by Ashley Kelsch
A podcast for women redefining dating, sex, relationships, and more in midlife. Real talk, raw stories, and candid interviews with women who are rewriting the rules of midlife—because it’s never too late to unfuck your life. <br/><br/><a href="https://ashleykelsch.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast">ashleykelsch.substack.com</a>
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April 24, 2025
<p>In this episode, I get candid about my journey from being a "self-help slut" – constantly consuming personal development content, collecting certifications, and chasing the next breakthrough – to discovering that real transformation came from something much simpler.</p><p>EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:</p><p>* I reveal how I spent over $50,000 on certifications and countless hours consuming self-help content, yet still found myself repeating the same patterns with different names, zip codes, and job titles</p><p>* The wake-up call that made me realize all my sophisticated knowledge wasn't creating the changes I wanted</p><p>* How we use "sophisticated buffering" to distract ourselves from discomfort – not just through obvious escapes but through seemingly productive, socially acceptable activities</p><p>* Why the self-help industry thrives on convincing us the solution is in their system, when we already know what we need to do but aren't ready to do it</p><p>* The power of the "umm" moment in midlife – the pause where we don't know the answers yet and don't need to force them</p><p>* How sitting with uncomfortable feelings instead of trying to fix or escape them literally rewired my nervous system</p><p>* The "ancient technology" practices that actually created lasting change – available for free and requiring no special training</p><p>MEMORABLE QUOTES:</p><p>"You already know what you need to do. You're just not ready to do it yet."</p><p>"The $50 billion self-help industry thrives on convincing you the solution is in their system, their method, their framework. But what if the most radical act of self-help was simply being honest about what you already know?"</p><p>"The answers you're seeking aren't in another person's system. They're in the quiet space you've been avoiding."</p><p>"I spent the last 20-ish years making decisions from fear, scarcity and desperation... The unfortunate part of being in that negative state is that you can rarely make a positive decision from there."</p><p>"Midlife is when all our clever strategies start to break down. It's when we realize we can't outrun ourselves anymore."</p><p>If this episode resonated with you, please rate, review, and share with someone who might benefit from it. Your support helps more women discover how to unfuck their midlife.</p><p>RESOURCES MENTIONED:</p><p>* <strong>COMPANION WORKSHEET</strong>: I know the irony in this but hey, for paying subscribers who I like to create extra value for, here is a guided worksheet to see if you can become less slutty with self-help and gain a little awareness on finding those answers within your UMMM practices —you’ll find it in the <a target="_blank" href="https://ashleykelsch.substack.com/p/companion-worksheet-the-self-help">HERE.</a></p> <br/><br/>Get full access to Unfucking Midlife at <a href="https://ashleykelsch.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4">ashleykelsch.substack.com/subscribe</a>
April 10, 2025
<p><strong>In this week's episode of Unfucking Midlife, I sit down with my best friend and personal stylist extraordinaire, Laurel Kinney, for the conversation we promised you nearly a year ago (better late than never, right?).</strong></p><p>After almost a decade of unfucking and styling life together, Laurel and I dive into her transformative journey from Austin hustler to Taos artist. What started as a pandemic escape evolved into a complete life reinvention when she decided to sell her Austin home and make Taos her permanent residence.</p><p>We explore how stepping away from hustle culture allowed Laurel to reconnect with her artistic passions and blend them with her styling expertise. She shares how her annual trips to a nudist camp surprisingly transformed her relationship with body image (in the best way possible), and yes, we both confess our newfound obsession with protein intake because... midlife.</p><p>Curiously, we realized after recording that we didn't discuss relationships or men at all—which, as I texted Laurel immediately after, "says a lot" about where our priorities truly lie these days.</p><p>Other topics include the unexpected challenges of homeownership, the emotional psychology behind shopping habits, and why midlife might actually be your most iconic era yet.</p><p>Whether you're contemplating a major life change or simply curious about what happens when two friends chat candidly about reinvention, this episode offers honest insights into making peace with change and embracing who you really are.</p><p>To learn more about Laurel and/or to follow instagram:</p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://laurelkinney.com/">Laurel Kinney Personal Stylist</a> </p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.instagram.com/laurel_kinney/">Laurel’s Personal Instagram</a></p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.instagram.com/laurelsnowkinney/">Laurel’s Painting Instagram</a></p><p> Share your thoughts in the comments—</p><p></p><p></p> <br/><br/>Get full access to Unfucking Midlife at <a href="https://ashleykelsch.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4">ashleykelsch.substack.com/subscribe</a>
March 11, 2025
<p><strong>What happens when we rethink love, relationships, and personal growth on our own terms?</strong></p><p>In this episode, I’m re-airing my conversation with <a target="_blank" href="https://substack.com/profile/38286169-molly-roden-winter">Molly Roden Winter</a>, author of <a target="_blank" href="https://www.mollyrodenwinter.com/">More: A Memoir of Open Marriage.</a> Since our talk last year, her book has become a bestseller and a go-to reference for conversations about women reclaiming their sexuality in midlife.</p><p>Molly’s story isn’t just about open marriage—it’s about self-discovery, the emotional complexities of motherhood, and navigating relationships with honesty and resilience. </p><p>We discuss the fear of disrupting family harmony when adding a second child, only to realize love expands rather than divides. We also explore how long-term relationships teach us to navigate conflict, and how personal growth doesn’t follow a set path but unfolds in ways unique to each of us.</p><p>There’s humor, raw honesty, and an invitation to break free from societal norms—whether that means rethinking marriage, embracing personal freedom, or simply giving yourself permission to explore what truly makes you happy.</p><p>No matter where you stand on open relationships, there’s something here for anyone looking to untangle love, identity, and self-acceptance.</p><p>I’d love to hear your thoughts...</p><p>Have you read More: A Memoir of Open Marriage? </p><p>What parts resonated with you—or didn’t? </p><p>Could you relate to Molly’s experiences with love, motherhood, or personal growth? </p><p>How have your own relationships challenged or reinforced what you thought you knew about love and commitment?</p><p>Share your thoughts in the comments—I look forward to the discussion.</p><p></p><p></p> <br/><br/>Get full access to Unfucking Midlife at <a href="https://ashleykelsch.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4">ashleykelsch.substack.com/subscribe</a>
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