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Watch the full Change episode on the Solved podcast: https://mrk.mn/change
Why do we not do the things we know we should do? The Greeks called it akrasia and treated it as a serious philosophical problem, and in this clip Drew and I get into why willpower is the wrong tool for fixing it. The short version: knowing what to do was never the problem. As my friend Derek Sivers puts it, if change came from more information we'd all be billionaires with six-packs. Behavior change is an emotional problem, not a rational one. Plato basically nailed this 2,400 years ago with the chariot and two horses, and modern psychology has mostly proven him right. So instead of white-knuckling it, the move is to design your environment so the right behavior is the easy one. I get into the checklist that dropped hospital deaths to zero, why you need to change far less than you think, and the embarrassingly simple gym-shoes-by-the-door trick that's done more for me than every dramatic 4:30am life overhaul I've ever failed at. Real change isn't a montage. It's barely above the threshold of perception, and that's exactly why it works.
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00:00:00 Introduction: The 2,500-Year Question We Can't Answer
00:01:03 Akrasia: The Ancient Greek Problem of Weakness of Will
00:02:08 Plato's Tripartite Soul: The Chariot Rider and Two Horses
00:03:38 The Real Problem: Change is Emotional, Not Rational
00:05:11 Why Willpower is Overrated and Usually Fails
00:06:23 The Checklist That Saved 1,500 Lives
00:07:59 Environmental Design: Making Good Behavior Easier Than Bad
00:09:31 The Trap of Imagining Total Life Overhauls
00:10:57 The Power of Sequential Change: One Habit at a Time
00:12:48 What Real Change Actually Feels Like: Boring and Incremental
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22 Oct 2026
Why Smart People Always Feel Like Frauds
Watch the full Confidence episode on the Solved podcast: https://mrk.mn/confidence
Even Neil Armstrong felt like a fraud. Mark and Drew explore imposter syndrome as the mirror image of the Dunning-Kruger effect, why the highest performers chronically underestimate themselves, and how the spotlight effect convinces us everyone is watching when almost no one is.
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00:00:00 Introduction: The Imposter Syndrome Paradox
00:01:13 The Inverse of Dunning-Kruger: When Expertise Breeds Doubt
00:02:27 When Results Outstrip Effort: The 100x Jump
00:04:16 The Exponential Curve: Understanding Power Law Industries
00:05:08 Imposter Syndrome as a Sign of Progress
00:05:52 The Top of the Pyramid vs The Bottom: A Strange Inversion
00:06:20 The McKinsey Study: Obsessive Overachievers with Crippling Insecurities
00:08:23 True Imposters vs Performative Humility
00:09:28 Conscious Incompetence: The Discomfort That Drives Growth
00:09:56 The Spotlight Effect and The Chicken Suit Experiment
00:11:19 The Danger of Never Feeling Like an Imposter
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11 Oct 2026
What Avoidant Attachment Really Feels Like
Watch the full Change episode on the Solved podcast: https://mrk.mn/change
Most "personal growth" is perfectly designed to feel like progress while producing none of it. In this clip, Drew opens up in real time about being avoidant in relationships, and how he changed the behavior, catching himself, responding instead of shutting down, while the belief underneath it never actually moved. The realization lands live on the mic: he's no more securely attached than he was, he just got better at performing it. I get into my own version of this, including years of sabotaging relationships and starting fights at the most intimate moments, and the one simple agreement I made with myself that finally cracked it. We get into why deep emotional adaptations take years and not months, why relationships are the most powerful place to actually change (we call them adaptation machines), what a documentary about flat earthers reveals about lonely people and their beliefs, and the five-stage model of change that builds relapse right into the process. The core takeaway: understanding yourself and changing yourself are two completely different skills.
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00:00:00 Introduction: Living with Emotional Machinery
00:00:43 Off the Rails: Confronting Avoidant Attachment
00:01:25 Changing Behavior Without Changing the Adaptation
00:01:57 The Realization: I'm Still Not Secure
00:03:15 The Fear of Abandonment Revealed
00:04:21 What Do I Replace This With?
00:06:06 Mark's Story: From Avoidant to Married
00:07:47 The Birthday Dinner Sabotage
00:08:10 The Decision to Stick With It
00:10:12 Uncalibrated Emotional Expression
00:11:04 Relationships as Adaptation Machines
00:13:19 The Flat Earth Documentary: Adaptations as Belonging
00:14:45 The Five Stages of Change
00:15:48 Maintenance and Relapse: The Hardest Parts
00:16:43 Where Are You in the Process?
00:17:34 The Barrier to Something Deeper
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