"Waking Up to Narcissism" is a podcast hosted by Tony Overbay, LMFT, host of the award-winning Virtual Couch podcast, dedicated to helping individuals recognize and navigate narcissistic traits and tendencies in their relationships and within themselves. With a focus on emotional immaturity versus narcissism, Tony provides tools and guidance for personal growth and managing relationships with narcissistic or emotionally immature individuals, even if that individual is you!
Waking Up to Narcissism
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"Waking Up to Narcissism" is a podcast hosted by Tony Overbay, LMFT, host of the award-winning Virtual Couch podcast, dedicated to helping individuals recognize and navigate narcissistic traits and tendencies in their relationships and within themselves. With a focus on emotional immaturity versus narcissism, Tony provides tools and guidance for personal growth and managing relationships with narcissistic or emotionally immature individuals, even if that individual is you!
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Recent Episodes
May 27, 2026
When Forgiveness Is for Them, and Acceptance Is for You — Why You Can't Let Go
Host Tony Overbay, LMFT, explores why true acceptance is self-validated and achievable on your own timeline, unlike forgiveness which requires the harm-doer's participation.
May 12, 2026
"Okay, You Win" Means They're Just Getting Started: A Narcissistic Letter, Decoded
Licensed marriage and family therapist Tony Overbay decodes a manipulative letter from a narcissistic husband, revealing sixteen distinct tactics to help listeners understand toxic relationship dynamics.
April 27, 2026
Death By 1,000 Cuts Pt. 11: Termites, Not Earthquakes, Destroy the Foundation
You're not surviving an earthquake in your narcissistic relationship. You're surviving termites—slow, structural damage no one else can see...until it's too late! In this 11th installment of Death by 1,000 Cuts, Tony Overbay, LMFT, shares his own cut for the first time in the series: the weekly phone call with his mom that was never going to land as "enough," no matter how he showed up. From there, he walks through four clusters of cuts pulled directly from listeners—the illusion of choice, two versions of reality, being set up to fail, and the punishment that arrives wrapped as a "we problem." If you've ever tried to describe what life inside an emotionally immature or narcissistic relationship actually feels like and watched the people around you look confused, this episode puts language around what your body has been telling you all along. Episode highlights: Recognize the "attack surface"—why your opinion gets requested, then quietly dismantled (paint colors, restaurants, Christmas gifts) Decode the two-faces pattern, projection, and how reality gets edited in real time Spot the setup-to-fail trap: squeegees, mowing, dishwashers, and "help" that's actually a rigged test Understand co-regulation and why a relationship destabilizes the moment you start getting healthier Hear what continues after separation—and why "diagnostic warfare" lands as a dull thud once you become more grounded Tony Overbay is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, betrayal-trauma certified, and the founder of the Magnetic Marriage course and the Men's Emotional Architects group—work built on helping people name what they couldn't quite name before. If something in this episode pulled up a cut of your own, write it down. And if you're willing to share it for a future episode, send it to contact@tonyoverbay.com. You're not crazy. You're recognizing termites. 00:00 Welcome and Updates 01:25 Termites House Metaphor 05:04 Why It’s Hard to Explain 06:41 Co-Regulation and Equilibrium 08:45 Tony’s Phone Call Cut 13:19 Why These Episodes Validate 15:04 Cluster One Illusion of Choice 19:20 Cluster Two-Two Realities 23:08 Masks in Public 24:33 Faith and Validation 26:44 Reality Gets Edited 27:30 Everything Is a We Problem 29:16 Set Up to Fail 33:35 Punishment and Withdrawal 38:00 After Separation 39:29 Parallel Parenting Masks 40:35 Diagnostic Warfare 42:11 Grounded Healing Tools 44:31 Write It Down 47:18 Closing Thanks Please follow Tony on Instagram @virtual.couch on Tiktok @virtualcouch on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/tonyoverbaylmft and on Substack https://thevirtualcouch.substack.com/ You can reach out to Tony through his website tonyoverbay.com or by emailing contact @ tonyoverbay.com
160 total episodes available with 52 transcripts
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