Podcast dedicated to the variations within relationships, with a special focus on non-monogamy, hosted by Moushumi Ghose, Melissa LeSane, Wayne LeSane and Kelly Jones, four American sexologists from Los Angeles Sex Therapy <br/><br/><a href="https://pleasureforthemasses.substack.com/s/shades-of-pleasure-podcast?utm_medium=podcast">pleasureforthemasses.substack.com</a>
Shades of Pleasure Podcast
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Podcast dedicated to the variations within relationships, with a special focus on non-monogamy, hosted by Moushumi Ghose, Melissa LeSane, Wayne LeSane and Kelly Jones, four American sexologists from Los Angeles Sex Therapy <br/><br/><a href="https://pleasureforthemasses.substack.com/s/shades-of-pleasure-podcast?utm_medium=podcast">pleasureforthemasses.substack.com</a>
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March 7, 2026
24 - Is it Time to Break Up and Decouple or Do You Perhaps Restructure Your Relationship? How to Decide?
<p><strong>Welcome to Episode 24 of Shades of Pleasure Podcast, where four sex & relationship professionals open up about life, love, and the pursuit of consensual non monogamy.</strong></p><p>In this episode, Mou, Melissa, Wayne, and Kelly explore the possibilities, and challenges, of restructuring relationships.</p><p>Believe it or not, many people don’t realize they have the agency or options to reshape their relationships. Even when partners discover that change is possible, the process can bring up resistance. For some, restructuring a relationship simply feels like too much change. For others, it can feel like a betrayal of what the relationship once was or what they imagined it would become.</p><p>Sometimes there is grief involved. People may need to mourn the former version of the relationship or the future they once envisioned together. The length of the relationship, the age and life stage of the partners, and the pace of the change can all influence how difficult the transition feels. Practical entanglements like shared children, a home, finances, or a legal union, can also make restructuring more complex and emotionally charged. Anger, sadness, and confusion are common, which is why working with a therapist or relationship coach can be incredibly supportive during this process.</p><p>And yet, change can also create space for possibility. Restructuring a relationship can bring freedom, renewal, and a new sense of balance. It can offer an opportunity to reconnect with what truly works for everyone involved. While breakups are often stigmatized and framed as failures, there are ways to approach relationship transitions with intention and care, what some call conscious uncoupling.</p><p>Instead of focusing only on what’s ending, we can ask: What is still meaningful here? What do we want to preserve? What do we each need going forward? Sometimes that means redesigning the relationship entirely. Other times, it might mean shifting from romantic or sexual partners to friends or chosen family. Other times, it might mean ending the relationship.</p><p>Ultimately, we have more choice than we’re often taught. With awareness, intention, and clear agreements, we can create relationships that reflect our values rather than simply following social or cultural expectations.</p><p>Think of yourself as the architect of your own relationships: you have the freedom and agency to design them on your own terms.</p><p>Tune in to the full episode to explore both the challenges and possibilities that exist across different relationship styles, structures, and constellations.</p> <br/><br/>This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit <a href="https://pleasureforthemasses.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1">pleasureforthemasses.substack.com</a>
February 24, 2026
23 - Emotional Labor: How it Slowly But Surely Kills Intimacy
<p>Welcome to Episode 23, Shades of Pleasure</p><p><strong>Four sexologists open up about</strong> <strong>life, love, and the pursuit of consensual non monogamy.</strong></p><p><strong>Welcome to Episode 23 of Shades of Pleasure Podcast, where four sex & relationship professionals open up about life, love, and the pursuit of consensual relationship practices.</strong></p><p>In this episode of Shades of Pleasure, Mou, Melissa, Wayne, and Kelly explore the often-unspoken imbalance of emotional and mental labor in relationships, and how it directly impacts desire, libido, attunement, and overall satisfaction.</p><p>Mental labor isn’t just about doing tasks. It’s the cognitive and emotional energy required to plan, anticipate, schedule, initiate, and execute them. And while this imbalance isn’t always strictly gendered, many cisgender women in heterosexual relationships report feeling chronically exhausted from carrying the bulk of this invisible labor, while many cisgender men report feeling confused, disconnected, or unsure how to repair the growing distance.</p><p>So, what role does communication actually play? What does real attunement look like in the day-to-day rhythms of partnership?</p><p>How do we cultivate presence, reciprocity, and embodied connection in ways that create space for relaxation, pleasure, intimacy, joy, and mutual desire?</p><p>Tune into the full episode below to hear the answers to all these questions and more.</p> <br/><br/>This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit <a href="https://pleasureforthemasses.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1">pleasureforthemasses.substack.com</a>
February 6, 2026
22 - Would You Work with a Sex Surrogate?
<p>Welcome to Episode 22, Shades of Pleasure</p><p><strong>Four sexologists open up about</strong> <strong>life, love, and the pursuit of consensual non monogamy.</strong></p><p><strong>Welcome to Episode 22 of Shades of Pleasure Podcast, where four sex & relationship professionals open up about life, love, and the pursuit of consensual non monogamy.</strong></p><p>In this episode, Mou, Melissa, Wayne, and Kelly explore the nuances, benefits, and stigmas surrounding surrogacy partner therapy.</p><p>We’ve heard the term “hands on work” in the realm of therapy or coaching, but what does that really mean?</p><p>One type of hands- on work, known as surrogate partner therapy, is a modality where people generally work in tandem with a sex coach or therapist and psychotherapist to experience the stages of a relationship: warming up, building trust, practicing consent, and exploring different forms of sexual and non-sexual intimacy.</p><p>A client processes their emotional responses with a psychotherapist and engages in various intimate experiences with a surrogate partner, from talking about sex, cuddling, going on dates, etc. while the coaches and therapists collaborate on helping to establish goals, and ensuring there is no harm done to the client, as its very common for clients to experience activation, triggers, or even attachment through this work.</p><p>Who generally seeks out surrogate partners? How do practitioners and clients transition out of this process and end a relationship? How does surrogacy therapy offer people unique correct experiences and templates to follow towards healthier relationships and intimacy? How do people overcome the shame and stigma of paying for sex and give themselves permission to seek out the support they need?</p><p>Regardless of your relationship style, structure, or status, surrogacy partner therapy can offer opportunities for people to get trained professionals to walk through building relationships and cultivating skills, like asking for what they want and need, or setting boundaries, skills that most people don’t learn along the way when it comes to either talking about or engaging in sex or intimacy.</p><p>Whether it’s feeling more comfortable talking to men or women, initiating intimacy, or engaging the body beyond a talk-based approach, surrogacy partner therapy can help broaden the work and open the doors for deeper integration and healing for the client on their terms.</p><p>Tune into the full episode to learn more about the nuances and benefits, how to break through the stigmas of surrogacy partner therapy, and the various ways this form of therapy can offer corrective experiences, healing, and cultivating essential skills for relationships, intimacy, and sex.</p> <br/><br/>This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit <a href="https://pleasureforthemasses.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1">pleasureforthemasses.substack.com</a>
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