3 Mar 2026
I Froze For Weeks Because I Took Advice That Wasn't Meant For Me
For the last few weeks, I haven't uploaded a new episode. Life happened. It was also half term. But that wasn't even the real reason. The real reason is that I started taking advice from people who meant well. But whose advice was not meant for me.
And I know better, that's the wildest part. I know my values and rhythm. I know what I'm building. But sometimes in the name of growth or leveling up, we start listening to voices that don't understand our assignment. And slowly, slowly, we start moving away from ourselves, our goals, our intentions. And it feels responsible. It feels strategic. It feels mature at that moment when you're seeking that advice or taking it on. It feels like "I'm taking charge." But it's not aligned. And the misalignment stalls you faster than any failure could.
I have not done much for weeks because of that. And I realized I was overcomplicating something that was very simple. This podcast works because it's raw, because it's immediate, and because it's mine. And the moment I tried to optimize it the way someone else would, or someone else told me I should, I froze. One step forward, two steps back. That's what I always tell you. Me too, girl. Me too. You're not the only one who's drifted. You're not the only one who's listened to wrong advice.
You're not the only one who stepped out of alignment, even when you know better. That's the thing. We know better. So no, it's not just you. You're in good company. But the key isn't perfection. It's just recognizing what's happening and nipping it in the bud.
Step 1: Notice it.
Step 2: Identify the source.
Step 3: Stop feeding it, cut it off right there at the source.
Step 4: Implement the lessons.
Step 5: Get back up on that horse and keep riding.
There's no drama, no shame, no spiral. We are not about that. We're just course-correcting. That's it. We don't collapse because we misstepped. We just recalibrate, and then we ride again. I will ride with you, girl. I'm getting back on the horse too. So you are not alone. Do your 5 steps and get back up.
This one's for you if:
1. You froze because you took advice that wasn't aligned with your values
2. You know better but still listened to voices that don't understand your assignment
3. You're tired of overcomplicating what should be simple
4. You need permission to course-correct without shame
Misalignment stalls you faster than failure. Get back on the horse.
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About Women Who Don't Apologise:
Over 150 episodes exploring power, boundaries, capacity, and what it means to live on your own terms. Hosted by Patricia Haywood lawyer, The Queen of Construction Contracts, Top 100 Woman in Construction, GC, and chief unapologetic mistress. For women 40+ who are exhausted from following everyone else's blueprint.
