You did the work to understand your childhood – so why do you react in ways you swore you never would?
The CALM Parent is for the parent who had to grow up too fast — and knows exactly which parent they don't want to become.
The roles were reversed – your parents were the ones who needed regulating, but you were the one who had to do it.
This is how it ends with you.
Katie McKenna is an Accredited Psychotherapist, Author of the Sunday Times Bestseller 'You're Not The Problem', Host of 'Beyond Survival' - The Therapy Podcast, creator of The CALM Method (https://www.katiemckenna.ie/the-c-a-l-m-method), and Mother of four.
One Limit. One Boundary. Stop Getting Sucked Into the Escalation. Your child slams the door, shouts “I hate you”, throws a tantrum or pushes back when you say no. What happens next? Do you hold your ground, lose your cool, pile on more consequences, or find yourself desperately trying to fix things because you can't tolerate their anger? In this episode of The CALM Parent, we're looking at how to hold boundaries without getting pulled into the emotional chaos that can follow. You'll learn the...
27 Oct 2026
Sorry I Exist vs. Sorry I Hurt You (Ep. 10)
Sorry for asking. Sorry, you can't have that. Sorry, I have to work. Sorry, it’s only me. If “sorry” is half of every sentence you say to your kids, this one’s for you. When you over-apologise, your child thinks you’re doing something wrong when you aren’t. Then, when you really do need to repair, the word has lost its weight. This week: the difference between “sorry I exist” and “sorry I hurt you,” why you never have to apologise for a limit, and the five steps to an apology that...
25 Oct 2026
Masterclass (available until Nov 1st)
Why does resting feel selfish? Why does saying no cost you for days? Why does your child’s disappointment feel like your failure? In this episode, I’m sharing the full recording of my live masterclass. It’s for parents who are carrying too much, especially at this time of year, when the pressure to make everything perfect gets louder. You’ll hear: The invisible rules you’re living by, and where they came fromWhy “my child must never feel what I felt” sets a bar no parent can reachWhy having n...
20 Oct 2026
You're Not Last. You're Invisible. (Ep. 9)
You sit down last. You eat on the run. You can’t remember the last time you did something just for you. You might call that being a good mum. But what if you’re not just bottom of the list? What if you’re not on it at all? In this episode, I talk about why taking even ten minutes for yourself can feel like stealing from your kids, and where that guilt really comes from. I look at why “it’s good for the kids” is still the wrong reason to rest, and the one sm...
13 Oct 2026
Guilt vs Shame (Ep. 8)
Guilt says I did a bad thing. Shame says I am a bad person. If you grew up being shamed for so much as wanting to be seen, you probably can’t tell them apart. You’ve been swimming in shame so long it doesn’t feel like an emotion. It feels like who you are. In this episode I unpack the difference. Guilt is specific, temporary, and it moves you towards repair. Shame is global. It’s the feeling of wanting the ground to open up and swallow you. I also share what happened when, at eleven, I spent ...
6 Oct 2026
What Do You Need to Put Down? (Ep. 7)
You were the responsible one. The one who knew your mother's mood before she'd said a word. The one who kept the peace, said sorry for things you didn't do, and made sure nobody outside the house ever knew. Now your child comes home from school with that look, and something in you is already scrambling to fix it. It's the same on a Sunday. You've cooked the dinner, pictured everyone chatting around the table, and instead they're bickering, moaning about the food, or scrolling under the ...
29 Sept 2026
Striking When the Iron's Cold (ep. 6)
They ignore you the first time. So you repeat yourself or start explaining — three or four different ways, making sure they understand why this matters. And somehow, the more you say, the less they listen. This week, I get into why over-explaining backfires: it overwhelms them, gives them something to tune out, or worse, hands them the exact ammunition they need to argue you out of the thing you were asking for in the first place. I talk about t...
22 Sept 2026
The Biggest Trap (ep. 5)
You've said the same thing a hundred times. It's the same conversation — and now you're standing there thinking, this can't be my life. Surely it's easier in everyone else's house. This week, I name the trap almost every parent falls into without realising it: denial. Not the big, obvious kind — the quiet kind, where you're standing at the bottom of the stairs for the third time going, I can't believe he's doing this again, right before you start bargaining, pleading, ...
15 Sept 2026
Tug of War (Ep. 4)
This week, I get into the tug of war on power — the daily battles where so many of us hand our authority straight back to our kids without even noticing. I introduce dropping the rope: not giving in, not going passive, but the real shift from pleading with your kid to holding a limit that isn't coming from fear. It's the difference between managing their reaction and actually holding the line — and once you can see it, you can't stop noticing how often you've been doing the first one. T...
10 Sept 2026
Which F Are You? (ep. 3)
You've asked your kid to so something three times now. Your voice is getting louder. What happens next tells you everything. In episode three, Katie breaks down the four F's — and shows you which one you default to when frustration finally tips over. Do you blow up after holding it in too long? Give in and just do it yourself? Go quiet and avoid the conflict altogether? Or stay so busy you never even ask? None of these are your personality. Th...
10 Sept 2026
What's Driving Your Behaviour? (Ep. 2)
Are you the one who does everything yourself because relying on people always ends the same way? Or the one who'd rather swallow it than risk someone being annoyed with you? In episode two, Katie shows you why those two look nothing alike but run on the exact same fear — and what's actually happening in your brain the moment you go from "fine" to "fight or flight" in under a second. She shows you why your smoke alarm can start going off over steam from the kettle, not just a...
10 Sept 2026
The Gap That Exists (ep. 1)
In the first episode of The CALM Parent, Katie McKenna opens with the gap she built this whole podcast to close — the space between knowing which parent you don't want to be and actually knowing what to do instead. She talks about why gentle parenting scripts fall apart the second you're dysregulated, what your baseline number actually means, and why the goal was never zero. And for the first time, she turns the focus away from your kid entirely and asks about you — when did you l...
21 Aug 2026
Trailer
This isn't going to be another podcast handing you scripts written for someone who had a calm parent to copy. In this trailer, Katie McKenna — psychotherapist, mother of four, and author of You're Not the Problem — introduces The C.A.L.M. Parent: the podcast for the version of you that's not calm, not regulated, and sick of being told it's about willpower. Three minutes on the gap between knowing who you don't want to be and knowing what to do instead — and why this podcast starts...
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