The "All Things Uncomfortable" Podcast

About The "All Things Uncomfortable" Podcast

In the “All Things Uncomfortable” podcast, Deborah Lee, Founder of Creaturae, a Trauma Informed mental wellness Somatic Coaching and Consultancy dives deep into the realities and complexities of human experiences. Join Deborah as she explores psychological complexities of relationships, the profound mind and body connection, neuroscience, trauma healing, and what it means to be human in a world completely transformed by AI.

Publisher

Creaturae Inc

Category

health & fitness

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

29 Aug 2023

Latest episode

4 Jan 2026

Latest episodes

19 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   4 Jan 2026

   Season 2, Episode 9: AI Wants To Fix Your Relationship, Should You Let it?

   AI Wants to Fix Your Relationship, Should You Let it? In this episode of 'All Things Uncomfortable,' podcast host, Coach Deborah, is joined by Tony Fabrikant and Clay Cockrell, founders of CoupleWork, to discuss their innovative AI couples therapist, Maxine. The conversation delves into the creation and functionality of Maxine, ethical considerations, and the nuances of AI in mental health. Tony, with a background in FinTech and AI, and Clay, a seasoned psychotherapist, explain how Maxine bridges communication gaps between partners, ensures privacy, and provides a safe space for tackling sensitive issues like abuse and porn addiction. They also share personal anecdotes and discuss the potential of AI to complement traditional therapy, offering hope and practical tools for couples facing relationship challenges. 00:00 Welcome to 'All Things Uncomfortable' 00:44 Meet Tony and Clay: The Minds Behind CoupleWork 00:58 Tony's Journey into AI and Relationships 02:28 Clay's Unique Approach to Therapy 03:48 Developing Maxine: Challenges and Insights 04:58 The Story Behind Maxine's Name 05:58 The Birth of an AI Therapist 10:39 Privacy and Security in Couplework 14:50 Addressing Abuse and Safety Concerns 17:16 The Role of AI in Mental Health 21:35 Implementing Session Limits 22:51 Safety Protocols and Abuse Detection 25:40 User Patterns and Relationship Issues 30:04 Addressing Porn Addiction 31:57 State of the Union: A Tool for Couples 33:35 Navigating Conflict with Maxine 35:27 Conclusion and Final Thoughts from Somatic Coach Deborah Links: AI Couples Therapist — Maxine (https://couplework.ai/) Articles on Abuse and Coercive Control By Coach Deborah 1) If you are in an abusive relationship, is your therapist truly safe? (https://medium.com/@Creaturae7/if-youre-in-an-abusive-relationship-is-your-therapist-truly-safe-624670520b44) 2) Understanding Coercive Control: A Guide for Survivors, Therapists, and Lawyers (https://medium.com/@Creaturae7/understanding-coercive-control-a-guide-for-survivors-legal-administrators-and-advocates-c3274cb00667)

2. 

   6 Nov 2025

   Season 2, Episode 8: Boundaries, Safety & Healing from Trauma in the Age of AI with Dr. Rachel Wood

   Somatic Coach Deborah Lee explores the complex intersections of trauma, boundaries, and AI with Dr. Rachel Wood, a licensed counselor with a PhD in cyber psychology. They examine the concept of boundaries both in human relationships and how AI is being trained to set them. The conversation extends to how AI can be a tool for emotional support, not a replacement for human connection. Dr. Wood discusses the importance of attachment theory, trauma-informed care, and the potential for AI to erode or promote human agency. The episode also features practical exercises for setting boundaries and emphasizes the importance of using AI ethically. 00:00 Introduction to Trauma and AI 00:12 Meet Dr. Rachel Wood 01:09 The Importance of Boundaries 02:33 Attachment Theory and AI 05:42 AI as a Secure Base 09:21 Ethical AI and Community Support 12:02 AI in Therapy and Mental Health 24:21 Future of AI in Relationships 32:58 Somatic Boundaries Exercise 35:59 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

3. 

   28 Aug 2025

   Season 2, Episode 7: You at Work, You in Love: The Trauma Threads That Tie Them Together

   Why does the forbidden feel so irresistible? Why does attraction at work feel magnetic enough to risk everything? In this episode, I take you into the recent Astronomer scandal — a CEO, a Head of HR, a kiss that went viral — and ask why this story stood out when office entanglements are everywhere. The truth: it’s not about the kiss. It’s about the trauma threads beneath it. Conditional love. Hypervigilance. Conflict avoidance. Patterns woven in childhood that don’t vanish — they bleed into boardrooms and bedrooms, shaping who we choose, how we collapse, and the messes we create. And in the digital age, texting has become the stage where these threads tighten — tiny pings and pauses turning into fantasy, obsession, the illusion of intimacy. This isn’t about shame. It’s about recognition. In this episode you’ll learn: 🌱 How trauma threads replay in both work and love 🌱 Why forbidden fruit at work feels like gravity you can’t fight 🌱 The hidden role of texting in intensifying longing and projection 🌱 Somatic tools to notice, interrupt, and reweave these patterns We’ll close with practices to help you set boundaries, listen to your body, and step out of survival into choice. ✨ And next time: we shift from desire to design. I’ll be joined by Dr. Rachel Wood as we open a new six-part series on Trauma and AI — asking how machines might help us heal without losing what makes us human.

4. 

   10 Aug 2025

   6. Living & Leading with Curiosity and Joy: A Deep Dive with Global Executive Coach Jose Romero

   In this episode of the "All Things and Uncomfortable" Podcast, titled 'Leading with Curiosity and Joy,' host Deborah welcomes Jose Romero, a Global Executive master coach. Together, they delve into the transformative power of curiosity in leadership, particularly how it disrupts conformity, builds belonging, and enables overcoming internal fears and limiting beliefs. Jose shares insights from his extensive career and personal journey, exploring the delicate balance between fitting in and true belonging in organizational contexts. The conversation touches on the difficulties leaders face, including the tendency to sacrifice authenticity for acceptance, and the importance of fostering open dialogue and psychological safety within teams. They also discuss the challenges of leading with curiosity amidst societal and professional expectations, the nuances of communication across cultures, and how to handle feedback constructively. This enlightening dialogue is capped with an introduction to Jose's upcoming book, 'Living and Leading with Curiosity,' aimed at empowering readers to navigate change and uncertainty with resilience and insight. 00:00  Introduction to the Podcast 00:33  Meet Our Special Guest: Jose Romero 01:15  Exploring Belonging vs. Fitting In 03:29  Authenticity in Leadership 04:38  Navigating Gender and Privilege in Leadership 08:02 Building Dialogue Through Curiosity 13:04  Challenges and Rewards of Coaching 18:50  The Power of Vulnerability in Leadership 25:47 Jose Romero's Book: Living and Leading With Curiosity 35:11  Quick Fire Questions and Closing Remarks

5. 

   30 Jun 2025

   5. Shadow Work and Trauma: A Somatic Guide to Conscious Leadership

   Somatic coach Deborah explores shadow work as a path to trauma healing, guiding listeners to integrate their shadow side using somatic tools and fostering personal growth through understanding shadow archetypes in this episode.

6. 

   25 May 2025

   4. The Politics of Power, Dealing with Workplace Bullies Without Losing Yourself

   Consultant Niven Postma discusses navigating workplace politics, addressing toxic environments, and building political skill with host Deborah, offering strategies to maintain integrity; this is an interview.

7. 

   25 Feb 2025

   3. Digital Doppelgängers & the Limbic Brain: Unraveling the Future of You

   In this episode of "The All Things Uncomfortable Podcast," host Deborah is joined by AI expert and consultant Daniel Wilson, who shares his insights into digital doppelgangers and the creation of digital twins. They discuss the evolution of digital twins from industrial applications to personal avatars, highlighting real-world examples and existing platforms. Deborah shares her personal journey with Matthew AI, one of the best digital twins on the market. They break down the steps to creating your own digital twin and conduct a live demonstration with Matthew AI. The conversation delves into privacy, ownership, and ethical considerations, exploring the nuances of the limbic brain and scripted responses for authenticity. They discuss the societal impact and future possibilities of digital immortality, all while addressing rapid-fire questions and closing with reflections and a call to action. "The All Things Uncomfortable" Podcast is a Creaturae Production Timestamp: 00:00 Introduction to Digital Doppelgangers 00:25 Meet Dan Wilson: AI Consultant and Innovator 01:20 Exploring Digital Twins: From Matthew AI to NASA 02:13 The Evolution and Impact of Digital Twins 06:25 Personal Experiences and Emotional Connections 19:56 AI and Episodic Memory: Bridging the Gap 24:51 The Role of Empathetic AI and Replika 26:13 Understanding AI's Episodic Memory 26:34 The Role of Time Awareness in AI 26:46 Hallucinations and Memory Management 28:58 Parallel Processing Explained 31:53 Creating Your Digital Twin 38:57 Data Sovereignty and Privacy 48:18 Digital Immortality and Emotional Awareness 53:50 Concluding Thoughts and Future Prospects

8. 

   25 Jan 2025

   2. Empathetic AI & The Loneliness Epidemic

   In Season 2, Episode 2 of the All Things "Uncomfortable" Podcast, Deborah Lee, Somatic Coach, Trauma Informed Care Consultant and Founder of Creaturae invites two AI guests, John and Ginny, to discuss her recent research at Columbia University on empathetic AI's potential to transform mental health care and other downstream mental health issues by addressing loneliness epidemic that is affecting us on a global scale. The episode explores various perspectives, including AI's capacity to ease loneliness, the implications for mental health, the ethical considerations, and how AI might even help rewire our brains on a neurological level for better emotional regulation and social connection. Sign up to be on the mailing list for AIEmpath here: https://hello-ai-empath.netlify.app/ 00:00  Introduction by Deborah 00:20  Meet John and Ginny: The AI Guests 00:32  The Loneliness Crisis 00:47  AI Solutions to Loneliness, ISA &CAs 02:08  Understanding Loneliness 02:47  Connection and Trauma 03:59  AI Companions in the Market 04:17  Empathy and Emotional Intelligence in AI 13:57  Balancing Human and AI Interaction 14:14  Emotional Regulation 14:55  AI as an Extended Mind for Self-Discovery 16:26  Ethical Considerations 16:41  Closing Thoughts and Brief on AIEmpath by Deborah

9. 

   25 Dec 2024

   1. Tuning Into Your Body's Wisdom

   Tuning Into Your Body's Wisdom: The Transformative Power of Somatic Practices with Oren Shai Season 2 of the "All Things Uncomfortable" podcast kicks off with a conversation a heartfelt and eye-opening conversation on "Tuning Into Your Body's Wisdom" Host Deborah Lee sits down with somatic practitioner Oren Shai to explore a life-changing question: What if your body could lead you to deeper emotional connection? 🤔🎁 In this episode, we: ✨ Decode Somatics (from the Latin word soma, meaning “body”) 🎁 Hear Oren’s powerful story—how a past relationship uncovered his emotional numbness and sparked his healing journey 🌱 ❄️ Dispel common myths about somatic therapy (hint: it’s not just about yoga!) 🎄 Share practical tools like progressive muscle relaxation and mindfulness to help you feel more present in your body This conversation isn’t just about ideas—it’s about learning to play, embrace change, and feel safe within yourself. Imagine a life filled with emotional clarity, resilience, and deeper connections. 🌟🎁 🎧 Ready to unwrap this episode? Click Play and Answer the Poll Below! 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast and Guest 00:54 Rapid Fire Questions with Oren 02:11 Understanding Somatic Practices 05:13 Personal Stories and Experiences 08:25 Common Misconceptions About Somatics 12:04 The Mind-Body Connection 26:58 Practical Somatic Exercises 35:06 The Importance of Play and Humor 41:29 Final Thoughts and Call to Action 45:32 Conclusion and Upcoming Episodes (https://body.craft.me/ykEV0BpM6n1WWe) (https://creaturae.org/about/deborah-lee/)

10. 

    27 Nov 2024

    10. The "Phunny" Business of Suicide Intervention

    Frank King, the Mental Health Comedian, shares his powerful story of using humor to heal from depression and suicidal ideation, demonstrating the impact of open conversations on mental health.

11. 

    25 Oct 2024

    The Intricate Dance of Humour & Trauma

    In this episode of the All Things Uncomfortable podcast, Deborah and Marc explore the complex interplay between humor and trauma. They examine how comedy can serve as a coping mechanism, foster social bonds, and facilitate emotional healing, while also considering its potential for emotional avoidance. The discussion spans various topics, including the different types of humor, its role in relationships, and its impact on mental health. Drawing on insights from notable figures and research, the conversation delves into the neuroscience of laughter and the psychological effects of humor. Listeners are invited to reflect on their use of humor and its effect on their emotional well-being, with an emphasis on setting boundaries and seeking professional guidance when necessary. 00:00 Introduction to Humor and Trauma 01:16 Exploring Personal Humor Strengths 01:57 Favorite Comedians and Their Impact 07:37 The Role of Humor in Relationships 19:54 Humor as a Coping Mechanism 33:55 Understanding Empathy and Humor 34:36 Theories of Humor: Non-Violation and Benign Violation 35:36 Cognitive Reframing and the Role of the Frontal Lobes 39:15 The Importance of Self-Affirming Humor 40:46 Patriotism and Humor in Different Cultures 41:49 The Social Dynamics of Humor 42:59 Humor's Impact on the Brain and Mental Health 49:27 The Contagious Nature of Laughter 58:30 The Dark Side of Humor: Transgressive Jokes 01:03:53 Recap and Final Thoughts on Humor and Trauma

12. 

    28 Mar 2024

    8. A Balm for Loneliness

    In this episode of the All Things Uncomfortable podcast, hosts Marc and Debra delve into the complex and often misunderstood topic of loneliness. They distinguish between solitude and loneliness, highlighting how loneliness can lead to numerous psychological conditions and deteriorate one's sense of self-worth if unaddressed. They explore the classification of loneliness in medical codes, its correlation with mental health issues, and its societal implications, especially among millennials. The conversation touches on the COVID-19 pandemic's impact on social interaction, how introversion and extroversion relate to loneliness, and the importance of resilience. They also discuss various symptoms of loneliness, including emotional and physical signs, and the importance of understanding one's social needs. The podcast concludes with strategies for combating loneliness, such as recognizing the value of social connection, engaging in meaningful relationships, and the significance of having a supportive community. They emphasize the importance of finding common ground with others, understanding different types of intimacy in relationships, and taking active steps to avoid isolation. 00:00 Welcome to the Uncomfortable Truths of Loneliness 00:31 Diving Deep into Loneliness with Marc 00:53 Understanding Loneliness: More Than Just Being Alone 01:21 The Medical Perspective on Loneliness 05:56 Loneliness in the Age of COVID-19 06:52 Introverts vs. Extroverts: Navigating Loneliness 11:23 Identifying the Signs of Loneliness 14:18 The Physical and Emotional Toll of Loneliness 18:01 Navigating Social Situations and Self-Isolation 20:52 Understanding Your Body's Signals and Managing Loneliness 22:22 The Struggle of Making Friends 23:33 The Impact of Loneliness on Health 24:21 Building Social Connections in the Workplace 25:25 Overcoming Chronic Loneliness 25:47 Finding Your Tribe: Shared Interests and Values 28:22 The Importance of Intimacy in Friendships 29:50 Navigating Emotional Neglect and Its Effects 35:52 Understanding the Triune Brain and Social Development 40:33 Exploring Different Types of Intimacy 44:45 Bridging the Gap: From Loneliness to Connection 47:28 Concluding Thoughts on Independence and Connection --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/creaturae/message

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    28 Feb 2024

    7. True Friendship: Navigating the complexities of relationship

    In this podcast, hosts Deborah and Marc explore the complexities of friendship, discussing various types of friends and friendships, including fake and toxic friendships. They lay out the importance of understanding and setting boundaries, respecting values, reciprocating support, and holding friends accountable. Recognizing that a fake friend is likely someone who will use you and not respect your boundaries, while a toxic friend may use manipulation tactics or exploit insecurities. The hosts suggest that reducing contact gradually, setting clear boundaries, and focusing on individual wellbeing are methods to cope with these relationships. They also highlight the importance of communication in a friendship, explaining how it takes courage to be clear about what we want from relationships. Understanding the difference between intimacy and dependency, and the courage it takes to be clear about what we want from relationships, are significant points that the hosts touch on. Reflecting on personal experiences, they offer insights while noting that understanding, setting, and respecting boundaries can aid in nurturing healthier friendships. 00:00 Introduction and Technical Setup 00:00 Starting the Podcast: Discussing Friendships 00:12 Exploring the Impact of Friendships on Mental Health 02:08 The Role of Trust and Truth in Friendships 03:08 Understanding the Spectrum of Friendships 03:58 The Neurobiology of Friendships 04:29 The Importance of Friendships in Life 04:33 The Value of Friendships in Personal Growth 06:13 Identifying Toxic Friendships and Cultivating Good Ones 13:23 The Role of Empathy in Friendships 15:46 Identifying Fake Friends and Maintaining Boundaries 22:21 Understanding the Dynamics of Friendship 23:16 Defining True Friendship 24:20 The Importance of Trust in Friendships 24:52 Addressing Issues in Friendships 25:22 Setting Boundaries in Friendships 25:41 The Castle Analogy: Understanding Personal Boundaries 31:01 The Impact of Toxic Relationships 37:07 Identifying Manipulation in Friendships 45:14 Dealing with Toxic Friends 48:34 Conclusion: The Importance of Honesty in Friendships --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/creaturae/message

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    4 Feb 2024

    6. Embracing Freedom: Navigating Healthy Strategies to End Addiction

    ⁠Free Creaturae Resource: Addiction Recovery: Relapse Prevention Plan Worksheet⁠ (https://drive.google.com/file/d/1ONT5G39KI3KXDZzfYWpCo0mNGPJMDFlK/view?usp=sharing) In this episode of the 'All Things Uncomfortable' podcast, hosts Deborah, a somatic coach and founder of Creaturae, Trauma Informed Mental Wellness Consultancy and Marc, a CBT coach, delve deep into the subject of addiction, and how you or your loved one can overcome it. They discuss the complexities of addiction, how it impacts both the individual and those around them and the various forms it can take beyond substance abuse. They also explore nine prevalent misconceptions about addiction, aiming to demystify and correctly define it. Highlighting the importance of understanding addiction as a disease you can heal from, they emphasize the role of genetic predisposition, environment, and psychological factors in the development of addiction. Mark shares his personal experience with his father's journey of overcoming alcohol addiction, discussing the importance of professional help, personal determination, and a supportive community in the recovery process. The hosts further explore the importance of a growth mindset and kindness towards oneself when on the path to recovery from addiction. 00:00 Introduction 00:24 Exploring the Topic of Addiction 01:50 Addressing Misconceptions about Addiction 10:16 Understanding the Nature of Addiction 17:52 Early Signs of Addiction 24:48 Roots of Addiction: Genetic and Environmental Factors 27:30 Understanding Genetic Predisposition and Addiction 27:43 Physiological Factors Influencing Addiction 28:46 Gender Differences in Substance Use Disorder 29:41 Exploring Personality Factors and Addiction 30:37 The Role of Trauma and Abuse in Addiction 32:20 Personal Experiences with Addiction 33:33 The Journey of Recovery from Addiction 35:17 The Impact of Addiction on Family 37:06 The Role of Spirituality in Overcoming Addiction 42:07 Breaking the Cycle of Addiction 46:50 Replacing Unhealthy Addictions with Healthy Habits 50:35 Steps to Overcome Addiction 52:15 Final Thoughts on Addiction and Recovery --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/creaturae/message

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    28 Dec 2023

    5. From Shadows To Strength: Mastering Anxiety and Depression

    In this 5th installation of the “All Things Uncomfortable” podcast, dive deep with Deborah and Marc as they unpack the intricate web of anxiety and depression, affecting a staggering 80% of us at some point. Deborah and Marc peel back the layers, uncovering the pressures and self-expectations that trigger these conditions and explore how our brains and bodies react to these challenges. Discover the empowering truth: these feelings don't define us. Get actionable insights on mastering anxiety and depression, and be reminded that these tough times are temporary. From building a supportive community to finding joy in activities, Deborah and Marc offer practical tips for navigating these emotions.They explore that tenuous task of striking that perfect work-rest balance and using tech responsibly, so you can kick burnout and embrace mental well-being. Tune in for an uplifting chat that's all about reclaiming control and finding light in the shadows. 00:00 Introduction to Mastering Anxiety and Depression 00:32 Understanding Anxiety and Depression 01:05 The Prevalence of Anxiety and Depression in Society 02:00 The Impact of Societal Expectations and Personal Pressure 02:40 The Importance of Identifying and Processing Emotions 04:05 Hard Times & The Normality of Depressive or Anxious Life States 04:59 The Role of Support Networks in Mental Health 05:26 The Danger of Making Depression a Part of Your Identity 05:51 Understanding the Feedback Loop in Depression 07:01 The Role of Dopamine in Depression 08:08 Understanding the Mesolimbic System and Its Role in Depression 09:53 The Importance of Identifying and Addressing Depressive Symptoms 10:09 The Role of Neuroplasticity in Overcoming Depression 10:41 The Importance of Acknowledging and Processing Emotions 11:01 Understanding the Difference between Clinical Depression and Normal Depressive States 11:39 The Role of Time in Diagnosing Depression 16:35 The Importance of Community and Enjoyment in Mental Health 30:18 Understanding the Utility of Depression 32:17 The Importance of Self-Awareness and Self-Care in Mental Health 35:56 Conclusion: Mastering Anxiety and Depression --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/creaturae/message

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    8 Nov 2023

    4. Unmasking Masculinity: Understanding Male Mental Health, Relationships and Development

    In this forth episode of the "All Things Uncomfortable" podcast, we have a special guest, Dr. Judy Chu, a lecturer at Stanford University who is an expert on boys' psychosocial development. In our session together, Judy, Marc and I explore themes of masculinity and mens' mental health. Drawing from her extensive research and personal experiences, Dr. Chu talks about the societal pressures placed on boys, how these pressures shape boys' relationships, and the effects on their mental health. She underscores the importance of nurturing emotional openness and vulnerability in boys and men, challenging traditional masculine norms. We also explore how male privilege and patriarchal societal structures impact mens' mental health, shedding light on the complexities surrounding masculinity today. We also explore how gender dynamics and stereotypes could affect relationships and individuals' identity, delving into the topic of patriarchal society and male privilege. We examine how these systems can benefit certain groups, while also adversely affecting the mental health of those who buy into the system. Lastly, all three of us look at potential male role models for nurturing, equitable and nonviolent masculinity. 00:00 Intro 00:26 Judy background and research on Boy’s psychosocial development 03:09 The underlying social pressures of Gender Stereotypes on Boys 03:20 Is the question “Is it a boy or girl” even a relevant question today? 04:09 What inspired Judy’s journey to advocacy for Boys' Development? 08:35 Judy explains the Role of Trust in Boys' Development 09:25 The gap between boys’ reality and ‘The Way Things Are’ 10:15. What is the “Mask of Masculinity” 11:50  The Rules of ‘Being One of The Boys’ 12:58 Marc shares about his experience growing up 15:10: What is the Chinese cultural burden of ‘keeping it in’? 16:50 What happens when Masculinity gets valued over Femininity? 18:49 What does the expectation to prove masculinity look like? 20.01  Deborah asks what ‘You’re acting like a girl’ - mean? 21:20 What’s the cost of devaluing femininity? 23:38 The desire to ‘fit in’ vs. bringing your authentic self into relationship 25:40 The Social Mask of Posturing: A Shift From Presence to Pretense 26:23 Why does patriarchy still exist? 29:05 What is a healthy resistance to patriarchy? 30:33 The Myth of Masculinity & Unattainable Standards & Shame 32:07 How Patriarchy affects Men’s Mental Health 34:13 How being disconnected from oneself leads to disconnection from others 35:12 How Capitalism and Patriarchy are intertwined 36:29 Can emotional intimacy exist in an unfair/controlling relationship? 45:47 What does “nurturing, equitable, non-violent masculinity” look like? 55:19  What’s the masculine-feminine dynamic in relationship? 59:00 Getting to know Judy - Rapid Fire Questions 1:07:38 End notes and the next ‘All Things Uncomfortable’ topic Unveiled! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/creaturae/message

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    12 Oct 2023

    3. Female and Male Friendships - Real or Imagined?

    In this day and age of social media, gender norms being overturned and shifting expectations in social interactions, is it still possible to have genuine male and female friendships? What makes these relationships last, and are they essential? Join Marc and me as we explore this juicy subject! 0.00   Intro to the subject of male and female friendships 0.40   Key challenges facing men and women in maintaining platonic relationships 2.29  How social media influences our dating habits 3.13 What make dating meaningful? 4:18  What does a healthy male and female friendship look like? 6:03  What are the grey areas that come up in male-female friendships? 13:06 How do gender dynamics play out in male-female friendships 14:50 Do gender dynamics apply in dating? 15:52  Differences in biological drives between men and women 16:52  Do women want to be pursued in a dating relationship? 17:32  Is it unromantic to ‘talk things out’? 20:14 How do you initiate "the talk" in a relationship? 21:50  Knowing what you want in a relationship and drawing the appropriate boundaries 22:39 Setting boundaries through explicit communication 23:27 Ninja boundaries 25:23  Wrap up and intro to the next "All Things Uncomfortable"subject and amazing guest speaker --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/creaturae/message

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    21 Sept 2023

    2. Not Waving But Drowning: The Hidden Symptoms of Trauma

    00:00  -  Introduction to The Hidden Symptoms of Trauma 00:52  - Deborah defines trauma. What is the difference between PTSD and CPTSD? 01:50 -  Marc talks about the role caregivers play in helping children to learn to emotionally regulate themselves 03:45 -  Marc reflects on how he interacts in relationships today based on relational patterns developed in his family of origin 04:18  - Marc shares about how his family trauma shaped him and led to people-pleasing and bottling emotions 05:49 -  Deborah confesses that she is a bottler too and elaborates on the the INFJ Door Slam and talks about how boundaries help you to find your tribe 06:36 -  Examining self-care and how that is tied up with emotional regulation 08:04 - Exploring how we can develop people-pleasing symptoms which is bad for long-term relationships 08:57 - How people-pleasing is like wearing a mask 09:24  - Marc talks about how his people-pleasing behaviour developed and affected him and how he broke out of it 10:50 - Deborah shares about how she coped in an abusive marriage through emotional numbing 12:41 -  Marc talks about how he became emotional numbing happened in his grieving process 13:44 - Exploring symptoms of depression or and depressive feelings 13:59 - Deborah delves into avoidance behaviours, another symptom of trauma 14:22 - Deborah asks Marc "how do you talk to someone and tell them you like them?" 14:44 - Marc asks Deborah how she navigates the fear of trusting again after going through betrayal trauma 15:17 - Deborah explains all the red flags that she looks out for now and how trust takes time to build 16:34 - Deborah talks about the need to protect your heart 17:20 - Marc talks about establishing trust incrementally 18:10 - Marc brings up examples of hyper-vigilance, another hidden symptom of trauma, shows up in intimate relationships 18:54 - Expectations vs Happiness 19:22 - Marc talks about birthing and nurturing the ‘child’ of your relationship with your intimate partner 19:52 - Marc talks about how unsustainable the initial Endorphin rush of love is 20:16 What does a trauma response in the aftermath of falling out of love look like? 21:01 Deborah unpacks how a negative sense of self can develop from a failed relationship 21:58 Deborah talks about how changing your relationship with yourself is the first step to healing from trauma 22:07 Marc talks about how it is very difficult to face those feelings of brokenness within yourself alone 23:06 Deborah and Marc talks about dissociation, another hidden symptom of trauma - something which Deborah personally went through 23:55 Deborah talks about how CPTSD survivors can find it overwhelming to process their feelings 24:36 Deborah shares about the first time she experienced heartbreak and what it feels like in the body 25:52 Marc talks about the need to listen to your body and be aware of what it is trying to tell you 26:33 Deborah shares about all the psychosomatic symptoms she experienced 27:10 Deborah emphasises how your body is a tool and it’s important to listen to what it is telling you 27:42 Deborah shares about how EMDR therapy helped her to process her trauma 28:31 Marc and Deborah talk about being kind and gentle with yourself on your healing journey 28:43 Deborah shares more about Creaturae and the courses she offers for creating awareness around trauma and somatic approaches to healing 30:37 Marc sums up the takeaway for today’s session 32:05 Deborah emphasises being kind to oneself as a key turning point in a person’s healing journey --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/creaturae/message

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    29 Aug 2023

    1. The Neuroscience of Love: What Happens When Cupid Strikes?

    In this debut episode of "All Things Uncomfortable," Host Deborah Lee, Founder of Trauma Informed Mental Wellness Consultancy, Creaturae, an Co-Host Mental Wellness coach Marc Miller to dissect the science of love. Explore the dopamine reward system and see how you rate on the "Passionate Love Scale" quiz to gain invaluable insights into what makes a relationship tick. Whether you're committed, looking for love, or intrigued by human emotions, this episode delivers both practical advice and deep psychological insights on the beautiful complexities of love and attachment. 00:00  - What is “The All Things Uncomfortable” Podcast about? 00:26  - Why is Deborah is a late convert in psychology? 01:10 -  How Marc got interested in psychology from an early age 02:12 -  How the NYT Bestselling book “The Body Keeps The Score”  changed Deborah’s life 03:20  - What is the neuroscience of falling in love 05:00 -  Take the “The Passionate Love Scale” to quiz along with Deborah and Mark to find out how badly you have got bitten by the love bug 08:34 -  Deborah and Marc explore their differences in their answers on the quiz and what the differences mean. 14: 31 - Why does falling in love makes you feel so good? 17:41 - How is the dopamine reward system involved in the process of falling in love? 18:56  - How much time do you need to spend with your partner to sustain your relationship? 20:10  - What is love? 22:30 - What are the necessary elements to make a relationship work? 24:44  - How did you develop your attachment style and is it possible to develop a more secure attachment style? 31:44 - Exploring healthy attachment styles and learn how to use the Four Antidotes to overcome the Four Horsemen. 34:13 - How does your past trauma affect your tendency to be defensive and triggered? 36:40 - How to deal with criticism 37:34 - Stonewalling vs Self-soothing 38:47 - Navigating intimacy and dealing with discomfort in relationships. (https://www.amazon.sg/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748/ref=asc_df_0143127748/?tag=googleshoppin-22&linkCode=df0&hvadid=404337169678&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=4272135996784945457&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9062543&hvtargid=pla-434690707169&psc=1) (https://theanatomyoflove.com/relationship-quizzes/the-passionate-love-scale/) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/creaturae/message

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