The Dating Lab is a podcast hosted by dating expert and profile stylist Alyssa Dineen, where modern dating gets a much-needed makeover. Through candid conversations with guests who’ve cracked the code, or are still figuring it out, Alyssa explores what it really takes to date with intention, clarity, and emotional safety. From profile rewrites to post-divorce success stories, The Dating Lab offers practical strategies, heartfelt stories, and a refreshing take on finding connection in today’s dating world.
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The Dating Lab is a podcast hosted by dating expert and profile stylist Alyssa Dineen, where modern dating gets a much-needed makeover. Through candid conversations with guests who’ve cracked the code, or are still figuring it out, Alyssa explores what it really takes to date with intention, clarity, and emotional safety. From profile rewrites to post-divorce success stories, The Dating Lab offers practical strategies, heartfelt stories, and a refreshing take on finding connection in today’s dating world.
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Recent Episodes
June 10, 2026
Episode 16: An Entrepreneurial Approach to Dating: Alyssa Dineen Talks with Kym Canter
<p>In this refreshing and lively episode, Alyssa Dineen sits down with Kym Canter, a luxury sustainability pioneer specializing in bio-based fur and ethical lab-grown diamonds, for a candid conversation about transforming your mindset around online dating. Having bonded at a fashion industry event over their mutual, unlikely love for the digital dating landscape, Alyssa and Kym dissect why so many midlife adults encounter a wall of "cringe" and fear, and how to entirely rewrite that script.</p><p>Kym shares her journey as an early online dating pioneer, explaining how her natural entrepreneurial drive helped her view matching platforms not as something demeaning, but as a brilliant technical ecosystem akin to online shopping or adopting the first cell phones. Together, they challenge the traditional pitfalls of conventional setups, such as the inherent awkwardness of fracturing friend groups or dealing with vicarious matchmakers, and highlight the liberating freedom of stepping into a massive, independent market of new people.</p><p>From hilarious tales of accidentally dating the exact same man twice due to a profile picture swap, to navigating severe outliers like a deceptive married match that prompted a Marie Claire feature article, Kym and Alyssa provide a masterclass in treating dating as free self-analysis. This episode serves as an empowering reminder that finding a partner in midlife is less about avoiding failures and more about embracing them as valuable data, letting go of outdated collegiate scripts, and step-by-step rebuilding your social confidence.</p><h3><strong>You'll also hear about:</strong></h3><ul><li><strong>(00:45)</strong> Meeting Kym Canter: A sustainability pioneer bridging the luxury fashion world and online dating.</li><li><strong>(06:05)</strong> Shifting midlife mindsets: Dropping old college dating scripts for a changing modern ecosystem.</li><li><strong>(12:15)</strong> Desktop monitors to mobile apps: The business genius behind the evolutionary shift to swiping.</li><li><strong>(18:05)</strong> The "Den Mother" approach: Pushing younger generations to invest in premium, high-value profile filters.</li><li><strong>(24:20)</strong> Sharing app biases: Alyssa and Kym break down their long-term partner success stories on Tinder.</li><li><strong>(30:15)</strong> The forced chemistry trap: Learning to stop over-analyzing text messages and forcing interest.</li><li><strong>(36:10)</strong> Clarifying text intentions: A humorous lesson on misreading a late-night invite and setting clear standards.</li><li><strong>(42:15)</strong> Customizing modern commitment: Rejecting traditional relationship timelines for what actually works.</li><li><strong>(48:10)</strong> The entrepreneurial parallel: Re-framing bad dates as dud business meetings on the journey to a successful win.</li><li><strong>(54:20)</strong> Sustainable designs: Kym's solar-powered lab-grown diamond venture and how to connect with her brand.</li></ul><br/><p></p><h3><strong>Rate, Review & Follow The Dating Lab</strong></h3><p>Listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.</p><p>If this episode resonated, please rate, review, and share—it helps more people discover the show.</p><h3><strong>Learn More About Kym Canter</strong></h3><ul><li>Follow Kim on <u><a href="https://www.instagram.com/kymcanter/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></u></li><li>Visit <u><a href="http://theinvisiblejewels.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">The Invisible Jewels</a></u></li></ul><br/><h3><strong>Learn More About Alyssa Dineen:</strong></h3><ul><li>Visit<a href="https://www.google.com/search?q=https://stylemyprofile.co" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> </a><u><a href="https://www.google.com/search?q=https://stylemyprofile.co" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Style My Profile</a></u></li><li>Follow Alyssa on<a href="https://www.google.com/search?q=https://www.instagram.com/stylemyprofile/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> </a><u><a href="https://www.google.com/search?q=https://www.instagram.com/stylemyprofile/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></u></li><li>Follow Alyssa on<a href="https://www.google.com/search?q=https://www.tiktok.com/%40stylemyprofile" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> </a><u><a href="https://www.google.com/search?q=https://www.tiktok.com/%40stylemyprofile" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">TikTok</a></u></li></ul><br/>
May 27, 2026
Episode 15: What is "Date Vanilla"? Alyssa Dineen Explains Her Signature Framework
<p>In this special milestone episode, Alyssa Dineen steps behind the microphone for her very first solo episode of The Dating Lab. Drawing from her personal life and years of professional experience as a midlife dating coach , Alyssa opens up about her own journey, sharing the exact story of how she met her partner of nine years, Yoav, on Tinder and how that unexpected relationship became the blueprint for her signature framework: The Date Vanilla Method.</p><p>Alyssa deconstructs the common misconceptions surrounding the word "vanilla," explaining why a "ho-hum" profile or an initial lack of instant, overwhelming chemistry is not a sign to run, but rather an invitation to get to know someone real. She shares how her first few dates with Yoav lacked conventional "fireworks" and explores why continuing to show up allowed deep, lasting chemistry to develop over time. Moving beyond her personal story, Alyssa analyzes the broader patterns behind her clients' biggest success stories, demonstrating how a shift toward evaluating values, integrity, and emotional availability moves the needle for adults over 45.</p><p>Finally, Alyssa addresses the current explosion of the online dating coaching landscape. She offers critical advice on how to navigate conflicting professional guidance and emphasizes the importance of following mentors who truly understand the unique nuances of midlife transitions, divorce, and late-stage dating. Empowering, practical, and deeply honest, this episode is a foundational primer for anyone ready to lower their guard, reframe their expectations, and date with authentic clarity.</p><h3><strong>You'll also hear about:</strong></h3><ul><li><strong>(00:45)</strong> Alyssa’s first solo episode: Sharing her personal love story and client success patterns</li><li><strong>(01:30)</strong> Deconstructing "Date Vanilla": What it really means and why it doesn't mean settling</li><li><strong>(02:50)</strong> Meeting Yoav on Tinder: Re-evaluating immediate messages and the "same-day date" myth</li><li><strong>(04:35)</strong> The early dates: Navigating work-morning matcha, restaurant running jokes, and zero initial chemistry</li><li><strong>(08:00)</strong> The fourth date turning point: Overcoming the fear of leading someone on to give it one last shot</li><li><strong>(09:45)</strong> The mirror moment: Shifting from a comfortable friendship foundation to off-the-charts fireworks</li><li><strong>(11:55)</strong> Deconstructing a vanilla profile: The green flags of respectful communication over showy bio lines</li><li><strong>(13:25)</strong> Redefining high standards: Shifting focus from superficial traits to core values and true availability</li><li><strong>(16:25)</strong> Sifting through the noise: Navigating a saturated coaching landscape to find advice tailored to midlife daters</li></ul><br/><p></p><h2><strong>Rate, Review & Follow The Dating Lab</strong></h2><p>Listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.</p><p>If this episode resonated, please rate, review, and share - it helps more people discover the show.</p><h2><strong>Learn more about Alyssa Dineen:</strong></h2><ul><li>Visit<a href="https://www.stylemyprofilenyc.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> </a><u><a href="https://www.stylemyprofilenyc.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Style My Profile</a></u></li><li>Follow Alyssa on <u><a href="https://www.instagram.com/alyssadineen/?hl=en" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></u></li><li>Follow Alyssa on <u><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@alyssadineen" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">TikTok</a></u></li></ul><br/>
May 6, 2026
Episode 14: Navigating Divorce, Dating, and Listening to Instincts with "My Next Chapter" founders
<p>Alyssa Dineen sits down with Shari Joseph and Tamara Frankfort, the co-creators of My Next Chapter, a community-driven platform designed to support individuals navigating every stage of separation and divorce. Together, they explore the deeply personal transitions that follow the end of a marriage, from the initial "race" to start dating again to the quiet power of finding oneself in the aftermath.</p><p>Tamara and Shari share their contrasting experiences, one amicable and one high-conflict, and offer wisdom on why listening to your gut is the most important tool in your arsenal. They discuss the nuanced difference between dating to escape the "icky" feeling of loneliness and dating because you are genuinely ready to share a life you have worked hard to build.</p><p><strong>You'll also hear about:</strong></p><ul><li>(01:40) Indicators of marriage longevity and the vital importance of following your instincts</li><li>(04:44) High-conflict divorce, cultural excuses, and the normalization of unhappiness</li><li>(08:29) The "Next Chapter" race: Why jumping into dating too quickly can feel unsatisfying</li><li>(13:31) Distinguishing between the "icky" weight of loneliness and genuine dating readiness</li><li>(15:45) Dating as an escape: How meeting new people can unexpectedly aid the healing process</li><li>(18:54) The myth of being "fully healed" before finding new love</li><li>(24:06) Silver linings of custody: Recharging, presence, and the evolution of the parent-child bond</li><li>(31:40) Lightning Round: Healthy love, breaking divorce rules, and the gift of a second chance</li></ul><br/><p>This episode is for anyone navigating the transition from "we" to "me," those questioning their readiness to date, and anyone looking for permission to enjoy the quiet moments of their new life.</p><h2><strong>Rate, Review & Follow The Dating Lab: </strong></h2><p>Listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.</p><p>If this episode resonated, please rate, review, and share - it helps more people discover the show.</p><p><strong>Learn more about My Next Chapter:</strong></p><ul><li>Visit their <u><a href="https://www.mynextchapter.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website</a></u></li><li>Follow them on<u><a href="https://www.instagram.com/mynextchapterofficial/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> Instagram</a></u></li></ul><br/><p><strong>Follow Alyssa Dineen:</strong></p><ul><li>Visit<a href="https://www.stylemyprofilenyc.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> </a><u><a href="https://www.stylemyprofilenyc.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Style My Profile</a></u></li><li>Follow Alyssa on <u><a href="https://www.instagram.com/alyssadineen/?hl=en" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></u></li><li>Follow Alyssa on <u><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@alyssadineen" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">TikTok</a></u></li></ul><br/>
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