Shrink For The Shy Guy

April 22, 2025

But I Still Feel Like I'm Not Enough!

<p>Welcome to today’s episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy with Dr. Aziz — and today we’re going straight into one of the most common, painful, and persistent feelings that quietly runs so many lives:</p> <p>👉 “I’m not enough.”</p> <p>This episode is for you if you’ve ever:</p> <ul> <li class="">Felt like no matter how much you do, it’s never quite enough</li> <li class="">Believed you had to prove your worth through achievement or perfection</li> <li class="">Avoided risks, opportunities, or putting yourself out there because of self-doubt</li> <li class="">Collapsed into hopelessness or excuses just to protect yourself from trying</li> </ul> <p>🎯 Dr. Aziz breaks down:</p> <ul> <li class="">Why this feeling of “not enough” is a universal part of being human</li> <li class="">Why trying to fix it through more doing never works (just ask Tony Robbins!)</li> <li class="">How to stop confusing this feeling with reality</li> <li class="">The truth about your self-worth that no accomplishment (or failure) can touch</li> <li class="">A simple mindset shift to help you show up fully — even when that insecure voice gets loud</li> </ul> <p>If you're ready to stop being controlled by this invisible wall of “not enough,” tune in now and take back your freedom.<br><br><br>-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------<br><br><br></p> <p class="">Ever catch yourself thinking, "I'm not good enough"? It's a common thought that can keep us stuck, whether we're pursuing relationships, career opportunities, or even personal growth. This persistent feeling of inadequacy can impact your confidence and stop you from taking bold actions. In this post, I'll share how to recognize this feeling, understand it, and break free from its grip, allowing you to create a life where you feel truly empowered and worthy.</p> <p><strong>Understanding the "Not Enough" Feeling</strong></p> <p class="">First things first: <strong>you are not alone</strong>. The feeling of “not enough” is a deeply human experience, and almost everyone grapples with it at some point in their lives. Whether it’s in relationships, career, or personal achievements, the fear of not being “enough” leads to a variety of behaviors and mindsets.</p> <p class="">So, what makes this feeling so powerful? It's rooted in the fear of loss—loss of love, connection, respect, or even survival. <strong>If I’m not enough, then I’ll lose something important</strong>, like love or worthiness. The key here is recognizing that this fear is not reality. It’s simply an emotional response to uncertainty, and once we understand that, we can begin to take control.</p> <p><strong>Why "Proving Enough" Doesn't Work</strong></p> <p class="">Most of us try to fix the “not enough” feeling by <strong>doing more</strong>. We hustle, work harder, or try to accumulate external symbols of success—titles, possessions, or achievements. The goal? To prove that we are worthy.</p> <p class="">But here’s the catch: <strong>doing more doesn’t make you enough</strong>. It’s an endless cycle. You can’t hustle your way to self-worth because the feeling of not being enough is never truly satisfied by external validation. Even once you achieve one goal, the sense of inadequacy may still linger. <strong>Real confidence doesn’t come from what you do; it comes from who you are.</strong></p> <p><strong>A Powerful Shift: Own Your Value</strong></p> <p class="">What if you could break the cycle? The real secret to overcoming the “not enough” feeling is to <strong>own your value</strong>—not based on what you’ve done, but simply because you exist.</p> <p class="">Here’s the truth: <strong>Confidence comes from within.</strong> It’s about showing up with a mindset of abundance. When you believe that you are worthy, you stop feeling like you need to prove yourself to others. You begin to approach life with a healthy mindset, knowing that <strong>you are enough as you are</strong>.</p> <p class=""><strong>“Your energy is what makes you attractive—not your appearance, not your possessions, but the way you show up in the world.”</strong> — Dr. Aziz</p> <p class="">When you stop operating from a place of scarcity (like "I’m not good enough"), you become magnetic. You attract people, opportunities, and experiences because your energy exudes self-assurance and worth.</p> <p><strong>The Power of Feeling Insecure (And Letting It Pass)</strong></p> <p class="">One of the most powerful lessons you can learn is to <strong>feel your feelings</strong> instead of trying to avoid or suppress them. The feeling of “not enough” is simply a temporary emotional experience—<strong>it doesn’t define you</strong>. When you can create space for that feeling without needing to fix it, you break free from its control.</p> <p class="">Imagine a scenario where you feel insecure. Instead of getting caught in a loop of negative self-talk or trying to do more to prove yourself, <strong>allow yourself to feel the insecurity</strong>. Name it: “This is the feeling of insecurity.” Let it pass through you without clinging to it. Over time, this practice will reduce its power over you and make you more resilient.</p> <p class=""><strong>“The more you embrace feelings of insecurity, the more you free yourself from their control.”</strong> — Dr. Aziz</p> <p><strong>Final Thoughts: You Are Enough</strong></p> <p class="">The next time you feel like you’re not enough, remember: it’s just a feeling, not a reflection of your worth. By practicing self-awareness and embracing your emotions, you can overcome this limiting belief and step into your true confidence.</p> <p class="">Take a moment today to remind yourself: <strong>You are enough.</strong></p> <p><br><br></p>

April 15, 2025

The Freedom of Being Disliked

April 8, 2025

3 Secrets To Get Yourself To Take Action Now

<p class="">Welcome to today’s episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy with Dr. Aziz! If you’ve ever felt stuck, procrastinated, or told yourself “I should…” but still didn’t follow through — this episode is for you.</p> <p class="">Dr. Aziz reveals the <strong>three powerful secrets</strong> to breaking out of avoidance and finally taking the action you know will move your life forward. Whether it’s social confidence, career growth, health habits, or daily routines — it all comes back to one key truth:</p> <p class=""><strong>Confidence is a byproduct of action.</strong></p> <p class="">In this episode, you’ll discover:</p> <ul> <li class=""> <p class="">Why resistance, groaning, and procrastination are totally normal (and how to break through them)</p> </li> <li class=""> <p class="">The surprising way your <strong>identity story</strong> might be keeping you stuck</p> </li> <li class=""> <p class="">How to use <strong>pain as powerful leverage</strong> (yes, really!)</p> </li> <li class=""> <p class="">The missing piece that makes it way easier to follow through</p> </li> <li class=""> <p class="">Why <strong>pleasure in the future</strong> is the key to taking action today</p> </li> </ul> <p class="">Dr. Aziz also shares his personal story of emotional pain, transformation, and how one pivotal night in his 20s changed everything. If you're ready to overcome avoidance and create a life that energizes and fulfills you, this episode will give you both the mindset and momentum to start now.</p> <p class=""><br><br>------------------------------------------------------------------------------------<br><br><br><br></p> <p class="">Do you often find yourself stuck in the cycle of procrastination, avoiding tasks that you know could improve your life? Whether it's taking social risks, having difficult conversations, or simply getting things done, we all face moments when it feels impossible to take action. In this post, I’m going to reveal the <strong>three secrets</strong> to breaking free from inaction and boosting your confidence.</p> <h3 class="">Secret #1: Recognize the Pattern</h3> <p class="">The first step in overcoming procrastination and avoidance is to <strong>recognize the cycle</strong> you’re in. It often starts with the feeling of <strong>fear</strong>—fear of failure, fear of judgment, or fear of discomfort. You know you should act, but instead, you avoid the task. You tell yourself “I should,” but you don’t follow through. This internal tension leads to <strong>resistance</strong>, and eventually, you may find yourself stuck in a <strong>negative identity</strong>—thinking of yourself as someone who just can’t follow through or is too scared to act.</p> <p class="">The first secret is <strong>to notice this pattern</strong>. Acknowledge that you’re caught in it and make the decision to do something different. The more you notice it, the more you can break free from it and start acting from a place of <strong>empowerment</strong>, not fear.</p> <p class=""><strong>"Confidence is a byproduct of action. You won’t feel confident until you take action."</strong> — Dr. Aziz</p> <h3 class="">Secret #2: Use Pain as Leverage</h3> <p class="">Pain is one of the most powerful motivators for action. In fact, research shows that we are <strong>twice as motivated by pain</strong> as we are by pleasure. The key is to <strong>leverage pain</strong> in a constructive way.</p> <p class="">Ask yourself: <strong>What is the cost of inaction?</strong> If you keep avoiding something, where will it take you? In the case of social anxiety, it might be loneliness or missed career opportunities. By focusing on the <strong>pain of staying stuck</strong>, you can create a sense of urgency and motivate yourself to act.</p> <p class="">However, it's essential to <strong>not get lost in despair</strong> when reflecting on this pain. Instead, take ownership of the situation and realize that you can change things. <strong>When the pain of staying where you are exceeds the fear of the unknown</strong>, you’ll finally take the leap.</p> <h3 class="">Secret #3: Focus on the Pleasure of Action</h3> <p class="">While pain can push you to act, <strong>pleasure</strong> is what will keep you going. We often resist action because we focus on the discomfort of getting started, but if you <strong>shift your focus to the benefits</strong> of taking action, you’ll find yourself motivated.</p> <p class="">For example, if you’re avoiding a workout because it feels hard to start, remind yourself of how good you’ll feel afterward—<strong>the energy, the sense of accomplishment, the pride in doing something for yourself</strong>. By training your mind to <strong>see the pleasure on the other side</strong>, you’ll feel more compelled to take action.</p> <p class=""><strong>"Are you willing to be uncomfortable now to experience the extraordinary in your life?"</strong> — Dr. Aziz</p> <h3 class="">Taking Action: Your Next Step</h3> <p class="">Now that you know the three secrets to taking action, it’s time to put them into practice. Start by recognizing the patterns that hold you back, use pain and pleasure to motivate yourself, and <strong>take action even when it feels uncomfortable</strong>.</p> <p class="">If you want to make real progress in your life, <strong>the key is consistent action</strong>. The more you act, the more confidence you’ll build. It’s time to break free from the cycle of procrastination and start living boldly.</p> <p class="">Remember, <strong>confidence comes from doing</strong>—not waiting for the perfect moment or feeling ready. <strong>Take action today</strong>, and watch your confidence grow! You are capable of so much more than you realize. Keep going, and you'll soon be amazed at how far you can go.</p> <p><span class="">&nbsp;</span><span class="">&nbsp;</span><span class="">&nbsp;</span><span class="">&nbsp;</span><span class="hidden">&nbsp;</span> <span class="overflow-hidden text-sm text-clip whitespace-nowrap">4o mini</span> &nbsp; &nbsp;</p>