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I am finally back. It has been a long year full of learning and I am excited to share it with you.
To kick us off, as promised and promised, I finally gather the courage to express my feelings about plastic surgery and my sub fascial breast augmentation.
I hope that what I learned can guide you if you are making a similar choice or battling some of the same questions in your head.
I dive into my journey from perky boobs of my youth through nursing, losing volume, and wanting to feel more at home in my body again. The decision to get implants. The consults.
And what happened after.
The physical sensations. The complications. The exhaustion of holding something in your body that doesn’t feel right. The emotional weight of navigating that while raising kids, working, and moving through a divorce.
About what happens when women make intimate decisions about their bodies inside systems that don’t always slow down, listen, or account for the full reality of our experience.
And what it costs to override your own knowing.
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8 Jan 2026
Considering the Mental Load
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6 Nov 2025
Why we don’t want sex
Most relationships aren’t starved for sex—they’re starved for attunement. In this kickoff, we unpack why “I don’t want sex” often means “I don’t feel safely, slowly, specifically known.” The episode opens with a real call from a friend questioning divorce, then moves through safety rituals, curiosity as foreplay, and “mother-grade noticing” you can practice tonight. “I’m not into sex” often means: I don’t feel safe, seen, or specifically known. We address why we need to connect first and why it’s not asking for a lot. Want to know me! Don’t ask me to open my body before you open my mind.
What you’ll learn
Why “I don’t want sex” often means “I don’t feel safely, slowly, specifically known.”
Performance vs presence: date-night checkboxes vs reading the body.
Consent as architecture (negotiate → check-ins → aftercare).
“Mother spidey senses” for everyone: notice need before words.
Self-knowledge first: the Gesture Glossary + a 60-sec self-scan.
Try one of these tonightOne slow kiss (no goal)
• One real question you don’t know the answer to
• One sensory upgrade (light/music/scent)
• Ask: “What helped your body breathe?”
Pull quotes
“We’re not asking for more performance. We’re asking for attunement.”
“Safety didn’t kill the thrill—it made the risk taste like freedom.”
“Curiosity is foreplay.”
“Know your tells to read theirs.”
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Apple Podcasts (US)
4.9 / 5
445 ratings
Spotify
4.8 / 5
41 ratings
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