May 29, 2026
The people-pleasing machine: why LLMs tell you what you want to hear (for better or worse)
<p><strong>User: </strong>“What’s 1+1?”</p><p><strong>Chatbot:</strong> “1+1 is 2”</p><p><strong>User: </strong>“But I really think it’s 3”</p><p><strong>Chatbot: </strong>“You’re so right, dear, it’s actually 3. You’re so smart, that was a great catch!”</p><p><br></p><p>How does sycophantic behavior emerge from model training of LLMs, and how does interacting with sycophantic AI impact users? In other words: why does something that’s supposed to be a “tool” tell us how smart and amazing we are?</p><p><br></p><p>Well…both the problems and solutions for sycophancy are all about context, according to our expert in sycophancy, <a href="https://lujainibrahim.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer"><u>Lujain Ibrahim</u></a>.</p><p><br></p><p>Welcome to THE deep-dive episode on AI sycophancy, where we get into exactly why we see sycophantic AI models and what happens when users engage with them.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Setting the scene: defining and contextualizing sycophantic AI</strong></p><p>00:00 Introduction to the topic and our guest expert</p><p>01:28 What is sycophancy and why is everyone talking about it?</p><p>03:05 Do people prefer models that are sycophantic? If so, why?</p><p>04:25 Sycophancy in the news: delusion spirals, AI psychosis, self and other harm</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Going behind the scenes of how sycophancy emerges: computer science, machine learning, and training</strong></p><p>06:19 How does an AI model become sycophantic? Machine learning, reinforcement learning, and user preferences</p><p>08:05 Which humans decide what kind of responses LLMs should give?</p><p>09:04 What are the effects of sycophancy on model behavior? Emergent and unintended effects of fine tuning</p><p>10:38 What’s the relationship between sycophancy and accuracy of model output?</p><p><br></p><p><strong>The implications: what the research tells us about the effects of sycophancy on users</strong></p><p>12:46 Is sycophancy only bad for users, or are there cases where sycophancy can be helpful?</p><p>15:05 What does research say about the effects of sycophancy on user’s well-being, relationships, and beliefs?</p><p><br></p><p><strong>What can and should we do: Can we solve the “problems” of sycophancy? If so, how?</strong></p><p>17:11 Which LLMs are most versus least sycophantic?</p><p>18:40 Can users or developers reduce how sycophantic an LLM responds? (And whose responsibility should it be?)</p><p>21:37 Do you foresee some of these problems of sycophancy getting resolved in the future, or are companies “too” incentivized to maintain sycophantic models?</p><p>24:14 What we can do: grounded advice to users, developers, and policymakers about sycophancy in AI</p><p><br></p><p><strong>How sycophancy impacts our human relationships</strong></p><p>25:56 Do people prefer sycophancy in other humans, and is that why they prefer sycophantic AI?</p><p>27:09 How do people use LLMs in everyday life? What we’re missing</p><p>28:40 <strong>Commentary</strong> by yours truly: the black box of sycophancy, paternalism vs. technological determinism, relational deskilling and dirty dishes, and how we love the lowest friction option <3</p><p>-</p><p>This is Our Lives With Bots, the show where we ask important, timely questions about what it means to live with our bot counterparts. From time to time, we also dive deep into what an AI future might look like for us. Sometimes we agree, sometimes we spiral, but we always go deep.</p><p><a href="https://ourliveswithbots.com/about/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer"><u>Rose and Angy</u></a> are psychologists with degrees in psychology, artificial intelligence, and ethics. They have conducted research in human-AI interaction and created this podcast to make information about AI accessible to you. You can learn more about us at <a href="http://ourliveswithbots.com" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer"><u>ourliveswithbots.com</u></a>.</p><p>-</p><p><strong>Links to Lujain’s work:</strong></p><p>Ibrahim, L., Akbulut, C., Elasmar, R., Rastogi, C., Kahng, M., Morris, M. R., McKee, K. R., Rieser, V., Shanahan, M., & Weidinger, L. (2025). Multi-turn Evaluation of Anthropomorphic Behaviours in Large Language Models (arXiv:2502.07077). arXiv.<a href="https://doi.org/10.48550/arXiv.2502.07077" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer"><u> https://doi.org/10.48550/arXiv.2502.07077</u></a></p><p><br></p><p>Ibrahim, L., Hafner, F. S., & Rocher, L. (2026). Training language models to be warm can reduce accuracy and increase sycophancy. Nature, 652(8112), 1159–1165.<a href="https://doi.org/10.1038/s41586-026-10410-0" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer"><u> https://doi.org/10.1038/s41586-026-10410-0</u></a></p><p><br>Ibrahim, L., Huang, S., Bhatt, U., Ahmad, L., & Anderljung, M. (2025). Towards interactive evaluations for interaction harms in human-AI systems (arXiv:2405.10632; Version 7). arXiv.<a href="https://doi.org/10.48550/arXiv.2405.10632" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer"><u> https://doi.org/10.48550/arXiv.2405.10632</u></a></p>
