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Rewired Sober is a sobriety and recovery podcast for women who are tired of surface-level self-help and ready for real change. Hosted by psychiatric nurse, addiction specialist, and recovery coach Kate Vitela, RN, this podcast explores the neuroscience of addiction, emotional sobriety, mindset change, and the messy, honest reality of rebuilding your life after quitting drinking. This is not a preachy recovery podcast full of toxic positivity or shame. It’s real conversations about: women and alcohol gray area drinking anxiety and emotional regulation perfectionism and people pleasing cravings and habit loops neuroplasticity and brain rewiring identity in midlife anger, grief, and healing creativity, fashion, and self-expression in recovery relationships, boundaries, and self-trust learning how to feel your feelings without numbing them Kate combines clinical insight, lived experience, humor, and a feminist lens to help women understand why they drink, not just how to stop. Whether you’re sober curious, newly alcohol-free, or years into recovery and wondering “now what?” — this podcast is designed to help you build a life that actually feels good to live. If you’re looking for a sobriety podcast for women that blends science, soul, psychology, emotional honesty, and a little dark humor, welcome to Rewired Sober. You quit drinking. Now let’s rewire the rest.

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Episode thumbnail for EP: 81: Inside the Making of TOX: A Film About Beauty Obsession & the Cost of Perfection Starring Kerri Lynn Miller

July 7, 2026

EP: 81: Inside the Making of TOX: A Film About Beauty Obsession & the Cost of Perfection Starring Kerri Lynn Miller

<p>What do Botox, beauty culture, perfectionism, recovery, feminism, and self-worth have in common?</p><p>More than most of us want to admit.</p><p>In this powerful and surprisingly funny conversation, Kate sits down with filmmaker and actress Kerri Lynn Miller to discuss her upcoming psychological drama TOX, a film exploring beauty obsession, body dysmorphia, perfectionism, and the relentless pursuit of external validation.</p><p>Together, they unpack the uncomfortable truth that many women spend years chasing the next thing that promises to make them feel worthy:</p><ul><li>The wrinkle fix</li><li>The weight loss</li><li>The cosmetic procedure</li><li>The perfect outfit</li><li>The perfect body</li><li>The perfect life</li></ul><br/><p>And yet somehow, "enough" never arrives.</p><p>Kate and Kerri explore how beauty culture can mirror the psychology of addiction, why midlife women often feel caught between self-care and self-rejection, and how social media, aging, and modern beauty standards create a nearly impossible game for women to win.</p><h2>In This Episode We Discuss:</h2><h3>The surprising overlap between addiction and beauty obsession</h3><p>Why chasing perfection can function much like alcohol, shopping, workaholism, gambling, people-pleasing, dieting, or other process addictions.</p><p>When does self-improvement become self-punishment?</p><p>When does self-care cross the line into self-rejection?</p><h3>The hidden cost of perfectionism</h3><p>Kerri shares her own experience working for a pharmaceutical company with unlimited access to Botox, fillers, lasers, and cosmetic procedures—and how what looked like self-improvement was often rooted in a deeper desire to protect herself from rejection and pain.</p><h3>Why women are taught to believe their worth is in their appearance</h3><p>From childhood messages about beauty to social media's impossible standards, Kate and Kerri discuss how women are conditioned to believe that being attractive equals being valuable.</p><p>And why that belief can quietly shape an entire life.</p><h3>Recovery, authenticity, and taking off the mask</h3><p>One of the most moving parts of the conversation explores the parallels between recovery and creative work.</p><p>Both women discuss how healing often requires dropping the performance, telling the truth, and letting people see who you really are underneath the carefully curated image.</p><h3>Social media, Instagram Face, and the pressure to compete</h3><p>What happens when every face starts looking the same?</p><p>Kate and Kerri talk about:</p><ul><li>Instagram Face</li><li>AI-generated beauty standards</li><li>Cosmetic procedures</li><li>Filters and Zoom dysmorphia</li><li>The pressure women feel to remain competitive as they age</li></ul><br/><p>And why so many women feel trapped in a race they never agreed to run.</p><h3>Feminism, aging, and who benefits when women stay obsessed with beauty</h3><p>A candid discussion about the beauty industry, social conditioning, the patriarchy, and the cultural forces that profit when women spend their time, money, and energy trying to fix themselves rather than fully inhabit their lives.</p><h3>Shame, vulnerability, and the healing power of telling the truth</h3><p>Kerri shares how writing TOX became an unexpected healing journey.</p><p>What started as a story about beauty became a deeper exploration of shame, worthiness, identity, and the freedom that comes when we stop hiding.</p><h2>Memorable Themes From This Conversation</h2><ul><li>You cannot find worth outside yourself if you haven't found it within.</li><li>Perfectionism is often fear wearing expensive clothes.</li><li>Socially acceptable addictions are still addictions.</li><li>Recovery isn't just about alcohol.</li><li>Authenticity is more powerful than perfection.</li><li>Aging isn't a character flaw.</li><li>Freedom begins when you stop chasing someone else's definition of enough.</li></ul><br/><h2>About Kerri Lynn Miller</h2><p>Kerri Lynn Miller is an award-winning filmmaker, actress, writer, and producer whose work explores beauty standards, perfectionism, self-worth, identity, and the psychological cost of seeking validation from the outside world.</p><p>Her upcoming film TOX follows a woman caught in the increasingly dangerous pursuit of perfection, examining body dysmorphia, beauty culture, addiction, and the universal desire to feel seen, chosen, and loved.</p><p><strong>TOX Film:</strong> @tox_film</p><p>Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tox_film/</p><p>www.toxfilm.com</p><h2><p><strong>Rewired Sober 1:1 Coaching Spots Are Open (But Fill Up Fast) </strong>Start anytime and get 3 months of guidance from Kate designed for women in sobriety. Book a discovery call to inquire: <a href="https://calendly.com/katevitelacoaching/deep-dive-1-1-w-kate" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://calendly.com/katevitelacoaching/deep-dive-1-1-w-kate</a></p><p><strong>Connect with Kate @rewiredsober on all social media platforms:</strong></p><p>Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/rewiredsober/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/rewiredsober/</a></p><p>Email: <a href="mailto:katevitelacoaching@gmail.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">katevitelacoaching@gmail.com</a></p><p></p></h2>

Episode thumbnail for EP: 80: Self-Objectification, AI, and the Lost Art of Being Human

June 30, 2026

EP: 80: Self-Objectification, AI, and the Lost Art of Being Human

<p><strong>Rewired Sober 1:1 Coaching Spots Are Open (But Fill Up Fast) </strong>Start anytime and get 3 months of guidance from Kate designed for women in sobriety. Book a discovery call to inquire: <a href="https://calendly.com/katevitelacoaching/deep-dive-1-1-w-kate" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://calendly.com/katevitelacoaching/deep-dive-1-1-w-kate</a></p><p><strong>Connect with Kate @rewiredsober on all social media platforms:</strong></p><p>Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/rewiredsober/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/rewiredsober/</a></p><p>Email: <a href="mailto:katevitelacoaching@gmail.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">katevitelacoaching@gmail.com</a></p><p></p><p>For most of human history, women experienced life.</p><p>Now we watch ourselves live it.</p><p>We stare at our faces on Zoom. We record ourselves. Edit ourselves. Compare ourselves. Analyze ourselves. Then compare ourselves to influencers, celebrities, filters, and increasingly, people who don't even exist.</p><p>In this episode, I explore the psychological concept of <strong>self-objectification</strong>—the process of viewing yourself through the eyes of others instead of experiencing yourself from the inside out.</p><p>After spending a week in New York surrounded by thousands of real faces, I had a surprising realization:</p><p>Nobody looked like Instagram.</p><p>Nobody looked like AI.</p><p>And somehow, that made me feel better about myself.</p><p>We dive into:</p><ul><li>What self-objectification is and why women are especially vulnerable to it</li><li>Why staring at ourselves all day is changing our psychology</li><li>Zoom dysmorphia and the rise of cosmetic procedures</li><li>How AI-generated beauty is quietly redefining what's "normal"</li><li>Why recovery is teaching me to value humanity over perfection</li><li>The emotional side of aging nobody talks about</li><li>How beauty culture and alcohol culture both profit from our insecurities</li><li>Why real-life faces are becoming an act of rebellion</li><li>How seeing actual humans recalibrates the brain</li><li>The difference between living your life and performing it</li></ul><br/><p>Because maybe the goal isn't to become more beautiful.</p><p>Maybe the goal is to become more human.</p><p>Maybe the most radical thing a woman can do right now is stop treating herself like a problem to solve.</p><p>If you've ever found yourself obsessing over wrinkles, filters, Botox, aging, or feeling like you're somehow falling behind, this episode is for you.</p><h3>Quote From This Episode</h3><blockquote>"The happiest moments of my life are the moments I forget what I look like."</blockquote><h3>Key Takeaway</h3><p>Your brain adapts to whatever it repeatedly sees.</p><p>If all you feed it is perfection, reality starts to feel inadequate.</p><p>The cure might not be fixing your face.</p><p>The cure might be getting back into real life. Seeing real people. Laughing harder. Creating more than consuming.</p><p>And remembering what human actually looks like.</p>

Episode thumbnail for EP: 79: Neurodivergent in Recovery: Autism, GLP-1s, and Being Misunderstood in 12-Step Rooms with Rebecca Rush

June 23, 2026

EP: 79: Neurodivergent in Recovery: Autism, GLP-1s, and Being Misunderstood in 12-Step Rooms with Rebecca Rush

<p>What do autism, Ozempic, alcohol cravings, recovery culture, and a Substack called The Loudest Girl in the Corner have in common?</p><p>More than you might think.</p><p>In this episode of Rewired Sober, I sit down with Rebecca Rush—sober autistic peer support coach, poet, essayist, and creator of The Loudest Girl in the Corner—for one of the most honest, hilarious, and thought-provoking conversations I've had on the podcast.</p><p>We explore the intersection of neurodiversity, addiction, and recovery culture, including why many people spend years being labeled as "alcoholics" while undiagnosed autism, ADHD, sensory overwhelm, masking, and social exhaustion remain hidden beneath the surface.</p><p>Rebecca shares her experience navigating recovery as an autistic woman and why some traditional recovery spaces can feel confusing, invalidating, or impossible to navigate for neurodivergent people.</p><p>We also discuss the growing conversation around GLP-1 medications like Ozempic and Wegovy and how they are helping some people dramatically reduce alcohol cravings—raising fascinating questions about addiction, biology, craving, and recovery.</p><p>And because neither of us is particularly interested in pretending certain topics don't exist, we also dive into some of the more controversial corners of recovery culture.</p><h3>In This Episode We Discuss:</h3><ul><li>Autism and alcohol use</li><li>Why autism is frequently missed or misdiagnosed in women</li><li>Masking, people-pleasing, and belonging</li><li>Why some neurodivergent people struggle in traditional 12-step programs</li><li>The tendency to pathologize every struggle as alcoholism</li><li>Group dynamics, sponsorship, and social expectations</li><li>How autistic traits can clash with recovery culture</li><li>The vulnerability of newcomers and the reality of the "13th Step"</li><li>Predatory behavior in recovery spaces</li><li>Sex inventories, shame, and self-blame</li><li>The difference between accountability and humiliation</li><li>When recovery becomes self-flagellation instead of healing</li><li>Building a recovery that actually fits your brain</li><li>GLP-1 medications and alcohol cravings</li><li>Recovery beyond one-size-fits-all thinking</li></ul><br/><p>We also discuss Rebecca's essay A Few Things I Won't Be Writing About, a sharp, funny, and unapologetic critique of the things recovery culture often struggles to talk about openly. In true Rebecca fashion, she somehow manages to write about all of them while claiming she won't.</p><p>This episode isn't about telling anyone how to recover.</p><p>It's about making room for more curiosity, more nuance, and more honest conversations.</p><p>Whether you're neurodivergent, questioning your relationship with alcohol, frustrated with recovery dogma, curious about GLP-1 medications, or simply interested in the evolving conversation around addiction and healing, this episode will give you plenty to think about—and probably a few things to laugh about too.</p><h2>About Rebecca Rush</h2><p>Rebecca Rush is a sober autistic peer support coach, poet, essayist, and writer of The Loudest Girl in the Corner. Her work explores autism, recovery, masking, identity, belonging, and what happens when people stop shrinking themselves to fit into systems that were never built for them.</p><h2>Resources Mentioned</h2><p>Rebecca Rush's Substack: The Loudest Girl in the Corner</p><p>TheLoudestGirlintheCorner.substack.com</p><p>Failbettercoaching.com</p><p>Instagram.com/failbettercoach</p><p><strong>Rewired Sober 1:1 Coaching Spots Are Open (But Fill Up Fast) </strong>Start anytime and get 3 months of guidance from Kate designed for women in sobriety. Book a discovery call to inquire: <a href="https://calendly.com/katevitelacoaching/deep-dive-1-1-w-kate" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://calendly.com/katevitelacoaching/deep-dive-1-1-w-kate</a></p><p><strong>Connect with Kate @rewiredsober on all social media platforms:</strong></p><p>Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/rewiredsober/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/rewiredsober/</a></p><p>Email: <a href="mailto:katevitelacoaching@gmail.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">katevitelacoaching@gmail.com</a></p><p></p>

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Rewired Sober is a sobriety and recovery podcast for women who are tired of surface-level self-help and ready for real change.

Hosted by psychiatric nurse, addiction specialist, and recovery coach Kate Vitela, RN, this podcast explores the neuroscience of addiction, emotional sobriety, mindset change, and the messy, honest reality of rebuilding your life after quitting drinking.

This is not a preachy recovery podcast full of toxic positivity or shame.

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women and alcohol gray area drinking anxiety and emotional regulation perfectionism and people pleasing cravings and habit loops neuroplasticity and brain rewiring identity in midlife anger, grief, and healing creativity, fashion, and self-expression in recovery relationships, boundaries, and self-trust learning how to feel your feelings without numbing them

Kate combines clinical insight, lived experience, humor, and a feminist lens to help women understand why they drink, not just how to stop.

Whether you’re sober curious, newly alcohol-free, or years into recovery and wondering “now what?” — this podcast is designed to help you build a life that actually feels good to live.

If you’re looking for a sobriety podcast for women that blends science, soul, psychology, emotional honesty, and a little dark humor, welcome to Rewired Sober.

You quit drinking. Now let’s rewire the rest.

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