Attuned with Dr. Angelica & Coach Amanda

About Attuned with Dr. Angelica & Coach Amanda

Welcome to Attuned - Relationships & Science - with Dr Angelica and Coach Amanda, where you learn about neurology, conditioning, human development, psychology, and attachment. If you want to relate more purposefully and intimately with your loved ones or even yourself, stick around for a while. ~~~~~~ Resources, books, and app: https://linktr.ee/Angelicashiels (https://linktr.ee/Angelicashiels) ~~~~~~ This is not therapy, and is for entertainment purposes only. ~~~~ Attunementmethod.com ~~~~ Follow the show on: YouTube: @AttunedPodcast (https://www.youtube.com/@Dr.AngelicaShiels) Instagram: @dr._Angelica_Shiels (https://www.instagram.com/dr._angelica_shiels/) TikTok: @dr..Angelica.Shie (https://www.tiktok.com/@dr..angelica.shie) ~~~~ We talk all things attachment, coaching, burnout, dating, matching, marriage, anxiety, relationship security, parenting, love, secure attachment, over-thinking, people-pleasing, reactivity, avoidance, and self improvement. Dr. Angelica Shiels is a clinical psychologist and Coach Amanda is a certified relationship coach.

Publisher

Angelica Shiels Psy.D. LLC

Category

education · health & fitness · society & culture

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

28 Mar 2026

Latest episode

23 Oct 2026

Latest episodes

13 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   23 Oct 2026

   Emotions 108: Blamers and Controllers, AKA “Externalizers”

   Here we discuss how nature and nurture lead to a habit of blaming/controlling, and why it’s important to willingly practice “distress tolerance” and self-attunement instead of “distress deflection” and “other-focus.” We also discuss how highly sensitive and rigid children need safety, attuned support, and opportunities to practice distress-tolerance in early development.Follow along for a free 6-month beginner course on safe and connected relationships.Watch & subscribe to this episode on YouTubeDownload the Attuned - Relationships App on Apple or Android Schedule coaching with AmandaSUPPORT THE PODCASTRate & share on AppleSend us your questions or comments by emailing Admin@attunementmethod.comFollow Dr. Angelica & Coach Amanda on Instagram and TikTok

2. 

   16 Oct 2026

   Emotions 107: When shame hijacks your stress response

   Did you know that shame can hijack your stress response and make you “throw it back” at your partner like a fiery hot potato? (Or hold it in until it burns you to your core!?) #shame #relationships #emotions #internalizing #conflict #attachmentFollow along for a free 6-month beginner course on safe and connected relationships.Watch & subscribe to this episode on YouTubeDownload the Attuned - Relationships App on Apple or Android Schedule coaching with AmandaSUPPORT THE PODCASTRate & share on AppleSend us your questions or comments by emailing Admin@attunementmethod.comFollow Dr. Angelica & Coach Amanda on Instagram and TikTok

3. 

   7 Oct 2026

   Emotions 106: Defensiveness, accusations and other unhelpful “bargaining” habits

   What do we do when we don’t like what’s happening? When we don’t like feeling judged or wronged or misunderstood or disappointed? Anything to make the yucky moment better, that’s what. In this episode we talk about pesky habits called “bargaining” techniques, that try to get us out of distress in the moment but ultimately lead to disconnection. #anger #emotions #fear #attuned #shame #blame #denial #deflection #accuse #manage #controlFollow along for a free 6-month beginner course on safe and connected relationships or watch on YouTube.Watch & subscribe to this episode on YouTubeDownload the Attuned - Relationships App on Apple or Android Schedule coaching with AmandaSUPPORT THE PODCASTRate & share on AppleSend us your questions or comments by emailing Admin@attunementmethod.comFollow Dr. Angelica & Coach Amanda on Instagram and TikTok

4. 

   2 Oct 2026

   Emotions 105: How couples respond to stress and conflict

   Whether you “expose” problems or “hide” from them, your automatic stress responses only feel protective in the moment. In the cycle of your relationship, they only deepen disconnection. #attuned #emotions #fear #anger Follow along for a free 6-month beginner course on safe and connected relationships.Watch & subscribe to this episode on YouTubeDownload the Attuned - Relationships App on Apple or Android Schedule coaching with AmandaSUPPORT THE PODCASTRate & share on AppleSend us your questions or comments by emailing Admin@attunementmethod.comFollow Dr. Angelica & Coach Amanda on Instagram and TikTok

5. 

   24 Sept 2026

   Emotions 104: Mr. “You always attack” and Mrs. “You never do it right.”

   Did you know that your body sensations are a clue to when your nervous system is detecting danger? Noticing the body sensations is step one to attunement to pick up that YOU'RE ABOUT TO HAVE AN EMOTIONAL EXPERIENCE. If you skip this step, you're stripping yourself of sometimes the only power you may have to regulate and your interpretations will go haywire or be unhelpful. Some of us have had very little practice noticing fear or anger sensations because it kept us safe from little "t" trauma, scary experiences. There are four different pairs of sensations - do you notice the extremes of each? #attuned #emotions #fear #angerFollow along for a free 6-month beginner course on safe and connected relationships.Watch & subscribe to this episode on YouTubeDownload the Attuned - Relationships App on Apple or Android Schedule coaching with AmandaSUPPORT THE PODCASTRate & share on AppleSend us your questions or comments by emailing Admin@attunementmethod.comFollow Dr. Angelica & Coach Amanda on Instagram and TikTok

6. 

   16 Sept 2026

   Emotions 103: Own your sensitivities even when they aren't your fault.

   Are you sensitive to defectiveness, uncertainty, wrongness, or intrusion? In a fear or anger state? Neither suppress nor automatically act. Instead, take a beat to acknowledge/label what is going on. There are four experiences that register “threat” and activate the sympathetic nervous system. (Defectiveness, uncertainty, wrongness, and intrusion.) The body’s sympathetic reaction, combined with our thinking/interpretation in the moment, cascades into the broad emotions of fear and/or anger (and there are lots of more specific emotions under the two categories of fear and anger.)

7. 

   8 Sept 2026

   Emotions 102: Notice Primal Feelings, not just Emotions

   What are primal FEELINGS, and why are they more helpful to label than EMOTIONS? People who can flex between feeling powerless AND in-control, satisfied AND dissatisfied, certainty AND uncertainty (instead of just avoiding one and protecting the other) are less likely to go into a stress response (fight flight freeze and fawn) and less likely to encounter shame/blame. Therefore, they experience normal protective emotions such as fear and anger, but don’t become STUCK in them.#attuned #emotions #fear #angerFollow along for a free 6-month beginner course on safe and connected relationships.Watch & subscribe to this episode on YouTubeDownload the Attuned - Relationships App on Apple or Android Schedule coaching with AmandaSUPPORT THE PODCASTRate & share on AppleSend us your questions or comments by emailing Admin@attunementmethod.comFollow Dr. Angelica & Coach Amanda on Instagram and TikTok

8. 

   1 Sept 2026

   Emotions 101

   What are emotions? Why do they exist? Why can’t we control them? Here we begin explaining everything you should have learned (but probably didn’t) about emotions. #attuned #emotions #fear #angerFollow along for a free 6-month beginner course on safe and connected relationships. Watch & subscribe to this episode on YouTubeDownload the Attuned - Relationships App on Apple or Android Schedule coaching with AmandaSUPPORT THE PODCASTRate & share on AppleSend us your questions or comments by emailing Admin@attunementmethod.comFollow Dr. Angelica & Coach Amanda on Instagram and TikTok

9. 

   13 Jun 2026

   Are you a soldier, an escapist, or an actor under stress?

   In this episode, Dr. Angelica and Coach Amanda discuss stress patterns and the “shame and blame beliefs” that we automatically protect if we don’t notice them. We talk about how wanting to please others is "fawning," rebelling against orders is "fighting," and most people start believing things about themselves and other people on their way from "fawn" to "fight." Watch & subscribe to this episode on YouTubeDownload the Attuned - Relationships App on Apple or Android Schedule coaching with AmandaSUPPORT THE PODCASTRate & share on AppleSend us your questions or comments by emailing Admin@attunementmethod.comFollow Dr. Angelica & Coach Amanda on Instagram and TikTok

10. 

    1 Jun 2026

    Watch out for this thinking trap when you're stressed-out!

    Do psychics and tarot readers enter your algorithm whenever you are stressed out? And what does this have to do with becoming vigilant and evaluative with your partner during stress? We discuss when your feelings determine your beliefs on this episode. Watch & subscribe to this episode on YouTube Download the Attuned - Relationships App on Apple or Android Schedule coaching with Amanda SUPPORT THE PODCAST Rate & share on Apple Send us your questions or comments by emailing Admin@attunementmethod.comFollow Dr. Angelica & Coach Amanda on Instagram and TikTok#MagicalThinking #Neurodiverse #Relationships #Psychology #SelfAwareness

11. 

    4 May 2026

    Dating profile and communication red flags

    Ever felt judged on a first date? Or a first conversation? Or was a little too open minded in swiping right on a matching profile? Let’s talk about those thoughts and what they reveal about toxic patterns. In this episode Dr. Angelica, clinical psychologist, and Amanda, relationship coach, discuss how matching and dating can be full of red flags, and how to avoid being bait for the more dangerous externalizing attachment styles like the trainer, dictator, rescuer, and puppetmaster. They explore why you might override the ick from questions like "Tell me something interesting about yourself," connecting professor Jennie Young's Burned Haystack Method with Dr. Angelica Shiels Attunement Method on Attachment Styles. Recognizing potentially toxic communication patterns early can save you a lot of heartache, and keep you safe. We dive into the red flags that often go unnoticed in profiles and messaging conversations, especially in dating apps. Those little cues can tell you a lot about someone’s emotional maturity and attachment style. So, pay attention if you don't want to be bait! Knowing what to look for can help you safely navigate your dating life. Watch & subscribe to this episode on YouTube Download the Attuned - Relationships App on Apple or Android Schedule coaching with Amanda SUPPORT THE PODCAST Rate & share on Apple Send us your questions or comments by emailing Admin@attunementmethod.comFollow Dr. Angelica & Coach Amanda on Instagram and TikTok

12. 

    10 Apr 2026

    “Visionary/evaluator” and ADHDish people in relationships

    We talk about the “evaluator” thinking-brain that 40% of our app users have. This means you think for yourself, are an active, vigilant thinker, and you orient to details. This brain’s control system is capable of fixating, drawing conclusions, and not filtering instead of shifting, prioritizing, or releasing a thought, and if this is extreme, I’m curious whether this was conditioned to be vigilant/independent and/or if you were born with high IQ or ADHD. We also discuss so much more like mindfulness and sonder coaching. Watch & subscribe to this episode on YouTube Download the Attuned - Relationships App on Apple or Android for hundreds of hours of coaching customized to you by Dr. AngelicaSchedule coaching with Amanda SUPPORT THE PODCAST Rate & share on Apple Send us your questions or comments by emailing Admin@attunementmethod.comFollow Dr. Angelica & Coach Amanda on Instagram and TikTok

13. 

    28 Mar 2026

    What is the Attunement Method for relationships?

    High conflict couples need nervous system regulation before communication skills. Communication skills are useless until you're able to put your oxygen mask on. We're Dr. Angelica and Coach Amanda, and together we've founded the Attuned - Relationships app to support you through all the layers of understanding, grieving, and healing attachment styles. The app is based on years of coaching couples with Dr. Angelica's Attunement Method, decades of clinical work, writing, and evidence-based research. Watch & subscribe to this episode on YouTubeDownload the Attuned - Relationships App on Apple or Android for hundreds of hours of coaching customized to you by Dr. AngelicaSchedule coaching with AmandaSUPPORT THE PODCASTRate & share on AppleSend us your questions or comments by emailing Admin@attunementmethod.comFollow Dr. Angelica & Coach Amanda on Instagram and TikTok

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