The H.I.P. Podcast explores complex trauma, attachment, the therapeutic relationship, and what healing actually requires. Hosted by Shaya Hecht, LCSW, founder of H.I.P. Counseling Center (Humanly IS Possible).
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The H.I.P. Podcast explores complex trauma, attachment, the therapeutic relationship, and what healing actually requires. Hosted by Shaya Hecht, LCSW, founder of H.I.P. Counseling Center (Humanly IS Possible).
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June 7, 2026
I Thought I Was the Healthy One
<p dir="ltr">Many people come to therapy because they know something is wrong.</p> <p dir="ltr">Devorah's story was different.</p> <p dir="ltr">She was successful, capable, independent, and by all appearances doing well. She thought of herself as the strong one — the person who didn't need anyone. Therapy wasn't something she felt she needed. If anything, she was simply curious about it.</p> <p dir="ltr">After the birth of her second child, she attended therapy for the first time. It was helpful, practical, and focused on navigating a difficult season of life. When things improved, therapy ended and she moved on. </p> <p dir="ltr">A few years later, new struggles emerged. This time, she felt something deeper was happening. She entered therapy expecting to gain insight and find solutions. Instead, she found herself questioning long-held beliefs about independence, vulnerability, attachment, and what it means to need other people.</p> <p dir="ltr">In this conversation, we discuss:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">what happens when independence becomes part of your identity</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">discovering needs you never knew you had</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">attachment, vulnerability, and shame</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">why therapy can feel so threatening</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">the experience of becoming attached to a therapist</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">repair, trust, and therapeutic relationships</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">how therapy can change the way we relate to ourselves, others, and even to Hashem</p> </li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">This is a conversation about healing, attachment, and the courage it takes to question a story you've believed about yourself for a very long time.</p> <p dir="ltr">Your Voice Matters</p> <p dir="ltr">If this episode brought something up for you and you'd like to share a reflection or response, you're invited to do so below:</p> <p><a href= "https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe3MXjjnUhOPYJaopK1ORP1BmSJtdUTBmObq9FOBE3DJHZ3XQ/viewform"> Click here to leave feedback</a></p> <p dir="ltr">You can share as much or as little as you want, and you can remain anonymous.</p> <p dir="ltr">Continue the conversation:<br /> I share reflections on attachment, trauma, and the therapy relationship on Instagram @shayahecht</p> <p dir="ltr">About H.I.P. Counseling Center:</p> <p dir="ltr">Learn more about our trauma-informed practice and offerings at <a href= "https://www.hipcounseling.com/">www.hipcounseling.com</a> or on instagram @hipcounselingcenter. </p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe & Review:<br /> If this conversation resonated with you, please subscribe to the HIP Podcast on your favorite podcast app. Leaving a review helps others who need to hear these stories find their way here.</p> <p><strong id= "docs-internal-guid-a8ebeb89-7fff-5fe2-3f0a-b92a9d51ddd1"><br /> <br /></strong></p>
May 11, 2026
When Attachment Feels Obsessive, Confusing, and Shameful
<p dir="ltr">There's a kind of attachment pattern that feels confusing, overwhelming… and often deeply shameful.</p> <p dir="ltr">In this conversation, Leah shares her experience of growing up highly independent — while also finding herself becoming intensely attached to one person at a time. That pattern followed her into relationships, and eventually into therapy… where things became much more complicated.</p> <p dir="ltr">We talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">what it feels like when attachment becomes obsessive or all-consuming</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">the shame of needing someone "too much"</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">how independence can mask a deep longing for connection</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">what can happen when therapy boundaries become unclear or unsafe</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">and how hard it is to recognize what's happening when you're in it</p> </li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">We also explore the subtle (and not-so-subtle) red flags that can show up in therapy — especially when there's a power dynamic — and how easy it is to lose your footing when attachment needs are strong.</p> <p dir="ltr">This is a vulnerable and honest conversation about attachment, confusion, and the longing for connection — and the importance of awareness when something doesn't feel right.</p> <p dir="ltr">If you've ever felt like:<br /> "Why am I like this?"<br /> "Why can't I let go?"<br /> or<br /> "This doesn't feel right, but I don't understand why…"</p> <p dir="ltr">you're not alone.</p> <p dir="ltr">Your Voice Matters</p> <p dir="ltr">If this episode brought something up for you and you'd like to share a reflection or response, you're invited to do so below:</p> <p dir="ltr"><a href= "https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe3MXjjnUhOPYJaopK1ORP1BmSJtdUTBmObq9FOBE3DJHZ3XQ/viewform?usp=header"> Click here to leave feedback</a></p> <p dir="ltr">You can share as much or as little as you want, and you can remain anonymous.</p> <p dir="ltr">Continue the conversation:<br /> I share reflections on attachment, trauma, and the therapy relationship on Instagram @shayahecht</p> <p dir="ltr">About H.I.P. Counseling Center:</p> <p dir="ltr">Learn more about our trauma-informed practice and offerings at <a href= "https://www.hipcounseling.com/">www.hipcounseling.com</a> or on instagram @hipcounselingcenter. </p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe & Review:<br /> If this conversation resonated with you, please subscribe to the HIP Podcast on your favorite podcast app. Leaving a review helps others who need to hear these stories find their way here.</p> <p> </p>
February 2, 2026
"Feeling Too Much In Therapy": Attachment Trauma, Dependency, and Healing with Tzipora Schiffer
<h2 dir="ltr">Episode Show Notes</h2> <p dir="ltr">In this episode of The H.I.P. Podcast, Shaya sits down with Tzipora Schiffer, LCSW, for a deeply honest conversation about attachment trauma, therapy, and what happens when the place meant to heal becomes confusing, painful, or even shaming.</p> <p dir="ltr">Tzipora shares her personal journey — from growing up feeling "fine on the outside but profoundly different on the inside," to years of searching for help without having language for what was actually wrong. She speaks openly about navigating therapy as someone with attachment wounds: the shame of needing connection, the terror of being "too much," and the devastating impact of therapists who were kind but unable to hold clear, safe boundaries.</p> <p dir="ltr">This episode explores how attachment trauma often doesn't come from a single obvious event, but from subtle, repeated experiences of emotional dismissal — and how those wounds are reenacted inside the therapy relationship itself. Together, Shaya and Tzipora unpack why anxiety, obsession, dependency, and fear of abandonment are not signs of pathology, but signals of a nervous system that learned to survive without reliable connection.</p> <p dir="ltr">Tzipora also shares the pivotal moments that led to healing: advocating for her child when professionals were wrong, learning to trust her own inner knowing, and finally experiencing therapy where the relationship itself — not skills, diagnoses, or behavior correction — became the vehicle for change.</p> <p dir="ltr">This episode is for anyone who has ever:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Felt younger than their age in therapy<br /> <br /></p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Been confused or ashamed by how much they needed their therapist<br /> <br /></p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Wondered why therapy didn't help — or made things worse<br /> <br /></p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Struggled to trust their own inner authority<br /> <br /></p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Felt unseen despite "doing everything right"</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Wondered whether secure attachment is still possible after a lifetime of disconnection<br /> <br /></p> </li> </ul> <p dir="ltr"> </p> <hr /> <p> </p> <h2 dir="ltr">Key Moments in the Episode</h2> <p dir="ltr">00:00 – Introduction and Tzipora's background<br /> 04:30 – "Not having a story" — and still deserving healing<br /> 12:10 – When therapy doesn't have language for relational pain<br /> 23:45 – Shame, attachment needs, and feeling "too much"<br /> 38:20 – Boundaries without attunement (and why they can harm)<br /> 55:00 – Advocacy, intuition, and reclaiming inner authority<br /> 1:12:40 – Healing through relationship, not compliance<br /> 1:25:00 – Closing reflections on therapy, compassion, and growth</p> <p dir="ltr">(Timestamps are approximate and may vary slightly by platform.)</p> <p dir="ltr"> </p> <hr /> <p> </p> <h2 dir="ltr">What This Conversation Explores</h2> <ul> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why attachment wounds often go unnamed<br /> <br /></p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">How therapy can unintentionally recreate abandonment<br /> <br /></p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">The difference between boundaries and emotional safety<br /> <br /></p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why dependency isn't created in therapy — it's revealed<br /> <br /></p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">How shame blocks healing more than symptoms ever could<br /> <br /></p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">What trauma-informed, relational therapy actually looks like<br /> <br /></p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">How clients learn to trust themselves again<br /> <br /></p> </li> </ul> <p dir="ltr"> </p> <hr /> <p> </p> <h2 dir="ltr">Listener Reflection</h2> <p dir="ltr">If this episode stirred something in you, you're not alone.<br /> You don't need a dramatic story to deserve care.<br /> And healing doesn't mean becoming less needy — it often means finally being met.</p> <p dir="ltr">Your Voice Matters</p> <p dir="ltr">If this episode brought something up for you and you'd like to share a reflection or response, you're invited to do so below:</p> <p dir="ltr"><a href= "https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe3MXjjnUhOPYJaopK1ORP1BmSJtdUTBmObq9FOBE3DJHZ3XQ/viewform?usp=header"> Click here to leave feedback</a></p> <p dir="ltr">You can share as much or as little as you want, and you can remain anonymous.</p> <p dir="ltr">Continue the conversation:<br /> I share reflections on attachment, trauma, and the therapy relationship on Instagram @shayahecht</p> <p dir="ltr">About H.I.P. Counseling Center:</p> <p dir="ltr">Learn more about our trauma-informed practice and offerings at <a href= "https://www.hipcounseling.com/">www.hipcounseling.com</a> or on instagram @hipcounselingcenter. </p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe & Review:<br /> If this conversation resonated with you, please subscribe to the HIP Podcast on your favorite podcast app. Leaving a review helps others who need to hear these stories find their way here.</p> <p> </p>
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