award winning non binary author based in New York, whose latest novel, People Collide, is a gender bending, body switching story about marriage, identity, and sex, which delves into questions about the nature of true partnership. [00:00:31] Jess O'Reilly: Yeah, and this story isn't your traditional kind of body swap, you know, thinking Freaky Fridays. So the story is... Eli, when Eli, the main character, leaves the cramped Bulgarian apartment, he shares with his wife, Elizabeth, who's more organized, more successful than he is. He discovers that he now inhabits her body. [00:00:48] Jess O'Reilly: So not only have he and his wife traded bodies, but Elizabeth living as Eli, has disappeared without a trace, and what follows is Eli's search across Europe, to America, to find his missing wife, and an exploration of gender and embodied experience. As Eli comes closer to finding Elizabeth while learning to exist in her body, he begins to wonder what effect this metamorphosis will have on their relationship, and how long he can maintain the illusion of of living as someone he isn't. [00:01:17] Jess O'Reilly: And the questions, you know, are will their new marriage wither completely in each other's bodies, or is this transformation the very thing Eli and Elizabeth need for their marriage? to thrive. So I'm really looking forward to this conversation. I've been reading the book. I'm almost done. I thought I'd be done by today, but I have a lot of questions about some of the messaging and themes, and I think it's going to be a great conversation. [00:01:37] Jess O'Reilly: Now, before we welcome our guest, I'll want to announce a partnership with fellow podcasters Adventures from the Bedrooms of African Women. The podcast, season two, is out now and it's hosted by Nana Darkwa Sakiyama and Malaika Grant. The podcast explores African women's experiences of sex, sexuality, [00:02:00] and pleasure and they have a host of fabulous guests in their bedroom this season. [00:02:05] Jess O'Reilly: They have top sexpert Ohlone from the UK, fabulous comedienne Yvonne Orji. Feminist powerhouse, Mona Altahawe, and many, many more. And they're asking all their guests, what's your sexy secret? What's your secret, babe? [00:02:19] Brandon Ware: I can't tell you. It's a secret. That's why it's a secret. [00:02:21] Jess O'Reilly: So predictable. Okay. That and so much more in the new season of the Adventures from the Bedrooms of African Women podcast out now. [00:02:30] Jess O'Reilly: Listen, wherever you get your podcasts.

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407,883

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Apple Podcasts (US)

4.5 / 5

316 ratings

Spotify

3.9 / 5

263 ratings

Podcast Authority Score: 18 / 100

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