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319: Your Marriage Will Never Grow Until You Know Who God Made You To Be
Are you clear about who God is calling you to become, or are you simply reacting to life and marriage as it happens?
In this episode of What to Say and How to Say It, Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner explain how writing a personal vision statement can strengthen your identity in Christ and begin transforming your marriage from the inside out.
This is not another New Year's resolution or wish list. You'll learn how to create a present-tense declaration rooted in Scripture that clearly describes the person you are becoming spiritually, emotionally, relationally, and physically.
In this episode:
- Why writing your vision matters
- How identity in Christ affects your marriage
- How to create a biblical personal vision statement
- Why positive, present-tense language is important
- How visualization and repeated language influence your thinking
- Why small, sustainable changes produce lasting growth
- How personal transformation can change your family culture
- Where to begin when you no longer know who you are
Your marriage cannot develop a clear family vision until you begin understanding who God created you to be. Start small, write it down, and invite God to shape your character one decision at a time.
Visit GreaterImpactCouples.org to download 5 Tools for How to Stop Walking on Eggshells and take the free marriage assessment.
#IdentityInChrist #ChristianMarriage #MarriageTransformation
5 Oct 2026
318: Emotional Abuse in Marriage: Recognize the Signs, Set Boundaries & Heal
Are you walking on eggshells in your marriage, questioning your own reactions, or wondering whether conflict has become emotionally harmful?
In this episode of What to Say and How to Say It, Shai Lewis and Nina Roesner discuss emotional abuse and harmful patterns in Christian marriage. They explore verbal aggression, contempt, controlling behavior, stonewalling, emotional withdrawal, and using silence or affection as punishment.
Through the "Look in Both Directions" exercise, you'll learn how to recognize the behavior affecting you while also honestly examining how your own words and reactions may be hurting your spouse. This conversation is not about condemnation or assigning permanent labels. It is about clarity, accountability, healthy boundaries, healing, and allowing God to transform the way you respond to conflict.
In this episode:
• How harmful marriage patterns develop and escalate
• Why both spouses must examine their behavior honestly
• The emotional effects of living in a harsh environment
• How to set boundaries without creating more conflict
• Why healing must happen before healthy communication
• How identity in Christ changes your response
• What it means to take responsibility and go first
Download the free PDF, "5 Tools for How to Stop Walking on Eggshells," and take the free marriage assessment at GreaterImpactCouples.org.
Important: This episode is intended for couples who both want to grow and change. It is not a substitute for a professional safety assessment. If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, contact emergency services. In the United States, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), text START to 88788, or visit TheHotline.org.
#EmotionalAbuse #ChristianMarriage #MarriageConflict
28 Sept 2026
317: Speaking Your Truth: Why Your Voice Matters More Than You Think
Discover how to live with intention as Nina Roesner interviews author Kyle Hargrove about his new book, Out Loud and On Purpose.
In this episode, Nina sits down with Kyle Hardrove, a licensed professional counselor, to discuss the principles found in Out Loud and On Purpose. They explore the intersection of faith and mental health, offering viewers insights into how to navigate life's challenges with clarity and conviction.
If you are seeking practical Christian counseling to help you align your daily actions with your values, this interview is for you. Kyle shares wisdom on overcoming obstacles and fostering personal growth, helping you move forward with confidence in your walk with God. Whether you need relationship advice or encouragement for your own journey, these tools will help you live more intentionally.
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