We the Unruly

About We the Unruly

We the Unruly is a podcast for people who are done negotiating with themselves to fit in. Hosted by Jen Vertanen, this show is for cycle-breakers, edge-walkers, and leaders who refuse to abandon who they are in order to belong. Each episode lives in the space most people avoid—the moment when success stops working, self-editing gets expensive, and self-trust becomes non-negotiable. No self-help fluff. No performative healing. No “fix yourself” energy. Just honest conversations about identity, discernment, capacity, and what it actually takes to live, lead, and decide without betraying yourself. If you’ve ever felt like you didn’t lose yourself — you adapted — this is for you. Belonging isn’t earned here and self-trust is the new power move. Pull up a chair. You’re in good company here.

Publisher

Jen Vertanen, Chief Unruly Officer

Category

education

Language

en

Explicit

Yes

First episode

26 Aug 2024

Latest episode

26 Jun 2026

Latest episodes

14 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   26 Jun 2026

   You Are Not Your Mother: Breaking the Cycle of Generational Shame w/ Karen C.L. Anderson

   Somewhere in your family line, a woman picked up a box. She wasn’t quite sure what was in it, she just knew it was hers to carry now. She tucked it under her arm and lived her life a little differently now…a little less HER and a little more what was in the box. More palatable. Less “too much”. Skinnier. More agreeable. More reasonable. Prettier. Less outspoken. Less dramatic. Quieter. And then handed it to the next generation and the next and the next. Karen C.L. Anderson knows what's in her box because she spent years trying to burn it, flush it, rip it up, and kill it off entirely — only to realize it was never hers to begin with. And that you can't destroy what was never really you. What you CAN do is break the cycle by facing whatever is in your box head on and saying THIS ISH ENDS WITH ME… …and then actually doing the identity work to impact your life now and generations to come. Karen is an author, coach, and 💃Silent Disco Queen (it’s a fascinating story) who helps women identity and navigate internalized shame but to see how she approaches it? 👉Just look to her Substack. “Come with me...we're gonna go laughing while exploring the intersection of shame, safety, feminism, mother-adult daughter relationships, body image, diet culture, weight loss medications, "taking the easy way out," and silent discoing on the boardwalk…” I love that Karen talks about shame openly and honestly and sometimes with a genuine laugh and I guarantee this conversation is going to change how you think about shame. .................................................................. WHAT YOU WILL HEAR IN THIS EPISODE 🔥 The actual box Karen keeps on her desk with her three core shame beliefs on pieces of paper and why she keeps them front and center instead of burning them. Just because you’re an expert on shame does NOT mean you still don’t carry shame 🔥 The vision she had lying on the bathroom floor with stuff coming out both ends: a long line of women, each one handing a box to the next, wrapped differently every time but the same stuff inside — and the moment she realized "it didn't start with me. It's not mine." 🔥 Why shame is evolutionary, physiological, AND a nervous system adaptation all at once. Karen breaks down all three layers and suddenly everything about how you react when you feel exposed makes complete sense 🔥 Why you can’t entirely get rid of shame and what the concept of "unshaming" actually means, i.e. changing your relationship to it so it stops quietly running the show And we end as we always do with what Karen gets to have the rest of her from doing this work. “Freedom…most of the time” and why “most of the time” is the most honest and human part of her answer. .................................................................. Links Mentioned 🌐 Find Karen and all her brilliance at https://www.kclanderson.com/ (https://www.kclanderson.com/) and https://substack.com/@kclanderson (https://substack.com/@kclanderson) 📚 You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma and Shame Karen's most recent book (2023) and her personal favorite https://a.co/d/07b9MrIw (https://a.co/d/07b9MrIw) 📚 Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide for Separation, Liberation, and Inspiration https://a.co/d/07REJ0HW (https://a.co/d/07REJ0HW) 🪩 The Unruly Collective https://wetheunruly.com/the-collective (https://wetheunruly.com/the-collective) ..................................................................

2. 

   18 Jun 2026

   What Grief Actually Looks Like & Why We Approach IT All Wrong w/ Suzanne Jabour

   There's a reason people abandon their grocery carts mid-aisle and walk straight out of the store and it is not because they forgot their list. Grief does things to a brain and a body that nobody ever told you about. It dysregulates your nervous system and makes small talk with a cashier feel like climbing Everest in flip flops. It makes the Muzak unbearable when the song that plays is the one that was playing the last time everything was okay. Suzanne Jabour knows this because she lived it. In September 2020, her son died suddenly and unexpectedly and what followed wasn't just grief but a crash course in how catastrophically unprepared we all are to navigate it, give it, receive it, or even name it. So Suzanne decided to do something about it and became a certified Grief Educator, a Transformational Coach, author and speaker who has spent the years since her son Ben's death in 2020 doing what most of us are too scared to do. 👉🏼 Talk about grief openly and honestly, and as casually as what we're watching on Netflix (Suzanne is currently loving Dept. Q). This conversation will change how you think about grief. Guaranteed. WHAT YOU WILL HEAR IN THIS EPISODE 🔥 Why grocery stores are genuinely the most hostile environment for a grieving person and what Suzanne's year and a half of outsourced grocery shopping taught her about rebuilding capacity one smoothie ingredient at a time 🔥 Why the people who showed up for you in the beginning quietly vanish right when grief gets hardest and why it is not cruelty but a collective skills gap 🔥 Grief isn't just about death. It lives inside every flopped launch, every relationship that quietly dissolved, every version of yourself you thought you'd be by now, and why naming those losses changes everything 🔥 What losing her son taught Suzanne about finally putting herself at the top of the list, releasing responsibility for everyone else, and why that is not selfish at all .................................................................. Links Mentioned 🌐 Find Suzanne and all her brilliance at https://linktr.ee/suzannejabourgriefeducation 🎧 Listen to Suzanne’s TEDx talk ”Grief is Hard…Let’s Do Better” TEDx Talk: https://youtu.be/3wRQTueKxJY?si=GyECNz4TZowf4x1a 🪩 The Unruly Collective https://wetheunruly.com/the-collective .................................................................. Welcome to We the Unruly, a rebellion for cycle-breakers, disruptors, change makers, movement creators, and other leaders here to create legacies built from truth, pleasure, joyful rebellion, and the kind of unapologetic self-expression that makes fragile patriarchy want to control us even more. But we're no longer playing that game. I'm Jen Vertanen — Identity, Impact, & Legacy Coach and women's empowerment expert. I help high-achievers untangle and unwind from decades of patriarchal b.s. and beliefs handed to them, reconnect to WHO they are, and build A Fuck Yeah life through purpose, joy, pleasure, impact, meaning and intentionally living your legacy now. This episode is a perfect example of the depth and non-performative b.s. inside The Unruly Collective and if this episode spoke to you on a soul-longing level to live a life that means more, we have a you-shaped space at the table full of women who "get" it. 🪩 Come join us inside The Unruly Collective https://wetheunruly.com/the-collective .................................................................. ♥️ The world needs us now more than ever so if you loved this episode or any others, please leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts and/or Spotify to help other mission driven women find We the Unruly.

3. 

   11 Jan 2026

   Unruly Courage: Making Peace with Your Inner Critic w/ Kate Swoboda

   "What do you GET to have because you did something bold, unruly, and all for you?" Kate's answer? The peace that comes with knowing that my choices have not always been easy, but that they're aligned. What if your inner critic isn’t the enemy but a scared part of you trying (very badly) to keep you safe? In this deeply honest, expansive conversation, I sit down with my very first life coach, Kate Swoboda, to unpack fear, self-doubt, nervous system safety, and what real courage looks like over the long haul. Together, we explore: why fighting your inner critic only makes it louder how self-compassion is anything but fluffy why alignment—not ease—is the true measure of an unruly life This episode gives brilliant insight into nuance, integrity, and reclaiming your power without harming yourself. If you’re done white-knuckling your way through growth and ready for a more humane, sustainable way to live, lead, and create, this one’s for you. Hint: This is exactly how I went from self-loathing to self-loving. 👯♀️ Connect with Kate Find Kate and all her brilliance at 👉 yourcourageouslife.com (https://www.yourcourageouslife.com) and checkout her Level 1 ICF Accredited Coach Training (where I got certified) at TeamCLCC.com (https://TeamCLCC.com) 📚 RESOURCES MENTIONED The Unruly Collective (https://wetheunruly.com) Kate's books: The Courage Habit (https://a.co/d/cwElN89) and 100% Fully Alive (https://a.co/d/fZ5KbgC) We the Unruly is building a movement of folks creating their own paradigms of how to live, love, and lead while building lives, businesses, impacts, and legacies built from truth, power, pleasure, rebellion, and the kind of unapologetic self-expression that makes fragile men miss the days of complacent, agreeable women. We call it living your legacy NOW and if you vibe, you belong. Come join us in The Unruly Collective (https://wetheunruly.com) and be in community with folks who “get” it. Jen Vertanen is the founder of We the Unruly—a living rebellion against self-betrayal disguised as success. With 30 years of turning vision into reality and her own hard-won evolution, she works with leaders and creators who are done diluting their power and ready to build what only they can. Known for her sharp insight and disarming humor, Jen helps people live, lead, and create legacies without performing, shrinking, or self-abandoning. Stay Connected: YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/@wetheunrulyjenvertanen) | Website (https://wetheunruly.com) | Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/jennifervertanen) | Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/we_the_unruly) 👋🏼 Thanks for listening! We the Unruly song written...

4. 

   12 Dec 2025

   Living Your Legacy While You’re Still Alive: Gratitude, Belonging, and Embodied Leadership w/ Lisa Condon

   "What do you GET to have because you did something bold, unruly, and all for you?" Lisa's? Live her legacy NOW. In this inaugural live episode of We the Unruly, I sit down with my soul-friend, accountability buddy, and gratitude practitioner Lisa Condon for a deeply vulnerable, completely off-the-cuff conversation about belonging, self-trust, redefining success, and living your legacy while you’re still here to enjoy it. What unfolds is equal parts heart-expanding, spicy, rebellious, and grounding. We pull back the curtain on what it really looks like to un-become the stories you were handed, step into who you actually are, and create impact from that place of embodied truth. The conversation touches everything from perfectionism, ambition, identity, spiritual downloads, the cycle of gratitude, ADHD realities (including brushing your teeth 👀), feral raccoon energy, and the freedom that comes from finally deciding: “EFF it — I get to live my life my way.” Listen in and let's get Unruly! 👯♀️ Connect with Lisa Find Lisa and all her brilliance at 👉 lisacondon.com (https://lisacondon.com/) 📚 RESOURCES MENTIONED The Unruly Collective (https://wetheunruly.com) How gratitude impacts the brain (https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/gratitude-enhances-health-brings-happiness-and-may-even-lengthen-lives-202409113071) from Harvard Review Big A$$ Wall Calendar (https://thebigasscalendar.com/?srsltid=AfmBOoru7EDKNmpecWJfSukvV5pNoDXYJNzoPjgdQenGFV4Cy26st6Ea) (Lisa got the wall version and I got the journal version to help us both see 2026 at a glance because we each have BIG plans) We the Unruly is building a movement of folks creating their own paradigms of how to live, love, and lead while building lives, businesses, impacts, and legacies built from truth, power, pleasure, rebellion, and the kind of unapologetic self-expression that makes fragile men miss the days of complacent, agreeable women. We call it living your legacy NOW and if you vibe, you belong. Come join us in The Unruly Collective (https://wetheunruly.com) and be in community with folks who “get” it. Jen Vertanen is the founder of We the Unruly—a living rebellion against self-betrayal disguised as success. With 30 years of turning vision into reality and her own hard-won evolution, she works with leaders and creators who are done diluting their power and ready to build what only they can. Known for her sharp insight and disarming humor, Jen helps people live, lead, and create legacies without performing, shrinking, or self-abandoning. Stay Connected: YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/@wetheunrulyjenvertanen) | Website (https://wetheunruly.com) | Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/jennifervertanen) | Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/we_the_unruly) 👋🏼 Thanks for listening! We the Unruly song written by Wendy Babcock

5. 

   16 Mar 2025

   Unlocking the Magic: Breaking Free from the Copy-Paste Life w/ Amy Pons

   Feeling STUCK in a life that no longer fits? (you are SO not alone...not by a long shot which is one of the core reasons why I created BE. DARE. CREATE.) You know that moment when everything in your life should feel fine, maybe even great, but deep down, something feels off? That restless feeling, the nagging thought that there has to be more? That’s what my guest, Amy Pons, calls the pinch. It’s that moment of realization when the career, the relationships, the day-to-day grind no longer align with who you truly are and want to BE. In this episode of BE. DARE. CREATE., Amy and I dive super deep into how to break free from the copy-paste life, rewrite the rules, and step into the FULL power of your magic. Whether you’re feeling disconnected from your purpose, stuck in a job that drains you, or just craving something more, this conversation is ABSOLUTELY for you. (We also talk about vulvas...it's a good one!) Amy and I talk about... How to recognize "the pinch" - that moment when life no longer feels...'right' (https://jenvertanen.com/what-living-your-best-life-is-not/) and what to do with it Why it's so forking important to recognize when you're 'shoulding' on yourself and how to define success on your terms (https://jenvertanen.com/success-on-your-terms-defining-personal-success/) so you can stop that already Healing in only ever an inside job and how to get started Your body knows...it absolutely knows and how to actually tap into it for wisdom and decision-making Vulvas...so much vulva talk but it's all super relative to how you BE, how you get stuff done (CREATE), how you show up (DARE), how you heal And lots lots more... Meet Amy Pons Amy Pons is an intuitive coach, marketing expert, and host of the podcast Women Making Moves. After spending decades climbing the corporate ladder, she had a soul-stirring realization—she wasn’t truly living. Now, she helps women step into their full power by embracing who they were always meant to be. Connect w/ Amy Listen to Amy’s Podcast: Women Making Moves (https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/women-making-moves/id1689955950), esp. my episode on giving yourself permission (https://open.spotify.com/episode/2ro3FPUJ3KbHcrwwVWiLen?si=d18561ea3af54fd8) Follow Amy: Unlock The Magic (https://unlock-the-magic.squarespace.com/) | LinkedIn (https://www.linkedin.com/company/unlock-the-magic/) Mentioned In This Episode The Vulva Gallery (https://www.instagram.com/the.vulva.gallery/) on Instagram Want to get in on your own version of BE. DARE. CREATE. Your Life. Your Legacy? First step is giving yourself PERMISSION. Download my {free} guide (https://jenvertanen.com/permission)if you're ready to get started today! Head on over to jenvertanen.com/podcast (https://jenvertanen.com/podcast) for show notes and other binge-worthy episodes. 🫶🏼 If you loved this episode, please leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. It means the world and helps more people find these conversations! I'm Jen Vertanen. Speaker. Coach. No-B.S. Transformation Partner. I'm your kick-in-the-ass strategic partner who helps high-achieving overthinkers, perfectionists, and dreamers stop stalling, start taking bold action, and build a life & legacy that makes their 80-yo selves proud. No fluff. No waiting. Just real, unapologetic permission &...

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   16 Mar 2025

   Embracing Life by Facing Death: A Conversation with Death Doula Aypril Porter

   *cw we discuss death and I share bits of story around my mom's passing In this deeply insightful episode, I sit down with Aypril Porter, a certified death doula and Human Design expert. We explore what it truly means to navigate end-of-life transitions, the emotional and spiritual aspects of death, and how Human Design can play a powerful role in healing, relationships, and self-discovery. Aypril shares her unexpected journey into death work, how her family’s unspoken grief shaped her curiosity about loss, and why death doulas are becoming more recognized for the vital role they play. We also dive into Human Design—how understanding our unique energetic blueprint can help us trust ourselves more fully, navigate relationships, and even bring peace at the end of life. If you’ve ever felt uncertain about grief, death, or your own life’s direction, this conversation will shift your perspective in the best way possible. Resources & Links 🔗 Connect with Aypril Porter Website: https://www.ayprilporter.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ayprilporter 📚 Books Mentioned in This Episode Parenting the Child You Have – Aypril Porter (https://www.amazon.com/stores/Aypril-Porter/author/B09FZTQ1LS?isDramIntegrated=true&ref=ap_rdr&shoppingPortalEnabled=true&store_ref=ap_rdr) Understanding Human Design – Karen Curry Parker (https://www.amazon.com/Understanding-Human-Design-Astrology-Discover-ebook/dp/B00CUUIP7I/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1MY4W91SU8PLU&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.fzM7Bhb4BFtQZxHTJA1H0fTYOK8ms70vMF7w8HsWjle_nMnoOGD8b-dVplcufhKjlzuKCmCfpTw7yCyaqHLvwMJDyNsCGMbEgLW2IsEtwsfaxRV3iX_lajKqWRIRHNAeyemimF6yRApOsNRrzc3FPIwLyifPmf84Be_ovo6d7VBCir1JvL4uJrZPnyP_OOOJNry-gFQ5Bh5ndG5VN5d2Oa2oFowgGz2sUnbzPLiMx48.AEHf1ZnZIMlsB3gdU-k7M_aEVXbxqMiV--N_ttmwlBA&dib_tag=se&keywords=understanding+human+design&qid=1742068353&sprefix=understanding+human+design%2Caps%2C142&sr=8-1) The Definitive Book of Human Design – Ra Uru Hu & Lynda Bunnell (https://www.amazon.com/Human-Design-Definitive-Differentiation-2011-05-03/dp/B01FIWA7IE/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2SSSK0WR1TR6&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ue28l5cQUR30cfp00b4CZaj3fAn5tVtFp69G2LVYvXbkwvyp59H9N0doBolM8j2hpnS2cf58LMW9vSaJ62wyLsbydn0i4Diid-7OJsDutHloppQov329TAqChCRVxKjF_y2BWzg1_9a0g5kHsmWtraUJYtWDinLLRfVoi9MrOJg3OYVhRbWF0PQDqcwfIx5kbzZCNADaVfjH5WHjCysvm7on8-lc3hE1accGg-SN1XM.QZeob2szQyKBlZXf76txNYztJ0UPRmx4Rvlo0W5E5CA&dib_tag=se&keywords=definitive+book+of+human+design&qid=1742068377&sprefix=definitive+book+of+human+design%2Caps%2C131&sr=8-1) Want to get in on your own version of BE. DARE. CREATE. Your Life. Your Legacy? First step is giving yourself PERMISSION. Download my {free} guide (https://jenvertanen.com/permission)if you're ready to get started today! Head on over to jenvertanen.com/podcast (https://jenvertanen.com/podcast) for show notes and other binge-worthy episodes. 🫶🏼 If you loved this episode, please leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. It means the world and helps more people find these conversations! I'm Jen Vertanen. Speaker. Coach. No-B.S. Transformation Partner. I'm your kick-in-the-ass strategic partner who helps high-achieving overthinkers, perfectionists, and dreamers stop stalling, start taking bold action, and build a life & legacy that makes their 80-yo selves proud. No fluff. No waiting. Just real, unapologetic permission & momentum.

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   4 Nov 2024

   EP. 7: Big Gay Overalls & Living Authentically: How Lisa Kirkman Went From Checking Society's Boxes to Living Her Best Damn Life

   Ready for a raw, real conversation about self-acceptance, coming out later in life, and giving yourself permission to live authentically?In this episode, I chat with Lisa Kirkman, host of Big Gay Overalls podcast, about her journey from feeling like she was watching her life in third person to fully owning who she is.Lisa shares her powerful story of breaking free from the "shoulds," finding her voice, and creating a life that actually fits instead of forcing herself to fit into a life that wasn't meant for her.We dive deep into what it means to accept yourself, set boundaries without feeling like an asshole, and intentionally design a life you love.Whether you identify as queer or not, this episode is foranyone who's ever felt like they're living someone else's version of success.On today's episode all about self-acceptance so you can live YOUR best damn life, we discuss:Why self-acceptance is a manual process, not an automatic oneHow to stop protecting everyone else at the cost of yourselfThe freedom that comes from giving zero f*cks about others' expectationsWhy tiny steps forward are more powerful than you thinkThe importance of finding your ride-or-die support systemUse Lisa's story as inspiration to get out of your own damn way and create YOUR Best Damn Life.This conversation is your permission slip to start.Read the transcript, watch the YouTube video, and get the show notes on Your Best Damn Life here. Want to get in on your own version of BE. DARE. CREATE. Your Life. Your Legacy? First step is giving yourself PERMISSION. Download my {free} guide (https://jenvertanen.com/permission)if you're ready to get started today! Head on over to jenvertanen.com/podcast (https://jenvertanen.com/podcast) for show notes and other binge-worthy episodes. 🫶🏼 If you loved this episode, please leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. It means the world and helps more people find these conversations! I'm Jen Vertanen. Speaker. Coach. No-B.S. Transformation Partner. I'm your kick-in-the-ass strategic partner who helps high-achieving overthinkers, perfectionists, and dreamers stop stalling, start taking bold action, and build a life & legacy that makes their 80-yo selves proud. No fluff. No waiting. Just real, unapologetic permission & momentum.

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   29 Oct 2024

   Ep. 6: The Art of Giving the Right F*cks: Protecting Your Energy & Setting Boundaries

   *Note: This is an extra sweary episode because sometimes that's exactly what the topic calls for. You've been warned!*If you're tired of feeling burnt out, spread thin, and giving f*cks about things that don't actually matter...this episode is your permission slip to stop that shit. Here's the truth - you have a finite number of f*cks to give, and society, culture, family - hell, even that rando on Instagram - all have opinions about where those should go. But you know what? That sneaky little f*cker called "should" has been running your show without you even realizing it and that stops NOW.So today, we're changing all that because when you know better, you do better. And it's never too late to start giving the right f*cks.On today's episode all about protecting your energy so you can live YOUR best damn life, we discuss:Why you're treating your f*cks like confetti at the NYE party you didn't even want to attendHow giving too many f*cks is draining your emotional energy i.e. getting in the way of you living your best life5 types of f*ck-giving that are burning and stressin' you outA framework for becoming a connoisseur of f*ck-giving (so fancy!)And ends with The F*ck Yeah Challenge: Your step-by-step guide to reallocating your f*cks.Read the transcript, watch the YouTube video, and get the show notes on the Your Best Damn Life website here. Want to get in on your own version of BE. DARE. CREATE. Your Life. Your Legacy? First step is giving yourself PERMISSION. Download my {free} guide (https://jenvertanen.com/permission)if you're ready to get started today! Head on over to jenvertanen.com/podcast (https://jenvertanen.com/podcast) for show notes and other binge-worthy episodes. 🫶🏼 If you loved this episode, please leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. It means the world and helps more people find these conversations! I'm Jen Vertanen. Speaker. Coach. No-B.S. Transformation Partner. I'm your kick-in-the-ass strategic partner who helps high-achieving overthinkers, perfectionists, and dreamers stop stalling, start taking bold action, and build a life & legacy that makes their 80-yo selves proud. No fluff. No waiting. Just real, unapologetic permission & momentum.

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   14 Oct 2024

   Ep. 5: Shame School 101: Lessons in Self-Compassion and Healing with Karen C. L. Anderson

   We ALL carry some form of shame with us each and every day and often, it's THE THING™ that stops us from moving forward on what we actually want for and from our life.In this powerful episode, I'm joined by shame expert Karen C.L. Anderson as we dive deep into the world of shame, self-compassion, and healing.Listen in for...Karen's innovative "Shame Box" method for dealing with her internalized shame dailyHow to break generational cycles of shame and self-doubtKaren's 6 N's framework for shame resilienceWhy "fixing" shame doesn't work (and what to do instead)Navigating complex mother-daughter relationshipsPractical strategies for self-compassion and healingKaren shares personal stories, expert insights, and actionable advice for anyone struggling with shame, difficult family dynamics, or the journey to self-love. Whether you're dealing with your own shame or supporting someone who is, this episode offers valuable tools for transformation.Join us for an honest, sometimes funny, and always compassionate conversation about embracing your authentic self (including the shame you carry!) and living your best damn life!QUOTESKaren on being human: "We are humans and we're going to f*ck up.We're going to say the wrong thing. We're going to hurt people. We will always have that in us, the ability or the capacity to hurt others. Sometimes intentionally, sometimes not."Jen on the dangers of saying "mindset is everything...": "I think it's actually dangerous when folks think that, or they're told that mindset is everything. I find it very harmful. I used to fall into that camp, right? And then doing my own research and ngoing through my own healing process, I, I was like, no, that is actually very harmful."Karen on unapologetic joy: "There was something very intoxicating about being witnessed in my joy..."#ShameResilience #SelfDiscoveryJourney #EmbraceImperfection #MindsetShift #PersonalGrowth #RelationshipHealing #BreakingGenerationalCycles #LiveYourBestLife #JenVertanenPodcast #YourBestDamnLifeCONNECT W/ SHAME EXPERT KAREN C.L. ANDERSONWebsite: https://kclanderson.comKaren's Shame School: https://www.kclanderson.com/shame-schoolDifficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: https://a.co/d/8kVfpNQYou Are Not Your Mother: https://a.co/d/1Kn1THxOvercoming Creative Anxiety: https://a.co/d/6lSz0moInsta: https://instagram.com/kclandersonKaren's 6 Ns.: https://kclanderson.ck.page/posts/this-is-how-i-free-myself-from-shame-every-dayRESOURCES MENTIONEDThe Single Most Important Parenting Strategy | Becky Kennedy, TED SpeakerYou can now watch Your Best Damn Life on YouTube! Head on over, subscribe, and click the notification button so you get fancy ass alerts each time a new episode goes live.Snag my free "Get Out Of Your Own Damn Way" guide Want to get in on your own version of BE. DARE. CREATE. Your Life. Your Legacy? First step is giving yourself PERMISSION. Download my {free} guide (https://jenvertanen.com/permission)if you're ready to get started today! Head on over to jenvertanen.com/podcast (https://jenvertanen.com/podcast) for show notes and other binge-worthy episodes. 🫶🏼 If you loved this episode, please leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. It means the world and helps more people find these conversations! I'm Jen Vertanen. Speaker. Coach. No-B.S. Transformation Partner. I'm your kick-in-the-ass strategic partner who helps high-achieving overthinkers, perfectionists, and dreamers stop stalling, start taking bold action, and build a life & legacy that makes their 80-yo selves proud. No fluff. No waiting. Just real, unapologetic permission & momentum.

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    6 Oct 2024

    Ep. 4: Success on Your Terms: The Ultimate Middle Finger to Societal Pressure

    Are you tired of chasing someone else's definition of success? In this unfiltered episode of YOUR Best Damn Life, I'm (Jen Vertanen - your pink-haired, unapologetically sweary, no b.s. coachsultant with 30+years of experience helping folks do epic shit) breaking down why it's crucial to define success on YOUR own terms. We dive into:👀 Why societal pressure keeps us stuck in unfulfilling "success"🕵🏼 How to spot if you're living someone else's dream🪩 A step-by-step guide to crafting your unique success definition🤌🏼 Practical tips for owning your path, even when others don't get itWhether you're feeling stuck in a soul-sucking career, dreaming of a major life change, or just sensing there's more to life, this episode is your roadmap to creating a truly fulfilling Best Damn Life. Learn how to give societal expectations the middle finger and start living success on your own badass terms.You can now watch Your Best Damn Life on YouTube! Head on over, subscribe, and click the notification button so you get fancy ass alerts each time a new episode goes live.Snag my free "Get Out Of Your Own Damn Way" guide yourbestdamnlife.com/subscribeReady to go all-in? yourbestdamnlife.com/work-togetherDon't do it alone! Join fellow cycle breakers in our FREE facebook community facebook.com/groups/fyeahlifewithjenvertanen/Come say HI! on the socials...I LOVE having convos in my DMs!FacebookInstaThreads Want to get in on your own version of BE. DARE. CREATE. Your Life. Your Legacy? First step is giving yourself PERMISSION. Download my {free} guide (https://jenvertanen.com/permission)if you're ready to get started today! Head on over to jenvertanen.com/podcast (https://jenvertanen.com/podcast) for show notes and other binge-worthy episodes. 🫶🏼 If you loved this episode, please leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. It means the world and helps more people find these conversations! I'm Jen Vertanen. Speaker. Coach. No-B.S. Transformation Partner. I'm your kick-in-the-ass strategic partner who helps high-achieving overthinkers, perfectionists, and dreamers stop stalling, start taking bold action, and build a life & legacy that makes their 80-yo selves proud. No fluff. No waiting. Just real, unapologetic permission & momentum.

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    22 Sept 2024

    Ep. 3: Feeling the Self Doubt & Doing the Damn Thing Anyway: A Conversation w/Angela Briones, Host of The Gay Podcast For Everyone

    In this episode of Living Your Best Damn Life One "F*ck Yeah I Did" At A Time, I (your host Jen Vertanen) sit down with the fantabulous Angela Briones, creator of The Gay Podcast For Everyone.Ready for some holy-sh*t-I-needed-to-hear-that moments? Listen in!If you've ever felt too old, too gay, or too [insert your flavor of self-doubt here] to chase your dreams...Angela and I are here to call BS and we'll tell you exactly why and more importantly, share ideas for HOW to move through it.We explore things like....Starting a podcast in midlife (spoiler: it's never too late even when you have a day job and even when friends and family think you're whack)The power of "what would Ruby do?" in kicking fear's ass in Angela's life and why knowing YOUR own motivations is so damn importantPractical strategies to deal with imposter syndrome and the "who am I to do this?"How journaling might just save your sanity (and your dreams)Being a "box disruptor" and challenging societal expectations, especially as we ageAnd so much more...Whether you're thinking of starting a podcast, coming out, or just need a kick in the pants to do that thing you've been putting off, this episode is your permission slip to get shit done (plus you see one of my fave t-shirts...it has b👀bs!).Warning: Side effects may include sudden urges to start a podcast, write that book, or live your most authentic life. Proceed with caution or don't, and just dive in headfirst!Tune in for an episode that'll leave you feeling like you can conquer the world one "F*ck Yeah, I Did" at a time! QUOTESAngela on not starting sooner:  "It always kinda haunts me, to be honest. Like, it always haunts me that I didn't do something when I really wanted to because it's just wasted time..."Jen on just getting started: "It’s essential not to let less-than-ideal conditions stop you from starting your "thing"."Angela on finding motivation: "The memory of my friend Ruby, who was vibrant and unfiltered but passed away young, drives me to push past hesitations and continue creating."Angela on working with and moving through her inner critic: "I transitioned from stream-of-consciousness journaling to more intentional, question-focused writing to understand and address my inner critic."#livingyourbestlife  #boldAF #personaldevelopment #selfempowerment  #authenticliving  #mindsetshift  #intentionalliving #lifeonyourterms  #jenvertanenpodcast #agingpowerfully #lgbtqiavoices #thegaypodcastforeveryone #overcomingfearCONNECT W/ JENWebsite: https://jenvertanen.com/Threads: https://threads.net/jen.vertanenInsta: https://instagram.com/jen.vertanen YouTube: https://youtube.com/@JenVertanenCONNECT W/ ANGELAThreads: https://threads.net/@thegaypodcast_foreveryoneInsta: https://instagram.com/thegaypodcast_foreveryoneThe Gay Podcast For Everyone: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-gay-podcast-for-everyone/id1542424590RESOURCES MENTIONEDJulia Cameron's The... Want to get in on your own version of BE. DARE. CREATE. Your Life. Your Legacy? First step is giving yourself PERMISSION. Download my {free} guide (https://jenvertanen.com/permission)if you're ready to get started today! Head on over to jenvertanen.com/podcast (https://jenvertanen.com/podcast) for show notes and other binge-worthy episodes. 🫶🏼 If you loved this episode, please leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. It means the world and helps more people find these conversations! I'm Jen Vertanen. Speaker. Coach. No-B.S. Transformation Partner. I'm your kick-in-the-ass strategic partner who helps high-achieving overthinkers, perfectionists, and dreamers stop stalling, start taking bold action, and build a life & legacy that makes their 80-yo selves proud. No fluff. No...

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    17 Sept 2024

    Ep. 2: The Unfiltered Truth: What Living Your Best Damn Life Is (and Is NOT)

    Are you ready to cut through the BS and create your own best damn life? In this no-holds-barred episode of "Living Your Best Damn Life One 'F*ck Yeah I Did' At A Time," I'm diving deep into what living your best life is NOT and what it actually IS.We explore things like.... - Why thinking you "should" have your ish together 24/7 is total BS - The trap of #blessed social media perfection - How to ditch someone else's life blueprint for your life - Honoring your life's realitiesWhethe... Want to get in on your own version of BE. DARE. CREATE. Your Life. Your Legacy? First step is giving yourself PERMISSION. Download my {free} guide (https://jenvertanen.com/permission)if you're ready to get started today! Head on over to jenvertanen.com/podcast (https://jenvertanen.com/podcast) for show notes and other binge-worthy episodes. 🫶🏼 If you loved this episode, please leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. It means the world and helps more people find these conversations! I'm Jen Vertanen. Speaker. Coach. No-B.S. Transformation Partner. I'm your kick-in-the-ass strategic partner who helps high-achieving overthinkers, perfectionists, and dreamers stop stalling, start taking bold action, and build a life & legacy that makes their 80-yo selves proud. No fluff. No waiting. Just real, unapologetic permission & momentum.

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    8 Sept 2024

    Ep. 1: Daring to Live Differently: The Cycle Breaker’s Manifesto

    Hey there, Bold AF'er! Ready to break free from generational BS and start living your F*ck Yeah Life? In this inaugural episode of "Living Your Best Damn Life One 'F*ck Yeah I Did' At A Time," I'm diving deep into what it means to be a cycle breaker.I share why breaking cycles is hard AF (but so worth it), and arm you with my Cycle Breaker's Toolbox - six essential strategies to break free from inherited patterns. Plus, I'm introducing the powerful Cycle Breaker's Manifesto, your pe... Want to get in on your own version of BE. DARE. CREATE. Your Life. Your Legacy? First step is giving yourself PERMISSION. Download my {free} guide (https://jenvertanen.com/permission)if you're ready to get started today! Head on over to jenvertanen.com/podcast (https://jenvertanen.com/podcast) for show notes and other binge-worthy episodes. 🫶🏼 If you loved this episode, please leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. It means the world and helps more people find these conversations! I'm Jen Vertanen. Speaker. Coach. No-B.S. Transformation Partner. I'm your kick-in-the-ass strategic partner who helps high-achieving overthinkers, perfectionists, and dreamers stop stalling, start taking bold action, and build a life & legacy that makes their 80-yo selves proud. No fluff. No waiting. Just real, unapologetic permission & momentum.

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    26 Aug 2024

    Ep. 0: Welcome to the Living Your Best Damn Life One "F*ck Yeah I Did" At A Time Podcast!

    Welcome to the brand spankin' new podcast..."Living Your Best Damn Life One "F*ck Yeah I Did" At A Time! This show is for rebellious cycle breakers who are beyond ready to transform their dreams into reality. I'm your host, Jen Vertanen - an unapologetically sweary, no-BS, "Live Your Best Damn Life" coach with 30+ years of experience.This show helps you overcome indecision, self-doubt, and perfectionism whether you want to:write the next Netflix hitown a cozy bookshop, or rise from a tou... Want to get in on your own version of BE. DARE. CREATE. Your Life. Your Legacy? First step is giving yourself PERMISSION. Download my {free} guide (https://jenvertanen.com/permission)if you're ready to get started today! Head on over to jenvertanen.com/podcast (https://jenvertanen.com/podcast) for show notes and other binge-worthy episodes. 🫶🏼 If you loved this episode, please leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. It means the world and helps more people find these conversations! I'm Jen Vertanen. Speaker. Coach. No-B.S. Transformation Partner. I'm your kick-in-the-ass strategic partner who helps high-achieving overthinkers, perfectionists, and dreamers stop stalling, start taking bold action, and build a life & legacy that makes their 80-yo selves proud. No fluff. No waiting. Just real, unapologetic permission & momentum.

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