Victoria Priya, LCSW (formerly Vicki Tidwell Palmer), is the author of Personal Boundaries For Dummies®, and creator of the 6-Step Boundaries Clarifier. Beyond Bitchy dispels the common misperception that boundaries are selfish, rigid, and controlling, and offers a fresh vision of personal limits as a source of freedom and liberation. Get expert information about how to identify, create, and establish effective personal and relationship boundaries so that you can get the space you need, and the connection you crave.
Beyond Bitchy: Mastering the Art of Boundaries
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Victoria Priya, LCSW (formerly Vicki Tidwell Palmer), is the author of Personal Boundaries For Dummies®, and creator of the 6-Step Boundaries Clarifier. Beyond Bitchy dispels the common misperception that boundaries are selfish, rigid, and controlling, and offers a fresh vision of personal limits as a source of freedom and liberation. Get expert information about how to identify, create, and establish effective personal and relationship boundaries so that you can get the space you need, and the connection you crave.
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April 10, 2024
#144 - Meet the Boundaries Queen
<p dir="ltr">Hello, Beyond Bitchy listeners! It’s been a long time, and I’m thrilled to have something new to share with you.</p> <p dir="ltr">When I recorded the previous episode of Beyond Bitchy in 2021, I knew two things: it was time to wrap up the show, and there’s always more to say about boundaries. Then, in 2023, I received an unsolicited offer I couldn’t refuse. Now, the results of that offer are coming to fruition.</p> <p dir="ltr">Curious to learn what the offer was, and how it can help you improve your boundaries? Come check out my brand new podcast, where you’ll not only keep learning about boundaries, but also find out about the offer I mentioned and what it means for you.</p> <p dir="ltr">- Victoria Priya (formerly Vicki Tidwell Palmer)</p> <p dir="ltr"><strong>Biggest Takeaways From Episode #144:</strong></p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">You’re never too old to improve your boundaries, and no one will ever know everything there is to know about boundaries.</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Victoria’s new boundaries podcast, The Boundaries Queen Podcast, has just launched! Find it wherever you listen to podcasts.</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Tune into The Boundaries Queen Podcast to learn about the unsolicited offer that Victoria received, and how the result can help you level up your boundaries work.</p> </li> </ul> <p dir="ltr"><strong>Links and Resources:</strong></p> <p dir="ltr">The Boundaries Queen Podcast</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr"><a href="https://www.victoriapriya.com/">Victoria Priya</a></li> <li dir="ltr"><a href= "https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/boundaries-queen/id1740180882"> Listen and Follow on Apple Podcasts</a></li> <li dir="ltr"><a href= "https://open.spotify.com/show/0hoY4LVVDTbJxwmdeRCten?si=1725319b45374508"> Listen and Follow on Spotify</a></li> </ul>
July 28, 2021
#143 - 4 Essentials for Mastering Boundaries (Part II)
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Last week, I talked about the first two of the four essentials for mastering boundaries: “Who’s Got the Power?” and “Stinkin’ Thinkin’.” (If these don’t sound familiar, I recommend going back to</span> <a href= "https://beyondbitchy.com/podcast/142-4-essentials-for-mastering-boundaries-part-i/"> <span style="font-weight: 400;">listen to Episode 142.</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">) This week, I’ll cover the third and fourth essentials: “Live and Let Live,” and “Change (So That I Can Feel Better).”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">But before we begin, I want to share a big announcement: this will be the final episode of the Beyond Bitchy podcast. This has been a productive and fulfilling season of my life, but it’s time to bring it to a close and let the next season begin. If you want to keep up with what I’m doing next, please visit and subscribe to my</span> <a href= "https://unveilingtiamat.com/blog/"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Radiant Threefold Path Blog</span></a> <span style="font-weight: 400;">or follow me on <a href= "https://www.facebook.com/vickitidwellpalmer" target="_blank" rel= "noopener">Facebook</a>, <a href= "https://www.instagram.com/vickitidwellpalmer/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Instagram</a> or</span> <a href= "https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLmfavMQYOQGUHON-th5McA"><span style="font-weight: 400;"> YouTube</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">. Thank you for being part of this podcast journey!</span></p> <p> </p> <p><strong>Biggest Takeaways From Episode #143:</strong></p> <ul> <li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Others have a right to live the way they want, just as you have a right to live your life in the way you want. If you don’t like someone else’s choices, your power is in how you choose to respond. </span></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">The fourth essential probably addresses most of the problems you have with boundaries. If you want someone to change to make you feel better, you’re in one of the biggest pitfalls of creating effective boundaries.</span></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">When you find yourself wanting someone to change, go back to essential #1: “Who’s Got the Power?” In short, you can take action around protecting yourself, or make a request of the other person.</span></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">The biggest challenge you will probably face is the practice of returning to you, staying with your reality, and knowing what you want.</span></li> </ul> <p> </p> <p><strong>Highlights from Episode #143:</strong></p> <ul> <li><span style="font-weight: 400;">Welcome to episode #143! Vicki quickly recaps the first two essentials for mastering boundaries, which she discussed in detail in</span> <a href= "https://beyondbitchy.com/podcast/142-4-essentials-for-mastering-boundaries-part-i/"> <span style="font-weight: 400;">the previous episode</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">. [00:39]</span></li> <li><span style="font-weight: 400;">The third of Vicki’s four essentials is “Live and Let Live.” She talks about this in more depth, explaining what is (and isn’t) under your control. [04:56]</span></li> <li><span style="font-weight: 400;">Vicki shares an example of “Live and Let Live.” [08:17]</span></li> <li><span style="font-weight: 400;">How somebody dresses is another example of the third essential point. [11:27]</span></li> <li><span style="font-weight: 400;">The fourth essential encompasses most problems you likely have with boundaries. [12:50]</span></li> <li><span style="font-weight: 400;">Vicki digs into what the problem is with believing that someone should change to make you feel better. [15:40]</span></li> <li><span style="font-weight: 400;">What should you do when you find yourself wanting someone to change? Vicki answers, then recaps the four essentials that she has covered. [17:58]</span></li> <li><span style="font-weight: 400;">Vicki gives an example to illustrate the difference between what you could record and what you made up. [20:14]</span></li> <li><span style="font-weight: 400;"> Vicki makes a big announcement about the podcast: this will be the final episode. [24:24]</span></li> <li><span style="font-weight: 400;">Are you wondering what to do about your future boundaries challenges? Vicki promises that the answer is somewhere in the previous episodes of the podcast. She then invites you to sit down with a <a href= "https://beyondbitchy.com/boundary-clarifier/" target="_blank" rel= "noopener">5-Step Boundary Solution Clarifier</a>, do the quiet inner work to discover your reality, your vision, where your power lies, and what action to take. [29:11]</span></li> </ul> <p> </p> <p><strong>Links and Resources:</strong></p> <ul> <li><a href="https://beyondbitchy.com/"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Vicki Tidwell Palmer</span></a></li> <li><a href= "https://www.facebook.com/vickitidwellpalmer/"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Vicki Tidwell Palmer on Facebook</span></a></li> <li><a href="https://amzn.to/2wCqGgs"><em><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Moving Beyond Betrayal</span></em> <span style= "font-weight: 400;">by Vicki Tidwell Palmer</span></a></li> <li><a href= "https://beyondbitchy.com/boundary-clarifier/"><em><span style= "font-weight: 400;">5-Step Boundary Solution Clarifier</span></em></a></li> <li><a href= "https://www.instagram.com/vickitidwellpalmer/"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Vicki Tidwell Palmer on Instagram</span></a></li> <li><a href= "https://open.spotify.com/show/5NffpSb1tuzmVuq9B71feX?si=LwBXDLLsQLSJRbF_Uettkg"> <span style="font-weight: 400;">Beyond Bitchy on Spotify</span></a></li> <li><a href="https://unveilingtiamat.com/enter/"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">The Radiant Threefold Path</span></a></li> <li><a href="https://unveilingtiamat.com/blog/"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">The Radiant Threefold Path Blog</span></a></li> <li><a href= "https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLmfavMQYOQGUHON-th5McA"><span style="font-weight: 400;"> Vicki Tidwell Palmer on YouTube</span></a></li> <li><a href= "https://beyondbitchy.com/podcast/142-4-essentials-for-mastering-boundaries-part-i/"> <span style="font-weight: 400;">Beyond Bitchy Podcast | Episode 142: 4 Essentials for Mastering Boundaries (Part I)</span></a></li> <li><a href="https://www.myss.com/"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Carolyn Myss</span></a></li> </ul>
July 21, 2021
#142 - 4 Essentials for Mastering Boundaries (Part I)
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">I’m lucky enough to have been able to give myself the gift of a 27-day sabbatical, which gave me so much clarity into both my personal and professional life. And now that I’m back, I’m inspired to offer some insight about the four common challenges I see across all sorts of boundary questions in various situations. I’ll cover the first two challenges today, and the third and fourth next week.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><strong>Biggest Takeaways From Episode #142:</strong></p> <ul> <li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Even if it’s only a few minutes a day, please carve out a few minutes a day for yourself. It’s important to give yourself the gift of time even if your life is incredibly full and busy.</span></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Most questions about boundaries, regardless of the specific details, center around four specific challenges: </span> <ul> <li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="2"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Who’s Got the Power?</span></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="2"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Stinkin’ Thinkin’</span></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="2"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Live and Let Live</span></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="2"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Change, So That I Can Feel Better</span></li> </ul> </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">There are essentially two kinds of power: “Power Over” and “Authentic Personal Power.” The first type is based in control and fear; we all need to strive for the second type.</span></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Stinkin’ Thinkin’ is thinking that’s distorted. You may think that how someone treats you determines how you treat them, or that you need to be on the same page and think the same way as other people.</span></li> </ul> <p> </p> <p><strong>Highlights from Episode #142:</strong></p> <ul> <li><span style="font-weight: 400;">Vicki welcomes listeners to the episode and talks about the value of carving out some time for yourself. [00:39]</span></li> <li><span style="font-weight: 400;">The next</span> <a href= "https://beyondbitchy.com/monthly-boundary-workshops/"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Boundaries Clarifier Workshop</span></a> <span style="font-weight: 400;">will take place on July 27, 2021. [04:10]</span></li> <li><span style="font-weight: 400;">After receiving hundreds of questions, Vicki has noticed that the majority center around four specific challenges. She will cover the first two today. [05:26]</span></li> <li><span style="font-weight: 400;">Vicki talks about the first of the four challenges: Who’s Got the Power? [10:58]</span></li> <li><span style="font-weight: 400;">We hear a list of qualities that describe acting from a place of authentic personal power. She also talks about the difference between personal power and ultimatums. [15:25]</span></li> <li><span style="font-weight: 400;">What does it look like when you think you don’t have power? [20:43]</span></li> <li><span style="font-weight: 400;">Vicki moves on to talking about the second challenge: Stinkin’ Thinkin’. [26:12]</span></li> <li><span style="font-weight: 400;">Being unconscious of what’s going on with us is another kind of distorted thinking. Vicki shares an example from her own life. [31:53]</span></li> <li><span style="font-weight: 400;">Vicki explains why Stinkin’ Thinkin’ is such a problem. [36:48]</span></li> </ul> <p> </p> <p><strong>Links and Resources:</strong></p> <ul> <li><a href= "https://beyondbitchy.com/monthly-boundary-workshops/"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Vicki’s monthly Boundaries Clarifier Workshops</span></a></li> <li><a href="https://beyondbitchy.com/"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Vicki Tidwell Palmer</span></a></li> <li><a href= "https://www.facebook.com/vickitidwellpalmer/"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Vicki Tidwell Palmer on Facebook</span></a></li> <li><a href="https://amzn.to/2wCqGgs"><em><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Moving Beyond Betrayal</span></em> <span style= "font-weight: 400;">by Vicki Tidwell Palmer</span></a></li> <li><a href= "https://beyondbitchy.com/boundary-clarifier/"><em><span style= "font-weight: 400;">5-Step Boundary Solution Clarifier</span></em></a></li> <li><a href= "https://www.instagram.com/vickitidwellpalmer/"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Vicki Tidwell Palmer on Instagram</span></a></li> <li><a href="https://unveilingtiamat.com/enter/"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">The Radiant Threefold Path</span></a></li> <li><a href= "https://open.spotify.com/show/5NffpSb1tuzmVuq9B71feX?si=LwBXDLLsQLSJRbF_Uettkg"> <span style="font-weight: 400;">Beyond Bitchy on Spotify</span></a></li> <li><a href="http://www.piamellody.com/"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Pia Mellody</span></a></li> </ul>
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