Join Sex Therapist, Dr. Richard Mills as he takes you on a journey exploring the various aspects surrounding sex, gender, culture, sexuality and other aspects of the human experience through the eyes of his special guest. Do you have a burning question-- connect with him on Instagram @LaikeRisingTherapy
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Join Sex Therapist, Dr. Richard Mills as he takes you on a journey exploring the various aspects surrounding sex, gender, culture, sexuality and other aspects of the human experience through the eyes of his special guest. Do you have a burning question-- connect with him on Instagram @LaikeRisingTherapy
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September 10, 2025
Episode 55. Sex, Shame, & The Self
Sex Therapy Podcast on Sexual Shame, Internal Family Systems (IFS), Gay Men, and Relaembodiment In this episode of Talk Sex With Dick, Board Certified Sex Therapist Dr. Richard Mills‑Malangone and John Mills‑Malangone invite you into a warm, queer‑affirming hour on how shame shows up in sex—and why it’s often protection, not a personal failure. From the first snap of the jingle, you’re welcomed into a space that is playful, trauma‑informed, and utterly non‑shaming. You’ll hear a quick nod to queer history in Today in the Gay, a reminder that our bodies learned caution for real reasons. Then Richard breaks down Internal Family Systems (IFS) in plain language—the “parts” that perform, pull away, or numb out when intimacy gets close—while John brings the learner’s lens and lived experience. No part is the enemy here; every part is trying to keep you safe. The episode’s heart is a Situations Matrix that feels uncannily familiar: eye‑contact panic, “we only want sex when we drink,” freezing when a partner initiates. These scenarios often highlight differences in arousal and desire discrepancy between partners, which can create challenges and lead to feelings of frustration or distress. Distress can arise in moments of sexual shame or intimacy, especially when partners experience unmet needs or misunderstandings, and the Matrix helps address these feelings by offering practical ways to navigate them together. For each situation, Richard and John offer kinder alternatives you can try tonight—second glances with a touch anchor, a sober no‑goal touch night, or a pre‑agreed slow‑down phrase—plus short sample lines you can actually say. They also discuss strategies for co regulation and emotional regulation, supporting partners as they move through distress and work toward greater connection. A brief embodied practice helps you notice one body sensation, name the protective impulse (perform, rush, numb, joke), ask it what it’s afraid you’ll feel, and offer a small swap (slower breath, a hand on your chest, permission to pause). This practice encourages noticing feelings and physical sensations, which are key to emotional regulation and co regulation with partners. In Therapist’s Couch, they turn toward their own patterns with tenderness: what used to happen, what they notice sooner now, and what helped. Therapists use support and specific strategies to help clients navigate frustration, differences in sexual desire, and the emotional challenges that arise in intimate relationships. The Listener Q&A closes the loop with real stories: sustained eye contact that sparks panic, sex that only happens with a buzz, and a partner who reads lack of initiation as rejection. Feelings of frustration and distress are common in these situations, and the episode addresses strategies for regulation and co regulation between partners, offering reassurance that you’re not broken—you’re protected. You’ll leave with language, options, and the reminder that you’re not broken—you’re protected. Introduction to Sex and Shame Sex and shame are deeply connected experiences that shape the way we approach our own desires, our relationships, and our sense of intimacy. For many people, shame can quietly influence how we feel about sex, sometimes making it harder to express what we want or to connect openly with a partner. This isn’t just a personal struggle—it’s a dynamic process that can affect the quality of our relationships and our ability to experience true connection. Understanding the role shame plays in our sexual lives is a powerful step toward building healthier, more fulfilling relationships. When we become aware of how shame can limit our desire or create distance, we open the door to greater intimacy and a deeper sense of connection with ourselves and others. By exploring these dynamics with curiosity and compassion, we can begin to transform shame into understanding, and create space for more authentic sexual expres
July 24, 2024
Episode 54. Focus. Rethink. Refresh
<p>This week on Talk Sex With Dick, Dr. Richard Mills-Malangone and his husband, John, discuss the concept of rethinking relationships and taking time to refresh in this series on Rethinking Relationships.</p> <p>They share their personal experiences of saying goodbye to NYC, getting married, and moving to Indiana. They talk about the unique aspects of life in Indiana, including Indy Pride, a troublesome dental visit, and the trend of becoming plant daddies.</p> <p>They discuss the diverse LGBTQ+ community in Indianapolis, the new addition of George Michael, nostalgic barn concerts in Ohio with Over the Rhine, and a lesbian concert series featuring artists like Atlantis Morissette and the Indigo Girls, add depth to the discussion.</p> <p>The episode wraps up with reflections on the willingness to change and sacrifices made in relationships.</p>
January 19, 2024
Episode 53. Being Open and Letting Go
<p>Join the conversation on Talk Sex With Dick as Dr. Richard Mills-Malangone and his husband John delve into the transformative journey of being open and letting go in a relationship.</p> <p>Explore the importance of openness and how relationships can take you to new emotional and mental territories—sometimes even beyond New York!</p> <p>In this episode, discover the wisdom behind being open with your partner and the realization that relationships often require a willingness to embrace newness. The hosts share personal insights into the dynamics of letting go and why it's an integral part of fostering growth and connection.</p> <p>Tune in as they discuss their upcoming trip to Indiana, a metaphorical journey representing their openness to explore beyond the familiar confines of New York City. </p> <p>Gain valuable perspectives on the beauty of embracing change and the freedom it brings to relationships.</p>
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